Posted by GemFiregrl1978
Awww this is so bitter-sweet.Do you think you are over your Leo though??Ask yourself that happy,you don't have to answer to us.
When I ran into problems with my Scorp I reached out to my Aries (my first love,my one and only that got away),anyways he is married now but he did want to be there for me,and I thought I wanted him but I realized I didn't.That it would be wrong path to take,a road I don't wanna take anymore...
that is how we truly know it's over,when you can have it and you don't.
Posted by happykitsune
He said there were a lot of red flags. One of which was some of the stuff on my fb that his dad saw and didn't like. Another was the fact that I was shy around his sister. There were other things, but that was some of the main things I picked up on. He also didn't like that I kept mentioning my exes even though I had been working on not doing that. There was a lot of stuff I had to explain to him about, but I knew he'd made up his mind.
I knew that picnic was meant for more then just hanging out...I always get that bad feeling when something bad is about to happen...and when he told me "I need to talk to you about something" I knew it was coming.
Everything was so vivid. I still remember clearly his blazing gold eyes and that red beard. But all the signs were there and I knew it was coming.
I'm glad it happened tho...I really needed to get out of that thing with my ex leo. Realizing this is what made me cry and he ended up wrapping his arms around me. Then we got lunch then said good bye. He still wants to be friends
Posted by GemFiregrl1978Posted by BoomShakalakaBoom
The guy sounds pretty demanding..and about small stuff too, bleh! I have a feeling you'll be better off without him
Yea happy,did you REALLY like him?Or what?click to expand
Posted by BigGirlPanties
Aw, I'm so sorry for you, Kit (((hug))). I know it hurts and I don't have any wise words to say except I'm sorry. Keep posting here..vent,cry..whatever. You know you aren;t alone in this.
Posted by GemFiregrl1978Posted by BoomShakalakaBoom
It just wasnt meant to be then, after some time a sudden realization will come to you as to why exactly you two werent meant for anything else, you'll see.
I hate this saying...wasn't meant to be,yet felt so right.Why even come into our lives then when they wouldn't stay?click to expand
Posted by BoomShakalakaBoom
It just wasnt meant to be then, after some time a sudden realization will come to you as to why exactly you two werent meant for anything else, you'll see.
Posted by happykitsunePosted by BoomShakalakaBoom
It just wasnt meant to be then, after some time a sudden realization will come to you as to why exactly you two werent meant for anything else, you'll see.
Yeah...right now I think I'm just shocked and slightly disillusioned cus I wasn't completely expecting that. It was like a nightmare...a very vivid nightmare.
I'm sure someday it'll come to me, but right now I'm gna try to focus on other things.
It's not that I didn't really like him, cus I still do...it's just I've been in too many relationships and tried to overanalyze too many times just to come to the conclusion everyone's been telling me all along. We weren't meant to be...
Or maybe I just have a lot of growing up to do. I'm sitting here wanting my next bf to be my future husband and I don't even know if I'd make good wife material. I don't really cook. I'm not the cleanest. I'm not the best with children, though I do find them cute... I just see a lot of flaws in myself that I feel that match up to being a good domesticated wife. I'm not the person I want to be. And today really shook me up to this realityclick to expand
Posted by GemFiregrl1978Posted by BoomShakalakaBoom
It just wasnt meant to be then, after some time a sudden realization will come to you as to why exactly you two werent meant for anything else, you'll see.
I hate this saying...wasn't meant to be,yet felt so right.Why even come into our lives then when they wouldn't stay?click to expand
Posted by BoomShakalakaBoomPosted by happykitsunePosted by BoomShakalakaBoom
It just wasnt meant to be then, after some time a sudden realization will come to you as to why exactly you two werent meant for anything else, you'll see.
Yeah...right now I think I'm just shocked and slightly disillusioned cus I wasn't completely expecting that. It was like a nightmare...a very vivid nightmare.
I'm sure someday it'll come to me, but right now I'm gna try to focus on other things.
It's not that I didn't really like him, cus I still do...it's just I've been in too many relationships and tried to overanalyze too many times just to come to the conclusion everyone's been telling me all along. We weren't meant to be...
