This Scorpio guy is driving me insane ... help?
This topic was created in the Scorpio forum by arieschick on Sunday, November 1, 2009 and has 13 replies.
A week ago I met a Scorpio man and it was instant attraction. In the begining he seemed a bit shy; he would always find a way to be around me and I could tell me was looking at me but we didn't talk to each other at all. Well after a while the Aries in me decided to test his interested so I started a conversation with his friends, he immediately responded. What really got me going was the way he was looking at me. And even when we had nothing to talk about he would still give me eye contact and smile. We hung out for a little while with his group of friends, he was the one that invited me to stay with them. He seemed interested in me, and those big green eyes made me go crazy.
At the end of the day he told me he would contact me and I waited for about three days. It seemed like he forgot about me, and being the impatient person I am, I texted him first. We've been texting back and forth for a few days now and I noticed some things that I can't explain.
He usually texts me first but always lets me lead the conversation. He doesn't really ask questions about myself but if I flirt he will most likely flirt back to some extent. After a while he will start giving me vague answers like he's losing interest. A few days ago we talked about hanging out and he said we could go to mine or his house which seemed a bit odd. I told him I wouldn't feel really comfortable going there, he said he will come up with something else. But when I brought up the topic again last night, he told me we will hangout "soon
" I also noticed that sometimes when we are chatting online he will send me a message and then say it was for someone else. He did this last night and since I was in a bad mood I told him to keep flirting with that girl. He immediately told me he was not flirting with her and to "trust" him. He told me he went out on Halloween and it was very cold but he didn't need anyone to warm him up because he went to a party and he drank. "only booze. No girls, nothing."
Is he plying games with me or he's not interested?
At the end of the day he told me he would contact me and I waited for about three days. It seemed like he forgot about me, and being the impatient person I am, I texted him first. We've been texting back and forth for a few days now and I noticed some things that I can't explain.
He usually texts me first but always lets me lead the conversation. He doesn't really ask questions about myself but if I flirt he will most likely flirt back to some extent. After a while he will start giving me vague answers like he's losing interest. A few days ago we talked about hanging out and he said we could go to mine or his house which seemed a bit odd. I told him I wouldn't feel really comfortable going there, he said he will come up with something else. But when I brought up the topic again last night, he told me we will hangout "soon
" I also noticed that sometimes when we are chatting online he will send me a message and then say it was for someone else. He did this last night and since I was in a bad mood I told him to keep flirting with that girl. He immediately told me he was not flirting with her and to "trust" him. He told me he went out on Halloween and it was very cold but he didn't need anyone to warm him up because he went to a party and he drank. "only booze. No girls, nothing." Is he plying games with me or he's not interested?
I'm sorry for the spelling mistakes, I don't know what's with me today
and lolwuttarcoptar,
To me it seems like he's not interested but at the same time, I don't know..
and lolwuttarcoptar,
To me it seems like he's not interested but at the same time, I don't know..
If he hasnt asked you out already then he is not interested. And his house or your house is not acceptable.
.... yeah, his house or your house was a bit forward for a first date... or perhaps he just wants to be a player?
... Perhaps you could just send him a quick text to see if he wants to catch up for a coffee or something.... better to get it over and done at least you may have a better idea of whats going on ...
He didn't quite ask me on a date at his place. I know he has a lot of platonic relationships with girls and they always go to each other's house to hang out, nothing more. I honestly don't think he had other intentions but you never know. I told him I wouldn't feel comfortable going to his place, he didn't mind and asked me where else I would like to hangout. He said he was going to come up with something. And a couple days after that happened was when he told me we were going to hangout "soon "
From the description I gave you guys, does it seem like he is interested?
"From the description I gave you guys, does it seem like he is interested?
Posted by arieschick
He did this last night and since I was in a bad mood I told him to keep flirting with that girl. He immediately told me he was not flirting with her and to "trust" him. He told me he went out on Halloween and it was very cold but he didn't need anyone to warm him up because he went to a party and he drank. "only booze. No girls, nothing."
Is he plying games with me or he's not interested?
You know... He might still be interested. It can be difficult to tell. What he wants though, as it seems from what you are writing, is for you to give him a clear sign that you are interested, and although it may seem ridiculous, you might even have to make the first move. Scorpio guys can be insecure sometimes.
oh... okay,
it does seem like hes interested.. . just see how it goes... and start to work on your 'patience' .... if you are going to be involved with a Scorp guy this will be your only weapon... lol
it does seem like hes interested.. . just see how it goes... and start to work on your 'patience' .... if you are going to be involved with a Scorp guy this will be your only weapon... lol
Thanks guys,
And yes I do need to work on my patience
Well tonight we talked and I pushed him a little bit, to the point where he suggested going skating this weekend (he loves hockey). I agreed, and he told me we could do something else after. I said we could go watch a movie.
Something that bothers me a little bit is that on friday he is planning to go skating with this other girl. He calls her a "friend", and yes he does have a lot of girlfriends around him which I don't really like that much (insecure Aries ahh) It's obvious he is interested in me.. but what kind of "interest" does he have?
I mean.. How can I tell if he wants to be my friend or he likes me as a girlfriend?
And yes I do need to work on my patience
Well tonight we talked and I pushed him a little bit, to the point where he suggested going skating this weekend (he loves hockey). I agreed, and he told me we could do something else after. I said we could go watch a movie.
Something that bothers me a little bit is that on friday he is planning to go skating with this other girl. He calls her a "friend", and yes he does have a lot of girlfriends around him which I don't really like that much (insecure Aries ahh) It's obvious he is interested in me.. but what kind of "interest" does he have?
