Why do Scorpio males seem to fall TOO fast
This topic was created in the Scorpio forum by soulfulleyes on Wednesday, November 18, 2009 and has 15 replies.
I met this Scorp (im a Cancer) several weeks ago, he lives in my town, which is nice, as I usually date guys who live in other cities. He is sexy, witty, youthful, damn handsome, funny, generous, happy, and has a great career. BUT, he was smitten the 1st date. He calls/txts/emails constantly, always pays when we go out and wont accept my offer to pay, we fight over the check when it arrives and he ends up winning. Sometimes he brings gifts, which I appreciate, but I have told him to please stop doing that, (in a nice way). He also wants to come over on nights when I have my Child (I share custody with her father)even tho Im not ready to introduce her to ANYONE, unless I know its the real thing. I dont want to tell him I dont want him to meet my child YET, (or EVER will let him). He introduced me to his young son one evening, it kinda felt weird as we have only been dating a few weeks. I tell him Im doing 'Mother and Daughter' things together, but it dosent register, he will txt, "can I come over with take out, Ice cream" etc... Arrrgh..
OKAY.. so you're saying "so what, he likes you, wants to share time and things with you, a lot of women would love that treatment, WHAT'S the problem". Problem is its TOO MUCH TOO SOON, and it turns me off. Im not taking his calls half the time, make excuses not to get togther, create faux lunch meetings, so he wont take me to lunch again for the 100th time. He tells me all the time, "You're special and wonderful" BUT I cant recipocate. I feel I want to break it off already, but know it will hurt him and I hate to hurt people, especially nice people. I think I speak for most females. I want to be a challenge to a man, not know EVERYTHING about him or he me, in 2 dates!!! Its a thrill to not hear off him sometimes... then Im curious where he is. How do I get him to back off without hurting his feelings? I cant keep ignoring his calls without seeming rude. Im not a rude person. Thing is, he is a great guy, I realy enjoy our time. I would hate to end it just becuz I dont feel the same for him YET, but I want to RUN AWAY.
H E L P Scorpio M A L E S.... whats going on here....? I know its a Scorpio trait, they act on their emotions and feelings without thinking, being water signs. I dated two other Scorps before and similar patterns ensued. This very NICE man, is becoming a leach. Im a Cancer (also water sign) but I DO NOT act this touchy feely too soon, in fact I hide my feelings early on to avoid being hurt.
OKAY.. so you're saying "so what, he likes you, wants to share time and things with you, a lot of women would love that treatment, WHAT'S the problem". Problem is its TOO MUCH TOO SOON, and it turns me off. Im not taking his calls half the time, make excuses not to get togther, create faux lunch meetings, so he wont take me to lunch again for the 100th time. He tells me all the time, "You're special and wonderful" BUT I cant recipocate. I feel I want to break it off already, but know it will hurt him and I hate to hurt people, especially nice people. I think I speak for most females. I want to be a challenge to a man, not know EVERYTHING about him or he me, in 2 dates!!! Its a thrill to not hear off him sometimes... then Im curious where he is. How do I get him to back off without hurting his feelings? I cant keep ignoring his calls without seeming rude. Im not a rude person. Thing is, he is a great guy, I realy enjoy our time. I would hate to end it just becuz I dont feel the same for him YET, but I want to RUN AWAY.
H E L P Scorpio M A L E S.... whats going on here....? I know its a Scorpio trait, they act on their emotions and feelings without thinking, being water signs. I dated two other Scorps before and similar patterns ensued. This very NICE man, is becoming a leach. Im a Cancer (also water sign) but I DO NOT act this touchy feely too soon, in fact I hide my feelings early on to avoid being hurt.
I feel so bad for them
aries sun is spot on..... start the cling,.. you may be back here someday soon with the opposite dilemma! 
I agree! And I do guarantee you will be back...good thought Morrisey!
Also as an Aries, I would be straight up with him that he's moving way too fast. You like him, but he needs to slow down his roll.
Also as an Aries, I would be straight up with him that he's moving way too fast. You like him, but he needs to slow down his roll.
^^ Funny, I have a leo moon too and I'd say I'm very controlling with my feelings and prideful with them. I only show them if I feel the person is good enough to see them...which is sadly almost never ha
That is how you want to Scorp, unfortunately that's when a Scorp is good to have, when he cares and wants you. He can sure be a little distance but then he would be the Scorpio that probably 90% of this board is complaining about. The one that disappears, never calls and too busy to see you.
If he were doing the exact opposite, you'd probably be head over heels.
You may not be rude, but you're not very real, either. Tell him the truth...unavailable men are more attractive to you, so you want to cut things off as to not lead him on anymore. Ignore him COMPLETELY, and your problem should be solved.