Or maybe I just have a lot of growing up to do. I'm sitting here wanting my next bf to be my future husband and I don't even know if I'd make good wife material. I don't really cook. I'm not the cleanest. I'm not the best with children, though I do find them cute... I just see a lot of flaws in myself that I feel that match up to being a good domesticated wife. I'm not the person I want to be. And today really shook me up to this reality
Dont worry about the future just yet, it will come soon enoughJust make sure you have plenty of mourning time (take as much time as you need)
I went through a breakup myself 3 months ago (we were together for almost 3 years)click to expand
Posted by GemFiregrl1978Posted by happykitsunePosted by BoomShakalakaBoom
It just wasnt meant to be then, after some time a sudden realization will come to you as to why exactly you two werent meant for anything else, you'll see.
Yeah...right now I think I'm just shocked and slightly disillusioned cus I wasn't completely expecting that. It was like a nightmare...a very vivid nightmare.
I'm sure someday it'll come to me, but right now I'm gna try to focus on other things.
It's not that I didn't really like him, cus I still do...it's just I've been in too many relationships and tried to overanalyze too many times just to come to the conclusion everyone's been telling me all along. We weren't meant to be...
Or maybe I just have a lot of growing up to do. I'm sitting here wanting my next bf to be my future husband and I don't even know if I'd make good wife material. I don't really cook. I'm not the cleanest. I'm not the best with children, though I do find them cute... I just see a lot of flaws in myself that I feel that match up to being a good domesticated wife. I'm not the person I want to be. And today really shook me up to this reality
Wow,yes.Reality!!I love that word.Same here.I know I would not be a good wife right away and I think I am 10 years older than you.I think I have been dreaming a lot,not really living,you know...
It will be so interesting to follow your path happy,maybe we can all learn something from each other.click to expand
Posted by GemFiregrl1978Posted by happykitsunePosted by GemFiregrl1978Posted by BoomShakalakaBoom
It just wasnt meant to be then, after some time a sudden realization will come to you as to why exactly you two werent meant for anything else, you'll see.
I hate this saying...wasn't meant to be,yet felt so right.Why even come into our lives then when they wouldn't stay?
I thought this too. I hate that people come in our lives not to stay. But then I thought about it and this is what I told scorpio... with tears in my eyes mind u.
"I'm glad you came into my life cus if it hadn't been for you I'd probably still be with my ex (leo) and I would have never known there were guys out there who weren't d-bags."
This was the only thing that really made me cry. And I'll never forget him for this.
Ohhh God,now you will make me cry too(
Sadly,I can't think of anything why my Scorpio came into my life...but I hope it will be revealed to me.It just doesn't make sense.And I have to have sense,I must make sense of it all.Ugh,what a terrible feeling.click to expand
Posted by happykitsunePosted by BoomShakalakaBoomPosted by happykitsunePosted by BoomShakalakaBoom
It just wasnt meant to be then, after some time a sudden realization will come to you as to why exactly you two werent meant for anything else, you'll see.
Yeah...right now I think I'm just shocked and slightly disillusioned cus I wasn't completely expecting that. It was like a nightmare...a very vivid nightmare.
I'm sure someday it'll come to me, but right now I'm gna try to focus on other things.
It's not that I didn't really like him, cus I still do...it's just I've been in too many relationships and tried to overanalyze too many times just to come to the conclusion everyone's been telling me all along. We weren't meant to be...
Or maybe I just have a lot of growing up to do. I'm sitting here wanting my next bf to be my future husband and I don't even know if I'd make good wife material. I don't really cook. I'm not the cleanest. I'm not the best with children, though I do find them cute... I just see a lot of flaws in myself that I feel that match up to being a good domesticated wife. I'm not the person I want to be. And today really shook me up to this reality
Dont worry about the future just yet, it will come soon enoughJust make sure you have plenty of mourning time (take as much time as you need)
I went through a breakup myself 3 months ago (we were together for almost 3 years)
Well 3 yrs is a long time... much longer than my 2 months o.o But I will take time to grieve. Maybe I don't feel so bad about it cus he ended it without dragging me along and he still wanted to be friends.click to expand
Posted by BoomShakalakaBoom
the first timeit feels good.
