What happened with my Scorpio girl?
This topic was created in the Scorpio forum by m3jai on Wednesday, October 11, 2017 and has 13 replies.
So, let me try to be as brief as possible. I am simply trying to figure out if this is worth pursuing or am I being a naive Leo, hopelessly in love.
Me (Leo Man) and her (Scorpio Woman) met. We connected so quickly and deeply, because we share similar past and a lot of weirdness. We had such a deep understanding about each other.
I had been hurt a few years ago, so I was reluctant and expressed my insecurity about deep-bonding love. She wrote me all the reasons why I should let go and let myself love deeply and truly.
So it happened. We spent time together, most amazing time. We stared at each other's eyes and were completely enchanted most of the time.
Then at one evening we went to a concert, she saw her ex and became distant. I knew what was going on, I was fine with it and tried to snap her back into reality with some jokes and nudges. But nothing.
Next day she was not texting me, though I hoped or somehow understood we're gonna spend more time together at that day.
Because of some other shit that I had to deal with that morning and my dramatic Leo nature combined with overthinking all the scenarios, I assumed the worst. Like she still loves her ex, she is just in a rebound, she probably doesn't give a shit about me etc. etc.
I had a drink or two and wrote her some of that. She didn't reply (she was otherwise occupied from what I learned later).
The fact that she didn't reply to such a sensitive topic made me even more certain that she doesn't give a fuck. So I was basically telling her that I'm done if she doesn't even care etc. etc.
I was probably saying too much under the influence and she got really hurt by it.
I really had no clue that Scorpios don't really respond to texts instantly and that's normal I suppose, hehe.
So the next day, she shut herself down. Killed/drowned her feelings with whatever defense mechanism.
I tried to apologize, sincerely confess all the shit that drove me to it and admitted to her that I'm probably more in love with her than I expected to be etc.
We met a couple of times later on, talked about things. She told me that she just wants to be alone and not have a relationship with me. That she really likes me and everything she said and did before she really meant it and so on. But that the feelings just went away when she woke up. They just weren't there anymore.
She thinks the world of me but doesn't feel anything anymore, according to her.
After some sincere talks, I told her that I'll give her some time a part and withdraw myself from her life.
Whether she decides that what we had was special enough to feel again or not.
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So my question is...Should I ever expect her to feel what she used to or is she gone forever?
She is literally the most awesome girl that I've ever dated and I'd bring the moon down for her and more but I'm afraid I fucked this up big time...
Any advice? Help? Opinions? I just feel lost...it's been a week now and she still doesn't feel anything it seems.
Me (Leo Man) and her (Scorpio Woman) met. We connected so quickly and deeply, because we share similar past and a lot of weirdness. We had such a deep understanding about each other.
I had been hurt a few years ago, so I was reluctant and expressed my insecurity about deep-bonding love. She wrote me all the reasons why I should let go and let myself love deeply and truly.
So it happened. We spent time together, most amazing time. We stared at each other's eyes and were completely enchanted most of the time.
Then at one evening we went to a concert, she saw her ex and became distant. I knew what was going on, I was fine with it and tried to snap her back into reality with some jokes and nudges. But nothing.
Next day she was not texting me, though I hoped or somehow understood we're gonna spend more time together at that day.
Because of some other shit that I had to deal with that morning and my dramatic Leo nature combined with overthinking all the scenarios, I assumed the worst. Like she still loves her ex, she is just in a rebound, she probably doesn't give a shit about me etc. etc.
I had a drink or two and wrote her some of that. She didn't reply (she was otherwise occupied from what I learned later).
The fact that she didn't reply to such a sensitive topic made me even more certain that she doesn't give a fuck. So I was basically telling her that I'm done if she doesn't even care etc. etc.
I was probably saying too much under the influence and she got really hurt by it.
I really had no clue that Scorpios don't really respond to texts instantly and that's normal I suppose, hehe.
So the next day, she shut herself down. Killed/drowned her feelings with whatever defense mechanism.
I tried to apologize, sincerely confess all the shit that drove me to it and admitted to her that I'm probably more in love with her than I expected to be etc.
We met a couple of times later on, talked about things. She told me that she just wants to be alone and not have a relationship with me. That she really likes me and everything she said and did before she really meant it and so on. But that the feelings just went away when she woke up. They just weren't there anymore.
She thinks the world of me but doesn't feel anything anymore, according to her.
After some sincere talks, I told her that I'll give her some time a part and withdraw myself from her life.
Whether she decides that what we had was special enough to feel again or not.
----
So my question is...Should I ever expect her to feel what she used to or is she gone forever?
She is literally the most awesome girl that I've ever dated and I'd bring the moon down for her and more but I'm afraid I fucked this up big time...
Any advice? Help? Opinions? I just feel lost...it's been a week now and she still doesn't feel anything it seems.
