What would you say is your most prevalent internal struggle?

This topic was created in the Scorpio forum by Silvuh on Friday, May 3, 2019 and has 42 replies.
As a Scorpio, what is something you are always fighting with yourself to overcome, or the one thing you are focused on improving about yourself?

For me it is possessiveness. When i realized this was the root of most all experienced strife in my life, i really took the time out to try to detach myself from my attachments. And this isn't exclusive to interpersonal relationships. I sometimes find the items, ideas, or desires i hold dear are guarded with the same kind of controlling attitude. This is not anything that brings shame to me, we all have flaws. What matters though, is being self aware.

I'm learning not to fear losing the things/people i love, because everything here is only meant to serve a single purpose- and that is experience.

Plus, things are much sweeter knowing these things are present because they are fated, and obligation does not play a role.

What about you guys?

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I think I'm mastering mine

Letting go

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Posted by MyStarsShine

I think I'm mastering mine

Letting go

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Yes!! Don't you feel on top of the world when you are able to set yourself free from what you thought would otherwise imprison you literally forever? lol

The best feeling!!
Posted by Armor

This is beautiful. Mine is indifference.


Oooouuu, yes. Along the lines of release and personal freedom too i would say.

Why do you feel indifference is the answer?

More importantly (as a scorp) do you think that's possible? lol
I learned patience. But I still am trying to teach myself to have empathy for others.
Posted by peachy06

Obsession. I have obsessive tendencies that I can't deal with.

And perhaps, my vengeful nature ?
Peachy! haha

I hate how vengeful I can be. It's the worse. I am usually able to stop myself from boiling over though, but sometimes I find I do regret not giving people a CHUNK of my mind (f*ck a piece 😂)

Do you think you can ever accept the idea of "whatever's gonna be will be"
Posted by Silverado

Letting go of control is every Scorpio's goal before they die.
How many maliciously vile disputes does it take to get to the center of a Scorpio's insouciance?

The world may never know. 😂

Posted by nikkistar

I learned patience. But I still am trying to teach myself to have empathy for others.
You know that's new..

I don't hear many of us talk about empathy. I always feel this emotion in the back of my mind as something i should heed (heavily too) but sometimes in the spur of the moment...that consideration goes out the window to preserve my own wants/needs.

We def are empathic. Do we set ourselves aside as often as we should? I would say no lol
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Posted by nikkistar

I learned patience. But I still am trying to teach myself to have empathy for others.
You know that's new..

I don't hear many of us talk about empathy. I always feel this emotion in the back of my mind as something i should heed (heavily too) but sometimes in the spur of the moment...that consideration goes out the window to preserve my own wants/needs.

We def are empathic. Do we set ourselves aside as often as we should? I would say no lol
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Honestly, I don't know if my lack of empathy is a personality trait or if it can be attributed somehow being a Scorpio one.

What I do know is, is I often times think people who react in an emotional way, as inferior because of my own inability to react to situations in an emotional context 95% of the time. So trying to not look at emotional responses, as a negative, is something I probably need to work on. Though I don't really want to work on understanding it. lol
Gas.. I have bad gas.
Posted by Black-Mamba

Not being a reactive Bytch

Easily annoyed
I don't even think people are fazed by it anymore, at least here. Are you really bothered by it? You seem to get over quickly.
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Posted by MyStarsShine

I think I'm mastering mine

Letting go

💙
Yes!! Don't you feel on top of the world when you are able to set yourself free from what you thought would otherwise imprison you literally forever? lol

The best feeling!!
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So true.....it's like heaven 😊
Procrastination and consistency are my weak points and i can't seem to do shit about it ;(
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Posted by Silvuh

Posted by Armor

This is beautiful. Mine is indifference.


Oooouuu, yes. Along the lines of release and personal freedom too i would say.

Why do you feel indifference is the answer?

More importantly (as a scorp) do you think that's possible? lol


Yes, I honestly enjoy my freedom too.

