Cancergoddess
@Cancergoddess
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Are they REALLY this Predictable?!?!?!?
He probably didn't even play the youtube clip, when people send me that kind of crap on my Phone I never check it out. I'm also as guilty as he is about going radio silent, somethings need to be discussed, but the majority of things in a relationship whether it be friends or otherwise seem to be trivial at best and don't warrant a response.
Posted by Sehd510
He probably didn't even play the youtube clip, when people send me that kind of crap on my Phone I never check it out. I'm also as guilty as he is about going radio silent, somethings need to be discussed, but the majority of things in a relationship whether it be friends or otherwise seem to be trivial at best and don't warrant a response.
you're in CALI? Me too! I live in San Francisco.... Cool
CancerGoddess... Where in SF are you if you don't mind me asking—
You have to chill out and stop analysing everything too much. It's not healthy. Sometimes people have other stuff to do. Focus on what you are getting and not on what you feel you're not getting. As in, you had a nice night together. It's one day or whatever and you're complaining he's not dedicating hours to messaging you the next day.
Clearly you need a constant stream of attention/assurance or whatever you want to call it but he's a man, they don't work like us women.
You said you're just starting to get close and now he's pulling away... Ever heard of men are from Mars, women are from Venus? It really is quite true. Check it out. The rubber band theory is spot on.
I've noticed my Taurus is sometimes more attentive/loving and is open to me and then once he's had his emotional fill he'll back off a bit. I don't see it as hot or cold or disappearing but others may see it as this.
On Sunday we exchange quite a few very nice messages. There's much distance between us at the moment so unfortunately it's mainly text. Then I left him alone. I had stuff to do, hectic week at work. He text me a 'hi, thinking of you etc' message on Thursday to which I replied a few hours later with a short but sweet message and asked how he was. He hasn't replied. I've left it. I'm not going to badger him or chase him. He's got the message. If he wants to reply he will. He has not replied before but only on a couple of occasions. At those times I've just left it for a few days then if still no reply I'll drop him a 'thinking of you' type message to let him know I'm still here and he usually responds to that.
Generally, he responds 90% of the time within a reasonable time frame. Sometimes he's busy. Sometimes I'm busy. It doesn't mean we like each other any less.
Your first message didn't warrant a response. Personally, I wouldn't send or watch stuff like that plus your comment about 'stay in lane' is probably going to go over his head. It's unnecessary to send that. What you might think is funny or relevant may not be the same for him.
11 hours later and you're waiting on a response that isn't going to come.
You text him again to ask how he was and 3 hours later he replies. That's pretty good in my book plus he enquired after you and you replied, no doubt immediately! The conversation naturally ended. You wanted loving but he was probably tired after work.
You still worry too much. Relax.
Clearly you need a constant stream of attention/assurance or whatever you want to call it but he's a man, they don't work like us women.
You said you're just starting to get close and now he's pulling away... Ever heard of men are from Mars, women are from Venus? It really is quite true. Check it out. The rubber band theory is spot on.
I've noticed my Taurus is sometimes more attentive/loving and is open to me and then once he's had his emotional fill he'll back off a bit. I don't see it as hot or cold or disappearing but others may see it as this.
On Sunday we exchange quite a few very nice messages. There's much distance between us at the moment so unfortunately it's mainly text. Then I left him alone. I had stuff to do, hectic week at work. He text me a 'hi, thinking of you etc' message on Thursday to which I replied a few hours later with a short but sweet message and asked how he was. He hasn't replied. I've left it. I'm not going to badger him or chase him. He's got the message. If he wants to reply he will. He has not replied before but only on a couple of occasions. At those times I've just left it for a few days then if still no reply I'll drop him a 'thinking of you' type message to let him know I'm still here and he usually responds to that.
Generally, he responds 90% of the time within a reasonable time frame. Sometimes he's busy. Sometimes I'm busy. It doesn't mean we like each other any less.
Your first message didn't warrant a response. Personally, I wouldn't send or watch stuff like that plus your comment about 'stay in lane' is probably going to go over his head. It's unnecessary to send that. What you might think is funny or relevant may not be the same for him.
11 hours later and you're waiting on a response that isn't going to come.
You text him again to ask how he was and 3 hours later he replies. That's pretty good in my book plus he enquired after you and you replied, no doubt immediately! The conversation naturally ended. You wanted loving but he was probably tired after work.
You still worry too much. Relax.
Posted by Cancergoddess
I mean come on now!!!!
Ya gotta be kidding me!
My Taurus man up and disappeared on my yesterday. I mean I texted him that early morning while I was getting ready for work and said:
ME: "Good Morning. Some funny humor for the day....(I inserted a YouTube link & the video is below) Stay in your lane boo lol, ttyl."