Posted by Mebs
Happy I'm so sorryReading this made me want to cry. Sheez. I'm so sorry.
Posted by happykitsunePosted by Mebs
Happy I'm so sorryReading this made me want to cry. Sheez. I'm so sorry.
It's okay Mebs, I'll be fine o.o I'm just glad it was sooner than later. Gotta look on the bright side of thisclick to expand
Posted by MebsPosted by happykitsunePosted by Mebs
Happy I'm so sorryReading this made me want to cry. Sheez. I'm so sorry.
It's okay Mebs, I'll be fine o.o I'm just glad it was sooner than later. Gotta look on the bright side of this
You're right. That Sag optimism is a good thing. I don't know why I felt like you two were together for longer than two months...It seemed longer than that.
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Posted by Sag89
I think it's awesome you guys can be friends. Shows how mature he is and you.
Posted by happykitsunePosted by Sag89
I think it's awesome you guys can be friends. Shows how mature he is and you.
Well normally he doesn't remain friends with people who he's been with, but he said since we ended on good terms it wouldn't be weird.
I've never had a problem with being friends when an ex as long as they don't make it awkward. I'm pretty chillclick to expand
Posted by Sag89Posted by happykitsunePosted by Sag89
I think it's awesome you guys can be friends. Shows how mature he is and you.
Well normally he doesn't remain friends with people who he's been with, but he said since we ended on good terms it wouldn't be weird.
I've never had a problem with being friends when an ex as long as they don't make it awkward. I'm pretty chill
Ex is awkwardclick to expand
Posted by happykitsunePosted by Sag89Posted by happykitsunePosted by Sag89
I think it's awesome you guys can be friends. Shows how mature he is and you.
Well normally he doesn't remain friends with people who he's been with, but he said since we ended on good terms it wouldn't be weird.
I've never had a problem with being friends when an ex as long as they don't make it awkward. I'm pretty chill
Ex is awkward
What yours? Yeah I read your post about him today :/ sounds like he was pretty hurtclick to expand
Posted by OceanDeep
Good, glad you clarified that! It read like because things ended so well and that you handled it okay that he didn't see any reasons not to be friends. Hugs!
Posted by Sag89
Omg healthy people want to be friends with their exs because they can handle loving a person but not being with them.
He seems like a good guy I doubt it was anything other than that.
Posted by ellybd
At least he was straight with you. A good guy till the end. It truly is better sooner than later.
Nevertheless, I am sorry for you.![]()
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Break ups are so not fun. My rule of thumb is eat lotsa doughnuts, cry a little, than go out and focus on completely not relationship oriented things. You get to grieve, than give yourself space from the relationship, distance and time, and it helps things become clearer.
**Lots o Hugs**
Posted by ellybd
Than chill with her.A lot of times people just need to decompress before they can talk about something. Gotta handle it their own way.
And if you need to, you can still just tell people you don't want anyone to ask questions right now. You'd be surprised how many would just be there.
And feel free to express or not express yourself here.
Posted by Divinesun
Happy, I'm so sorry you are going through this. My xScorp and I broke up almost 7 months ago, and I miss him like crazy. The holidays have been hard and yes, nights are the hardest. I know how you are feeling and it sucks....broken hearts really hurt....sending hugs and hoping you feel better as each day passes.
Posted by ellybdI understand what you mean. When you feel strongly about someone and they become a part of a daily reality slowly, it's shocking and hard to understand when they aren't any longer. I went through that BAD with my cancer ex, to an unhealthy degree though. Thought I'd never be able to find love/connection like that again.
Truth is, I found better.
And your scorp is not crazy like my ex cancer was, so just imagine the possibilities lol.
You're right to do you. Beautiful surprises can happen at strangest of times.Wishing you some as you go along and move forward.
After eating lotsa doughtnuts of course!
Posted by ninjamu
He was looking for reasons to break it off. Those excuses were lame and you know it. Oh well, his loss, eh?
Posted by ellybd
Something probably is up with scorpios.
I've been feeling it on my part.
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