Why are people always trying to resist?

This topic was created in the Scorpio forum by Twnelson on Tuesday, November 1, 2011 and has 40 replies.
Every time I hear a person talk about a Scorpio they always bring up how addicting they are, and ho they cant control themselves around them. They resist, but ultimately end up giving in.
If you know you're going to give in, why not just sit back and enjoy the ride?
I found that once I learned to relax, my problems with my scorpio diminished.


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maybe they have reason for resisting.
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Posted by ellessque
Posted by Twnelson
Every time I hear a person talk about a Scorpio they always bring up how addicting they are, and ho they cant control themselves around them. They resist, but ultimately end up giving in.
If you know you're going to give in, why not just sit back and enjoy the ride?
I found that once I learned to relax, my problems with my scorpio diminished.





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+1 hiplove79
Plus I'd like to add, sometimes a Scorpio would reel you in, throw you back, and then reel you in again, with the famous push/pull that can really take a toll on a person's psyche. After being rejected and then embraced, and then rejected yet again, you learn and resist.
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DazedScorp, your kind attracts that too smile)
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Maybe people are trying to play the game as well as the scorpio...but they fail
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Posted by iheartnerdyboyz
+1 hiplove79
Plus I'd like to add, sometimes a Scorpio would reel you in, throw you back, and then reel you in again, with the famous push/pull that can really take a toll on a person's psyche. After being rejected and then embraced, and then rejected yet again, you learn and resist.


i concur
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Posted by FireDragonScorpio
i hate the push/pull thing though cos it makes me feel like a bad person. it's impossible to resist the urge to do it. it's horrible when you see what it can do to a person Sad
there have been so many times when there has been a silence that was sposed to be filled with my voice saying something significant and the moment passes awkwardly. it's like there's an inner gagging order going on. it's not intentional to create the impression you're not sure about someone, you just haven't got it figured out yet.


this really speaks to me
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Posted by hiplove79
Posted by FireDragonScorpio
i hate the push/pull thing though cos it makes me feel like a bad person. it's impossible to resist the urge to do it. it's horrible when you see what it can do to a person Sad
there have been so many times when there has been a silence that was sposed to be filled with my voice saying something significant and the moment passes awkwardly. it's like there's an inner gagging order going on. it's not intentional to create the impression you're not sure about someone, you just haven't got it figured out yet.


I find this quite interesting! I see this in my Scorp and other Scorps I've known. I can feel that inner struggle when this happens to you guys. So what's going on in your head when this is occurring? I suffer from the silence too, maybe because of my Scorp moon. For me, it's being overwhelmed with emotions, not quite sure how I feel, thereby making it impossible to say anything. Makes me feel like an idiot, and yes gives the impression that I don't care. Same for you?
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im not a scorp sun, but as the moon...that totally makes sense.
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This is how I feel about gems *sighs*
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Muhahahahahahahaha.
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Posted by FireDragonScorpio
i hate the push/pull thing though cos it makes me feel like a bad person. it's impossible to resist the urge to do it. it's horrible when you see what it can do to a person.


Im surprised to hear how bad the push/pull makes you feel. Thanks for sharing that. Since Im currently a *victim* of that behavior, can you tell me why its "impossible to resist the urge to do it"?
Why do you do it...?
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your reasons sound like border line sag commitment issues.
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WOW Fire....what an insightful explanation. Man....I could just see the cogs of your mind spinning as you go through that thought process. Yes, it does sound like real commitment fear, as well as fear of taking responsibility. Quite a lot of projection into the future. As someone who has diffifulty in living in the moment, I can relate totally.
And how interesting you say about how after thinking of the prospect of your mate meeting someone else and you reappear. That has occured with me with my man. He returned just when I was feeling detached. That intuition is amazing. Your description is quite like all I have read on scorpios: so emotional and when applying logic to the emotion ya'll get quite loopy. Winking Now, Im confused as to whether or not I should make another attempt to reach out to this man. We both have done the dispearring act.
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Posted by iheartnerdyboyz
+1 hiplove79
Plus I'd like to add, sometimes a Scorpio would reel you in, throw you back, and then reel you in again, with the famous push/pull that can really take a toll on a person's psyche. After being rejected and then embraced, and then rejected yet again, you learn and resist.