HIM: (no response)
*11 hours go by....*
ME: "Hey handsome, how is work?"
*3 hours later....*
HIM: "I literally just got off, whew, long day, yourself?"
ME: "Oh ok. My day was productive"
And that was it..... It is the next day and I still have not heard from him. This is very surprising behavior, especially since it was seeming like we were bonding and getting so close. He was suppose to come by last night, but I guess he didn't want to. However, yesterday he did manage to spend 2 hours on that damn dating site!!! I am so happy I did not sleep with him yet. Just like Taurus' I don't like change either. And this sudden cut off of communication (or slowing down of it) is a bit sketchy to me.
You all always say this is common with Taurus'.... I am hoping things will return to normal. I have things I want to discuss with him, but it doesn't seem like the appropriate time now.
anyway.... Enjoy this funny YouTube video 😉
If a guy I just started dating sent me this video, I would go silent too.
Why? Because it's immature and inappropriate.
It's a bit much for a couple just getting to know each other.
Do you have something you want to ask or say to him about where you stand with him?
Because that video is about a guy dealing with women demanding more time, too soon when he isn't really ready or that interested.
Why would you send him that? He might be a bit confused.
Maybe he sees you as one of those women. Awkward!!
You may come off as a silly female to him now.
Who knows, maybe he didn't get a chance to see it.
Posted by CancergoddessPosted by Sehd510
He probably didn't even play the youtube clip, when people send me that kind of crap on my Phone I never check it out. I'm also as guilty as he is about going radio silent, somethings need to be discussed, but the majority of things in a relationship whether it be friends or otherwise seem to be trivial at best and don't warrant a response.
you're in CALI? Me too! I live in San Francisco.... Coolclick to expand
San Francisco is only about 44 Minutes away from me or 38.2 ish Miles. Although techically I'm in the "East Bay", Newark is in the most southern part of the East Bay surrounded by Fremont and Union City, the Dumbarton Bridge connects to the 84 which runs along side my Town. I only explain all this because a lot of people don't even know Newark Exists, LOL.
People who have lived in California or even the Bay Area all their lives have never heard of my town. And we were incorporated in 1955. Sad.
Topic of the video is to much for the two persons that just started something romantically. No matter is it funny or not. Dunno what type of humor he is into, but highly doubt it's relationship problems humor with the person he just strated seeing. Imo Som guys can be a bit scared of it.
this video is very awkward, not even mention to send this to the guy you just started seeing..
I don't think it's appropriate at all..
and with that comment you made in the end of text, maybe it's funny to you and you didn't mean anything
but if I was the guy, I would think you are trying to tell me something, and made it sounded like you don't trust me.
not a smart move.
I don't think it's appropriate at all..
and with that comment you made in the end of text, maybe it's funny to you and you didn't mean anything
but if I was the guy, I would think you are trying to tell me something, and made it sounded like you don't trust me.
not a smart move.
Haha, I have had a very similar experience with my Taurus...Many people don't get Taurus, but they are actually one of the most easy signs to understand. And yes, they are that predictable! I am a Libra and I'm not shooting out of my a $ $ , but I have a lot of experience with Taurus men. 70% of my male friends are of Taurus. They are very attracted to me for some reason -- probably because my Ascendant is in Scorpio. But anyway, they are considered patient and loyal folks -- and in fact, they are. But they are always looking at the big picture. ALWAYS! They think of themselves in the future ALL the time, mainly if they have feelings for someone or they want to get a routine with them or not. He thinks, "Is this where I want to be in the future? Should I put my full effort in this one?....Let me look around some more." Taurus men have a reputation of using people, like a drink or a blanket. Taurus is considered the most loyal sign but I always hear about Taurus "seeing someone" but looking for others on the side. Its the most annoying thing! Taurus also tends to be one of the most withdrawn signs -- they are known for doing this -- and quite frankly, I think they do this because they are looking for the best future for themselves. I'm not hating on Taurus - I'm hating when they do this -- they are actually very considerate and loving people, which is another reason why they don't break it off and snoop behind the partners back! I'm not saying he is cheating, just giving a warning. And I think he read the text, he just had nothing to say about it or he was too lazy to watch the video??_..Deep, deep, deep inside a Taurus, I think they are looking with their eyes and minds for partners -- in a very snake-like way, but true love comes from familiarity and warmth with someone for them - when he loves someone without questioning himself. Be patient with them, or don't take Taurus seriously until he takes you seriously.
And my advice to you, Taurus will used Cancer because Cancer is a passive and usually, nurturing person. But??_soon are later, Cancer people do tend to throw out a feeling of misuse on this to Taurus -- in a good way -- and this will normally make the Taurus feel more conscious and understanding. It happens.
