Why dont Scorpios explain their disappearing acts.

This topic was created in the Scorpio forum by BrownSagg on Thursday, May 23, 2013 and has 34 replies.
Im constantly confused when I confront my scorpio man abut his disappearing acts and he acts aloof and calm as if nothing happened and he hasn't been gone for two weeks. I get frustrated because when I call and text during his hiding out no response. But the minute he is ready to talk and I dont respond or answer he gets all emotional. I wish I could understnd more he constantly says im an introvert and im busy right now but I love you. My anger leaves hes around for a week or two then gone again. I have asked how we could improve communication and he says this is how i am at times nothing personal. so months of evry day communication and moths of hardly none. I cant deal
details
Posted by xdimplez
so quit it


I want to but the minute i say fuck it and stop calling and texting he pops back up. I love him and have expressed that i need more communication all he does is say im being dramatic.
details
I guess i really want to know is it possible for a scorpio man to be sincere in his feelings about loving someone and keep dissapearing. Dont they know that this can disturb their partner? Why not acknowledge that you have done anything. He would expect me to acknowledge if I blew him off. The double standard is so confusing.
details
Posted by xdimplez
Posted by BrownSagg
Posted by xdimplez
so quit it


I want to but the minute i say fuck it and stop calling and texting he pops back up. I love him and have expressed that i need more communication all he does is say im being dramatic.


give that mother fucker an ultimatum. if he wants you in his world, he will find a way to keep you in it. if not...then walk away. if he is not going to put any effort in it , then why should you?


click to expand


Agree i have blew up and ended our relationship. All he says is stop give me time im busy im an introvert at times. I love you dont break up with me. I had it up to here im just tired his behavior is selfish. I do apoliize for just pinpointing on a scorpio thing but i have been with other signs but never seen someone act the way he acts almost schizo at times, reserved, and then all over the place again.
details
I cant speak for all..but I say from experience in an 11yr relationship with a sag we were the best of friends, unfortunately it ended. As for your guy you should just worry about yourself. If you have to work too hard to be with someone or figure them out..when they could just answer any questions you may have. Then they are not worth your time anyways.
Dont waste your time and energy on any man..you will wake up one day feeling angry and regret wasting so much of your time on nothing. People that dont tell you or explain to you where they have been, is because they dont want you to know.
details
The bottom line is if a person wants you in their life they will do whatever including compromise. So i need to be thankful he is showing me this now and let it be because whos to say how much worse it could be for me later. Just hurt and venting. All wounds heal in time.
details
Posted by Scorpiorabbit
If a Scorpio man wants to be with you...he's with you. There is no disappearing.


So why when i just tell him let it be we can be friends do you. He protest and swears im in love with you i want to marry you and i want you to have my children. I asked him if you have someone dont drag me down that path he swore there was no one. Im brutally honest so if you dont want me then let it be. He called on the 8th professing his love asking me to behave myself and not date asked me to call him later i called he said he was showering hell call back never did. He says your my fiance your the woman i will marry. I keep thinking he just wants me as an option.
details
Posted by Impulsv
Do u want to be with a man who doesn't consider what ur asking. Instead says ur over emotional. This isn't a scorp thing this is a man who doesn't know a relationship takes teamwork. I knew Leo same way his way or highway. Not co spidering my input. Good luck.


No I dont. I want partnership
details
Posted by piggytoo240
I cant speak for all..but I say from experience in an 11yr relationship with a sag we were the best of friends, unfortunately it ended. As for your guy you should just worry about yourself. If you have to work too hard to be with someone or figure them out..when they could just answer any questions you may have. Then they are not worth your time anyways.
Dont waste your time and energy on any man..you will wake up one day feeling angry and regret wasting so much of your time on nothing. People that dont tell you or explain to you where they have been, is because they dont want you to know.



