Would you be concerned?
This topic was created in the Scorpio forum by BlueAqua on Thursday, January 29, 2009 and has 27 replies.
If your Scorpio fiance said " You never know what In Life could bring you and an ex Back Together.
idk
idk
People that's Truely moved on don't think like that.
"Yes they do.Was he relating it to someone else ?"
We were talking about him and his ex-virgo wife,..and that was his statement. We're getting married in a year. Idk if this is a red flag for me.
We were talking about him and his ex-virgo wife,..and that was his statement. We're getting married in a year. Idk if this is a red flag for me.
Ex wives are such for a reason. Same goes for ex hubands. Short of Pam Anderson, I don't often hear of ex marriages getting back together.
All red flags should have been eliminated by the time you got engaged. If you still question him, I'd say that's his red flag.
All red flags should have been eliminated by the time you got engaged. If you still question him, I'd say that's his red flag.
yes you should be concerned and yes it's a definite red flag that he's hiding something
"You never know what In Life could bring you and an ex Back Together."
Is it possible that he was saying.... in a non-romantic capacity? Depends on the context of your conversation I'd assume. Whether or not this is an issue. Isn't it true that Scorpios never like to have people hate them. Until they decide they're done with someone, and then it's over for good?
"yes you should be concerned and yes it's a definite red flag that he's hiding something"
I think if he had something to hide, he would have hidden it. It's a statement somewhat true on it's own. What sense it makes, depends on the context in which he said it.
I think if he had something to hide, he would have hidden it. It's a statement somewhat true on it's own. What sense it makes, depends on the context in which he said it.
in the spirit of the moment, might I add 'shit!!! that's bad!'
It all depends but something made him think that and something made you worry so attempt to address with him maybe? so as not to expand it into another direction?
It all depends but something made him think that and something made you worry so attempt to address with him maybe? so as not to expand it into another direction?
was joking on the first comment btw 
His theory is "Never say Never". True enough i can agree with that statement about life in general. But "you never know what will happen in life that will bring you back with your ex" sounds like someone who hasn't let go. Too bad he's so stubborn and has to be so right all the time that communication is difficult with him no matter how hard i try.
I wouldn't be concerned, coz he has chosen to marry you...If he changes his mind, you can bet you won't be in the dark about it. Scorp guys don't like insecurity in women, you gotta have faith in the fact that he has chosen you - and if he had doubts, he wouldn't have proposed.
It sounds to me like a general statement, my scorp ex was like that as well but he didn't mean anything bad by it...Merely, they just keep an open mind for the future coz you never know what it holds. I have also noticed they don't like to cut people out of their lives completely, unless the person in question was a complete asshole.
It sounds to me like a general statement, my scorp ex was like that as well but he didn't mean anything bad by it...Merely, they just keep an open mind for the future coz you never know what it holds. I have also noticed they don't like to cut people out of their lives completely, unless the person in question was a complete asshole.
It has nothing to do with me being insecure (which I'm not). To prove my point even furthur, my scorpio just told me "what's wrong with him IM'ng females he doesn't know for the general conversation"? OK Let's B Real.
And he told me it's ok for me to IM and chat with guys i dont even know just for the general conversation. Now tell me what sense does that make?
And he told me it's ok for me to IM and chat with guys i dont even know just for the general conversation. Now tell me what sense does that make?
BlueAqua you have reason to be concerned, ask yourself is it okay with you and if it's not then you really have to stand up to those statements and let him know how you feel about the whole chatting it up with other women and men, part of me feels he's attempting to see if you have a backbone meaning will she accept me having my cake and eating it too, you have to let him know in your own way and words that yes we can't predict the future but I also expect that you will respect me as your partner and come to me when you feel you need to discuss your issues with your past, as for the talking to other women online (if it's unacceptable to you) then you have to say that it's unacceptable, if you don't find a way to speak your peace NOW then you will have issues later, I'm sure your not a doormat but if you allow him to say those things without clarifying your feelings about it, he will assume everything he is saying is okay with you and alright with you. Also just a suggestion, when you discuss your boundaries try not to argue about them, make it more of a this is how it is WITH ME take it or leave it because some men tend to pick things apart to create self doubt, say your peace and go have a latte or do something that feels good for yourself. He will soon begin to see that your standing up for your beliefs without the immaturity.
wtf?!
ok jokes aside, I'm not engaged to be married and I don't even do that or know people that do that because, hey 'YOU DON'T TALK TO STRANGERS'!
