Why is she doing this

Why is she being so quiet around me now its making me feel un-comfortable is she tree trunking with me? She's not quiet around anybody else, with me she looks at me and is quiet I have to say something so she will talk. If I say something funny she will giggle, now she just looks at me she smiles but she doesn't say much. Every time I spend time with her the quieter she is getting around me as I have said before I know when she is mad at me because she avoids me. If I come around she will walk away she isn't doing this. When she looks at me she smiles but doesn't say anything.

I can read her like a book the way she is acting I can't read her she is being confusing I know women expect men to be mind readers this is getting ridiculous. We've known each other for 2.25 years why is she doing this to me now it was easier to read her when she was angry with me.

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Posted by Stihl46
Why is she being so quiet around me now its making me feel un-comfortable is she tree trunking with me? She's not quiet around anybody else, with me she looks at me and is quiet I have to say something so she will talk. If I say something funny she will giggle, now she just looks at me she smiles but she doesn't say much. Every time I spend time with her the quieter she is getting around me as I have said before I know when she is mad at me because she avoids me. If I come around she will walk away she isn't doing this. When she looks at me she smiles but doesn't say anything.

I can read her like a book the way she is acting I can't read her she is being confusing I know women expect men to be mind readers this is getting ridiculous. We've known each other for 2.25 years why is she doing this to me now it was easier to read her when she was angry with me.

Shouldn't be that hard to get her angry. 😉

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I don't want to get her angry its not so much anger it turns into hurt feelings I don't want that.

"I can read her like a book the way she is acting I can't read her she is being confusing"

Not to be an ass but the way you worded this is confusing. So you can or can't read her?

I was EXACTLY like this. I was so nervous and so overwhelmed with my thoughts, what I should say, and also, with getting vibes from the other person. It was so much that I remained quiet. I wrote it off as being shy. Really, I was observing.
People get mad at me for it. "Why are you so quiet?", "Why don't you ever talk??" It pisses me off beyond belief.

Anyway, she probably likes you. I also did the "running away," I was terrified and overwhelmed so I thought it would be easier if they come to me or just not deal with it. Lol...
She might also be feeling insecure. Try talking to her one-on-one instead of around other people and maybe try a situation where conversation comes easier.
What is her chart? What is yours?

Posted by KVZZMIR11
Then ask her "why are you being so quiet?"

You know?
Make fun of her little bit:

"I see you talking nonstop all the time."


Just talk about anything different than usual topics you have been conversing about for past 2.5 years.

I have to watch what I say I can't joke with her or try to be playfully joking things have changed I used to be able to joke with her I can't anymore.

Posted by heartlocket
"I can read her like a book the way she is acting I can't read her she is being confusing"

Not to be an ass but the way you worded this is confusing. So you can or can't read her?

I was EXACTLY like this. I was so nervous and so overwhelmed with my thoughts, what I should say, and also, with getting vibes from the other person. It was so much that I remained quiet. I wrote it off as being shy. Really, I was observing.
People get mad at me for it. "Why are you so quiet?", "Why don't you ever talk??" It pisses me off beyond belief.

Anyway, she probably likes you. I also did the "running away," I was terrified and overwhelmed so I thought it would be easier if they come to me or just not deal with it. Lol...
She might also be feeling insecure. Try talking to her one-on-one instead of around other people and maybe try a situation where conversation comes easier.
What is her chart? What is yours?

Her and I are alone together it is when she is quiet, not sure why she would be observing me she's known me long enough. Maybe she is feeling insecure?

Oh yes, then she probably is. She might also want to know what you are thinking, so she remains quiet.
It depends on the person, really, but I observe when I want to know more. And to get their vibe; what they are thinking and feeling.

But my question is, were you just friends before? Romantic background? Do you like her, do you think she likes you? What between you has changed? Details!! Lol.
It might suck and you might hate it but you might have to do a lot more talking, in order to get her to open up. Tell her what's on your mind. Ask questions. I guarantee she will open up more then.

heartlocket

My chart Her chart
Sun-Cancer Sun-Scorpio
Moon- Taurus Moon-Virgo
Mercury-Gemini Mercury-Sagittarius
Venus- Cancer Venus-Libra
Mars - Leo Mars-Libra
Jupiter - Taurus Jupiter-Aquarius
Saturn - Leo Saturn-Scorpio
Uranus - Scorpio Uranus-Sagittarius
Neptune- Sagittarius Neptune-Capricorn
Pluto - Libra Pluto-Scorpio
Rising Aquarius Rising Leo

Her and I are both watery I'm about the same airy same with Earth and fire, I'm new to this so reading a chart I'm not sure what to look for. I have looked at what the planets with the zodiac signs and traits. I live up to my moon in Taurus every thing I have read closely matches how I'm. My scorpio friend her moon is in Virgo she fits it. My rising sign is me as well my Scorpio friend fits her Leo rising.