People that dont tell you or explain to you where they have been, is because they dont want you to know.
(Love it so true)
details
Posted by BrownSagg
Im constantly confused when I confront my scorpio man abut his disappearing acts and he acts aloof and calm as if nothing happened and he hasn't been gone for two weeks. I get frustrated because when I call and text during his hiding out no response. But the minute he is ready to talk and I dont respond or answer he gets all emotional. I wish I could understnd more he constantly says im an introvert and im busy right now but I love you. My anger leaves hes around for a week or two then gone again. I have asked how we could improve communication and he says this is how i am at times nothing personal. so months of evry day communication and moths of hardly none. I cant deal


Posted by xdimplez
so quit it
click to expand


+1.
It sounds like he communicates just fine. He told you he is an introvert and busy right now, but you think he's lying??? I'm not sure. You asked him how you can you improve communication, he said "this is how I am at times nothing personal". More lies? It sounds like you're just not listening to what the man is saying or you're unwilling to accept him for who he is. When someone says "this is who I am" that basically means, "I am not willing to change". Simple. Whether you want to accept that is on you.
Now if his response had been "I'm sorry I've been distant...." that would be something different. However, this is what you have to work with. So, work with him as he is or don't.
details
Posted by Scorpiorabbit
If a Scorpio man wants to be with you...he's with you. There is no disappearing.


Pretty much. Scorp woman too if anyone's interested .
details
Posted by PhoenixRising
Posted by Scorpiorabbit
If a Scorpio man wants to be with you...he's with you. There is no disappearing.


Pretty much. Scorp woman too if anyone's interested .
click to expand


I believe their lies because busy i understand but busy for two months and your not in school you have no children. Just you i dont understand whos that busy. It makes one question.
details
Posted by BrownSagg
Posted by PhoenixRising
Posted by Scorpiorabbit
If a Scorpio man wants to be with you...he's with you. There is no disappearing.


Pretty much. Scorp woman too if anyone's interested .


I believe their lies because busy i understand but busy for two months and your not in school you have no children. Just you i dont understand whos that busy. It makes one question.
click to expand


Not disagreeing with you there. As quoted, if a Scorp man wants to be with you....he's with you....no disappearing. Especially for 2 months.
If you have communicated your needs and the man isn't budging, that tells you something, no?
How long have you been dating?
What's all this "I'm gonna marry you" bullsh*t? Where's the ring? (actions don't match words, rhetorical question)
Thanks for clarifying the length of of his disappearing act, how many times has he done this?
It's one thing to be an introvert and a hermit. Jesus, how did you even meet? (another rhetorical question)
His responses do not sound like a person that is willing to compromise to me. Can you handle that? If not....well you know what to do....
details
Try something different...instead of going back and forth with him. take some space away from him. Let him miss you, trust if he loves you as he say he does he wont let you get aeau from him. Take him serious if he says you're being dramatic and tone it down. If he told me that honestly I would take it at face value. You cant make people give you an answer..it is clearly their choice to answer. I thought when people want their relationships to work,they give each other space to work themselves out so that they can give the person they want to be with the love and respect they deserve. When a man truly loves you and find things are getting too difficult. He breaks because he does not want to hurt the person he loves. When he figures out a plan to do better in the relationship. He will then put that plan in motion.
As a scorpio..and I dont know if others agree. I dont like aggressives people, it makes me uncomfortable and I cant trust you. If this is going to be a long term relationship based on true love. Than I feel whats the rush. The longer I know you...the deeper the trust.
I like to take my time getting to know the person im with. Me and my ex sag dated for five years.,than he asked that I move in with him.

Hope everything works itself out. I love saggies and gey along great with both male and female. Winking
details
@PhoenixRising we meet in 2011. We were fiends i had a seven month old and wa dating someone else he fell in love in two weeks asked me to leave my unhappy situation and move with him. I did care about him but thought how foolish it would be for me to uproot my life and child for a man i just meet. Long story short I end up marrying my unhappy and cheating boyfriend and our frienship ended. I found him in Dec and he expressed how much he loved me and how he felt like i was supposed to be his wife and how he hasnt moved on. I fell hard and heavy left my marriage. he was constant for weeks and then slowly begin to dissapear.
details
sorry for the typo >> you get away from him
details
@ phoenisRising i am so upfront with him. I dont BS. I uprooted my life for him and this is wtf i get im angry. He does the dissapearing in spurts. Here for a week gone for two. BTW it is long distance we live 3.5hrs from eachother. He says 2013 has just been crazy for him several deaths and family problems. Im not being mean at all I understand losing loved ones what i dont understand is how you can call someone a girlfriend or fiance and choose to X them out of personal things that happen in our life. I thought maybe im not coming of right.
details
Posted by tiziani
Oh, it's you. As was said in your previous thread about this guy... he is exacting his revenge on you for marrying another man over him. I don't know what you get out of being strung along.


