Those Darn Scorpio Men!

This topic was created in the Scorpio forum by theekolorful1 on Monday, January 10, 2011 and has 18 replies.
GEEZ....They are like a drug aren't they! SMH! Anywho, so me and my Scorpio guy are back on descent communication terms. It kinda seems like we are back to how we were.. *Casual* Seems to be a slow process though (which is okay with me).
What I would like to know....is it common for Scorpios to go back messing with ex-lovers? Does that mean they give/gave a "hoot" about you or that you meant something to them? I'm just trying to grasp a better understanding of their characteristics and actions behind those characteristics.
I know Scorpios are all or nothing type of people and are like once they're done....then it's over....COMPLETELY! With me being a Gemini...I tend to analyze everything (I can't help myself) and try to figure things out like puzzles. So for me, this is stimulating, yet helpful for my next move. I really liked the guy, but I don't want to be putting in efforts into a dead end. I know I broke things off with him, but I didn't want us to be out of each other's lives COMPLETELY....I just wanted to cut off the intimacy due to inconsistency on his behalf.
Anywho, all comments are appreciated!!
Posted by theekolorful1
GEEZ....They are like a drug aren't they! SMH! Anywho, so me and my Scorpio guy are back on descent communication terms. It kinda seems like we are back to how we were.. *Casual* Seems to be a slow process though (which is okay with me).
What I would like to know....is it common for Scorpios to go back messing with ex-lovers? Does that mean they give/gave a "hoot" about you or that you meant something to them? I'm just trying to grasp a better understanding of their characteristics and actions behind those characteristics.
I know Scorpios are all or nothing type of people and are like once they're done....then it's over....COMPLETELY! With me being a Gemini...I tend to analyze everything (I can't help myself) and try to figure things out like puzzles. So for me, this is stimulating, yet helpful for my next move. I really liked the guy, but I don't want to be putting in efforts into a dead end. I know I broke things off with him, but I didn't want us to be out of each other's lives COMPLETELY....I just wanted to cut off the intimacy due to inconsistency on his behalf.
Anywho, all comments are appreciated!!


Is the ex-lover you? I don't think scorpios go back to someone they've had a serious relationship with (as in "all or nothing" and giving a "hoot") if it is over, but a FWB or someone they are "messing with"? I think they would, why not? They wouldn't view it as the same thing.
I think once you understand your position with him, you will find your answer.
I know what you mean about not wanting to put effort into a dead ended relationship. That's how I feel with the scorpio I'm with now. I'll let you know how that goes and maybe you can get something out of it, but right now this whole "take it slow" thing is driving me mad.
hmmm, i've never been with a scorpio guy who wanted to take it slow... It's not in him. He'll go as far as you let him. So, the woman usually has to control that.
Posted by pathfinder
hmmm, i've never been with a scorpio guy who wanted to take it slow... It's not in him. He'll go as far as you let him. So, the woman usually has to control that.


i kinda see it differently. the girl has some degree of power. she can get off the rollercoaster if she wants to. its also up to her to be as open as possible and give the scorpio a sense of security so that he can share his feelings. but the scorpio ultimately decides when the relationship goes to the next level. you could be at the same level for months. keep opening yourself up to him and he will be locked in a stalemate until hes ready to move.
Posted by theekolorful1
GEEZ....They are like a drug aren't they! SMH! Anywho, so me and my Scorpio guy are back on descent communication terms. It kinda seems like we are back to how we were.. *Casual* Seems to be a slow process though (which is okay with me).
What I would like to know....is it common for Scorpios to go back messing with ex-lovers? Does that mean they give/gave a "hoot" about you or that you meant something to them? I'm just trying to grasp a better understanding of their characteristics and actions behind those characteristics.
I know Scorpios are all or nothing type of people and are like once they're done....then it's over....COMPLETELY! With me being a Gemini...I tend to analyze everything (I can't help myself) and try to figure things out like puzzles. So for me, this is stimulating, yet helpful for my next move. I really liked the guy, but I don't want to be putting in efforts into a dead end. I know I broke things off with him, but I didn't want us to be out of each other's lives COMPLETELY....I just wanted to cut off the intimacy due to inconsistency on his behalf.
Anywho, all comments are appreciated!!


