Wish there was a Scorp-to-English dictionary

What am I missing here? Been with a Scorpio guy more than a year, and the communication lines get fucked to hell over the stupidest shit. He says I never look below the surface so I'm seeking help from people who would know. He said I hurt his feelings on each of the following scenarios and I'm personally not seeing it:

1) He had an item I loaned him and I wanted it back. He said he'd drop it off as I don't have my car right now. Night wears on, he doesn't show, but calls 2-3 times. Finally tells me he's real tired and doesn't feel up to driving. I slam the phone on his ear and ignore his calls. He texts me that he'd been throwing up all day but didn't want to tell me because he feels like a pussy when he is sick and it makes him angry? Huh? Being sick makes him angry? He said he felt like I was punishing him for being too tired to come over.

2) New Year's Eve. I asked him for WEEKS if he had plans. He said he was probably doing what he did each year, a guy's night in Atlantic City. I said cool, was invited out by a girlfriend. As the days approach, my friend gets kind of shaky and I ask him if his guy's night is still on, he says it is, but he sort of is over the casino/drinking thing and didn't really want to go. I ask him if he'd be interested in going to my friend's party with me if I still go. He says no. NYE comes and just as I feared, my friend bails, leaving me stranded. The Scorp had already committed to AC, so I tell him to have fun. Midnight comes, he calls to wish me HNY. Then an hour later, he texts "We should be together right now." Huh? I ASKED him if he wanted to hang with me. We could've still hung out considering my friend flaked out. He later told me that he felt like I didn't "want" to be with just him because I didn't suggest it! The hell I didn't!

3. I like Tom Cruise (please don't hit me). I wanted to see the Valkyrie movie. I ask him to go. He says, and I quote "I'm not a movie person." So I feel like, ok, fine, I'll go with someone else. I do, and he gets ANGRY! He says, "I didn't say I wouldn't go!" Um ... what else does "I'm not a movie person" mean? If someone offers me fish and I go "I'm not a fish person" and they put a hunk of salmon in front of me ANYway, I'm going to be very pissed off.

So now things are weird between us, like there's this bullshitty tension between us that I can't stand. What am I missing here? What'd I do wrong if anything or is this Scorpio sensitivity at it's worst?

p.s. don't forget..scorp men are incredibly insecure and you'll have to reassure him all the friggin' time until he "gets over it"..

Ah shit, not this again. I dealed with the same thing with a Cancer. And before him, a Pisces. I can't seem to stop attracting watery guys, the air signs and I don't mesh and I don't really get along with fire sign guys too well. earthy guys seem like a good bet, but they are usually taken. 😢

lol ^^

YES IVE HEARD THROUGH THE GRAPEVINE THAT DING DONGS MOTHER...THE MIDGET FISH IS TIRED

OF WASHING AND IRONING AND PUTTING CREASES IN HIS CONDOMS FOR HIM. HE HAS TO KEEP REUSING IT BECAUSE THEY NO LONGER MAKE PETITES. THE CHINESE ARE USING THEM FOR FINGER TIP
PROTECTORS.

My sentiments exactly

lol..what the f...seriously? you been hanging out with some warped individuals then..

Oi!..less of the woman..I vote Emo 😛

Hahha..only an emo could have a problem with someone going on vacation..

That monkey on your avatar looks like the one from 28 days later...evil..

Yeah blingers..that film was ace..loved it...the sequel was rubbish..disappointed big time..

I am waiting for the Day of the triffids to come out this year..apparantly they are doing a remake..that's all about plants taking over the world..it's sooo cool..can't wait..

There are some real cool movies out at the moment..wanna go and see Che and 7 pounds (or something)..Benecio...oh my...

Thanks, this is really helpful (anyone who wants to deal with this bullshit, RUN!) Elena, the ignoring might have to be in effect. He's pulling one of his fave tricks - I was getting a mani/pedi and missed his call, so when I called him back, I get sent to voicemail - not the regular "it rings a lot then it goes to voicemail" but the "I'm pushing a button to send this bitch to voicemail." So he can be a pussy alone today if he wants. He and his right hand can get reaquainted.

Pinks song came to mind just then..

::just you and your hand tonight::

lol..

What sign are you saturnleo? is the clue in the username? lol

Haha, yes, I was thinking the same thing missmorals.

Many of my personal planets are in Leo - Sun, Rising, Mercury and Venus. And Saturn of course 🙂. My Saturn return is due this year so I chose that as a username. 🙂

Remind me never to date one of my own..jeez..more headache than they are worth..

I haven't seen too many leo female scorpio male couples in all honesty..Just ignore his ass..he'll come running when he isn't getting the attention. Carry on with your mani/pedi..lol..a girls gotta do what a girls gotta do right..Self pampering is much better than any bloke out there..at least it leaves you satisfied!..haha..

My saturn is also in leo for your information..lol..