I mean.. How can I tell if he wants to be my friend or he likes me as a girlfriend?
i haven't posted in a very long time but i couldn't resist here. another scorpio/aries drama is brewing!!!! lol
arieschick - yes, he's playing games - control and head games. he wants to have the date or not to have that date on his terms, his time and the way he wants it. yes, most likely he's playing mind games with "the text is not for you" but to give him a benefit of doubt it might be true. he wants you to go insane about every little things he does and means. it's the way they are. i know as an aries we tend to be doers. if we like somebody we ask them on a date openly and there is no guessing what kind of relationship we want from another person. scorps are different. they might pretend they don't care but in reality do. or they can pretend they care a lot and they don't at all.
mind games and control are big issues with some scorp men. there are a lot of aries girls (myself included) and scorp guys problems on this forum. if you want to continue with it then get used to his stupid head games and control issues. scorp men are flirtatious and have a lot of female friends. doesn't mean he sleeps with them all.
try to find out what his moon sign is and compare to yours. it's a better way to see how compatible you two are.
arieschick - yes, he's playing games - control and head games. he wants to have the date or not to have that date on his terms, his time and the way he wants it. yes, most likely he's playing mind games with "the text is not for you" but to give him a benefit of doubt it might be true. he wants you to go insane about every little things he does and means. it's the way they are. i know as an aries we tend to be doers. if we like somebody we ask them on a date openly and there is no guessing what kind of relationship we want from another person. scorps are different. they might pretend they don't care but in reality do. or they can pretend they care a lot and they don't at all.
mind games and control are big issues with some scorp men. there are a lot of aries girls (myself included) and scorp guys problems on this forum. if you want to continue with it then get used to his stupid head games and control issues. scorp men are flirtatious and have a lot of female friends. doesn't mean he sleeps with them all.
try to find out what his moon sign is and compare to yours. it's a better way to see how compatible you two are.
ariesgirl402,
Thank you. This is the first time I'm interested in a Scorpio and I would really like to see how they are.
Today we ran into each other, he said hi and smiled at me. It made me melt. We talked for a couple of minutes and it seemed like he was blushing. I'm not sure though, in that moment I was too happy to notice anything.
We are going out on Friday night and I'm really excited. Do you guys have any tips on how I should dress/behave/etc?
Thank you. This is the first time I'm interested in a Scorpio and I would really like to see how they are.
Today we ran into each other, he said hi and smiled at me. It made me melt. We talked for a couple of minutes and it seemed like he was blushing. I'm not sure though, in that moment I was too happy to notice anything.
We are going out on Friday night and I'm really excited. Do you guys have any tips on how I should dress/behave/etc?
... This is all very sweet... I hope it stays that way ...lol.
Im glad that you are going out on Friday now, instead of the other girl...
Dress seksey... but not over the top -- more stylist ... be confident..... dont ask personal questions... keep it friendly... its good not to talk about past boyfriends and stuff ...
... but the main thing,, just be yourself.. and have fun!!! I am sure it will all fall into place when the time comes
...lol.Im glad that you are going out on Friday now, instead of the other girl...
Dress seksey... but not over the top -- more stylist ... be confident..... dont ask personal questions... keep it friendly... its good not to talk about past boyfriends and stuff ...
... but the main thing,, just be yourself.. and have fun!!! I am sure it will all fall into place when the time comes
Okay, lemme tell you what's going on here... I have a lot of Scorpio in my chart.
Those texts and messages that are "accidentally" sent to you are NOT accidents! He wants to see your response. Scorpios can be insanely jealous when they are into someone. Therefore, they view jealousy from others as a sign that they are into them. He also tells you about the other girls (i.e. the one he's going skating with) for the same reason.
Are you reacting to it? If so, what is your reaction?
Asking you over to his house for your "first date" is clearly a sign that he's interested in a physical relationship. He's testing the waters (with the above crap) to see if you are too. If you're not indicating any sort of jealousy from his above actions, he's not quite sure if you're into him that way.
I get the sense that he's immature. He hasn't perfected his Scorpionic technique yet. It's coming out all wrong. He knows that he possesses the intensity of those EYES and that STARE! It's one of our most powerful weapons. And when the moment is right (we're all about spontaneity), we will use it (i.e. the party - in your case). He knows that it hooked you!
Now he's batting you around a bit, to see if you'll bite, to see if you'll get jealous, to see if you lose interest, to see if you chase, to see if you do nothing. We have to be in control.
Those texts and messages that are "accidentally" sent to you are NOT accidents! He wants to see your response. Scorpios can be insanely jealous when they are into someone. Therefore, they view jealousy from others as a sign that they are into them. He also tells you about the other girls (i.e. the one he's going skating with) for the same reason.
Are you reacting to it? If so, what is your reaction?
Asking you over to his house for your "first date" is clearly a sign that he's interested in a physical relationship. He's testing the waters (with the above crap) to see if you are too. If you're not indicating any sort of jealousy from his above actions, he's not quite sure if you're into him that way.
I get the sense that he's immature. He hasn't perfected his Scorpionic technique yet. It's coming out all wrong. He knows that he possesses the intensity of those EYES and that STARE! It's one of our most powerful weapons. And when the moment is right (we're all about spontaneity), we will use it (i.e. the party - in your case). He knows that it hooked you!
Now he's batting you around a bit, to see if you'll bite, to see if you'll get jealous, to see if you lose interest, to see if you chase, to see if you do nothing. We have to be in control.
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