I feel indifferent to everything that's out of my control, I never find myself obsessing over the little things and I don't mind closing my eyes to get my peace of mind and ignore everything sometimes. 🤷🏻‍♀️

I also make myself feel indifferent. IDK, I'm sure it's not healthy but when I want to get rid of a certain feeling (anger, sadness, love, etc.) I either focus so much on feeling it until it goes away (almost like listening to a song so many times you get sick of it eventually and don't want to hear anything even similar to it) or I analyze that feeling and everything that has led me to feel it, basically rationalizing that feeling until it's nothing but an understanding of myself and somehow it turns into a lesson for me, or my last and final favorite method, to question everything, "did I love that person or did I love the idea of that person? Was that even love or did I see a part of myself in someone and I wanted to prove to myself that somehow that part was worthy of love because I could love it in them?".

Wow I'm sure I sound weird explaining this, but in short, I'd say I transfer my emotions to my brain so I can rip them apart and analyze them till I no longer feel them. 😂
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Hmm that's definitely interesting. Does just sound like a character trait haha

but it's cool all in all. If that's how you sail no reason to rock the boat, especially if its for the sake of pleasing others. Sometimes we dgaf and thats A okay 😂

But for sure I understand convincing yourself out of love 😂 I feel like that's the holy grail for releasing yourself from emotional binds. Due could've been the nicest guy ever but dont ask me anything. Post break-up? they're all trash 😂😂😂😂

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Posted by Silverado

Letting go of control is every Scorpio's goal before they die.
How many maliciously vile disputes does it take to get to the center of a Scorpio's insouciance?

The world may never know. 😂

Damn. This is the first time I ever needed to look up the definition of a word on this site.

in·sou·ci·ance

/inˈso͞osēəns,inˈso͞oSHəns/

noun

casual lack of concern; indifference.
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haha!

I try to keep it spicy 😂
Posted by blvckphvse

Sorry, didn't realize this was for Scorps :/
Nah it's cool. We're all more alike than we think lol

I always try asking myself do i have a reason to doubt this person and what is that reason. If i can't think of one specific event, or my reasons tie into past experiences i chalk it up to being extra and try to get out of my bag lol

How do you differentiate?
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Posted by peachy06

Obsession. I have obsessive tendencies that I can't deal with.

And perhaps, my vengeful nature ?
Peachy! haha

I hate how vengeful I can be. It's the worse. I am usually able to stop myself from boiling over though, but sometimes I find I do regret not giving people a CHUNK of my mind (f*ck a piece 😂)

Do you think you can ever accept the idea of "whatever's gonna be will be"
I can relate, it's so hard to fight this urge. So now I just let it out, I don't even fight this anymore. I've learned to accept it.
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Lol I'm giving myself until 28. If self work doesn't work by then im calling it a day LOL
Posted by mwsx

Procrastination and consistency are my weak points and i can't seem to do shit about it ;(
We weren't blessed with enough earthy influence haha
Posted by Impulsv

I got to do things now

I want things now

You’d think I’d be an Aries mars
Honestly who has time to wait for shit though, lol?

Like when things are assumed to take forever to reach it's endpoint my most immediate thought is "What can I do to speed the process up?"

Are you an anxious person lol

Struggling to wake up in the morning. Idk what it freaking is but even sleeping for over 8 hours doesn't feel enough. It might be my naturally low blood pressure idk but I hate it. I wanna be those people who can't wait to bounce out of bed in the morning and like go on a run or meditate to start the day as the sun is rising ! 😠
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Posted by MyStarsShine

I think I'm mastering mine

Letting go

💙


Don't know if I can chime in as I'm not Scorpio sun, but this and vengeful feelings. I'm still upset about things that happened 20 years ago.
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Sure you can

Scorpio moons can be more prone to holding on than suns....it's a difficult placement. Are you still holding onto stuff from when you were a boy/teen? Vengeful feelings can be very harmful to health. My Scorp moon sister (fire sun) held so much in and was very difficult to deal with ...

