Posted by novscorp23
I'm not sure about the planets but his birthday is November 15 1986.
Posted by Infinite8Posted by novscorp23
He has venus in scorpio and so do i. I just looked on there lol
Both of you having Venus in Scorpio only indicates that you both express love in the same manner and will immediately have the same intense expectations of the other. All or nothing right away.click to expand
Posted by Vixen2Posted by Infinite8Posted by Vixen2Posted by novscorp23
He has venus in scorpio and so do i. I just looked on there lol
you both do?
Oh snap...
I think he is most likely being real....
Not that having another Venus indicates the love is fake... Just different.
I have Venus in Libra and if I were to go that fast... I would definitely feel the need to retreat. I don't trust when it's that fast and I need to make sense out of it.
I only say that because my Scorp had scorp in venus and he knew he loved me by week 3...and had no qualms of telling me so and everyday after that. He did not falter.
It was quite overwhelming but a huge gift as well.click to expand
Posted by Infinite8Posted by novscorp23Posted by Infinite8Posted by novscorp23
He has venus in scorpio and so do i. I just looked on there lol
Both of you having Venus in Scorpio only indicates that you both express love in the same manner and will immediately have the same intense expectations of the other. All or nothing right away.
That makes complete sense. We both expressed that with us it's all or nothing. But we also both said that we don't want to put our eggs in one basket to avoid getting hurt.
From what I have read from others that have the Venus in Scorpio, it seems that because you give your all so quickly and intensely, you tend to scare a lot of potential partners off and therefore become a bit more untrusting of future partners and almost creating an expectation that No one else can equate the intensity you give out. When in reality, it might all just be due to timing. Some people need more time than others.
^^^ that is just an observation, feel free to correct me if I am wrong.
So, if you BOTH have this Venus - feel safe that he WILL give his all and just accept it and also feel safe that you CAN give your all and he will love it and feel like he finally found someone who can express love the same as he.
But... If you feel some type of hesitation because you do not feel safe (Scorps are notorious for not trusting when things are just too good). Then just COMMUNICATE with him.
The danger with both of you reading each other so well, being the same sun sign and Venus - you will get lazy on verbalizing your needs and THAT can be a culprit to a downfall. So, be aware of fully expressing what you feel as soon as you feel it's an issue. Be aware that he won't ALWAY read your mind. That way, there is no chance for misinterpretation. Scorps always interpret negative first - so, stay away from that. Appease his worries by just letting him know what you feel.
If you need to go slower - do so and let him know you need that. just don't retreat.click to expand
Posted by novscorp23
He has venus in scorpio and so do i. I just looked on there lol
Posted by sugerbear
My boyfriend is a Scorp Sun and Venus, he knew in the first month that he loved me and tells me and shows me on a daily basis. I understand that there might be fear there for you, if you've been hurt in the past but maybe that is sabotaging something that could be a good thing. Maybe you need to just tell him how you feel and have a conversation about where you both see the relationship going. I understand wanting to take things slow and getting to know someone to make sure there is a real connection and that it is the real thing, I'm a Taurus we are the Queens and Kings of slow! lol I don't know, I'm just giving you the advise that my Scorp and I did. We talked about how we felt about each other and we both knew that we had been through stuff in the past but said that we wanted to be open to what we had together and both decided to put down our fears and trust each other. I think if you talk to him about everything and keep open honest communication you with both be able to work right through this.
Posted by sugerbear
We first started talking on 10/20/14 (I consider this our anniversary because we both knew that night that we were going to be together) or first official date was 10/25 (we both knew that night that we only wanted to see each other and no one else) and he asked me to be his girlfriend, after his work xmas party, Dec. 5th. To me it seem that you guys are on track.
Now the thing is that I let him do the leading but I was always honest on how I felt about him and let him know both by telling him and backing it up with my actions. One of the things I have noticed with him, from the beginning, is that when I am vulnerable and open with my communication it brings his walls down and then he is the same in return. That is why I say just communicate your feelings to him and tell him and show him you care.
The other things is that I don't usually move that fast and it was scary for me at first but yet it always felt right so I had to give myself permission to not let my junk from past relationships put fear in me to do something dumb and sabotage something that could be a very very good thing. And in all honesty it was hard at first but because I was allowing myself to be vulnerable he always made it easy and I realized I didn't need to be scared. I can't say that it will turn out the same for you but don't you at least want to try then wonder what would have been?
Posted by sugerbear
Yeah they would! My and my guy saw each other 2x a week in the being, usually Wed and a weekend day and then after about a 2 months it was Wed and together for the whole weekend (we lived about 45 min apart). Now we live together, we both talked about it and I said that I thought we should date for a yr before moving in, we moved in together this last Sept so it was a little sooner but the perfect place fell into our laps and we couldn't let it pass.
I think if he is matching you then you need to put your fears aside.
