Unevolved Scorpio Men and LOVE?

What is the reaction of an unevolved scorpio man when he first falls in love? What signs does he display when he finally finds his other half? Will he still remain unevolved after having found love, with all the insecurity, jealousy, Idouble standards, etc.? idon't really want to hear anyone saying how unevolved scorpions don't fall in love, and are just in itfor the sex, etc. I know
, as a scorpio sun and venus, know that all scorpions at one point will fall in love, evolved or unevolved.

this question is just out of curiosity. It has nothing to do me. Please dont give any personalized answers..

OP, EVERY person falls in love at least once in their lifetime.

Evolved or unevolved, the signs u mentioned vary frm person to Person. Some r Good at expressing, some just sulk in silence.

P.s. in every sort of love, theres always some tinge of jealousy n insecurity. Its how u deal with it that decides the consequences.

^^^^ a generalised answer from a random gemini!

There's a lot of "don't tell me-zzz" in the OP. Not sure how the hell to even answer a personal question about love without making it "personalized". Good luck with that.

@ "uploads into your hair"....

When i said dontmake it personalized, i meant i didnt want anyone to make any mean comments. I was trying to avoid the harsh responses that so many people give on this forum. However. Go ahead. You can make it personalized.

Posted by cherrychapstick
Will he still remain unevolved after having found love, with all the insecurity, jealousy, Idouble standards, etc.? idon't really want to hear anyone saying how unevolved scorpions don't fall in love, and are just in itfor the sex, etc

General,non-personalized answer:

Being unevolved has nothing to do with love.Any person can be in 'something' just for sex.Again,it has nothing to do with being an 'unevolved scorpio'.

Quite a few unevolved scorpio's don't know what 'evolution' is.

If this is about the 30 year old scorpio man tou mentioned in the previous threads,please ask specific questions.Will try and answer.

**you

Posted by ellessque
who are we to say someone else is "unevolved"?

aren't we all twirling down the path to "evolved" and each are at different stops along the way?

there are some days I have very evolved thinking and actions days, there are others that I just want a red velvet cupcake and to play a really fierce game of freeze tag.

Agreed.

It is for an individual to decide for himself/herself if he/she is evolved or unevolved.

We are twirling all right,and its not easy to stick to the path either.Backsliding is oh so common.

Alright. I admit it's the 30 yr old i wrote about in my other threads. We have an abusive relationship. He is extremely overpowering. I love him. I am just confused because his harsh words are contradcited by his actions. I can tell he cares about me, dont know if he loves me, but he wont show that he does either of those things.

A few questions for you cherry:

Please define 'overpowering'.Is it controlling?Getting his own way?Or something else?

Give examples of harsh words and also tell when he utters them.Is he always harsh or are the words said when you approach discussions related to 'emotional territory'?

Also,have you told him about how you feel about him?If yes,what was his exact response?

Has he tried to 'define' your relationship with him?

Do you know what his previous relationships have been like?

Is he currently seeing anyone else?

I found that scorpios tend to get harsh when dealing with emotional territory especially if caught off guard or approached in appropriate time. Anyone else ?

Yeps. But I also found that me accepting his harsh truth without criticism does well for me. He comes around always super nice and sweet after his time to think and then if I still need to talk. He'll talk genuailly.

@scorpvenus, he will tell me that he doesnt want me, that no one will want me, when i say being harsh. No he is not dating anyone . else.

Posted by cherrychapstick
@scorpvenus, he will tell me that he doesnt want me, that no one will want me, when i say being harsh. No he is not dating anyone . else.

You are right when you say your relationship is abusive. A person that truly cares about you wouldn't try to make you feel small or feel as though they are the only person you can turn to, loves or sees value in who you are. This is controlling and a form of cruel manipulation.

I know this is not the focus of this thread, but I've written it anyway. Take in what I've written or not.

Thanks for that. I try to tell myself that but i see love in his eyes. I know it sounds so dramatic and delusional and cliche, but i dont listento his words. I read him by his actions and the emotions that only his eyes reveal. I just hope im nit wrong. This is why i want to know what an unevolved man acts like when he falls in love. Because he is exclusive, has ended a relationship with his gf, as he says, when he met me. But i never knew of his ex-gf until a while after dating.

I know. But i am ready to handle this. At worse, i'll come out of this alive with more experience and a better understanding of myself. Ans you say words and actions have to match in order for it to count as something. But then why would we even watch one's actions, if their words matched them? I feel that in order to maintain control over me, he acts even more dominant. I give him a hard time. Im not exactly submissive with him. I dont know how to be that or give that impression. And i could see what he feels for me, because we had terrible childhoods, and we relate to each other in countless ways. He's expressed himself before, but i handle that with insensitivity, so now he doesnt bother. But i realized this, and i am wayy more sensitive to him now.

Posted by cherrychapstick
Thanks for that. I try to tell myself that but i see love in his eyes. I know it sounds so dramatic and delusional and cliche, but i dont listento his words. I read him by his actions and the emotions that only his eyes reveal. I just hope im nit wrong. This is why i want to know what an unevolved man acts like when he falls in love.

Well, I don't think you should have to "hope" you're wrong. There should be no question about his love. It should be felt in his actions and his words.

Just because he's a "unevolved" Scorp doesn't give him a pass, however I am not going to try to convince you to find something/someone better. If you don't think you deserve more, then a stranger on the internet is not going to change your mind.

Posted by cherrychapstick
Because he is exclusive, has ended a relationship with his gf, as he says, when he met me. But i never knew of his ex-gf until a while after dating.

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So he was involved with someone when he met you and he kept this information from you? It sounds like you may be falling for the "Scorp hype", which is allowing you to ignore that this man, Scorp or not, has issues that need to be worked out.

Anyway, I won't push this anymore.

He does have issues. He has a lot of them. He has had many many people hurt him/let gim down in drastic ways when he was a xhild. He acts like a child at times.
But i see more to him.And i feel him. Because i grew up in a terribly abusive home too. I got myself into this. And im too attached and care too much to leave him now. He's all i've got.

^ that is fucked up. Someone who treats you like crap is all you have in life? sad.

You can care about people but not have to be in a relationship with them.

Posted by cherrychapstick
He does have issues. He has a lot of them. He has had many many people hurt him/let gim down in drastic ways when he was a xhild. He acts like a child at times.
But i see more to him.And i feel him. Because i grew up in a terribly abusive home too. I got myself into this. And im too attached and care too much to leave him now. He's all i've got.

I haven't met a Scorp that hasn't had a bad childhood truth be told, but that may just be where I grew up, idk. It's not a good enough excuse to piss on someone else when you are an adult. Sorry.

As for the "he's all I got", I'm wondering if he has convinced you of that. Okay, so let's say you got the answers you wanted from the OP. Let's say we all gave you a list of what an "unevolved" Scorp in love looks like, now what? It sounds like you want reasons to stay with him. Do you really need us to give you a reason to stick through this? If so, that tells me, you're not so sure that you should. Love, or no love.

I agree with everything melly,elle and phoenix have said.

Being stubborn and telling yourself repeatedly that 'he does love me' won't change the fact that the relationship is abusive.

Be honest with your own self and stop trying to see fairies in broad daylight.There were none,will be none.

It is good to take ones own decisions,but it is also good to listen to older and wiser people who want the best for you.Take a week or so to reflect on what everyone on this thread has advised,let it sink into your skull and stay there.

Be practical,stay safe.

Good luck.