You hitting your saturn return this year then? ooooh commitments, out with the old in with the new and stuff...cooool!

How long you been with him?

Ooh, I like your style , Elena. And yes, I like to let homeboy do most of the calling, but I'm in a situation. He has my spare keys. My personal motto is unless I have your last name, you ain't getting keys to my place. 🙂 But for Christmas, he got me a beautiful china closet (it is gorgeous, yall) and he asked me for my spare set so he could get it in safely. A week passed, he didn't give up the keys, so I finally asked him to drop 'em off. He was supposed to yesterday, but then the "tired/sick" stuff started (see item 1 in my first post). Then today while I was getting my feet massaged, my cell buzzes. When I have a free minute, I see it's him and I assume he's calling to tell me he is or has dropped off my keys, so then I get the VM treatment. 😢

But don't let him push me. I WILL change those locks with the quickness. He is getting on my last dang nerve right now.

Yes, I am excited for my SR! I've been reading up about it and so much of it is accurate. I really do feel THIS is the year I come of age.

Missmorals, I have been with him a little more than a year. When it is good, it is very good. Yall Scorps know how to make a person feel loved. This past spring, I lost my mom, stepdad and baby bro to a drunk driver. I was a straight MESS and he was and is my rock. So maybe because of all that, he takes me for granted a little because I know how much he let me lean on him and how when even now, when I get sad, he stops everything and comes to me. One time right before Thanksgiving, he left work because I couldn't get out of bed, I was just crying, hyperventalating, and he came and held me all damn day.

And so when he pulls petty shit like this, I'm like, damn, I know you love me homeboy, so what is with the needless drama and stupid communication breakdowns? It's not like we're kids - I'm 29 and he's 28. I know the type of man he can be, and that's the man I want to be with, so when he acts like a little baby, I just want to maul his ass like the lioness I am and leave him for dead, but I just can't do that. I have to get tougher on him, I know this, but it is hard when I think about just how he showed his love and loyalty when I needed it the most.

Awww well he sounds quite normal actually. Maybe he needs down days just like everyone else..just to regroup his thoughts..at times we can be guilty of hurting the ones we love the most from stupid actions that have nothing to do with you personally..

Maybe he secretly wants to move in with you and is hurt by you asking for the keys back. Don't know, but definitely a possibility.

Sorry to hear about the loss of your family. Must be awful 😢
Just firmly tell him you won't accept childish behaviour and that if he has a problem to outrightly discuss it with you. Your not a mind reader and you don't care to sit and stew over petty issues.

Thank you, missmorals. It's awful, I miss them every day, but I know it will get easier over time.

You and Elena bring up an interesting point about the keys. After Christmas, I had to work and he was off. He called me at work and was like "Hey, I'm chilling in bed at home" and after a few more minutes of him talking, it became obvious he meant MY bed in MY home, which, to be honest, made me feel some type of way. I do love him, but I think I am afraid to want him and need him, because I know how people you love can just vanish.

The seeming inconsistency of Scorpios and maybe most water signs is hard for a Leo to handle. We go straight ahead. When we say black, we mean black - not white, not beige, not pink. I'm never going to tell someone I like grapefruit one day and then the next day act like I don't know what that person is talking about. It's hard to completely let go and trust when I see the same man go from one of the most loving, amazing men on the planet who held me and cried with me on New Year's as we talked about the past year and what we've both been through to a man who sends me to voicemail because I didn't pick up his call the second he made it. I admire those of you who get this and can understand it, but I don't and I'm not sure I ever will.

We work either end of the extreme too...love/hate, black/white etc...so don't give up on him just yet..he sounds decent.

But I know the Leo temperament..I too have it..most have me down as a Leo..even the Scorps have me down as a leo...lol..

Maybe even bring up the key thing with him. He'll probably get all sensitive about it cos it hurts his precious ego but eventually he might open up..

I reckon it's defo to do with the keys..I don't think it's a trust issue he has with you..it's more to do with "I thought you giving me the keys meant we are going somewhere serious with this and now you are asking for them back you are still unsure about me" type of thing..Go steady lioness...don't go hurting his feelings..he's obviously invested a lot of time in this as have you..bless 🙂

I am kinda with you on that..if someone said I am chilling at your home in your bed, I would want to smash his head in...who gave you permission to go to my home etc..giving him the keys didn't mean welcome to my life as a permanent fixture..it was just a temporary thing right?

Typical scorp to take something to mean more than what is intended..lol..

Welp, his highness has finally gotten around to calling back, but I'm about to have some pomegranate martinis with the ladies, so homeboy will have to WAIT. AGAIN. Too bad, so sad.

I hate game playing in relationships, but I hate when someone thinks they can run me. Oh no. I am NOT the one.

LMAO, Elena, you are awesome, girl! I think Aries/Taurus is probably the best cusp there is.

lol @ jimmy carr's joke about the pies..haha...legend