ADVICE PLEASE! So confused here!

I've been talking to a Taurus male since the end of December. I am a Taurus as well. He confuses me. He calls me all the time. Like 4-5 times a day but never has anything to say. I would carry the conversation but now it's like come on! If you call me have something to talk about! We have hung out twice but never been on a real date. Our schedules don't mesh well. But I've made efforts to try to coordinate something. I've asked him a few times if he wanted to go do something but work or friends would get in the way. That's not a big deal but he could of suggested another time. I've asked him what he is looking for and he said he is interested in me or else he wouldn't call me. If he is so interested in me, why haven't we gone out on a date?!?! So I told him yesterday that I wasn't going to ask him to go out again. I said if he wants to go out with me, then he has take the next step. Told him the ball's in his court. Was this too harsh to say to a Taurus guy? Is this typical Taurus male behavior?

the phone thing is just like me - I NEVER call people because I don't have anything to say, so in that respect he's really making an effort because he could just do what I do and say "well if I call I won't have anything to say and it will be awkward since I'm the one who called...I'll just let them call ME if they want to talk".
However, I don't think what you said was too harsh....as long as you didn't scream it at him.......
BUT the one thing that I saw as a red flag was that you said work and FRIENDS get in the way....work I can understand.,.... but if he really likes you he can flake on his buddies one night for a date - they should understand.

it takes taurus men awhile to do.....pretty much anything. i had one call me every couple of weeks to hang out and every once in awhile (more often than not) flake on me. turns out he started dating someone else, which was someone he's known for years. they're stubborn and don't like change, so they like the tried and true (her [stable]) rather than the new and spontaneous (me [unstable]).

my girl friend is dating a taurus that does the exact same thing, but this one likes to come around when she starts losing interest. once he gets her hooked again, he disappears!

believe me, these taurus men are surrounded by women. they're attractive and know it. personally, that back and forth stuff is just too much for me. i don't have the patience (aries moon) which is what it takes, plus perseverance, to win these guys over.

I've never posted before and I don't know too much about taurus men but let me tell you. I have been involved with a taurus guy for about 8 months, and I must say it is a challenge. This guy pursued me like crazy at the beginning until I finally agreed to date him. The relationship was going very well no issues, no complaints, then boom! he didnt call or anything and after a couple of time, I refused to call him. A month later he called me and again, He said he had personal issues that he had to deal with. we began where we left off. He said he really cared about me and we began making plans for comittment yada yada. After a couple of months,boom! It happened again. This time he really gave no explanation. I called him several weeks later and it was like nothing ever happened. He said he still cares for me but gives no explanation for disappearing. We used to talk on the phone daily now its like once a week or every other week. If I stop calling him, he'll definitely call me. I decided to give him his space and see other guys. In my opinion, I think he's a bit selfish and self centered. The chemistry is so awsome, but I feel like he needs space to decide what he wants. In the meantime I get to enjoy life and possibly find me a scorpio. The taurus is my love but you can't wait forever.

An update.....

He claims he is broke and can't afford to take me out right now. Whatever! Yesterday, we had a talk. And I felt he really opened up about what's been going on in his life. His parents are divorcing and he don't want to choose sides, money issues and such.. and he said the only good thing about this year so far was that he met me. He said we would hang out that night. He went out of the way to introduce me to his best friend as well. Thought this was a good sign. So we talk right before he got out of work and he says he was going to hang out with "the boys". I'm pissed and he can tell and asks me what's wrong...if I'm upset that he is hanging out with his friends. DUH! I said I just don't get you. He says not to worry that we will hang out soon. I said whatever and hung up. He calls today and wants to act like nothing is wrong. I'm at my wits end and don't plan on answering his calls anymore.

sigh. no this isnt "typical taurus behavior". this guys just doesnt have his priorities in order and hasnt completely grown up. he doesnt know what the hell he wants. im a classified by those with too much time on their hands as a taurus. i dont act like this. you shouldnt judge that large a person of the WORLD by the foolish acts of one person

I have had a similar experience as Piscesswan with a Taurus guy. We live about 5 hrs from each other and we are basically internet dating with the exception of one weekend get together back in OCT. Our "relationship" has now finally progressed to the occasional phone call, when before it was just emails. However before the phone call promotion he disappeared for 6 weeks, no email , nothing! So I figured it was the big blow off, after all I did sleep with him on our first "date" - even though we emailed for months before the date. I am a Pisces and I am now emotionally attached to this guy, but I am nervous that he will pull the same thing after our next get together which may be in a couple of weeks. It is really hard to read this guy. I feel something was triggered in him over the holiday break, perhaps his visit to family - sister and brother both happily married and him being 47 has never been married. who knows, i am just taking it one day at a time, still leaving all options open (ie: dating others if the opp arises).