Shit nothing. Im just so frustrated and i know that its repatitive but this is my only outlet right now. So I do apoligize if the shit is annoying it annoys me and all i have to process it is the space in my head.
details
omg I was just thinking about my Sagg friend... then I read this
She was pregnant with a Pisces after dating him for about 3 months. She had just ended a relationship with a Taurus. They talked marriage and she was planning the wedding and then he starts withdrawing. The relationship went down fast and furious. She meets an Aries (while she is still pregnant) and they move in together. Pisces disappears for months... comes back and it's war! Custody battle, child support, damaging property etc. They got nasty!

2 years later, she finds out there is some medical issues and Pisces wants her back to be a family with their child. She tells Aries she's thinking about it... he leaves and she moves the Pisces into the house the next week.
When she told me, she waited for me to say something after... I just got quiet so she talked more. Said Aries, who was a father to her child for the last 2 years and really loved that little kid... was not being supportive of her because when she found out about the medical issue... he took an extra shift at work instead of staying home with her. That's why she ended it.
I haven't talked to her since baby daddy moved back in and I'm a bit hesitant too. Saggs do some pretty spontaneous things.
This is unrelated to your story, I'm just typing out loud
details
Posted by shellshocker
omg I was just thinking about my Sagg friend... then I read this
She was pregnant with a Pisces after dating him for about 3 months. She had just ended a relationship with a Taurus. They talked marriage and she was planning the wedding and then he starts withdrawing. The relationship went down fast and furious. She meets an Aries (while she is still pregnant) and they move in together. Pisces disappears for months... comes back and it's war! Custody battle, child support, damaging property etc. They got nasty!

2 years later, she finds out there is some medical issues and Pisces wants her back to be a family with their child. She tells Aries she's thinking about it... he leaves and she moves the Pisces into the house the next week.
When she told me, she waited for me to say something after... I just got quiet so she talked more. Said Aries, who was a father to her child for the last 2 years and really loved that little kid... was not being supportive of her because when she found out about the medical issue... he took an extra shift at work instead of staying home with her. That's why she ended it.
I haven't talked to her since baby daddy moved back in and I'm a bit hesitant too. Saggs do some pretty spontaneous things.
This is unrelated to your story, I'm just typing out loud


We do some crazy things exp if we associate them to love. My close firends are looking at me like i lost my damn mind. SMH
details
Her story sounds really sad
details
I think this scorpio loves you and he is playing mind games, I could be wrong but there is something he wants that you're not giving in (it could be petty) so thats why he is using this disappearing act.
Act that he is no longer special and he'll go crazy. And they are cute when they beg.
details
Posted by geminicandle
He is doing what Scorpios do best; punishing you by punishing himself in the process. In the end, you will both lose. One will be better off and one will be hurt and cry. In silence. For the rest of his life.



I kept reaching out to him extending myself to come see him frequently he would always ignore me then pop back up. He said recently I know you love me. I told him im questioning myslef whether i should give a fuck. I believe that he is processing some deep emotions and i understand that. I just miss the him that called ten times a day and couldnt sleep without hearing my voice. ( I know so mushy) I have to let him be and let him go.
details
Posted by geminicandle
He just can't and won't get over "it". Whatever perceived slight and hurt you inflicted and I suspect it was a lot when you choose that other man over a Scorpio.
Well, it's your turn now to suffer. He may still have feelings, but he would rather suffer forever in silence and his pride and ego in tact, than risk being betrayed by you again. If you don't have the trust with Scorpio, don't have anything.
I learned the hard way too. Don't worry, you'll get over it before he does.