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Posted by MyStarsShine

I think I'm mastering mine

Letting go

💙


Don't know if I can chime in as I'm not Scorpio sun, but this and vengeful feelings. I'm still upset about things that happened 20 years ago.
Sure you can

Scorpio moons can be more prone to holding on than suns....it's a difficult placement. Are you still holding onto stuff from when you were a boy/teen? Vengeful feelings can be very harmful to health. My Scorp moon sister (fire sun) held so much in and was very difficult to deal with ...

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Yeah unfortunately I do. I didn't have a really bad childhood, I had two loving parents albeit overprotective and good friends and family, but I was bullied through most of my school years and I've no idea why I just wanted to blend in.
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That's tough Alex...the Aries/Scorp moon i was with was bullied too. He wouldn't go and get help and chose to be stuck, sadly one of the many reasons we parted company was he blamed everyone else for his issues, most of the time, he didn't move forward.

My addiction to sex and désire.

Fucking with guys heads almost got me killed.

I'm also vengeful AF.
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Posted by MyStarsShine

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Posted by MyStarsShine

I think I'm mastering mine

Letting go

💙


Don't know if I can chime in as I'm not Scorpio sun, but this and vengeful feelings. I'm still upset about things that happened 20 years ago.
Sure you can

Scorpio moons can be more prone to holding on than suns....it's a difficult placement. Are you still holding onto stuff from when you were a boy/teen? Vengeful feelings can be very harmful to health. My Scorp moon sister (fire sun) held so much in and was very difficult to deal with ...

💙


Yeah unfortunately I do. I didn't have a really bad childhood, I had two loving parents albeit overprotective and good friends and family, but I was bullied through most of my school years and I've no idea why I just wanted to blend in.
That's tough Alex...the Aries/Scorp moon i was with was bullied too. He wouldn't go and get help and chose to be stuck, sadly one of the many reasons we parted company was he blamed everyone else for his issues, most of the time, he didn't move forward.



I don't blame anyone. I'm trying to learn from the past and I think what would I do differently if I was who I am now then. I'm not angry that often and I find it easier to calm down.

At the time it felt like a lot was against me. I can say I got through it because some people don't. Believe it or not I'm not bitter and don't really do the victimhood mentality as it isn't who I am.
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That's good you are working through it Alex. The experience has probably made you who you are now.

Edit....I am studying NLP .... check it out, it may help you with letting go....
Posted by LalasReturn

My addiction to sex and désire.

Fucking with guys heads almost got me killed.

I'm also vengeful AF.
😳

Scorp or Cancer moon Lala?

Did that weird abusive Scorp bloke leave you alone yet?
Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by LalasReturn

My addiction to sex and désire.

Fucking with guys heads almost got me killed.

I'm also vengeful AF.
😳

Scorp or Cancer moon Lala?

Did that weird abusive Scorp bloke leave you alone yet?
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I'm a Scorpio Moon.

Nope. He hasn't.

It seems the less I entertain him, the more obsessive he gets.
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Struggling to wake up in the morning. Idk what it freaking is but even sleeping for over 8 hours doesn't feel enough. It might be my naturally low blood pressure idk but I hate it. I wanna be those people who can't wait to bounce out of bed in the morning and like go on a run or meditate to start the day as the sun is rising ! 😠


You could be anaemic, have you been tested for it?

What I do is try to wake up at the same time every day. It does help.
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I get general blood work done every year and everything supposedly looks normal. It’s frustrating.

Do you use an alarm or has your body naturally adjusted?
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Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by LalasReturn

My addiction to sex and désire.

Fucking with guys heads almost got me killed.

I'm also vengeful AF.
😳

Scorp or Cancer moon Lala?

Did that weird abusive Scorp bloke leave you alone yet?


I'm a Scorpio Moon.

Nope. He hasn't.

