The Scorpion sting. Did I over react?

Briefly, Female Virgo, 47, been seeing a Scorp/Sag man (55) for about 5 months.

The relationship has gone well and there's been talk (mostly by him) about marriage/living together.

So last night, we had made plans to meet at our favorite pub to meet with some friends who had just gotten back from wintering down south. Our one friend "B", happens to share my SO's birthday (Nov 22) and last year , since her SO had to be out of town, the went out to dinner together to celebrate. This was before he and I were together.

Well, I'm standing, talking with "B" when he arrives and the comes over and says, "Hey, there are my two favorite EX-girlfriends". He quickly corrected himself saying Ex-girlfriend and as he puts his arm around me, and current girlfriend.

Well, considering he was just coming out of one of his dissappearing phases, which even if you understand it, those can be disconcerting, and the first words I hear from him he's calling me his ex-girlfriend. OUCH!

A little bit later, I called him on it. I asked him to refrain from calling me his ex-girlfriend. I told him that I had really been missing him the last few days and that comment really struck a nerve. He claimed it was a slip of the tongue and if that were the case, then he wouldn't be there with me.

At that point I dropped it and we proceeded to talk about our weeks and our plans for the weekend. I could tell that he was overly affectionaite (I'm guessing, that was his way of apologizing) the rest of the evening and he asked me to come home with him last night, which I did and spent the night. Pretty much from that point on, everything was like it had been.

So, was it a "slip of the tongue"?

If not, I really don't know what I did to deserve it. The only thing I can think of was, at one point when we were talking about the last few days, he mentioned that he thought I would maybe call him.

Either way. Did I over react?

Well, he recently (2 years ago) was divorced and he got burnt pretty badly by his EX. I've known him (and her) for years so I can certainly understand him being gun shy. I'm actually suprised that he has let himself get so close to me as it is.

We've recently talked about how we both prefer to handle differences (arguements) so maybe he felt he needed to test me to make sure I meant what I said. (which was exactly how I did handle it).

Thanks.

I think under normal circumstances, I probably would've been able to come up with a quick come-back. Those disappearing acts tend to take me a little off my game.

I've be better prepared next time (hopefully won't need to).

yeah, i think it was a testy thing. scorp/sag's in particular do this without even realising and so from his point of view it probably was a slip of the tongue but there's always a purpose behind what they say. they particularly like to tease partners but in a way that will piss most women off -

So true Mata 😉




No u did not over react.

I would have slapped him though 🙂

Clingy/smothering = emotional baggage.



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