I made a post on here a few weeks ago about this Scorpio man I'm dating. I'm a Scorpio woman. We are so in tune with each other. We can sense each other's emotions before even saying anything. He is very passionate. The sex is amazing. And so far he's been everything I want in a man. Only thing is we're having constant power struggles. I try to let go of my need to control but it's HARD. If I tell him how I feel about him he says I'm moving way too fast. But last night he told me that he loves me and he feels himself falling IN LOVE with me. The thing is.... We've only known each other for 7 weeks. I have never moved this quickly in a relationship. We haven't made it official. We're just dating and TRYING to take our time but the more we try and slow things down, the faster things progress. I feel like I am falling for him too. I get butterflies every time I see him. I'm a sketch artist and he brags to his family about my art. We haven't met each other's family or friends but I have met his kids (he hasn't met mine). I'm skeptical because things are moving so fast but I do think I'm falling in love with him. I did read that Scorpio- Scorpio situationships move very quickly. I'm scared. Whenever I try to withdraw he's right there... Idk what I'm doing or why we both feel the need to fall in love so fast.
I'm not sure about the planets but his birthday is November 15 1986.
He has venus in scorpio and so do i. I just looked on there lol
That's the thing. We are both doing this hot and cold thing. We go in for it and then we both withdraw. Then we come back and act like it never happened. We both always talk about the reservations we have and why we need to slow things down. I think that's the logical part of this. Our minds are telling us one thing but the heart is telling another.
My boyfriend is a Scorp Sun and Venus, he knew in the first month that he loved me and tells me and shows me on a daily basis. I understand that there might be fear there for you, if you've been hurt in the past but maybe that is sabotaging something that could be a good thing. Maybe you need to just tell him how you feel and have a conversation about where you both see the relationship going. I understand wanting to take things slow and getting to know someone to make sure there is a real connection and that it is the real thing, I'm a Taurus we are the Queens and Kings of slow! lol I don't know, I'm just giving you the advise that my Scorp and I did. We talked about how we felt about each other and we both knew that we had been through stuff in the past but said that we wanted to be open to what we had together and both decided to put down our fears and trust each other. I think if you talk to him about everything and keep open honest communication you with both be able to work right through this.
We first started talking on 10/20/14 (I consider this our anniversary because we both knew that night that we were going to be together) or first official date was 10/25 (we both knew that night that we only wanted to see each other and no one else) and he asked me to be his girlfriend, after his work xmas party, Dec. 5th. To me it seem that you guys are on track.
Now the thing is that I let him do the leading but I was always honest on how I felt about him and let him know both by telling him and backing it up with my actions. One of the things I have noticed with him, from the beginning, is that when I am vulnerable and open with my communication it brings his walls down and then he is the same in return. That is why I say just communicate your feelings to him and tell him and show him you care.
The other things is that I don't usually move that fast and it was scary for me at first but yet it always felt right so I had to give myself permission to not let my junk from past relationships put fear in me to do something dumb and sabotage something that could be a very very good thing. And in all honesty it was hard at first but because I was allowing myself to be vulnerable he always made it easy and I realized I didn't need to be scared. I can't say that it will turn out the same for you but don't you at least want to try then wonder what would have been?
Yeah they would! My and my guy saw each other 2x a week in the being, usually Wed and a weekend day and then after about a 2 months it was Wed and together for the whole weekend (we lived about 45 min apart). Now we live together, we both talked about it and I said that I thought we should date for a yr before moving in, we moved in together this last Sept so it was a little sooner but the perfect place fell into our laps and we couldn't let it pass.
I think if he is matching you then you need to put your fears aside.
I am a Scorpio as well and the girl that i've been getting to know the last 2 years is a Scorpio. We are 2 days apart. The 12th and she is the 14th. Her dads birthday is the 14th and their anniversary is the 12th. Very interesting. We've been friends for almost 2 years. She's opened up and then got cold on me. Mostly after she opens up. She is more protective, guarded and i'm more open and expressive. It's a rollercoaster ride for us just getting over the hump. I get the drunk phone calls, then she blames it on the alcohol. We talk for hours at a time..Then she'll go a few days in between calling. I understand your situation completely. She is more on the negative side of things since she had a failed engagement a few years back. All I can say is express yourself and hang on because it will probably be a long ride.. That's all I do.. Make sure she knows how I feel and be patient. Good luck !!
elp he finally did something to piss me off. He told me he wanted to invite me to his church but if I go I can't mention that I know him because his ex wife's whole family goes there. I'm not going there if I have to act like I don't know him.
On top of that he finally admitted he's talking to other girls. I don't understand why he told me he was falling in love with me then... I've been crying all morning.
Well early this morning we had a talk over text messages. He has a small business and I've been supportive of his dreams helping him out and all that stuff. It sucks. I feel like i gave him all of me. He has not responded to my texts. I have been crying so much. I don't know what to do. I've tried so hard. I'm a wreck right now. I thought i found everything i desired in a man in him. I guess not.
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I think if you have told her once that is enough. I am sorry to suggest this, but if she knows you love her and she is not with you, it might be an idea to pull away and let her miss you a little!
So scorpio man texted me. Just to tell me that he didn't speak to his ex wife while he was at church. I asked him why he felt the need to tell me and he didn'trespond. I told him how i felt and he didn't respond. I'm balling in tears.
My message was cut off for some reason. All I can say is be patient with your situation. One thing I know about her is that we do have a great bond. I don't know why she gets cold and goes 3 or 4 days in between calls then we'll talk for 5 hrs. She knows I love her. Hopefully in time she can trust and have faith in that so we can move forward. For 2 people born 2 days apart under the Scorpio sign we are so opposite. I'm so open when I need to be and she is so guarded (especially after she does open up). She opened up a lot during the drunk phone call so now i'm getting the cold spell.. It sucks, but if I care about her then I have to be patient.
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@Sugarbear- Howdy neighbor, and I say that because I live 15 minutes away from Corona. Lol. So just saying hi, hello..
@infinite8- Man I have VIT and what you were saying up there holds truth about how intense and strong I can be, I usually just go for it being quite open and expressive. Only to take alot of steps back after the adrenaline rush.. and I get to finally see the red flags if there are some. Because I can be so cloudy and then so detach because I am open more than others especially my emotions, that I feel I do scare em.
@OP-Just go for it, ask questions, and see why there's so much attraction right away. Because it's all euphoria in the beginning. It's only like when certain things aren't matching up to you, you start thinking why am I feeling like there's something wrong. That is just a red flag about that whole church thing. Now you've communicated how you felt and he shut down. I get that too. I don't like liars or secrets especially if it's important for a long term relationship. And everyone should just be able to share anything with that person. And you didn't get that. If you're friends.
How long does the silent treatment last?