Hi I hope someone will able to give advice about a Taurus I used to see.
Cut a long story shorter, I came out of a long marriage and met a Taurus on a dating site. We had a first date and I don't think I was majorly attracted to him but he seemed such a warm person so I agreed to see him again.
On our 2nd meeting we had a dvd evening and it was lovely, things did go a little fat and we ended up sleeping together.
We had a wonderful 3rd date after this where he cooked me my favourite meal, bought me champagne and roses and was generally just amazing. I stayed over this night.
We clicked we laughed so much together and just seemed to naturally gel together. I'm a Leo by the way.
Next Morning he was working from home and I went home. He messages throughout the day to say he was still working.
Next morning the weather was bad, I messaged him to say be careful driving and he was fine. We had made plans that week. He said he couldn't stop looking at me and how easy I would be to fall in love with. He was going away with work the end of that month and wanted me to go with him.
Needless to say I was shocked when I got a text from him that evening saying he had 2nd thoughts and he wasn't ready for a relationship. It's not you its me kind of stuff.
I replied and said I was shocked, I felt we had something there. Was it just me? He said it wasn't just me.
That was it then. Then a week later I find out I am pregnant. Totally shocked as all my children had grown up and he was in his fifties too.
He went ballistic, said id done it to trap him and he never wants anything to do with the baby.
He never ever will. And if I contact him again he will get me done for harassment.
This went on for months, arguing. Him not believing I was pregnant. He even said at one point he will report me as a bad mother and get custody of his baby. The one he didn't want.
Last contact was 36 weeks pregnant.
Our baby daughter is now 15 weeks old. He blocks me if I message him. I've sent him pictures. I know he's seen them. He has a daughter he dotes on. It just hurts that he wants nothing to do with her. I'm not after money. I earn my own and am financially ok looking after my baby.
I ended up back with my husband who is now raising this beautiful girl as his own.
Why can't I get over this man? His baby wants for nothing. I thought Taurus men made great fathers?
I suppose I'm wondering what's going through his mind? I will never know?
Can anyone offer me any insight into
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Mar 15, 2011Comments: 59 · Posts: 1755 · Topics: 94
Yeah, well he's fifty years old, probably "happily married" with grown children. To come out with a newborn baby would put shame to him and his family and bring to light all the things he was doing in the dark hoping no one would find out. you're the other women. whether Taurus men make good fathers is a toss up but from this man's reaction, he has something to hide. get past these feelings, be happy with your husband and sue him for child support. Don't let him walk away from his responsibilities because he's the Taurus man of your dreams. (you're the sidechick, you're not even a mistress)
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Dec 17, 2014Comments: 0 · Posts: 1295 · Topics: 10
Whether or not hes married I would become very, very aggressive with this. First thing is see a lawyer and find out what your rights are. You're gainfully employed now, but life happens and you want to make sure your baby gets EVERYTHING she is entitled to from both parents. He needs to suck it up and shoulder the responsibility, HE got you pregnant. It sounds like he may be married if he did blame you for it. You need a lot of support here, I would become aggressive with legal issues (child support, paternity tests etc.) and if he's married you do need to have a sit-down with his wife once you have all the evidence gathered.
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Dec 17, 2014Comments: 0 · Posts: 1295 · Topics: 10
It maybe uncomfortable but you need to do everything you can for your baby! Its not about game or ego here, there is another life involved.
He is definately not married, I was at his house.
There was no woman living there, i could see that. He had been married and he was divorced. That marriage resulted in his daughter who he dotes on.
Whatever his reason is, he just cut me dead with no explanation. I would be very shocked if he was with someone. 5 months after we split he was back on the same dating site looking for a relationship.
His daughter is his absolute double, you can see she's his without a doubt.
I suppose I just wondered whether he would ever change his mind and come looking for his daughter.
Oh I forgot to add the last contact we had, he said he had lost his job and he couldn't find another one. So he was having to move down south back to his moms to find a job.
I don't know what to believe now. If there was any indication that he was married, which there honestly wasn't. I would never ever have got involved in this situation.
My baby girl is the most happiest, beautiful baby and I totally adore her. The best thing to come out of all this.
I just can't believe he behaved that way.
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Dec 17, 2014Comments: 0 · Posts: 1295 · Topics: 10
I figured he wasn't married, I put the clause in just in case..
I would go to a lawyer to find out all my rights and choices ASAP before he disappears, this doesn't look good, he obviously did his research and he could be lying to avoid his parental responsibility because it could be huge. You need to protect your daughter forget about him.
I know you love your child but life is full of emergencies and surprises, he may never be the father you want him to be put perhaps he could contribute financially or with insurance or other ways... you don't know what happens you could get layed off one day or sick and then what.
You gotta put your kid first.
Your very right. It's something I had considered but then thought what's the point, I never looked at the chance of anything happening to us but you don't know what's around the corner do you?
Yes he said he knew everything about me and had been looking at my daughters social networking site, and there was no mention of the pregnancy there.
He could still be working for all I know, he won't answer me even though I can see the message has been read. I thought older men was more mature. How wrong was I. My baby comes first and I will do what is best for her future. I will make all the relevant enquiries tomorrow. Thank you for your advice. It's much appreciated.
Yes I suppose I never really thought of this. I think I just couldnt get over the fact he didn't want anything to do with his child.
We will soon know.
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Jun 20, 2014Comments: 1 · Posts: 3847 · Topics: 1
To me it sounds like you literally had a few dates together, one of which resulted in you becoming pregnant. That's not long enough to really know someone let alone long enough to bring a child into the world. One only assumes the condom unknowingly split, birth control pills were missed and/or the morning after pill failed.
That's correct, the morning after pill failed.
Yes we did only have a few dates. But was in constant contact all the time. When I look back now I really didn't know him. But I have faced up and dealt with my responsibilities.
My daughter is so loved, she's my world.
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Jun 20, 2014Comments: 1 · Posts: 3847 · Topics: 1
Jesus, men would put their dicks in a beehive if it were free!
Condoms people, condoms.
Casual sex with strangers without condoms may lead to STI's and/or babies.
Really I never knew that ha ha. I made a mistake and got carried away in the heat of the moment. As I have said I have faced my responsibilities. Something's things happen.