Posted by TerScor67
I am a Scorpio as well and the girl that i've been getting to know the last 2 years is a Scorpio. We are 2 days apart. The 12th and she is the 14th. Her dads birthday is the 14th and their anniversary is the 12th. Very interesting. We've been friends for almost 2 years. She's opened up and then got cold on me. Mostly after she opens up. She is more protective, guarded and i'm more open and expressive. It's a rollercoaster ride for us just getting over the hump. I get the drunk phone calls, then she blames it on the alcohol. We talk for hours at a time..Then she'll go a few days in between calling. I understand your situation completely. She is more on the negative side of things since she had a failed engagement a few years back. All I can say is express yourself and hang on because it will probably be a long ride.. That's all I do.. Make sure she knows how I feel and be patient. Good luck !!
Posted by AlaniaBPosted by TerScor67
I am a Scorpio as well and the girl that i've been getting to know the last 2 years is a Scorpio. We are 2 days apart. The 12th and she is the 14th. Her dads birthday is the 14th and their anniversary is the 12th. Very interesting. We've been friends for almost 2 years. She's opened up and then got cold on me. Mostly after she opens up. She is more protective, guarded and i'm more open and expressive. It's a rollercoaster ride for us just getting over the hump. I get the drunk phone calls, then she blames it on the alcohol. We talk for hours at a time..Then she'll go a few days in between calling. I understand your situation completely. She is more on the negative side of things since she had a failed engagement a few years back. All I can say is express yourself and hang on because it will probably be a long ride.. That's all I do.. Make sure she knows how I feel and be patient. Good luck !!
Can i just say I 100% agree with this experience.
With my Scorp...we get SOOOO close one day and then he pulls away. Always right after we got super close. I am a Scorpio too and DON'T do this, but like your GF my guy also has a failed engagement behind him and a very negative view of life and love. Scorpio's I reckon can get so hung up on past hurt that they are so terrified of going back there. I am working through this slowly, but it has required a lot of patience from me and it will definitely be a long ride. One that might come to nothing but you have to decide if that person is special enough to be worth it.click to expand
Posted by Infinite8
@TerScor67 : Have you told her clearly that you broke up with your girlfriend BECAUSE you chose to be with Scorp? have you communicated to your Scorp how much she means to you?
Posted by AlaniaB
@novscorp23
About him texting other girls. Seriously...in the new stages of a relationship I don't think that means much yet. Especially with Scorps. We attract people like crazy and to be honest if we want someone we just go for it. Seeing as he told you, he is either testing you / pushing you away or genuinely wants to drive you away. Only one way to find out is to ask him directly what his motivation is for telling you.
@TerScor67
I agree with @Infinite8 that you have to tell her you have feelings for her if you haven't yet. As a Scorpio woman I personally need a person to express this, and that sort of devotion and caring is very attractive to me. More than that - human to human - sometimes you have to take a risk and put it out there
Posted by Infinite8Posted by AlaniaB
I think if you have told her once that is enough. I am sorry to suggest this, but if she knows you love her and she is not with you, it might be an idea to pull away and let her miss you a little!
Yep. You need to pull away. She probably feels overwhelmed by the energy and it's not allowing her to miss you. Scorps like to long for the other party. It brings us closer to how we really feel and makes us want to act on it.
This way YOU will also get a feel for where she really stands.click to expand
Posted by AlaniaB
One thing on these lines with the Scorpio guy I am dating @TerScor67 is the obvious distance he creates after dates. He does it after every single date, without fail.
On our first date, we had an amazing time and I was so happy and the next day he was absolutely cold and distant. I genuinely thought I was dumped and he hated the date from the way he acted. He suprised me a couple of weeks ago by saying that was the best date of his life, and one of the happiest days of his life. So strange he acted the opposite!!!!
Nowadays, we are 4 months into seeing each other but have split up for two months in between due to this problem. And our biggest problem is that he goes cold and distant after every date.
I am not talking about a small change. I am talking about night and day.
For example we had a date on Friday night. Before Friday night for the whole week he was calling eveyr night to say goodnight, wanted to know everything I was doing, texted me for probably 300 messages a day, like even at work, so intimate and cute and talking about how he'd never wanted any girl more than me. I felt wonderful and he even left work early to make our ate start one hour early bcause he said he couldn't catch his breath from wanting to see me.
Then right after this amazing date, and wonderful night he is like a different person. Hardly any messages, no calls, not reading the message I sent him for 3 hours (he usually reads and replies in 5 seconds), business like conversations with no romance and no "I miss you" and nothing. Nothing at all to indicate any positive feeling towards me
So you know - dealing with that is HARD.
But then I know within 3 - 4 days he goes back to normal like nothing happenned and he is all crazy hot for me again.
I don't like the behavior, but it is a pattern, and one I am learning to live with and not take personally. I would love to know from other Scorpios what this behavior is all about. It is getting slowly better - but it feels to me like he needs to get away from me for a few days after every time we meet!!!
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