What Do You Consider Clingy Behavior?

Just curious lol I like my space, even with a guy I'm interested in... I'll maybe text once every couple days if I haven't heard from him.

Yeah should keep it balanced

Posted by over_thinker
for me clingy is when you want something from me and that is why you in constant touch with me..

something in what sense... like something you don't want to give?

"Clingy" behavior for me falls into two camps, possessive behavior and dependency behavior.

So things like constantly 'checking up on me' via texts, phone calls etc. is clingy. For a ratio I mean texting/calling every 30 minutes. I can justify texts like these every hour since I live in a city and I know things can go south real bad on nights out.

From the dependency camp things like wanting to be together 24/7 and whining/moping when we've been apart for a few hours. I have a life outside of my relationship and like when my partners do as well. Also sometimes I simply need alone time and my own space to get grounded when things get stressful so partners who don't get that are clingy in my books.

Another thing from the dependency camp, partners who expect me to make pretty much every life choice for them...like I don't want that kind of responsibility. Seriously had an ex call me to ask me if they should buy an xbox -whatever model- or pay their bills. ?

Edit: I thought this was in the relationship forum but it's in the Scorpio one so I must apologize! I'm not a Scorpio, sorry for my mistake.

Wanting to see me 2 days in a row.

Posted by Catullus
"Clingy" behavior for me falls into two camps, possessive behavior and dependency behavior.

So things like constantly 'checking up on me' via texts, phone calls etc. is clingy. For a ratio I mean texting/calling every 30 minutes. I can justify texts like these every hour since I live in a city and I know things can go south real bad on nights out.

From the dependency camp things like wanting to be together 24/7 and whining/moping when we've been apart for a few hours. I have a life outside of my relationship and like when my partners do as well. Also sometimes I simply need alone time and my own space to get grounded when things get stressful so partners who don't get that are clingy in my books.

Another thing from the dependency camp, partners who expect me to make pretty much every life choice for them...like I don't want that kind of responsibility. Seriously had an ex call me to ask me if they should buy an xbox -whatever model- or pay their bills. ?

AMEN !!!!!!!!!!!! I had all of that in ONE husband lol needless to say he's now an EX-husband lol

Posted by Catullus
"Clingy" behavior for me falls into two camps, possessive behavior and dependency behavior.

Bingo!

I can't compartmentalize this behavior as 'calls/texts X amount of times in X minutes' or 'wants to hang out X amount of days in a row' simply because the amount I consider clingy/possessive changes by the day, and maybe even the hour. It makes it tough to date me, since your lovey-dovey behavior can be more than welcome one moment, and completely irritating the next. However, I've learned how to express needing more alone time without being a dick about it.

Simply put: So long as her possessive nature remains at a healthy level (she's not hurting herself or others when the need is not met) is fine with me. However, being overly dependent on my time and support is a deal breaker.

Posted by youngali
My leo ex went and got a tattoo of me one month into the relationship. let's just say that ended real quick.

Hahaha OMG!!

I don't mind any kind of clingy behavior unless it starts to get controlling

Any behaviour that does not fit the pace of the relationship. For example, if we just met and you're already texting me multiple times a day and it includes the word "sweetie" then yes, I am going to find it off putting. If you are my lover/life partner, I would welcome nothing less.