I know I will but i know me once im over you thats it. I dont want to let him go if you could understand that. I do love him and always will i feel like he pushed me in this corner knowing that i would eventually quit. He constanly says your my future as if he knows what will happen next.He also ask me to not date or have sex becuase i would be cheating on him. It has to be trust he wants to know should he really give in. I need to move forward not saying im going to forget him but this is my time to love me. When a man loves you i beleive he will move mountains to get to you.
details
Posted by geminicandle
Don't expect Scorpio to move anything, they are extremely passive, not go-getters. Often times than not, they don't even go for what they truly want, especially if feeling insecure.
I understand that you don't wanna let go. I didn't wanna let go either, I honestly hang on more than most girls would, because of my Venus in Cancer. BUT, I mean how much longer are you willing to wait and to endure feeling crappy like this? How many more weeks, months or even years?
Life is too short for this and no man is worth it.
I don't know, it's up to you. I guess time will show how your story will play out.


LOL at dont expect scorpio to move anything. Literally laughed. Ill keep you guys posted. I have not texted or called him since he last said he would call me back. Been thinking of changing my number. I once blocked him and he found out and said thats really petty of you. He has apoligized for me feeling crappy. He said i really im sorry that you feel this way it is not my intention to hurt or dissapoint you.
BTW thanks Scorps for responding you guys shold get paid this is therapy like no other. Gratefull
details
Posted by BrownSagg
@PhoenixRising we meet in 2011. We were fiends i had a seven month old and wa dating someone else he fell in love in two weeks asked me to leave my unhappy situation and move with him. I did care about him but thought how foolish it would be for me to uproot my life and child for a man i just meet. Long story short I end up marrying my unhappy and cheating boyfriend and our frienship ended. I found him in Dec and he expressed how much he loved me and how he felt like i was supposed to be his wife and how he hasnt moved on. I fell hard and heavy left my marriage. he was constant for weeks and then slowly begin to dissapear.


Ahhhhh, I remember your other thread now. I would suggest you review that one. Sounds like he's still dealing with some issues from that situation. It doesn't sound like he's present emotionally or physically for whatever reason. You have more control over this situation than you care to believe.
details
Hey,
So I am a scorp with a sag moon...the reason why I am specifying that is that I tend to disappear...now here are 2 reasons why I tend to disappear.
1. Too much, too soon so I freak out and my Sag moon in need of freedom lashes out which causes me to isolate myself or run away from the initiator of the pressure (could be a new friend or a special someone)
Now the 2nd reason depends on how long I was with the person before I started pulling away...
2. I'll pull away and realize that I can go around without really missing them...usually the next step is breaking up or if I feel bad breaking up, I'll act in ways where the friend or special someone calls it quit and then I go my own way.
This being said, I think the world of astrology sees the Scorpio as a full on deep and intense sign...but I think we are very specific as to what makes us passionate...
In relationship, I don't think we are as jealous as people make it to be...I think we sense things and because we can see it happen we become angry/jealous and we sting...
If you have your scorp's trust and if you have never done anything to compromise that trust...you will find your scorpio lover to be the most trusting and easy going person.
Our passion is eminent if we have been crossed...and most often than not...once you have lost your scorp's trust...well you might as well break it off as he will make it unbearable for you.
Sorry that this post is going into another direction. Anyhow this being said...
Give your scorp some time, if time doesn't make the heart grow fonder, don't waste your time and move on.
Be assured that if a scorp cares for you, regardless of his moon/rising/venus signs...he will come after you agressively.
We have obsessive thoughts...if we care, we care a lot and if not, then you just don't exist in our eyes anymore.
Hope this helped.
Cheers,
SS
details
im not as bothered anymore about his disappearing. Insanity is doing the same thing over again and expecting something diffrent. lately I feel im where im supposed to be in life everything thats meant for me will come to me. I dont really need to focus on someone elses behavior. I need to change myself. im happy and in love with life. if he never cones back not worried at this point. some people are just in our lives for a season. love is powerful not easily forgotten. I used to tell my friend if you have given your all to a person and it doesnt work; no regrets. I loved a person truly did my best. ill keep u guys posted. Happy Memorial Day weekend. Have fun guys
details
Posted by shellshocker
omg I was just thinking about my Sagg friend... then I read this
She was pregnant with a Pisces after dating him for about 3 months. She had just ended a relationship with a Taurus. They talked marriage and she was planning the wedding and then he starts withdrawing. The relationship went down fast and furious. She meets an Aries (while she is still pregnant) and they move in together. Pisces disappears for months... comes back and it's war! Custody battle, child support, damaging property etc. They got nasty!