You may not be rude, but you're not very real, either. Tell him the truth...unavailable men are more attractive to you, so you want to cut things off as to not lead him on anymore. Ignore him COMPLETELY, and your problem should be solved.
Soulfuleyes,
No, not all scorpio men fall hard and fast. It depends on where they are in life.
I have to agree with Ray and Ms. Pisces. The type of man you describe (whether scorpio or not) is the type of man most women that are looking for a serious relationship want. A man who doesn't play a bunch of games. And, it sounds to me that you like him enough to not let him go.
Tell him you are not ready for a man like him who knows what he wants and is not afraid to show it. In reality, you are not. You could disguise that fact by saying he is moving to fast, but if you see something you want, you probably wouldn't dilly-dally about going after it if you believe you can have it, would you?
Telling him what's on your mind is the mature thing to do and he will respect you. He sounds like he deserves that much respect from you. It may not stop him from coming after you. He may desire you even more because you were woman enough to tell him the truth, regardless of the outcome. If he continues to pursue you, at least he can modify his approach. Scorpios admire someone who will stand up for themselves and let the chips fall where they will.
I really hope you give him the opportunity and the intelligence on how to pursue you.
He sounds wonderful...
You won't regret it.
No, not all scorpio men fall hard and fast. It depends on where they are in life.
I have to agree with Ray and Ms. Pisces. The type of man you describe (whether scorpio or not) is the type of man most women that are looking for a serious relationship want. A man who doesn't play a bunch of games. And, it sounds to me that you like him enough to not let him go.
Tell him you are not ready for a man like him who knows what he wants and is not afraid to show it. In reality, you are not. You could disguise that fact by saying he is moving to fast, but if you see something you want, you probably wouldn't dilly-dally about going after it if you believe you can have it, would you?
Telling him what's on your mind is the mature thing to do and he will respect you. He sounds like he deserves that much respect from you. It may not stop him from coming after you. He may desire you even more because you were woman enough to tell him the truth, regardless of the outcome. If he continues to pursue you, at least he can modify his approach. Scorpios admire someone who will stand up for themselves and let the chips fall where they will.
I really hope you give him the opportunity and the intelligence on how to pursue you.
He sounds wonderful...
You won't regret it.
Hi ya all. I thankyou for all if responses. I know I have to be honest with him. He is too nice a guy for me not to be. Funny thing is my last guy was a Capricorn and he was the same way at first but I relished it with him. Maybe it's becuz I know what the scorpio male is like having dated two others. I also read how cappies hold back their feeling and emotions. So I was surpised when he didn't. He was very affectionate and loving, but having said that he never expressed feelings. Neither did I (being the Cancer that I am) so we drifted cuz no one would open up. I won't do that again. I list a man I cared for yet couldn't tell him. So I thought with thus new guy Scorpio I would be more open, that us until he turned me totally off with his fast approach. I guess thee one is still out there waiting. People come into our lives for a reason or a season. I truly believe they do yo teach us a lesson to take to the next person. With each day that goes by I talk less n less to Scorpio so I know it's a matter of time ......
Thx all for listening.
Thx all for listening.
I agree with Ms.P and Tooserious ...
There is really nothing wrong with this man. As a man, knowing a good deal about how men see things. If I had a sister or daughter I'd tell her to look only for that type of men. That's an available man, giving his best. Giving you what he thinks you deserve.
There is really nothing wrong with this man. As a man, knowing a good deal about how men see things. If I had a sister or daughter I'd tell her to look only for that type of men. That's an available man, giving his best. Giving you what he thinks you deserve.
....could you not have asked him to slow down a bit, it seems a shame...
Anyhow...you can send him my way, he sounds gorgeous lol
Anyhow...you can send him my way, he sounds gorgeous lol
You don't know what you got til it's gone. I really don't see why you want to get rid of him.. after him you may not find another like him.
"Its a thrill to not hear off him sometimes... then Im curious where he is. "
lol
lol
"How do I get him to back off without hurting his feelings?"
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First, you cannot be held responsible for the way anyone else feels.
Second, do you want him to only "back off" and take things slower
-or-
Do you, irregardless of speed, not want any romantic relationship with him at all?
Be up front, direct and honest with him. Don't hope he picks up hints.
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First, you cannot be held responsible for the way anyone else feels.
Second, do you want him to only "back off" and take things slower
-or-
Do you, irregardless of speed, not want any romantic relationship with him at all?
Be up front, direct and honest with him. Don't hope he picks up hints.
Wow! I am head over heels for a Scorpio guy who is gorgeous and intelligent but is going thru a very hard time being unemployed and what not...and I can't get him to say anything!!! It kills me when women meet a man who isn't afraid to show his feelings and they don't want HIM! LOL
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