And my advice to you, Taurus will used Cancer because Cancer is a passive and usually, nurturing person. But??_soon are later, Cancer people do tend to throw out a feeling of misuse on this to Taurus -- in a good way -- and this will normally make the Taurus feel more conscious and understanding. It happens.
Thank you all for your input. I'm about convinced that this taurus man just dropped me! Zero contact yesterday and today... I'm done. I think it's highly selfish and inconsiderate for ANY man to behave in this manner. Not attractive at all. And the video I sent had nothing to do with it. We were talking the night before I sent him that video about comedy and the funny comedians we enjoyed to watch and funny YouTube videos.
I'm done making excuses for this grown man's behavior.
Adios
I'm done making excuses for this grown man's behavior.
Adios
OMG!!!! And just when I thought all hope was gone... It's not!!!
He called me this evening and told me that he was at work all week and his schedule changed a lot and that he didn't forget about me and he's going to come over my place tomorrow to spend time with me before he has to go to work. I wasn't forgotten after all. Im in love 🙂 . I wasn't abandoned. You all don't know how happy thistles me feel. Yes I know, I'm a mess... But I'm a woman who has her guard up and is still working on herself. In the process of dating him I want to learn how to trust again and let my guard down. Lord help me!!!! #dontjudgeme
He called me this evening and told me that he was at work all week and his schedule changed a lot and that he didn't forget about me and he's going to come over my place tomorrow to spend time with me before he has to go to work. I wasn't forgotten after all. Im in love 🙂 . I wasn't abandoned. You all don't know how happy thistles me feel. Yes I know, I'm a mess... But I'm a woman who has her guard up and is still working on herself. In the process of dating him I want to learn how to trust again and let my guard down. Lord help me!!!! #dontjudgeme
Thistles = this makes
Posted by Cancergoddess
Thistles = this makes
I am happy you are happy...Taurus always comes back. But if he just hurt you, don't let your guard down. You seem like a nice lady, but be careful. 🙂
Posted by champranger
No offense intended OP, but I think you tend to jump to conclusions much too quick ...
This is very true! But it deals more with my past experiences... Something I am trying to change.
I was smitten with a Libra once, it didn't turn out good. She went a little nuts and self destructive due to personal life issues and decided to live her life dangerously by hooking up with random dudes at clubs. With me, she had Security and Stability, I was her rock but she had a freakout over her parents divorce and went rogue.
Now she's an Alcoholic, Drug Addicted, Slag for lack of a better, more positive description. If she had stayed with this Bull her life would have turned out much better. I avoid Libras like the plague, now. I do have a Weakness for Leos, but I kinda enjoy playing with fire!
Now she's an Alcoholic, Drug Addicted, Slag for lack of a better, more positive description. If she had stayed with this Bull her life would have turned out much better. I avoid Libras like the plague, now. I do have a Weakness for Leos, but I kinda enjoy playing with fire!
Posted by Cancergoddess
However, yesterday he did manage to spend 2 hours on that damn dating site!!! I am so happy I did not sleep with him yet. Just like Taurus' I don't like change either. And this sudden cut off of communication (or slowing down of it) is a bit sketchy to me.
Classic... It reminds me of the joke about the young bull and the old bull... the young bull said lets go down and have sex with one of the cows and run away... the old bull said lets walk down and have sex with them all... it is what it is and you fell for it...
It is so funny to me because woman often love the attention of other men when they are not around... if you are just dating and not his gf... then maybe he does not think he is doing anything wrong... tech. if he is just talking to other women... he has done little more then a woman liking letting or encouraging attention from other men...
It is even more interesting because as girls get older they learn this slowly...
In my mind Bulls once locked down will be extremely loyal... however you did not lock him down... Earth signs do place a bit on sex and how good it is for them as well... I am not saying jump in the sack with him... But don't be upset when girls do this all the time... when they are younger and good looking it is only as they get older they realize they only want one guy or really the loyalty of one guy often still willing to except the attention from others... to make them feel good...
As men get older... they gain more though work... and the better ones set themselves apart and guess what you have to actually compete for his attention because just being good looking is not enough...
Sucks getting older and wanting a real relationship as a woman...
PM
Posted by Sehd510
I was smitten with a Libra once, it didn't turn out good. She went a little nuts and self destructive due to personal life issues and decided to live her life dangerously by hooking up with random dudes at clubs. With me, she had Security and Stability, I was her rock but she had a freakout over her parents divorce and went rogue.