I do get people IM me sometimes to chat but if I don't know you, block immediately...
ok jokes aside, I'm not engaged to be married and I don't even do that or know people that do that because, hey 'YOU DON'T TALK TO STRANGERS'!
I do get people IM me sometimes to chat but if I don't know you, block immediately...
Tiki!!! you've been scarce
I do agree with tiki in this case --- have you tested him in the past and he's doing it back?
because I know loads of people that attempt to act like they're open-minded or summ if they think it will make them appear more 'something' to their partners
Bottom line is, I would address this... I mean what are you trying to get by chatting to stranger? exploring other options or you don't have enough friends? idk!
I do agree with tiki in this case --- have you tested him in the past and he's doing it back?
because I know loads of people that attempt to act like they're open-minded or summ if they think it will make them appear more 'something' to their partners
Bottom line is, I would address this... I mean what are you trying to get by chatting to stranger? exploring other options or you don't have enough friends? idk!
Tikki i see exactly what your saying, it's the fact that he Wants to do these things. I told him OK, Thats what he can do, because whats good for the goose is good for the gander and he doesn't mind if i do this with other men? That says alot and kinda hurtful. This has changed the relationship for me.
hey - yea know what you mean, sometimes I lurk too... adds new perspective to the old
lol so PP braking up with someone is not a concern? 
"Tikki i see exactly what your saying, it's the fact that he Wants to do these things. I told him OK, Thats what he can do, because whats good for the goose is good for the gander and he doesn't mind if i do this with other men? That says alot and kinda hurtful. This has changed the relationship for me."
Nothing wrong with that Blue but if your hurt in some way then it's your responsibility to say something, holding resentment will destroy your relationship and if that's not what you truly want then you have to find a way to say NO, I'm not cool with the whole chatting with women online and if you feel there is a smidgen of reason you want to be with your ex tell me now, you just have to TELL him how you feel, I feel hurt, talking about exes makes me feel like I shouldn't trust what we have, you just have to say it to make him FEEL what your feeling that's if you even want the relationship, some men do this to see how far he can take it, he may just be having engagement jitters, he's scared about his commitment, he's doubting and thus he is acting out, you can either ignore continue on as if it's nothing or address it.
Nothing wrong with that Blue but if your hurt in some way then it's your responsibility to say something, holding resentment will destroy your relationship and if that's not what you truly want then you have to find a way to say NO, I'm not cool with the whole chatting with women online and if you feel there is a smidgen of reason you want to be with your ex tell me now, you just have to TELL him how you feel, I feel hurt, talking about exes makes me feel like I shouldn't trust what we have, you just have to say it to make him FEEL what your feeling that's if you even want the relationship, some men do this to see how far he can take it, he may just be having engagement jitters, he's scared about his commitment, he's doubting and thus he is acting out, you can either ignore continue on as if it's nothing or address it.
i actually lol-ed out loud at that one pp --- you always make sense in a mattel production kinda way 
LOL!
PP is young, he has time to kick many butts to the curb, that attitude will slowly diminish after he gets in his late 20's until then have fun PP!
PP is young, he has time to kick many butts to the curb, that attitude will slowly diminish after he gets in his late 20's until then have fun PP!
LOL@Ofa, yeah I would be a bit peeved about the whole ex issue, talking bout ex means at some point down the line married or not he would consider reconciling and possibly more, being engaged that wouldn't sit well with me at all and I would either hand him his ring back or find a way to let him know that the minute I find out about any shenanigans with an ex he's out.
HAHAHA
Well, after all that kicking to the curb hopefully by late 20s, we would have learned to make better choices to begin with if only that was the case 
Well, after all that kicking to the curb hopefully by late 20s, we would have learned to make better choices to begin with
if only that was the case "I loved loved LOVED LOVED LOVED LOVED my Scorpio ex, so its not like i havent experienced love before lol."
LMAO! PP not the ex of an ex....wow
LMAO! PP not the ex of an ex....wow
exactly and talking like that about an ex is like making do with what you currently have even if your mind's elsewhere... then push it further by acting single IM-ing strangers online? that takes the cake...
I work with a Scorp who says stuff like that all the time, and he has a long-term girlfriend who is under the impression that they will marry. Personally, I think she's stupid bc he's an asswipe.
^^^ want her to eff you instead?
SS, personally, I think this guy's trying to show her how cool he is - I come across Scorp and Aqua guys like that a lot.
SS, personally, I think this guy's trying to show her how cool he is - I come across Scorp and Aqua guys like that a lot.
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