It seems the less I entertain him, the more obsessive he gets.
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Revenge and Scorpio moon 😈

He's still at it? wow....scary 😳

Does he know you have a new bloke in your life Lala?
Posted by SassyKiwi

Struggling to wake up in the morning. Idk what it freaking is but even sleeping for over 8 hours doesn't feel enough. It might be my naturally low blood pressure idk but I hate it. I wanna be those people who can't wait to bounce out of bed in the morning and like go on a run or meditate to start the day as the sun is rising ! 😠
🧐🧐🧐

Adrenal fatigue maybe?
Posted by blvckphvse

Posted by Silvuh

Posted by blvckphvse

Sorry, didn't realize this was for Scorps :/
Nah it's cool. We're all more alike than we think lol

I always try asking myself do i have a reason to doubt this person and what is that reason. If i can't think of one specific event, or my reasons tie into past experiences i chalk it up to being extra and try to get out of my bag lol

How do you differentiate?
I guess in all fairness, I have a lot of Scorp influence, so maybe kinda counts for something. haha

How do I differentiate between what is lack of trust and what is paranoia? I have a really tough time with that actually. I often have to ask myself, do I really not trust this or am I just being paranoid. It can be really difficult for me to tell sometimes. For example.. something as simple as taking my dog to the vet. I am not the kind of person that could leave my dog over night at the vets. I am either staying the night with him or will take him home and bring him back when they re open.. Do I have any reason not to trust them? Not really.. but I don't at all. That's likely me being paranoid and overthinking "worst case scenarios".. but also it's important to me that my dog trusts me 100% , I know he would be more comfortable with me, so I make sure to be with him in uncomfortable situations.. so partly due to that and partly due to me not trusting what will happen to him and how he would be treated if I left him alone with them.
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You know what actually? It does!

Topic open to those influenced by scorpion inner-G as well

😂

Hm, i would say there isn't anything really wrong with that! Of course you always wanna be practical but you've got those maternal instincts in full force, so leave no stone unturned!

tbh i believe paranoia and control go hand in hand. Can never really have one in your midst without the other trailing behind.
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Struggling to wake up in the morning. Idk what it freaking is but even sleeping for over 8 hours doesn't feel enough. It might be my naturally low blood pressure idk but I hate it. I wanna be those people who can't wait to bounce out of bed in the morning and like go on a run or meditate to start the day as the sun is rising ! 😠
🧐🧐🧐

Adrenal fatigue maybe?
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Omg I have like over 80% of the symptoms. Ugh and of course doctors would say it’s not real. No doctor has taken my symptoms seriously to date. Do you know anything more about it? Do you have it?
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Posted by Armor

This is beautiful. Mine is indifference.


Oooouuu, yes. Along the lines of release and personal freedom too i would say.

Why do you feel indifference is the answer?

More importantly (as a scorp) do you think that's possible? lol


Yes, I honestly enjoy my freedom too.

I feel indifferent to everything that's out of my control, I never find myself obsessing over the little things and I don't mind closing my eyes to get my peace of mind and ignore everything sometimes. 🤷🏻‍♀️

I also make myself feel indifferent. IDK, I'm sure it's not healthy but when I want to get rid of a certain feeling (anger, sadness, love, etc.) I either focus so much on feeling it until it goes away (almost like listening to a song so many times you get sick of it eventually and don't want to hear anything even similar to it) or I analyze that feeling and everything that has led me to feel it, basically rationalizing that feeling until it's nothing but an understanding of myself and somehow it turns into a lesson for me, or my last and final favorite method, to question everything, "did I love that person or did I love the idea of that person? Was that even love or did I see a part of myself in someone and I wanted to prove to myself that somehow that part was worthy of love because I could love it in them?".

Wow I'm sure I sound weird explaining this, but in short, I'd say I transfer my emotions to my brain so I can rip them apart and analyze them till I no longer feel them. 😂
Hmm that's definitely interesting. Does just sound like a character trait haha

but it's cool all in all. If that's how you sail no reason to rock the boat, especially if its for the sake of pleasing others. Sometimes we dgaf and thats A okay 😂

But for sure I understand convincing yourself out of love 😂 I feel like that's the holy grail for releasing yourself from emotional binds. Due could've been the nicest guy ever but dont ask me anything. Post break-up? they're all trash 😂😂😂😂



You don't even knowwwww. 😋😂

I can talk myself out of loving people pretty easily, the longest I've ever taken was a day actually. 🤐😂

I mean if it isn't good for me anymore I won't stay and waste my time. 🤷🏻‍♀️ Ending relationships is also waaaaay easier if I apologize and admit to my mistakes and leave them as peaceful and civilized as possible. 😂
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Omg.. this sounds like me lmaooo

Only lowkey it takes me a hot minute to let 'em go 😂

Gotta step my game up 😂
Giving up on people and learning to let go. Maybe its my leo side but i have a hard time giving up on people, if i really loved them then basically i will love them forever.

