I’m chatting with a Scorpio man long distance and he used to message me throughout the day. He would take 2-3 hours to respond, which was fair to me. Even before he went to sleep he would message me.
The thing is that now he doesn’t reply until the day after. He will send me a text in the morning and when I reply he waits until the morning after to respond. Or sometimes he’ll even say he’ll be busy and can’t message me. I get it but this lack of communication makes me uncomfortable since we’re long distance.
I feel like it’s BS when people say they’re too busy. It doesn’t take more than five minutes to send a message/text if you care about the person. I’m not expecting to be bombarded with texts but just for him to respond on a timely matter. I feel like this Scorpio is taking me for granted because I’ve let him know how much I’m into him. I’m thinking about ghosting him because I don’t think he’s that interested in me. I know ghosting is bad but he has no consideration towards my feelings.
How would you explain his behavior?
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Apr 19, 2020Comments: 471 · Posts: 1114 · Topics: 51
You're just repelling him.
You reek of needy/clingy, doormat, martyr energy. Hopelessly addicted to drama, misery and misfortune.
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Feb 21, 2015Comments: 2009 · Posts: 14503 · Topics: 0
I’m guilty of doing this myself(Scorpio sun Taurus moon) but not in a relationship kinda scenario! When I was away from my partner, we would just talk on calls twice or thrice a day and pinged eachother whenever. We didn’t respond to eachother immediately but that didn’t matter to us. In general tho(because I prefer texting over calls with friends), I do this not because I don’t care but because I just don’t feel like it sometimes . I do care but maybe I think it can wait? Or like PV mentioned , texting fatigue? I mean if you respond immediately, wouldn’t it just go on all day? You absolutely don’t have to take it if you feel disrespected but why not just talk on calls instead and be done for the day? Maybe he’s that type? You don’t deserve the disrespect but did you ever ask what he prefers?
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Nov 11, 2021Comments: 1191 · Posts: 1448 · Topics: 21
Is this Scorp the same person who you...first distanced cuz he flirted with 2 women (even though you were just friends), ignored him cuz he insisted on video chatting, and then told him not to contact anymore? Or are these (this thread + your prior threads) all different men?
It’s all the same man as my previous threads. I don’t know if he’s tired of texting but he could just tell me. One time I ended our conversation because he seemed bored but instead of leaving me alone, he continued asking how my day was so he wants to talk to me but make me wait until he feels like responding.
You know what the funny thing is? Recently he mentioned that he was going to be busy this weekend to text me and I told him I liked being in constant communication and that I would miss him. After that he went from sending 1 message per day to not talk to me at all. Not even 1 message and it feels like he’s doing it on purpose because I told him I will miss him. That’s why I’m pissed. Why hurt me like this???
That’s why I think I should move on. I don’t want to waste my time with someone inconsistent like him.
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Nov 21, 2023Comments: 71 · Posts: 115 · Topics: 4
This is confusing.
Sounds like you were the inconsistent one. Now you're just a backup plan.
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Jan 15, 2014Comments: 1640 · Posts: 2154 · Topics: 139
He seems to like the attention. I'd say move on.
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Mar 13, 2023Comments: 393 · Posts: 748 · Topics: 14
Long distance always ends this way unless there's a plan in motion to live together or move to the same city.
It's not a natural relationship dynamic.