'Unevolved' or 'evolved but damaged'?

Hi,
I was talking to a Scorpio friend today and he said, very quietly and seriously, "I don't need anybody." (ie in a widre sense than 'relationship need')

This continued into a conversation in which he began to laugh at himself a little for the emphasis he was putting on it, and ended with us joking, Monty Python-like, eg "Sleep? I don't need sleep!" etc.

We discussed the fact that he doesn't hesitate to be there when people need HIM.

I was thinking about it. From my perspective, he is damaged and potentially missing out. From his, he is perfectly self-contained (although I think he protests a little too much). He recently had a family crisis which has made him question this whole area. TBH he sounded pretty typically Scorp to me, macho and independent... but I wondered if those who know better than me would say whether he was simply unevolved (which I can sort of see, but he is so caring about his friends) or evolved but damaged. OR does being damaged imply you weren't evolved in the first place?

I was just interested, really. On one level he is perfectly happy as he is, although I don't think we'd have had that conversation for so long if he wasn't questioning himself a little.

Waddya think? He's certainly effectively cut himself off from women for the time being - but then he was very hurt and I wondered if he's Stung himself. I doubt he would be able to have a relationship with anyone even if he suddenly decided to, but I could quite believe he will just never try again. Is that a common thing with Scorps?

idk

Oh, I don't think he's 'my' Scorpio. I rather get the impression that he's more of the 'now I'll have to shoot you!' type. lol...

I refrained from asking him why (if he doesn't need anyone) he has twice sent me texts saying he feels emotional, explaining, and then saying, "Right, going to send before I change my mind..."

Right, no need of support there, then! 😉 But I do suspect having shown me what he no doubt considers his 'needy' side, I'd be the last person he'd want around.

I suppose I was just curious, wondering how unevolved Scorps evolve. I mean, this one claims to have no spiritual side, but keeps asking me what I think and believe (he knows I have faith, though not an orthodox one).

How long do you guys run scared before you go up the evolution chain a little? It must be so hard...