What does it mean when a Scorpio takes hours to reply to your messages?

This topic was created in the Scorpio forum by Lizz549 on Sunday, January 7, 2024 and has 13 replies.
I’m chatting with a Scorpio man long distance and he used to message me throughout the day. He would take 2-3 hours to respond, which was fair to me. Even before he went to sleep he would message me.

The thing is that now he doesn’t reply until the day after. He will send me a text in the morning and when I reply he waits until the morning after to respond. Or sometimes he’ll even say he’ll be busy and can’t message me. I get it but this lack of communication makes me uncomfortable since we’re long distance.

I feel like it’s BS when people say they’re too busy. It doesn’t take more than five minutes to send a message/text if you care about the person. I’m not expecting to be bombarded with texts but just for him to respond on a timely matter. I feel like this Scorpio is taking me for granted because I’ve let him know how much I’m into him. I’m thinking about ghosting him because I don’t think he’s that interested in me. I know ghosting is bad but he has no consideration towards my feelings.

How would you explain his behavior?
You're just repelling him.

You reek of needy/clingy, doormat, martyr energy. Hopelessly addicted to drama, misery and misfortune.

I’m guilty of doing this myself(Scorpio sun Taurus moon) but not in a relationship kinda scenario! When I was away from my partner, we would just talk on calls twice or thrice a day and pinged eachother whenever. We didn’t respond to eachother immediately but that didn’t matter to us. In general tho(because I prefer texting over calls with friends), I do this not because I don’t care but because I just don’t feel like it sometimes . I do care but maybe I think it can wait? Or like PV mentioned , texting fatigue? I mean if you respond immediately, wouldn’t it just go on all day? You absolutely don’t have to take it if you feel disrespected but why not just talk on calls instead and be done for the day? Maybe he’s that type? You don’t deserve the disrespect but did you ever ask what he prefers?
Is this Scorp the same person who you...first distanced cuz he flirted with 2 women (even though you were just friends), ignored him cuz he insisted on video chatting, and then told him not to contact anymore? Or are these (this thread + your prior threads) all different men?
It’s all the same man as my previous threads. I don’t know if he’s tired of texting but he could just tell me. One time I ended our conversation because he seemed bored but instead of leaving me alone, he continued asking how my day was so he wants to talk to me but make me wait until he feels like responding.

You know what the funny thing is? Recently he mentioned that he was going to be busy this weekend to text me and I told him I liked being in constant communication and that I would miss him. After that he went from sending 1 message per day to not talk to me at all. Not even 1 message and it feels like he’s doing it on purpose because I told him I will miss him. That’s why I’m pissed. Why hurt me like this???

That’s why I think I should move on. I don’t want to waste my time with someone inconsistent like him.
Lmao
This is confusing.

Sounds like you were the inconsistent one. Now you're just a backup plan.
He seems to like the attention. I'd say move on.
Posted by Lizz549
It’s all the same man as my previous threads. I don’t know if he’s tired of texting but he could just tell me. One time I ended our conversation because he seemed bored but instead of leaving me alone, he continued asking how my day was so he wants to talk to me but make me wait until he feels like responding.
You know what the funny thing is? Recently he mentioned that he was going to be busy this weekend to text me and I told him I liked being in constant communication and that I would miss him. After that he went from sending 1 message per day to not talk to me at all. Not even 1 message and it feels like he’s doing it on purpose because I told him I will miss him. That’s why I’m pissed. Why hurt me like this???
That’s why I think I should move on. I don’t want to waste my time with someone inconsistent like him.
I mean you haven’t been saying what you mean and mean what you say. He told you he’s busy and can’t text, and he did exactly that.
Posted by Walk_on_by
Lmao
The irony?
Posted by poppyflower
Posted by Lizz549
It’s all the same man as my previous threads. I don’t know if he’s tired of texting but he could just tell me. One time I ended our conversation because he seemed bored but instead of leaving me alone, he continued asking how my day was so he wants to talk to me but make me wait until he feels like responding.
You know what the funny thing is? Recently he mentioned that he was going to be busy this weekend to text me and I told him I liked being in constant communication and that I would miss him. After that he went from sending 1 message per day to not talk to me at all. Not even 1 message and it feels like he’s doing it on purpose because I told him I will miss him. That’s why I’m pissed. Why hurt me like this???
That’s why I think I should move on. I don’t want to waste my time with someone inconsistent like him.


I mean you haven’t been saying what you mean and mean what you say. He told you he’s busy and can’t text, and he did exactly that.
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This ! Yes, he already told you he wouldn’t be texting you! I don’t think there’s any plan or game plot really OP! He did what he told he’d do and maybe got annoyed/ disinterested when you said what you said even after letting you know he’d be busy(or maybe he already became disinterested by then). But again, like I said, you don’t have to take it nor am I saying that it’s acceptable. I don’t know details of your relationship, if you have only been chatting so far, if it’s exclusive or yada yada! So you’d know better as to what’s acceptable and what’s not. If you’re still interested and are hurting, just ask him straight up(if you need closure that is…but if he’s not trying to initiate any conversation whatsoever , you already know your answer)

Long distance always ends this way unless there's a plan in motion to live together or move to the same city.

It's not a natural relationship dynamic.
Posted by LuckyLibra7
Long distance always ends this way unless there's a plan in motion to live together or move to the same city.
It's not a natural relationship dynamic.
^^^This.

OP, if you’ve been in a LDR for many months and there is still no plan and timeframe to close the gap, forget it! By the time the novelty and infatuation are wearing out, there is not enough intimacy, trust, hope, or whatever it takes to move you mentally and emotionally to the next level. It will fizzle out.