Posted by heartlocket
Oh yes, then she probably is. She might also want to know what you are thinking, so she remains quiet.
It depends on the person, really, but I observe when I want to know more. And to get their vibe; what they are thinking and feeling.

But my question is, were you just friends before? Romantic background? Do you like her, do you think she likes you? What between you has changed? Details!! Lol.
It might suck and you might hate it but you might have to do a lot more talking, in order to get her to open up. Tell her what's on your mind. Ask questions. I guarantee she will open up more then.

When her and I met I wasn't in a good place I was emotionally attached to an Aquarius girl that screwed me up for the longest time. The Scorpio got out of a bad break up when I met her I didn't want to be a rebound with her she started seeing a Gemini guy. I still got to know her we got close we understand each other. I tried to break off the friendship that turned ugly we went our separate ways, after short period she started to regain my friendship. Of course I like her she makes me happy I'm glad we are trying to regain our friendship. I made many mistakes I understand her a lot better we understand each other.

The difference I see now is she used to treat me like she does with other guys where she can talk to them with no problems. With me today she is quiet there are days she seems nervous I can sense it she used to get nervous around me when we first met but is more now. She has opened up with me a lot when we first met talked about her life etc. Currently she gets mad at me if I push her too hard if I start prying she will push me away. This staring at me and being quiet is a new thing with her. She doesn't wear a mask around me I have seen her anger, emotional side and her vulnerability. I will always protect her and stand up for her anybody hurts her I will hurt them she means a lot to me even after what her I have been through.

Posted by exoskeleton
just ask her what's up! straightforward.

I start prying I get the "I'm Fine" answer out of her or she tries to avoid talking about it when she gets like that all I can do is give her comfort.

Posted by KVZZMIR11
She is waiting for you to grow a dick and ask her out for drinks already if she rejects then it wasnt meant to be.

She is seeing a guy I know not sure if she is still seeing him as he is tight lipped and so is she.

Posted by Whatu
I was far to immature to deal with all that crap but at the same time I could sense that she wanted me to deal with her crap which just pissed me off. Ask yourself is it worth dealing with her crap? In a Scorpios mind we actually think "if you can't handle me at my worst you don't deserve me at my best". My reaction to that was "if you can't handle yourself at your worst then you don't deserve me at my best". Pretty immature I know but that's what we are.

She's probably worth the hassle I know that.

that first part sounds like a Marilyn Monroe quote.

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Posted by KVZZMIR11
Then ask her "why are you being so quiet?"

You know?
Make fun of her little bit:

"I see you talking nonstop all the time."


Just talk about anything different than usual topics you have been conversing about for past 2.5 years.

I have to watch what I say I can't joke with her or try to be playfully joking things have changed I used to be able to joke with her I can't anymore.

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Gee, she sounds like a real peach. (sarcasm)
Why bother with her if you are walking on eggshells? It's ridiculous!

Posted by Whatu
This is exactly what the Scorpio woman who put me onto astrology did to me. I still have no idea what the fuck it all meant but what I got was that she was trying to keep me at arms length and not letting me in, Like no fucking way was she going to let me in because I made her feel way to vulnerable.

It was just as complicated as this is with you, She had potential relationships going but they where all just silly shit, I was down right ready to be her man, That frightened her allot. She was testing me and I feel and I didn't pass her tests. Its as if she locked me out, in order to test me. But by shutting me out she was shutting her heart off from me so it was impossible for me to reach her. Fuck it was a hellish time. We has some magic moments but most of it was just painful for both of us.

I don't know if this is the case for you but maybe she is having the same feelings, She could be shutting you out because its so intense for her she does not want to be vulnerable with you.

This is exactly what Scorp and I have done to each other...

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Posted by Whatu
This is exactly what the Scorpio woman who put me onto astrology did to me. I still have no idea what the fuck it all meant but what I got was that she was trying to keep me at arms length and not letting me in, Like no fucking way was she going to let me in because I made her feel way to vulnerable.

