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What would you do?
Very well said Roxi
"give this man the opportunity to do the right thing by your daughter and schedule access and financial support and make them clear cut arrangements. then if he goes ahead and fucks up his role as father, that's his loss."
That is what happened to me. And my sons fathere fucked up and know he has not respect for him. But like my mom said to me "don't ever talk bad about his father let him find out for him self" And she was so right.
I was the good mother his father was welcome to see his child I never denied him but what he kept doing was saying he was coming to get him and never showed up... I had to take on the responsibility of calming my child down because he was expecting his father and he never showed. Which to me was on of his fathers biggest mistake.
His other mistake was He figured that he was hurting me by not coming around and kept telling him that he was hurting the child this has nothing to do with me and him but he could never see that.
His father stayed away for 2 months when my son was just getting to know him when he showed 2 months later my son did not had forgotten who his father was. The look on his father's face was pure hurt. I look at his father and said "You are doing this to your child"
All I can say is keep your focus on your child if he wants to see her let him if he don't then don't trip. Go to your nearest court and file for child support. I never did, because my pride would not let me so I struggle and made it on my own. Times are hard and you need the help.
"give this man the opportunity to do the right thing by your daughter and schedule access and financial support and make them clear cut arrangements. then if he goes ahead and fucks up his role as father, that's his loss."
That is what happened to me. And my sons fathere fucked up and know he has not respect for him. But like my mom said to me "don't ever talk bad about his father let him find out for him self" And she was so right.
I was the good mother his father was welcome to see his child I never denied him but what he kept doing was saying he was coming to get him and never showed up... I had to take on the responsibility of calming my child down because he was expecting his father and he never showed. Which to me was on of his fathers biggest mistake.
His other mistake was He figured that he was hurting me by not coming around and kept telling him that he was hurting the child this has nothing to do with me and him but he could never see that.
His father stayed away for 2 months when my son was just getting to know him when he showed 2 months later my son did not had forgotten who his father was. The look on his father's face was pure hurt. I look at his father and said "You are doing this to your child"
All I can say is keep your focus on your child if he wants to see her let him if he don't then don't trip. Go to your nearest court and file for child support. I never did, because my pride would not let me so I struggle and made it on my own. Times are hard and you need the help.
Thanks ladies I feel exactly the same way at this point, our baby is 2mths and he hasn't seen her in a month really I think like you it is his lost, I am giving him a chance to be a father and if he doesnt step up, I will let the courts handle this, that is my motto. I bascially don't call him, he calls says he is coming and just call today to say he will be bringing her a box of diapers tomorrow, so we will see either way I am so content cause I made the effort and I am giving him the chance to do whats right.
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