Also learning to be alone. its hard to be alone and it feels depressing..that it leads to alot of staying attached to the wrong people

Clinginess is self explanatory

Being shy, i want to find the words to say to give a response right away but couldnt find the right words in time. Need to think long and hard about it first



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Posted by LalasReturn

My addiction to sex and désire.

Fucking with guys heads almost got me killed.

I'm also vengeful AF.
😳

Scorp or Cancer moon Lala?

Did that weird abusive Scorp bloke leave you alone yet?


I'm a Scorpio Moon.

Nope. He hasn't.

It seems the less I entertain him, the more obsessive he gets.
Revenge and Scorpio moon 😈

He's still at it? wow....scary 😳

Does he know you have a new bloke in your life Lala?
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He does but pretends like it's just a temporary thing. Almost like he's sure I'll go back to him at some point.
<"`dbk`e.
Obsession in love... when I lock in thats it.

Control issues, always trying to control outcomes.

Possessiveness... i dare any woman to try and talk to my man in my presence, whats so weird is that I'm not insecure at all, I just don't like people coming near my stuff ( I hide it well but I will be seething inside)

But the biggest contradiction of it all, is that I don't like to be controlled in love at all. I like my freedom, don't tell me what to do, otherwise I will defy you.

Because of my Venus in Sag & Mars in Libra. So it's the biggest head fuck.

Being so dark, but also so light at times. It's literally as if I am two different people.
Posted by CitrineThunder

Obsession in love... when I lock in thats it.

Control issues, always trying to control outcomes.

Possessiveness... i dare any woman to try and talk to my man in my presence, whats so weird is that I'm not insecure at all, I just don't like people coming near my stuff ( I hide it well but I will be seething inside)

But the biggest contradiction of it all, is that I don't like to be controlled in love at all. I like my freedom, don't tell me what to do, otherwise I will defy you.

Because of my Venus in Sag & Mars in Libra. So it's the biggest head fuck.

Being so dark, but also so light at times. It's literally as if I am two different people.
....I think we all are...
Anger when it rises. I am calm but make me angry and I come for your head. There is no reasoning with me because I feel I gave enough warning and opportunity for the other party to stop the nonsense. When my destructive side comes out I want everything and everyone dead and gone. I was terrible with it growing up but now it's more relaxed. But it is still there
Trusting.
Keep my mouth shut. I tend to F*** up everything
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Posted by CitrineThunder

Obsession in love... when I lock in thats it.

Control issues, always trying to control outcomes.

Possessiveness... i dare any woman to try and talk to my man in my presence, whats so weird is that I'm not insecure at all, I just don't like people coming near my stuff ( I hide it well but I will be seething inside)

But the biggest contradiction of it all, is that I don't like to be controlled in love at all. I like my freedom, don't tell me what to do, otherwise I will defy you.

Because of my Venus in Sag & Mars in Libra. So it's the biggest head fuck.

Being so dark, but also so light at times. It's literally as if I am two different people.


Sounds similar to me. I would go ballistic if say someone went through my work bag which contains nothing personal or incriminating. I'm not possessive in the classic sense more protective.



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This. I hate people "in my things" I can't explain it and I don't know why. It baffles me when people use their phone in public spaces on full brightness. Literally I could be reading the daily news and you would think I'm conspiring against humanity by how dark my screen is. Tilt game strong.

It gives me anxiety when people go through my things.

Don't swipe left on photo stream (there's nothing there but am I sure????)

Secretive when there's nothing to be secretive about! A real puzzle lol
I begin to lose patience with people that don't learn their lessons and keep going over the same ground over and over and over and over...l