Also, I think I can see from her eyes and face that she is trying to suppress some feelings/urges while I talk to her face to face.
Any insight at all 
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how long have you two been dating and how long since she broke up with her ex?
i would continue giving her space, let her miss you too..
i would continue giving her space, let her miss you too..
Damn, you sound clingy and emotionally needy.
I wouldn't get wifed by a guy like that.
I wouldn't get wifed by a guy like that.
Here's my personal opinion..... take it or leave it.
No person wakes up one day and just says "hey I don't have feelings for that person anymore!". So either a) you scared her away when she needed some space to figure her own stuff out, or b) she never truly cared about you in the first place.
My thoughts are on option A though. Sounds like your drunkin' verbal thrashing probably made her think "Well if he's gonna lose it on me about this, what else do I have in store for the future". Whether or not you think so words hurt and last a life time... especially with us scorps. It's easier to tuck tail and run in this type of situation since it's new.
I'd forge ahead and leave it, give her some space and time. If she comes around great, if not... it's done.
No person wakes up one day and just says "hey I don't have feelings for that person anymore!". So either a) you scared her away when she needed some space to figure her own stuff out, or b) she never truly cared about you in the first place.
My thoughts are on option A though. Sounds like your drunkin' verbal thrashing probably made her think "Well if he's gonna lose it on me about this, what else do I have in store for the future". Whether or not you think so words hurt and last a life time... especially with us scorps. It's easier to tuck tail and run in this type of situation since it's new.
I'd forge ahead and leave it, give her some space and time. If she comes around great, if not... it's done.
Hmm, I probably scared her away I guess then. I'm still in love with her, it's freaking weird but nothing has changed. We don't even talk anymore. I kind of just want to hate her for ditching out on us like that, but I can't convince myself to it. So getting over it is mentally exhausting with no real progress.
How long should I "wait" before I know that it's over for good?
For how long do Scorpios disappear for? If they really felt something before.
She thought I was being insecure about the fact, but I was just really stoned instead.
Didn't even bother to think about it 'til next day.
How long should I "wait" before I know that it's over for good?
For how long do Scorpios disappear for? If they really felt something before.
Posted by TomSawyerNothing happened at the concert, we were stoned as fuck. I was drinking and watching campfire.
Elaborate on what happened at the concert.
From when you walked in to when you left.
She thought I was being insecure about the fact, but I was just really stoned instead.
Didn't even bother to think about it 'til next day.
Posted by EnochtheWiseMy bestfriend is a Scorpio. That's my ride or die 😊Posted by MoonshineLeo
Hmmm. Leo's and Scorpios usually make an awesome couple.
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I hate Leos.
Posted by DarkLoneWolfHating us is overrated
I hate Leos.
Posted by TomSawyerGood stuff, that's exactly what I've been doing for the last weeks.Posted by m3jai
Hmm, I probably scared her away I guess then. I'm still in love with her, it's freaking weird but nothing has changed. We don't even talk anymore. I kind of just want to hate her for ditching out on us like that, but I can't convince myself to it. So getting over it is mentally exhausting with no real progress.
How long should I "wait" before I know that it's over for good?
For how long do Scorpios disappear for? If they really felt something before.Posted by TomSawyerNothing happened at the concert, we were stoned as fuck. I was drinking and watching campfire.
Elaborate on what happened at the concert.
From when you walked in to when you left.
She thought I was being insecure about the fact, but I was just really stoned instead.
Didn't even bother to think about it 'til next day.
Aw yeah, been there done that. The feeling's a bitch.
I can't give you a real answer as to how long you gotta wait, it took me a nice while before I came in terms with the fact that it's over.
It kinda set me free tho, if you know what I mean.
Dope helps, partying helps, womanizing helps. Smashing one girl after the other and dive deep in your "work" or what ever you like doing. That's what I did.
If you got good friends that can pull you out of it, it's a God bless
Irony of this is..It was my Leo friend that said to me "What the fuck is wrong with you", that got me thinking straight again. .
It doesn't matter if she's gone, dude, she's not the last girl on earth.
If you found good qualities in her, then you know what you're looking for in the next.
The "hunt" continues.
She might be back tho, get ready for that.
Last thing, just keep the Leo attitude shining.
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A lot of dope, a lot of parties, dating 3 girls at once (for whom I feel absolutely nothing for, but just to keep myself occupied/distracted I suppose) and all the usual shit.
I still can't find a motivation to live fully, because she gave me a purpose, filled the void.
Felt like there was FINALLY someone to hunt with, as a Leo that's all you really want in life - a partner in hunt.
But it's fucking depressing trying to acknowledge that it's over.
I saw her yesterday, bought some weed off her. It was literally 10 seconds meeting, we just said Hi, smiled, traded and said Bye.
Just can't believe that someone get so cold so quick, or perhaps she's like me? Both keeping what we feel inside us and not showing nor talking about it at least to each other.