i think you need to take the all or nothing approach with him. your selling yourself short. tell him what you want. if he doesnt want the same thing or cant give it to you, then step. save yourself months of "analyzing"
when they care, they care. they just scared.
when they come back its only after having done some deep thinking. when theyre ready, they will make a move. some keep coming back to test your reserve and loyalty.
Posted by exoskeleton
"i think you need to take the all or nothing approach with him. your selling yourself short. tell him what you want. if he doesnt want the same thing or cant give it to you, then step. save yourself months of "analyzing""
this is gold.


Yeah I wish I'd done that months ago lol.
Posted by pigeonpie
Posted by exoskeleton
us scorpios usually don't want to take it slow and that's the problem.
some scorpios will say when it's over they're done with it, but some (usually the men) will reappear again and again and again if they care about you and want to fix it, not just for sex.


More like 'I fixed you up the last time, I'm just here to fuck and see that yr okay (nothing wrong with that)' smile
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Dislike!
Posted by pigeonpie
Angry
With no slight to your predicament, She's a pisces.


Humph!
Well I take some comfort in the fact that he'll come crawling back for the good stuff, and will be promptly told exactly where he can (or can't in this case) stick it. Tongue
Posted by pigeonpie
Posted by MissPirate
Posted by pigeonpie
Angry
With no slight to your predicament, She's a pisces.


Humph!
Well I take some comfort in the fact that he'll come crawling back for the good stuff, and will be promptly told exactly where he can (or can't in this case) stick it. Tongue


Yeah, you go girl.smilesmile
I think she just wanted to show off her new house tbh.
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Don't you be mocking me now lol.
Ach it's all good in the hood. I give it a week before I'm in the "who?" phase.
Posted by pigeonpie
Yeah, I/She was/is 'who' for about 3 years smile


Seriously. I do hope that isn't the case with me.
Lol @ real talk.
Well hopefully he goes to the other side of the world and never comes back. smile
In fact sod it, should be me who goes. He can stay here in this hell-hole. Tongue
Posted by ellessque
Posted by exoskeleton
lol. that is honest, and often true too, but most scorpios aren't going to string you along just for sex.
i know i could do that all the time, but i won't. Tongue


I agree.
We know we can do it and because we know we can do it....it's not that big of a challenge. It's important...but the connection we have is more valuable.
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@exo
I'm not a scorpio, but I agree as well.
String someone along just to have sex? What, is he the last man on earth?
Posted by DMV
Posted by theekolorful1
GEEZ....They are like a drug aren't they! SMH! Anywho, so me and my Scorpio guy are back on descent communication terms. It kinda seems like we are back to how we were.. *Casual* Seems to be a slow process though (which is okay with me).
What I would like to know....is it common for Scorpios to go back messing with ex-lovers? Does that mean they give/gave a "hoot" about you or that you meant something to them? I'm just trying to grasp a better understanding of their characteristics and actions behind those characteristics.
I know Scorpios are all or nothing type of people and are like once they're done....then it's over....COMPLETELY! With me being a Gemini...I tend to analyze everything (I can't help myself) and try to figure things out like puzzles. So for me, this is stimulating, yet helpful for my next move. I really liked the guy, but I don't want to be putting in efforts into a dead end. I know I broke things off with him, but I didn't want us to be out of each other's lives COMPLETELY....I just wanted to cut off the intimacy due to inconsistency on his behalf.
Anywho, all comments are appreciated!!


i think you need to take the all or nothing approach with him. your selling yourself short. tell him what you want. if he doesnt want the same thing or cant give it to you, then step. save yourself months of "analyzing"
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Easier said then done. She's a little caught up.

