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Jan 22, 2009Comments: 0 · Posts: 1685 · Topics: 53
I disappear quite often. Socializing wears me out. No misunderstandings, when I party, I have no reservations. When I feel socializing, I will pull everyone into my whirling winds, even the one sitting silently in the corner waiting to be discovered. I will discover them.
I have come to terms with myself though that I do like my lone time. I need to rejuvenate. When I work, I want to be alone. When I focus on one thing (let??s say a project with multiple insights, but it will be that ONE project!). I want to give it my full attention. I don't like doing 5 different things at the same time. Sloppiness is what I resent. It is quality over quantity. The guy who has my attention, gets it all. I may not see him all the time, but it feels as if he has taken over my soul. I will find ways to keep myself and my mind busy with tasks on my list, but he will constantly pop back in. So if someone else comes along to get my attention, I will not be fully there. In the back of my mind I will hope for the moment to retreat again.
This all sounds extreme. My best friends are the ones who have accepted my occasional long silences. They are in my heart and mind, but I cannot be there all the time. I will be there for them when they need me though. One thing I also learned over the years, I can give up on friends/relatives, who are not willing to understand that it is in my nature not to socialize whenever THEY feel like it. I will respond, but will keep it short. I am selective. I have to be selective because I can only focus on one thing. Otherwise, my life would fill with stuff I do for others all the time. Although I have my own set of twigs, I definitely will respect theirs and accept them for who they are.
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Jun 22, 2011Comments: 0 · Posts: 2346 · Topics: 71
From all I have read and experiences personally, scorpio disappears when feeling over whelmed with emotions, responsibility..whatever. What I don't get is why its done with silent indifference. Where is the courtesey to tell the one you love "I need a break, time out. Dont take it personal". Amputation by silence is brutal. And as Ely wrote in another thread, it destroys relationships. One of the last things my ex scorp told me was he tends to "Sting himself" a lot. This must be one such time. Only self stinging does hurt others.
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Apr 01, 2011Comments: 145 · Posts: 2210 · Topics: 91
month* and I used to do this even more when I was younger... like 6 months periods then boom I'm back on the scence, or I pop over a friends house.
I'm pretty much the same as others here mentioned. I tend to get more like this in the colder months. Lots of times I just need the time alone to decompress and use my me time.
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Dec 01, 2005Comments: 11 · Posts: 1565 · Topics: 18
@BGP, what kind of relationship do you have (not want) with this man?
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Your default pic definitely made my day LMAO
@iwin32: hey man thanks. I chuckle each time I read it.
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Apr 01, 2011Comments: 145 · Posts: 2210 · Topics: 91
yep time and space refocuses the mind...
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Jun 24, 2011Comments: 12 · Posts: 2004 · Topics: 22
This is my take, speaking only for romantic relationships and not friendships or family. If they disappear, you've either gotten too close to something they aren't ready for or don't want, or do want but can't have but know it's not for the best, you've pissed them off, or you've put them in a corner and it's better to ignore you than to respond. My take BGP is you've pissed him off, and although he wanted to have you around it may not be as much as you are wanting him around.
The one thing is if you know what was/is going on in his life and where he may have forgotten to call you, and you called him out on it probably pissed him off and you're being iced out for not understanding, and not worth the hassle. I don't mean it 'hassle', but in terms of it's better to just ice you out and put you into a different level of where you're at in his life if he makes a curtain call, then to deal with the added stress of you wanting something he can't or won't give you right now.
The difference is when they go silent or MIA for a few days, etc. vs. weeks, months. If you're in the weeks end, something major is in the works. They don't just disappear from a romantic interest for weeks or months without a very good reason for within themselves. Me being Cancer, when I've done that? Theyve pissed me off and I could care less and they are done, and the same goes with hurting me ..I will ice you out before you can say the word; OR, if someone keeps pushing me that I haven't made up my mind about? I'm heels to ass outta there until I think or feel it's safe to approach them. And if they continue to do the things that made me go MIA the 1st time? I'll again go into ignore, pick and choose if I do respond, or complete MIA...and this goes on until I blow the hell up, or ice them out forever in my mind and then there is NO turning back time or hope for a future. I think you are wise, as much as you do care for him to put him behind you for now. If he shows up again, this has made you stronger and it will either make or break your bank in your mind with him.
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Jun 22, 2011Comments: 0 · Posts: 2346 · Topics: 71
OOps...forgot this P.S.: Isn't it irresponsible for *you* or anyone to assume you know with 100% certainy why this man, or anyone that people here post about, has disappeared or done whatever hurtful thing they've done WITHOUT knowing him, me, the relationship intimately? Giving an opinion isnt fact, it's merely speculation.
But who knows, maybe you are a psychic and know all? Do you have a 1-800 line by any chance?
The question was about Scorpios.... and experiences. If the only thing people can say is "move on" then don't say anything. We're not looking for "relationship" advice... we just wanna know about why Scorpios do what they do. And when someone is heartbroken... they try to live the best they can...day to day without breaking down. Trying to hold back tears. When people come on here to ask a question... we may not always "understand" ... but they're going through something right now. And I know there's not one person on this thread who's never been heartbroken...and GUESS WHAT?? "Get on with your life" is just not helpful, nor is it compassionate, nor is it THAT easy. Only time heals...and until then... we still have our questions.