Yup! My old Scorpio crush silenced me with this behavior. All started with him confiding in me about something very personal, basically opening up and being extremely vulnerable then making a complete 360 and bragging about certain things, and even acting a bit different, as if he was trying to erase that vulnerable image of himself he showed. I think he started to have regrets about opening up to me. Then his gentleman behavior that he displayed in the beginning started to reveal itself as a test once he stopped then would decide to start again etc. I would just sit back and think *wth is going on here?* In my mind I went from a trustworthy person that he felt comfortable and could see a possible future with to someone he no longer trusted or respected as much. Total confusion, but I liked him a lot because I was feeling things through-out it all. I kind of liked the confusion too but not enough to give into it cause I didn't understand it, plus I wasn't clear what I wanted from him so I figured he could be picking up on my mixed signals as well.
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Posted by Twnelson
Every time I hear a person talk about a Scorpio they always bring up how addicting they are, and ho they cant control themselves around them. They resist, but ultimately end up giving in.
If you know you're going to give in, why not just sit back and enjoy the ride?
I found that once I learned to relax, my problems with my scorpio diminished.





too many curtain calls, when apologizes just seem like lip service, like hiplove stated..the other person has been just so mindfucked that they cant take it anymore. trying to regain some dignity.
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Posted by caesarkreshen
Actually, my mom's a scorpio... and I've been able to resist fucking her all of these years through liberal use of masturbation.
But my uncle, well... let's just say he wouldn't take no for an answer.


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Posted by venusianbull
Posted by caesarkreshen
Actually, my mom's a scorpio... and I've been able to resist fucking her all of these years through liberal use of masturbation.
But my uncle, well... let's just say he wouldn't take no for an answer.


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LMAO!!! wooooow!!!
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Posted by lnana04
Posted by iheartnerdyboyz
+1 hiplove79
Plus I'd like to add, sometimes a Scorpio would reel you in, throw you back, and then reel you in again, with the famous push/pull that can really take a toll on a person's psyche. After being rejected and then embraced, and then rejected yet again, you learn and resist.


Yup! My old Scorpio crush silenced me with this behavior. All started with him confiding in me about something very personal, basically opening up and being extremely vulnerable then making a complete 360 and bragging about certain things, and even acting a bit different, as if he was trying to erase that vulnerable image of himself he showed. I think he started to have regrets about opening up to me. Then his gentleman behavior that he displayed in the beginning started to reveal itself as a test once he stopped then would decide to start again etc. I would just sit back and think *wth is going on here?* In my mind I went from a trustworthy person that he felt comfortable and could see a possible future with to someone he no longer trusted or respected as much. Total confusion, but I liked him a lot because I was feeling things through-out it all. I kind of liked the confusion too but not enough to give into it cause I didn't understand it, plus I wasn't clear what I wanted from him so I figured he could be picking up on my mixed signals as well.
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Going through this same exact thing with a Scorpio right now. Its terribly irritating. Im trying to stick around and be patient but I just want to throw in the towel and just say treetrunk it and walk the treetrunk away. He says hes in love with me. Has vanished twice on me now, then comes back. One day hes like "I am so in love", next day wants nothing to do with me.
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@FDS
Just read your post on page 2....
You know Im not going to lie reading this made me pretty upset. But at least I know now with some inside information. A guy that has come back to me a few times from his Houdini act, is more than likely thinking the same things. I mean but why? Why would you tell us you care and you're in love only to do the push/pull thing? I mean he is dead serious too about how he feels yet, again one day he's into me and the next wants nothing to do with me. Do I really have to pine after you Scorpios and chase you down? Because I don't chase anyone. It's an insult almost to chase someone. Especially a man. Men are supposed to do the chasing. Ugh now im irritated. Actually angry. Why even tell me you're soooo treetrunking in love if you are doing this?
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#FDS
You know this is exactly what he does! I do act very indifferent to him though. I will NOT say the L word back either because I told him he needs to earn that and WITHOUT doing his Houdini impression. I know he wants me to say it but I won't. I don't chase him ever either. I also don't act like im that into him. So I guess it's back to ignoring him. He loathes it. It's funny though the second I want attention hes like POOF. But oh no when he comes around hes like WTH! Where is MY attention??!?!?!? And gets really fucking mad about it too. I guess ill just throw him back into purgatory. Muahaaa!
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Posted by hiplove79
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Yup. I see a common theme. Fear. I have that problem big time. I get over it eventually, but in the beginning I'm the biggest wimp. Freezing, running, using humor as a diversion tactic...it's pathetic. Basically, for me, it boils down to the fear of being vulnerable. *gulp* I can look so confident on the outside, but on the inside, I'm a little girl in a corner sucking her thumb, while holding a pink blankie. I can really give the impression that I don't care because how I appear and how I feel are complete opposite from one another. Lost out on some relationships due to my fear and pride. I don't regret it anymore, but I do see them as learning experiences. But being vulnerable is something I still struggle with. That shit is painful, you know? It's like, "Become vulnerable? No thanks, I would prefer to be dumped in a vault of acid." Lol....ugh.