Now she's an Alcoholic, Drug Addicted, Slag for lack of a better, more positive description. If she had stayed with this Bull her life would have turned out much better. I avoid Libras like the plague, now. I do have a Weakness for Leos, but I kinda enjoy playing with fire!
someone you should want to be with. Noooo. But if she wants to live like a bum, she is missing out.
Weak Libra. Any sign can fall into a destructive life style . And she probably looked to all of these alternatives because she was suffering from this signs famous indecision. She doesn't sound like someone you should want to be with. Noooo. But if she wants to live like a bum, she is missing out.
Posted by Cancergoddess
OMG!!!! And just when I thought all hope was gone... It's not!!!
He called me this evening and told me that he was at work all week and his schedule changed a lot and that he didn't forget about me and he's going to come over my place tomorrow to spend time with me before he has to go to work. I wasn't forgotten after all. Im in love 🙂 . I wasn't abandoned. You all don't know how happy thistles me feel. Yes I know, I'm a mess... But I'm a woman who has her guard up and is still working on herself. In the process of dating him I want to learn how to trust again and let my guard down. Lord help me!!!! #dontjudgeme
Sounds like you have a real solid guy on your side. Work always comes first for me and sometimes when I'm too busy I can put other things on the back burner for a while. This is what we do. Do not take offense to it. Allow us as men to get our stuff in order so that we can better prepare for our future and the woman we plan to share it with. Sounds like you have his heart, even though you haven't given him the goods yet. Be patient!!
I can't stress that enough. Let your guard down. And give him the goods lol. Good luck
Hilarious video by the way! I doubt if he took offense to it.
hello cancergoddess,
You have lots of drama and this will create your emotional outburst in the future. You seems very
young. A matured woman knows when and how to lose an a $ $ hole guy but you have to be very careful
of your assumptions. lol.
Posted by M143
hello cancergoddess,
You have lots of drama and this will create your emotional outburst in the future. You seems very
young. A matured woman knows when and how to lose an a $ $ hole guy but you have to be very careful
of your assumptions. lol.
Last time I checked, I am the only one who has lived thru my past relationship experiences. Therefore to classify me as a "young" girl is a bit far fetched. I do not trust easily as many of you on this post do. Just as I do not have sex with a man in the beginning of our courtship for validation as a lot of the fellow posters have done. I expect the best but am always prepared and thinking of the worst. I have a lot of class and morals (something my taurus said he admired about me). However, my true nature is that of a worrier. Maybe it stems from being a single mom (Divorced), maybe it stems from something else, idk. But I will say that I am drawn to him very deeply. When we are together physically or even talking on the phone, a sense of calmness comes over me. The worryiness fades... After our talk last night he has been consistent all day with calls and handsome work selfies. My appreciation to him would be to show that I understand him completely. I come to this site with flaws and all to get my questions answered... Thus far, the majority of you have accomplished this for me.
Thank you _??_
cancergoddess,
I would assumed you are more matured if you behave more calmly and steady. Being a single mom
is tough situation where you prioritize your kids more than worrying your suitors.
and to tell dxp people you don't trust is that because you don't have trust to
yourself. You cannot give what you don't possessed. Given some people are really manipulative
but asking here in this forum and tell us you don't trust us sounds you have problem within
yourself.
Another "critic" taking my words out of contexts.. I'm done explaining myself to you. But have a good evening _??_
I'll tell you what my brother, my sister, and my friend are all zodiac signs falls cancer.
They are very immature in dealing problems. yes... good night and stop doing all the drama
if you want to work out your relationship.
Haha, I kind of funny and ironic coming from a Scorpio = the kings and queens of DRAMA lol
On to the next!
On to the next!
Congratulations and about bloody time!!!!! :-)
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Ya gotta be kidding me!
My Taurus man up and disappeared on my yesterday. I mean I texted him that early morning while I was getting ready for work and said:
ME: "Good Morning. Some funny humor for the day....(I inserted a YouTube link & the video is below) Stay in your lane boo lol, ttyl."
HIM: (no response)
*11 hours go by....*
ME: "Hey handsome, how is work?"
*3 hours later....*
HIM: "I literally just got off, whew, long day, yourself?"
ME: "Oh ok. My day was productive"
And that was it..... It is the next day and I still have not heard from him. This is very surprising behavior, especially since it was seeming like we were bonding and getting so close. He was suppose to come by last night, but I guess he didn't want to. However, yesterday he did manage to spend 2 hours on that damn dating site!!! I am so happy I did not sleep with him yet. Just like Taurus' I don't like change either. And this sudden cut off of communication (or slowing down of it) is a bit sketchy to me.
You all always say this is common with Taurus'.... I am hoping things will return to normal. I have things I want to discuss with him, but it doesn't seem like the appropriate time now.
anyway.... Enjoy this funny YouTube video 😉