What are our chances of getting back together?
This topic was created in the Scorpio forum by daenerys on Monday, October 26, 2015 and has 9 replies.
Scorpio guy and a Sagittarius me:
He broke up with me after 1 year and a couple of months. We had been fighting a lot recently. He said he doesn't feel the same way anymore (doesn't love me) but cares about me and wants to stay friends. I know that's almost impossible (for me). He even cried when he broke up with me over videochat (long distance). He claimed there is no other girl involved but I am not sure. After the break up I told him I want some time of no contact. He broke it off after about 3-4 days to ask me how I am.
Since the break up (3 weeks ago) he has texted me several times to just ask how I am, to tell me he cares and stuff. Once he asked me if I look at guys differently now, which made me think he is jealous. I told him it's none of his business and that I am following his advice to 'move on'. He said that I can follow my own advices (?).
The last time we texted he asked me how I would feel if he had a girlfriend. He claimed he didn't have one but I don't know whether to believe that. He said we better not talk until we see each other in December but a few days he texted me again.
When I spoke to some mutual friends they didn't even know the reason for the breakup even though it wasn't so recent.
My mind tells me he is probably just feeling guilty about everything and that's why he 'cares about me' and asks how I am. He knows he broke his promises and let me down.
But my heart.. my heart is willing to forgive him and give him a second chance if he asks. I can't erase him like that..
What do you think guys?
I am a Sagittarius, Moon in Leo, Venus in Capricorn, ascendent - Libra
He is a Scorpio, Moon in Sagittarius, Venus in Sagittarius, ascendent - Cancer
He broke up with me after 1 year and a couple of months. We had been fighting a lot recently. He said he doesn't feel the same way anymore (doesn't love me) but cares about me and wants to stay friends. I know that's almost impossible (for me). He even cried when he broke up with me over videochat (long distance). He claimed there is no other girl involved but I am not sure. After the break up I told him I want some time of no contact. He broke it off after about 3-4 days to ask me how I am.
Since the break up (3 weeks ago) he has texted me several times to just ask how I am, to tell me he cares and stuff. Once he asked me if I look at guys differently now, which made me think he is jealous. I told him it's none of his business and that I am following his advice to 'move on'. He said that I can follow my own advices (?).
The last time we texted he asked me how I would feel if he had a girlfriend. He claimed he didn't have one but I don't know whether to believe that. He said we better not talk until we see each other in December but a few days he texted me again.
When I spoke to some mutual friends they didn't even know the reason for the breakup even though it wasn't so recent.
My mind tells me he is probably just feeling guilty about everything and that's why he 'cares about me' and asks how I am. He knows he broke his promises and let me down.
But my heart.. my heart is willing to forgive him and give him a second chance if he asks. I can't erase him like that..
What do you think guys?
I am a Sagittarius, Moon in Leo, Venus in Capricorn, ascendent - Libra
He is a Scorpio, Moon in Sagittarius, Venus in Sagittarius, ascendent - Cancer
Sounds like he wants to see evidence of your suffering.
Without him.
I sincerely hope you won't give him that satisfaction,
dear Sag.
Why do you want him back, when he keeps contacting
you, refusing to let you heal?
Without him.
I sincerely hope you won't give him that satisfaction,
dear Sag.
Why do you want him back, when he keeps contacting
you, refusing to let you heal?
Cut him off Sagi, or this will drag out forever
I know that Scorpio relationships need those breaks in order to grow. So, while I would take what he says at face value and move on in your life/healing, I wouldn't be surprised if he comes back later realizing that you guys do have a strong love that he wants to continue to develop with you. Now, I'm not saying you should take him back at that time, but I'm telling you that not all relationships with Scorp males go through beginning to end without any kind of breakage. My Scorp/Sag cousin in law actually RAN from my Gem/Cancer cusp female cousin. Like, got in the car, drove all of the way to his parents house in Florida from Cali, because he got scared of where the relationship was going. My Gem/Cancer cusp cousin was completely distraught, but she threw caution to the wind and went to his parent's house after him. She didn't make a big announcement, she just said, "Eff this..." and physically chased her man down. They'd been together for over a year. Well, he went back with her and they've been together ever since. That was over 20 years ago. They got married and have weathered life's ups and downs TOGETHER without another separation since that short lived initial one. This is just a true story and a sample of what happens when you don't let go of love or a loved one. Sometimes people leave for personal reasons and don't REALLY want to be separated from you, but because of what they're going through internally feel like there's no other option.
I'm one of those people who does that and have done that. One of the people I hold particularly Dear to heart is a Capricorn male who at 25 wouldn't allow me to just do him that way. He even pointed out that I was pushing him away and said he was determined to fight for us to remain in each other's lives forever. Now...we are really really close no matter how much time passes where we don't talk or see each other. It was horrendous for me to go through that with him...meaning I wanted to run away all of the time, but he wouldn't let me and now I know how to stay put. I now fight the urge to flee because he taught me something different.
I'm one of those people who does that and have done that. One of the people I hold particularly Dear to heart is a Capricorn male who at 25 wouldn't allow me to just do him that way. He even pointed out that I was pushing him away and said he was determined to fight for us to remain in each other's lives forever. Now...we are really really close no matter how much time passes where we don't talk or see each other. It was horrendous for me to go through that with him...meaning I wanted to run away all of the time, but he wouldn't let me and now I know how to stay put. I now fight the urge to flee because he taught me something different.
Posted by RainDancer
If I had zero interest I wouldn't contact someone at all.
But this guy is not good in the way he builds up your hopes and then leaves you hanging.
All bark, zero bite.
He has some things to learn about relationships. He sounds like he is poison for you.
How do you feel about the situation?
Like he gets off on it.
-.-
Posted by RainDancerPosted by MontgomeryPosted by RainDancer
If I had zero interest I wouldn't contact someone at all.
But this guy is not good in the way he builds up your hopes and then leaves you hanging.
All bark, zero bite.
He has some things to learn about relationships. He sounds like he is poison for you.
How do you feel about the situation?
Like he gets off on it.
-.-
Ewe.
Desperate call for help perhaps.
Shall we pity?
Axt cold and move on?
Rezct and get sucked in?
What's one to do!!!click to expand
Don't axe me.
Then again... sometimes the best rezction is no rezction, at all.
Thank you all for the replies! I know I have to let him go, if only it was easier..
I will aim to have no contact until December when I have to meet him to pick up some things.
Time will show if he would miss me or get over me by then.
I will aim to have no contact until December when I have to meet him to pick up some things.
Time will show if he would miss me or get over me by then.
Posted by daenerys
Thank you all for the replies! I know I have to let him go, if only it was easier..
I will aim to have no contact until December when I have to meet him to pick up some things.
Time will show if he would miss me or get over me by then.
You are playing head games.
So today I found that he definitely has a new girlfriend.. He is a liar and a horrible person because he was blaming me for being jealous of her while they were 'just friends' and now he replaced me with her. I can't believe that I loved this person... I will never trust anyone like I trusted him.
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