Lord o Lordy, am I your long lost twin. you have just described me to a T, girl. Freeze, run, laugh...rinse and repeat. My blankie is also pink, what a co-inky-dink. I have learned, though, that being vulnerable is a HUGE strength, not a weakness. I have reaped many rewards when finally becoming vulnerable. Just grit your teeh and say whatever it is in your heart you want to be known. Its worth it.
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Posted by FireDragonScorpio
BGP..it's really not a deliberate thing. it's confusion. it's wanting someone a whole lot and hating yourself for wanting them a whole lot. it's for wanting to be in a relationship and yet hating the thought of having to make a final decision about one person. it's for having to explain yourself in a relationship when there should be no need for explanation. why can't people just hang out together and just have fun...why do we have to define it cos then it means that it's official and we will become 'as one' in the eyes of the world and what happens if actually saying out loud it's a relationship changes everything between us in an instant. when will you expect me to make compromises for the sake of 'us'. when will i have to be accountable for everything i do cos now i'm part of an 'us'. what will happen when you realise that i'm not as great as you think i am cos i can't keep the act going forever!! will your family want to become involved if we're in a relationship and if so, to what extent. will i have to worry about what i say in front of your parents as well as my own. will we fight over who's family to visit at christmas. will you actually have a terrible habit i can't live with. i could absolutely HATE your family and if we're talking about a relationship, it's not just the other person but all their rellies as well that you'll be having it with.
fuck! i'm actually amazed i ever got married after writing that!!
so then comes the pulling away part until the prospect of the other person using the temporary freedom to meet someone else becomes too much to bear and so we pop back in...sometimes just to prod someone to see if they respond...sometimes, we'll stick around for longer than before but sometimes, it'll just be a moment of contact followed by more silence.
if i've pulled away from someone, i think about them constantly but i also tend to start thinking that they should be the ones to contact me and then i get stubborn about contacting them.
btw, in case you're wondering, i am an adult, lol.
at the end of the day, the bottom line is that scorps do finally make their minds up and this push/pull nonsense is only something you'll see at the beginning of the relationship. when the trust is completely in place and 100% certain, we're very different.
cos uh-oh...then the opposite is true. we won't let you out of our sigh
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That was very well written FireDragonScorpio. If that doesn't answer the 100,000 questions posted daily on the internets about Scorpios, I don't know what else will.
Hey Hiplove79
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Posted by FireDragonScorpio
no, that's mean behaviour xin and you shouldn't put up with it. it's another matter altogether if you've actually already let slip the 'L' word. the reason he is doing what he's doing is much more linked to fear of having exposed himself to you (in a non sexual way of course). perhaps he didn't have the internal dialogue going on before he said it to you and so he's having it now, hence the disappearing act.
but whatever, it's not acceptable and you need to show that and the best way with a scorp is to completely ignore him (or her, delete as appropriate).
when people are obviously into me, it kinda weakens my respect for them a little, especially if it's not been that long into the relationship. so do your pining in secret and do not chase. i'm in a similar situation and i have been an emotional wreck in the comfort of my bathroom but i will die before he knows it, lol.
but anyways, if someone's ignoring me, it INCREASES my respect for them and furthermore, makes me like them more too or at least makes me think twice about what i really feel for them.
having said that, i do then go on to get a bit childish and sometimes it can end up in a ridiculous 'ignore-off'. so ok, you ignored me for 3 days.....here's 6 days of silence back atchya!! pathetic. i reiterate - i am an adult, go figure!



That's so interesting, I've noticed it in my interactions with Scorps who become suspicious and kind of despise you for liking them smile
Me being a Leo I'm used to enthusiastically point when I see such qualities, but sadly the more I show appreciation the weirder it gets with these cute water animals. Why do you think you value ppl less for liking you?
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Reconstucting_a_Leo:
It could be the "I wouldnt want to be a member of any club that would accept ME" phenomenom. Low self-esteem. And I have gone through that...when someone really shows they like me, and when I disliked myself, I will wonder what is wrong with THEM that they like me. Its all psychological. I have had men chase me and totally show their affection and interest and I am turned off. When they withdraw, Im like "Hey ba-bay..where is ya?". I take it for granted when they come to me so easily. How snotty.
My scorp man did come on quite strong and intense as typical, but when we found ourselves in the "mistrust" dance, he would alternate...hot n heavy, pull back. Typical as we have discussed here.
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Well isnt that what scorp men are known for...they intoxicate women with their intense passion....get em all kooky and addicted...then when they withdraw..got cold...they women go bat shit crazy and so desperately want them. Thats what happened a year ago with this man and I. I went into withdrawal big time...but once I was starting to stablize, he came back...but..I was able to stay grounded and start seeing him as a man, not a God. And though I love him and now on the freeze list, I am not devestated by any means. Im angry, which is good in this case.
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You are both right, I was thinking of the low self esteem thing, might be because of the internal battle with dragons they have to do, I guess they feel they let themselves down, however, in Those kind of (internal) circumstances, all would cave in.. Just some admit it to themselves, some don't..
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Posted by cheekyfaerie
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Posted by caesarkreshen
Actually, my mom's a scorpio... and I've been able to resist fucking her all of these years through liberal use of masturbation.
But my uncle, well... let's just say he wouldn't take no for an answer.