Who knows, but I feel like I've lost her for good, unless something drastically changes.
I'd still prefer her over any other woman in the world pretty much. Maybe I'm an idiot.
toned right now when reading this, so it feels more elaborate than it probably should usually
That's some sound advice and that's the way I've been living for a while now.
The only problem is that I've been in way too many relationships and this was the first time I actually felt something that was REAL even when it wasn't a relationship - so it's really hard to let go and imagine you will ever find someone like that again.
But it's all good because even though I lack motivation, I have plenty of rage about life that thrives me.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts, really helps to put things into a perspective. Glad to see a like-minded Leo!
And to whoever said she probably didn't feel anything and it was a rebound - well, I have seen girls who don't feel or are in a rebound and she definitely wasn't faking anything. It was too intense for that.
But the past sticks longer with some people than others, so I have no doubt that seeing her ex changed this somehow.Posted by TomSawyerPosted by m3jaiMake no mistake about it, you're not an idiot.Posted by TomSawyerGood stuff, that's exactly what I've been doing for the last weeks.Posted by m3jai
Hmm, I probably scared her away I guess then. I'm still in love with her, it's freaking weird but nothing has changed. We don't even talk anymore. I kind of just want to hate her for ditching out on us like that, but I can't convince myself to it. So getting over it is mentally exhausting with no real progress.
How long should I "wait" before I know that it's over for good?
For how long do Scorpios disappear for? If they really felt something before.Posted by TomSawyerNothing happened at the concert, we were stoned as fuck. I was drinking and watching campfire.
Elaborate on what happened at the concert.
From when you walked in to when you left.
She thought I was being insecure about the fact, but I was just really stoned instead.
Didn't even bother to think about it 'til next day.
Aw yeah, been there done that. The feeling's a bitch.
I can't give you a real answer as to how long you gotta wait, it took me a nice while before I came in terms with the fact that it's over.
It kinda set me free tho, if you know what I mean.
Dope helps, partying helps, womanizing helps. Smashing one girl after the other and dive deep in your "work" or what ever you like doing. That's what I did.
If you got good friends that can pull you out of it, it's a God bless
Irony of this is..It was my Leo friend that said to me "What the fuck is wrong with you", that got me thinking straight again. .
It doesn't matter if she's gone, dude, she's not the last girl on earth.
If you found good qualities in her, then you know what you're looking for in the next.
The "hunt" continues.
She might be back tho, get ready for that.
Last thing, just keep the Leo attitude shining.
Good luck.
A lot of dope, a lot of parties, dating 3 girls at once (for whom I feel absolutely nothing for, but just to keep myself occupied/distracted I suppose) and all the usual shit.
I still can't find a motivation to live fully, because she gave me a purpose, filled the void.
Felt like there was FINALLY someone to hunt with, as a Leo that's all you really want in life - a partner in hunt.
But it's fucking depressing trying to acknowledge that it's over.
I saw her yesterday, bought some weed off her. It was literally 10 seconds meeting, we just said Hi, smiled, traded and said Bye.
Just can't believe that someone get so cold so quick, or perhaps she's like me? Both keeping what we feel inside us and not showing nor talking about it at least to each other.
Who knows, but I feel like I've lost her for good, unless something drastically changes.
I'd still prefer her over any other woman in the world pretty much. Maybe I'm an idiot.
You seem to be side-tracked from your primary mission in Life.
I've been doing the same shit for close to 9 months now.
Keep completing side quests that really don't get me anywhere but gives me a sense of
satisfaction knowing I'm helping out people around me, making their lives better.
The problem with that mentality is, you're standing in one spot and the more you keep standing - the more you get comfortable - the more you get lost. Once that happens it's real hard to get up.
Most of the time I've seen people go at this, they don't return anymore(drugs, alcohol etc.).
They give up......That's not an option, man.
Understand what I'm getting at?
To want someone to hunt with, you need to be fit physically and Mentally, find out what's ahead.
Top hunters don't work with other top hunters, same with "Alphas".
They can only work together when shit hits the fan and clicking up is the only option.
Other than that, they work with their own tribe.
You can't expect people to follow you until they see that you got you're shit on GO and you're still trailblazing.
Women can sleep with the king and use him but if you put a king and a gladiator in a ring, make them fight - the Gladiator will come out victorious and if he's got a good head on his shoulders, he'll be the leader.
If you become a leader of your tribe, you won't have time to fix every little problem that's going on and worry about love life, it's gonna become bullshit since you're duty is to keep them safe and Lead.
They learn how to fix minor problems - so they grow, you're there to show an example.
I read your thread and I saw myself.
The thing is, I'm thankful to this girl for turning me down cold almost a decade ago instead of leading on.
Very humane and respectable.
Some times people do this to help you grow and push you back on the right direction.
Take this as a possible lesson and move on.
If she comes back - alright, she doesn't - alright.
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