Was he right? How can a scorpio get over it?

There's really no career area but I guess this is a scorpio thing too. So the other day I got my work evaluation. Didn't think it would be "great" cause there's always room for improvement. But I didn't think I'd get the results I got. Although my scores were 4's and 3's (each section is scored out of 4, with 4 being "Excellent") some of the comments were what I consider harsh:

-Although she is very quick, she needs to slow down as she has a tendency to make errors. I want quality work to come out. [Though this is a fair statement, in this past year my boss has never mentioned any errors I would have appreciated being told as they happen).

- Needs to work on her positivity. There have been several times where she has come into the office upset and it was disruptive and brought the entire office down. (When the hell was this? I don't ever remember coming into work being upset, distrupting anyone or bringing anyone down. I've been frustrated with my boss because he's always hard on me and is more supportive of the staff that are the most unqualified and I always have talked to him about my concerns privately about how I need his feedback and support and communication as well. This one actually affected me the most as he stated there have been a couple of people who have approached him asking if everything was alright with me).

- Is disengaged in group projects. (I stated we don't have group projects. He then corrected himself and stated he meant staff meetings. He said I shut down and say nothing. I corrected him and I told him I don't shut down. I'm listening intently. Me listening vs. being withdrawn are two different things. He then said I never say anything. I told him becuase specific individuals won't stop talking and don't even get anyone a chance to speak but somehow he expects me to cut those people off but yet no one else attempts to but I get his point but I'm not going to be rude and cut people off when there talking).

- He said I need to focus on my job and don't focus on strategic projects for growth or ideas for the organization. This one shocked me too. Didn't think trying to exceed expectations was an issue.


Come out of this evaluation and I've never had bad evaluations in my life. In my entire career I've worked hard, team oriented, did what I was told, didn't take advantage of any situations and my former employers have always appreciated that including my current employer but yet getting that evaluation

Come out of this evaluation and I've never had bad evaluations in my life. In my entire career I've worked hard, team oriented, did what I was told, didn't take advantage of any situations and my former employers have always appreciated that including my current employer but yet getting that evaluation really upset me and made me saddened. It's probably the scorpio in me.

After I tried to give my feedback on all of his points, it didn't really make an impact really. He just sat there and when I asked what he thought, he said he didn't know and he'd have to think about it. Which means squat.

Being a scorpio - I thrive on honesty, doing the right thing, emotional/connected/team environments and to not only get a harsh evaluation in my eyes but also to not feel like I had my say has thrown me off. All it's making me want to do is withdraw and not be happy which is what he supposedly marked me down for.

How can I get over it and how can I get him to understand that the only reason why I would be visibility frustrated at work is because as a leader, he hasn't been there and that I feel like I've been trying to figure out things on my own and to not allow me to grow and be challenged because I'm supposed to focus on my job disappoints me becuase obviously he's not into "team work" and growth anymore like he used to be.

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Posted by IrresistableScorp
You don't *need* him to understand. Take what he said and apply it to your work ethic hence forth.

Trust me. Getting your underwear in a bind over this is a bad idea and really, from an objective onlooker, all those things seem like reasonable non-malignant type of your usual job evaluation type discussions.

No biggie.

Yep.

It doesn't matter if you're perfect. They will find SOMETHING.

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Yeah in theory its no biggy but it was how he explained it to me during the evaluation. He was really offensive and put me down. The only problem I have with my boss is how he preaches teamwork all the time but he doesn't really say anything to me. I have to practically plead to get him to communicate with me, give me guidance, like he is with most staff but for whatever reason he has never been that way with me. I've gotten repeated excuses like because you don't need my guidance but everytime I seek out his guidance he doesn't say anything or he is rude and does other things at the same time when I'm trying to talk to him. That is why I've been frustrated with him.

But as far as the evaluation itself, the comments were shocking but not bad compared to the way he explained it to me:

- When I gave him feedback regarding his assuming I'm negative all the time. I said that the only time I'm frustrated is whenever I try and communicate with him about ideas I have or just support/guidance like he provides everyone else he said

a) Maybe its cause your ideas aren't good
b) several people have asked him what was going on with me/why am i upset
c) when I come to him with things that happen in the office he said I only complain about "problems" but never give him solutions -- if i had a solution I wouldn't be going to him about problems that occur in the office...plus as my boss I'm supposed to go to him about things that happen in the office

- He said I have errors occasionally on my work. I asked him why he didn't point them out as they happen and not a year later on my evaluation. He got quiet.

- He said I'm disengaged and I act like I don't want to be there in meetings (he cited one meeting in particular). I was shocked and I said, how can you assume I didn't want to be there -- I was listening the entir

He also said I need to focus on my job and not generate any strategic or organizational growth. But yet that's what he not only loved about my work ethic and how I always exceeded expectations. He always raved about it and encouraged it and wanted me to be that way and lead the other employees. But apparently he claimed to never have wanted any of that? He said he never wanted me to lead or generate ideas and all he wanted me to do was focus on how my job is to support him and the other employees.

Support employees lower than me? WTF? He said also not to be involved in higher level projects yet he wants me to be at this higher level meeting?

So I'm pretty much feeling like crap after being put down, being told all of my ideas probably weren't good which is why he didn't give me feedback in the past, he said I'm ruining the office environment, that my job is to serve everyone else that's more important. But yet he wants to socialize....you can't expect someone to be happy after you ripped them a new A**hole.