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LMAO!!! wooooow!!!


I like how the Earth folks come in and have a good laugh about it while everyone else is freaked the fuck out. Big Grin
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Posted by DMV
maybe they have reason for resisting.


If you have a reason why not give up completely, instead of trying to resist, and letting yourself get reeled back in?
I had to set my first scorpio free after I realized there was no hope. I think people just assume that their partner [the scorpio] is truly unique, and special. But in reality its not hard to find one, or reel one in. Its also not hard to jump into their worlds without looking back.
Ive learned to not become attached to any outcome. Thats how you prevent yourself from getting caught up.
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Posted by FireDragonScorpio
no, that's mean behaviour xin and you shouldn't put up with it. it's another matter altogether if you've actually already let slip the 'L' word. the reason he is doing what he's doing is much more linked to fear of having exposed himself to you (in a non sexual way of course). perhaps he didn't have the internal dialogue going on before he said it to you and so he's having it now, hence the disappearing act.
but whatever, it's not acceptable and you need to show that and the best way with a scorp is to completely ignore him (or her, delete as appropriate).
when people are obviously into me, it kinda weakens my respect for them a little, especially if it's not been that long into the relationship. so do your pining in secret and do not chase. i'm in a similar situation and i have been an emotional wreck in the comfort of my bathroom but i will die before he knows it, lol.
but anyways, if someone's ignoring me, it INCREASES my respect for them and furthermore, makes me like them more too or at least makes me think twice about what i really feel for them.
having said that, i do then go on to get a bit childish and sometimes it can end up in a ridiculous 'ignore-off'. so ok, you ignored me for 3 days.....here's 6 days of silence back atchya!! pathetic. i reiterate - i am an adult, go figure!



I might point out that a Scorp woman's point of view may differ from that of the Scorp man's point of view.
If anything can be said about astrology is that many people can make mistakes by reading into things they are
illequipped to judge. This leads to stereotyping this or that sign with disregard as to the individual's non-astrological traits, such as life experiences, religions, philophies, education, etc., which that adheres to that which causes a person to be one way or another. ALSO... your OWN life experiences, religion etc will have an impact how you perceive others.
Just something to keep in mind. Stereotyping this or that sign is akin to a three position combination lock - imagine something more like 1000 position combo lock that may take a lifetime to figure out and only if you have the patience, stamina and wherewithal to pursue. Sometimes mysteries are better left alone.
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@FireDragonScorpio
I've read this thing about how telling someone you love them is forcing them to act in a certain way therefore takes away a bit of freedom. I think it's true.. still having that Libra moon tightly conjunct Pluto I've experienced life in a scorpionic way, cringing when someone likes me a lot all of a sudden, withdrawing, and still can't pinpoint exactly why
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Maybe its a selfish thing, since being the o e who loves is more exciting than being the one who let's himself loved ..
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Posted by cheekyfaerie
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Posted by venusianbull
Posted by caesarkreshen
Actually, my mom's a scorpio... and I've been able to resist fucking her all of these years through liberal use of masturbation.
But my uncle, well... let's just say he wouldn't take no for an answer.


LMFAO



LMAO!!! wooooow!!!


I like how the Earth folks come in and have a good laugh about it while everyone else is freaked the fuck out. Big Grin
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LOL gotta love us earth folks!!
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Posted by LadyScorpP
I got the 69th post , what a nice position to be in Winking


Lmao.
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LOL That was some funny shit, don't care who you are.
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Posted by LadyScorpP
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I got the 69th post , what a nice position to be in Winking


Lmao.


I knew fellow Scorpios in this thread would get it smile Are you a Scorpio ArticleL?

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^^^^ if she told you she doesn't feel the same, best to move on. Don't waste your time.
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Posted by DMV
maybe they have reason for resisting.



plus one for real people.

i cant really stand Scorpios lol.

VIRGOS RULESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS LMAO
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maybe they have reason for resisting.



plus one for real people.

i cant really stand Scorpios lol.

VIRGOS RULESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS LMAO


What do Virgos rule? smile
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we run the world without us who will be the one making sure a house a super clean lmao.
plus virgos super logic thanks 2 planet mercury lol.
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