2 years later, she finds out there is some medical issues and Pisces wants her back to be a family with their child. She tells Aries she's thinking about it... he leaves and she moves the Pisces into the house the next week.
When she told me, she waited for me to say something after... I just got quiet so she talked more. Said Aries, who was a father to her child for the last 2 years and really loved that little kid... was not being supportive of her because when she found out about the medical issue... he took an extra shift at work instead of staying home with her. That's why she ended it.
I haven't talked to her since baby daddy moved back in and I'm a bit hesitant too. Saggs do some pretty spontaneous things.
This is unrelated to your story, I'm just typing out loud


"spontaneous" = "stupid"
no, it's all true.
details
let him go.
sooner or later u will
the mental stress is not worth it for any guy belonging to any sun sign.
i've been thru this and now i'm in the letting go stage
details
The best way to deal with a disappearing Houdini is to replace him with someone else.
Then escort that person right out the back door upon his return.
Repeat when necessary.
details
Trust me when I tell you that when a man, (any man/sign) disappears for a while and then return, it's because there is someone else. He's not in love with her either, so he keeps both of you around.
details
Posted by Scorpiorabbit
If a Scorpio man wants to be with you...he's with you. There is no disappearing.


I don't know about all that. I can beg to differ. I fell madly for a Scorpio (like a dumb ass). He's left a lasting impression on me. But then again when we were together it was like BAD ASS.
Im a Gemini (8th House - Scorpio) with Mercury in Gemini (8th House - Scorpio)
Funny thing is I didnt ever think id have such respect for Scorpions, even though I don't understand the depths of their feelings because they aren't very open with that kind of thing. Having both my sun and mercury in the 8th house I get along famously with them when I do meet one. Heard so much about Gemini female and Scorpio male pairing. Ill be honest. I think about him way more than I should. It's been several months now since the end of January last time we talked.
This has happened more than once over the span of 3 years. In October it will be 3 years. On and off vanishing act. The longest he vanished was for about 6 months until he wrote me an email out of the blue.
Maybe it's this?
Venus - Scorpio (7th House)
Mars - Libra (6th House)
Jupiter - Aries (Ascendant - Aries)
I don't like that mars at all. He has very little air placement but he's constantly vanishing. Im not sure for what though. *Le sigh*
details
Posted by shellshocker
omg I was just thinking about my Sagg friend... then I read this
She was pregnant with a Pisces after dating him for about 3 months. She had just ended a relationship with a Taurus. They talked marriage and she was planning the wedding and then he starts withdrawing. The relationship went down fast and furious. She meets an Aries (while she is still pregnant) and they move in together. Pisces disappears for months... comes back and it's war! Custody battle, child support, damaging property etc. They got nasty!

2 years later, she finds out there is some medical issues and Pisces wants her back to be a family with their child. She tells Aries she's thinking about it... he leaves and she moves the Pisces into the house the next week.
When she told me, she waited for me to say something after... I just got quiet so she talked more. Said Aries, who was a father to her child for the last 2 years and really loved that little kid... was not being supportive of her because when she found out about the medical issue... he took an extra shift at work instead of staying home with her. That's why she ended it.
I haven't talked to her since baby daddy moved back in and I'm a bit hesitant too. Saggs do some pretty spontaneous things.
This is unrelated to your story, I'm just typing out loud


Yep a Sag for you. This is why I don't like them ONE BIT. Especially the men. They do this like crazy shit, keep exes around just all involved with multiple people, cant make their minds up, NO THANK YOU. Too many damn irons in the fire. NOPE!
details

Leave Your Feedback

We'd love to hear your thoughts! If you're not logged in, you can still share your feedback below. Your input helps us improve the experience for everyone. To post your own content or join the conversation, please log in or create an account.

Home Astrology Comments Forums Search

©1997-2025 dxpnet.com. All Rights Reserved.
Advertising Contact Terms of Use Privacy Policy