What's the deal with don't play games with me!

Okay, maybe I am an idiot, but I have to ask what it means when somebody close to you says that. Especially someone who you would think actually knows you well enough to know better than to ask something like this? Sounds to me like they are playing the game!

It has most prominently been said by my father, who is a Sag, and he uses that card when he has me in a vice and I am trying to wrangle out of it when I feel I am being accused for no good reason but their own assumptions based on whatever is convenient for them at the moment.

I cannot remember anything specific when this has been used on me, but it drives me nuts! It feels passive aggressive to me, and I absolutely despise passive aggressiveness. I literally want to obliterate passive aggressive behaviour in people, it is my biggest pet peeve, ever.

I feel like somebody thinks I have something under my sleeve or even the energy to store deceptive thoughts and behaviour enough to keep it up. Actually, I do not get it at all. I have ADD, maybe that has something to do with it. I feel so stupid most of the time when it comes to defending my side of things and communicating can be difficult for me at times. I avoid certain tasks just so I don't mess up because of it.

Only once has my scorpio boyfriend said this during a tiff, and I told him "you sound like my dad".

What is this? Has anyone else who is actually being honest and frustrated during a personal argument that someone used this weird card against you, and have you been taken aback?

How does one respond to this? It makes me nuts. I hate it.

Heh, maybe I should post this question when I am not feeling as annoyed by it, yet it hasn't happened to me recently. For some reason it just thrusted itself into my mind just now and I decided to post about it.

Yeah the fact that they don't trust me when they use that line irks me to no end.

I never ever had anyone use that one on me who was new to me. Only someone who I thought knew me better. And it hurts. I have no idea how to respond.

This about sums it up:

"The disorganized filing system of a person with AD/HD impacts communication in a big way, causing him to seem hesitant or unsure while he searches through his mental file cabinet for the right word or phrase. During this time, the "lottery ball effect" takes over. Instead of numbered balls flying around until they drop down the tube, a word, idea or fragment of an incomplete thought may randomly and impulsively come out of the individual's mouth. If it is inappropriate, he may then respond by saying, "Oh, I didn't mean that!" Oftentimes, however, The recipient of the remark has difficulty believing he didn't mean it, especially if inappropriate remarks are made frequently."

For me it comes across as..

"I feel/think you're fucking with me so rather than ask any questions for clarity I will resort to this warning/threat to spook you/give you a chance to stop having this behavior despite never expressing what behavior exactly irks me. Fear me, roar!"

But really it depends on the tone..I've heard it dead serious where it's more than clear that it's a warning or I heard it playfully and took no issue with it.

When it's dead serious, I try to get to the bottom of it. But if there's only an unfound accusation, I will laugh at it because it doesn't affect me at all.

Used to hear it from my mother a lot, she always thought I was up to no good so I'd reply with "What games? Bridge, poker, what exactly?". It would drive her up the wall.

Posted by GuardianAnu
This about sums it up:

"The disorganized filing system of a person with AD/HD impacts communication in a big way, causing him to seem hesitant or unsure while he searches through his mental file cabinet for the right word or phrase. During this time, the "lottery ball effect" takes over. Instead of numbered balls flying around until they drop down the tube, a word, idea or fragment of an incomplete thought may randomly and impulsively come out of the individual's mouth. If it is inappropriate, he may then respond by saying, "Oh, I didn't mean that!" Oftentimes, however, The recipient of the remark has difficulty believing he didn't mean it, especially if inappropriate remarks are made frequently."

I thought that was inharmonious aspects between Asc and Merc. 😛



Does this person know you have add/adhd?

Also... if your intuition is on red alert, and you think they may be trying to manipulate you--

you may want to give that some more thought before totally blaming yourself. :/

How long have you known this person?

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Posted by GuardianAnu
This about sums it up:

"The disorganized filing system of a person with AD/HD impacts communication in a big way, causing him to seem hesitant or unsure while he searches through his mental file cabinet for the right word or phrase. During this time, the "lottery ball effect" takes over. Instead of numbered balls flying around until they drop down the tube, a word, idea or fragment of an incomplete thought may randomly and impulsively come out of the individual's mouth. If it is inappropriate, he may then respond by saying, "Oh, I didn't mean that!" Oftentimes, however, The recipient of the remark has difficulty believing he didn't mean it, especially if inappropriate remarks are made frequently."

I thought that was inharmonious aspects between Asc and Merc. 😛



Does this person know you have add/adhd?

Also... if your intuition is on red alert, and you think they may be trying to manipulate you--

you may want to give that some more thought before totally blaming yourself. :/

How long have you known this person?

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I am pretty sure they don't have add/adhd. I, however, do. LOL. That quote I posted pretty much sums up my communication problems with people in general. It's always been a thorn in my proverbial arse.


I have known this person all my life, as they are my father. He doesn't do it all the time but he has thrown those words out throughout my life periodically and it always takes me aback. It's mostly hurtful because I feel like he doesn't know me when he is the one who should know me best.

Mind you, he absolutely hates being wrong, and worse, told that he is wrong. My brother and I have learned the best way to deal with him, especially now what he is in his late 70's, to let him say what he feels like, don't interrupt, just let it go and it will blow over.

Or, as Robert Downy Jr. once reportedly exclaimed, —Listen, smile, agree, and then do whatever the fuck you were gonna do anyway.??