It was just as complicated as this is with you, She had potential relationships going but they where all just silly shit, I was down right ready to be her man, That frightened her allot. She was testing me and I feel and I didn't pass her tests. Its as if she locked me out, in order to test me. But by shutting me out she was shutting her heart off from me so it was impossible for me to reach her. Fuck it was a hellish time. We has some magic moments but most of it was just painful for both of us.

I don't know if this is the case for you but maybe she is having the same feelings, She could be shutting you out because its so intense for her she does not want to be vulnerable with you.

This is exactly what Scorp and I have done to each other...

Question is how do you fix that shit?

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Stupidity? Persistence? Love? Lol I don't know really. Scorp and I are 'in' it unlike Whatu's case which seems to be (correct me if I'm wrong) 'finished'.

Posted by IrresistableScorp
Depth of emotion is tough. Its much easier to be with someone that doesn't require too much in the way of deep emotions. A skimming the surface relationship is EASY and SAFE. It is also BORING and SAFE. This is why the Gemini is still in the driver seat here. He is SAFE. You are RISKY.

Just saying. Not saying risky is bad or good. Just what may be happening here. Always, always, always the best approach with Scorpio is steady, CONSISTENT behavior in matters of the heart. And by consistent I mean none of this breaking up, getting back together stuff. That drives most scorps crazy. Her Gemini consistently shows her that she is valued by him and that is enticing especially if her heart is on the mend.

On the other hand, you challenge her. You don't take her crap, give back what she gives you, don't put her on a pedestal (at least not in plain view) and generally stir the waters around her. Yet at the same time, she feels more comfortable around you and seeks to be near you because she feels comfort.

With Gemini--very black and white relationship. With you--grey areas and turbulence yet peace. IMHO, what you offer is way above what Gemini offers her in this scenario and she probably knows it, but SAFE has a way of being the complacent fallback position.

I still maintain, however, that Scorpio won't spend energy "testing" (or observing) someone who is not being given deep consideration. If you get observed/tested, it means Scorp really likes you. My guess is she doesn't test the gemini because she knows she has him wrapped around her finger and frankly doesn't see it as long term. On the other hand, she observes/tests you because there is something about you that makes her think there could be more.

Just be friends with her right now--sooner or later this gemini guy will be gone. I doubt he is fully respected by this Scorp. And without respect--no relationship.

Thanks for the post it helps me understand what in the h*ll is going on with her. Her Gem man is so desperate for attention he won't run away he puts up a lot he is still with her. I respect her I don't put her on a pedestal and I don't expect her to do the same for me equal is equal. I march to the beat of my own drum if she wants to follow she can if not she will be left behind she knows how to find me.

Posted by Iwill
If topic creator is a cancer, then for sure he intimidates her. It can become too intense. She is probably silent and shy, because she is waiting and seing, what you do, to get a feel of what you feel and what you want🙂 Simple as that🙂

Yes I'm a Cancer man with Taurus moon 🙂

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Posted by KVZZMIR11
Then ask her "why are you being so quiet?"

You know?
Make fun of her little bit:

"I see you talking nonstop all the time."


Just talk about anything different than usual topics you have been conversing about for past 2.5 years.

I have to watch what I say I can't joke with her or try to be playfully joking things have changed I used to be able to joke with her I can't anymore.

Gee, she sounds like a real peach. (sarcasm)
Why bother with her if you are walking on eggshells? It's ridiculous!

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She is really sensitive around me when we went our separate ways I got some emotional jabs in it really cut her to the core she was surprised how I can be. I will never do that again I realized I was a big prick saying what I said.

Posted by TwirlingStrawberry
I'm curious....what's the age difference?

There is a 9 year difference she is younger than me I don't look my age I live a healthy life style I've been told I look 10 years younger than I really I'm.

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Posted by Whatu
This is exactly what the Scorpio woman who put me onto astrology did to me. I still have no idea what the fuck it all meant but what I got was that she was trying to keep me at arms length and not letting me in, Like no fucking way was she going to let me in because I made her feel way to vulnerable.

It was just as complicated as this is with you, She had potential relationships going but they where all just silly shit, I was down right ready to be her man, That frightened her allot. She was testing me and I feel and I didn't pass her tests. Its as if she locked me out, in order to test me. But by shutting me out she was shutting her heart off from me so it was impossible for me to reach her. Fuck it was a hellish time. We has some magic moments but most of it was just painful for both of us.