Like a drug ey? I guess i'll take that as a compliment. Like a puzzle hmmm... Now what if that puzzle is a puzzle in itself?
Posted by nov5male
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Posted by theekolorful1
GEEZ....They are like a drug aren't they! SMH! Anywho, so me and my Scorpio guy are back on descent communication terms. It kinda seems like we are back to how we were.. *Casual* Seems to be a slow process though (which is okay with me).
What I would like to know....is it common for Scorpios to go back messing with ex-lovers? Does that mean they give/gave a "hoot" about you or that you meant something to them? I'm just trying to grasp a better understanding of their characteristics and actions behind those characteristics.
I know Scorpios are all or nothing type of people and are like once they're done....then it's over....COMPLETELY! With me being a Gemini...I tend to analyze everything (I can't help myself) and try to figure things out like puzzles. So for me, this is stimulating, yet helpful for my next move. I really liked the guy, but I don't want to be putting in efforts into a dead end. I know I broke things off with him, but I didn't want us to be out of each other's lives COMPLETELY....I just wanted to cut off the intimacy due to inconsistency on his behalf.
Anywho, all comments are appreciated!!


i think you need to take the all or nothing approach with him. your selling yourself short. tell him what you want. if he doesnt want the same thing or cant give it to you, then step. save yourself months of "analyzing"


Easier said then done. She's a little caught up.

Like a drug ey? I guess i'll take that as a compliment. Like a puzzle hmmm... Now what if that puzzle is a puzzle in itself?
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Thanks for all the comments! Well the situation was something I was wondering about. Nothing that has me caught up....just one of those things that you makes you think. I was just really curious on some outside insight...
I call them a drug due to their mystery.....it keeps me coming back! But yea, I just really enjoy you all's insight!
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Posted by nov5male
Posted by DMV
Posted by theekolorful1
GEEZ....They are like a drug aren't they! SMH! Anywho, so me and my Scorpio guy are back on descent communication terms. It kinda seems like we are back to how we were.. *Casual* Seems to be a slow process though (which is okay with me).
What I would like to know....is it common for Scorpios to go back messing with ex-lovers? Does that mean they give/gave a "hoot" about you or that you meant something to them? I'm just trying to grasp a better understanding of their characteristics and actions behind those characteristics.
I know Scorpios are all or nothing type of people and are like once they're done....then it's over....COMPLETELY! With me being a Gemini...I tend to analyze everything (I can't help myself) and try to figure things out like puzzles. So for me, this is stimulating, yet helpful for my next move. I really liked the guy, but I don't want to be putting in efforts into a dead end. I know I broke things off with him, but I didn't want us to be out of each other's lives COMPLETELY....I just wanted to cut off the intimacy due to inconsistency on his behalf.
Anywho, all comments are appreciated!!


i think you need to take the all or nothing approach with him. your selling yourself short. tell him what you want. if he doesnt want the same thing or cant give it to you, then step. save yourself months of "analyzing"


Easier said then done. She's a little caught up.

Like a drug ey? I guess i'll take that as a compliment. Like a puzzle hmmm... Now what if that puzzle is a puzzle in itself?


Thanks for all the comments! Well the situation was something I was wondering about. Nothing that has me caught up....just one of those things that you makes you think. I was just really curious on some outside insight...
I call them a drug due to their mystery.....it keeps me coming back! But yea, I just really enjoy you all's insight!
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Funny you say that. So i'm at work today and someone says why I don't say much? all wondering what i'm thinking about something. Then the girl says "oh, he must be a scorpio". I said nicely it ha
I didn't realize that ^^^^ cut off. Well I said nicely that it doesn't have anything to do with a scorpio or a sign because i'm quiet or to myself at work and dont have much to say. Maybe i'm working hard...
So she basically disreagrds what I said and says "Well, are you a Scorpio?" SMH So naturally I denied it lol. Mannn, she just made a lucky guess!

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