I don't know if this is the case for you but maybe she is having the same feelings, She could be shutting you out because its so intense for her she does not want to be vulnerable with you.

This is exactly what Scorp and I have done to each other...

Question is how do you fix that shit?

How do you fix this shit?

By getting off DXP and seeing by yourself the girl wants the benefit of having Gemini (bf) but she also likes certain qualities in OP the Gem is not providing.
I've had a girl(similar) to OP's dilemma plain out tell me she wishes she could have both of us at the same time LMAO.
She lied to me and broke up with her b/f (I am not down with dating a girl who has an ongoing relationship), and I found she is still dating the same dude later down the week.
I went home and deleted her number, her friends' number, and never spoke to them again.
Without telling her why.
Little she knew I overheard she was dating that dude.
Years down the road, she somehow tracked me down and found me on Facebook, and sent me a message about meeting up again.
To this day she still doesn't know why I cut her off.
This is how you fix girls like this.
They are filth of this world.

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I've tried the going my separate ways didn'

I've tried going my separate ways it didn't work, tried ignoring it didn't work, tried disappearing it didn't work either.

When a man care me I'm the most calm and patient in the world, imperturbable, I can see where others can't, not going to rush because if is mine will come to me and if it isn't is that should not come. And the I like him, most peaceful I am, the less I'm going to play with him because with eating things I don't play 😉

In my case i think this is very descorcentante for Taurus especially accustomed his harem dances for him dance of the seven veils, morning, noon and night.


Scorpio takes seriously their feelings, their emotions, know what know and what don't know well, is more important.

I know Scorpios take their feeling seriously I have found that out, their feelings can be hurt easily.

Still stumped with her being quiet around me, she talks so quietly around me she doesn't do it around others. Being quiet and staring at me she does smile at me it was a week ago she was smiling at me her whole face was lit up I don't ever remember her doing that with me before.

Maybe I'm intimidating her she is seeing me in a different light I have physically changed I'm in much better shape again my female friends say I'm slim and trim. Still the same person that never changes what you see is what you get with me. My female friends said they find me very attractive one of them calls me hot. That doesn't change who I'm I may be 10 years younger looking and my body has shape again I don't look like a barrel. Too much stress in my life I let my health go I took it back did something about it, dropped the stress and live a much healthier life.

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Posted by TwirlingStrawberry
I'm curious....what's the age difference?

There is a 9 year difference she is younger than me I don't look my age I live a healthy life style I've been told I look 10 years younger than I really I'm.

But you should be dating mature woman your age, She probably see's this as a weakness in you.

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Her boyfriend before this Gemini guy was 12 years older than her, the Gemini guy is 4 years older than her. Her Gemini boyfriend looks older than me he's balding he smokes and he is getting out of shape getting a gut hanging off of him. He is far from attractive she is attractive he's not, people even wonder what she sees in him she can do better than him. I attract younger women than my scorpio friend the younger women don't realize I'm in my late 30s.

With her today she was happy to see me it's been awhile since I have seen her be that happy around me. I know there is something going on with her boyfriend she wouldn't look at him and visa versa they were not together she was with me. She made no effort to talk to him or even acknowledge him It's like he didn't exist?

TwirlingStrawberry if she isn't interested in me why does she keep coming back when I have tried to walk out of her life.

Posted by Whatu
I still have no idea what the fuck it all meant but what I got was that she was trying to keep me at arms length and not letting me in, Like no fucking way was she going to let me in because I made her feel way to vulnerable.

THIS. You would be correct, my friend.
Feeling vulnerable and trying to trust others, it is HELL. Personally it has cost me so many potential friendships. I've never been in a relationship because of my own complications, and I just started dating this year. It's all WAY too much for me, I stay far away from it. Actually, I RUN away from it.

Maybe in her case she feels similar. Try to make her feel like she has some control, that will help her open up.

I do give her control I don't let her control me like she does with her boyfriend he has welcome on his back ie doormat.

I may make her feel powerless she doesn't have the control over me like she has over others.

She has opened up to me when we first met we shared a lot about each other. I probably know more about her than her boyfriend i listen. Her boyfriend is more interested in talking about the latest TV shows than anything else.

She complains he doesn't listen, I listen to her I remember things she has told me like special things she likes.

I don't know why she is being so scared around me? Scared that I understand her more than her gemini boyfriend. Scared I don't fear her? Scared that she's shown her vulnerable side to me?