jane84
@jane84
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Balloons, flowers, and a small cake
Fixed never lets go. Even if the romance is over, love remains.
Weird.
sounds normal if you had a normal marriage that ended amicably. he just still cares about you.
Posted by Arielle83Most of our marriage? Nice
Is he genuinely nice or a manipulator?
The ending.. He was just plain horrible.. Not a manipulator though. More like selfish and then abusive when drunk.
Posted by AbbyNormalHe's my ex husband. I moved work and homes. I do not contact him. He looked up where I work now.. And sent it to me.
sounds normal if they had a normal marriage that ended amicably. use your intuition tho and talk to him about anything that bothers you about it. it's not worth building resentments over and I think he'd agree and try to avoid any unpleasantries with you. you both will have to talk and compromise if he chooses to keep contact with her.
Posted by sultrykittyI guess so.. It's been 2 years. Last birthday he sent me a gift, flowers, and a letter. I moved work because of it.
Fixed never lets go. Even if the romance is over, love remains.
Posted by jane84yeah I reread and tried to edit. mah bad...Posted by AbbyNormalHe's my ex husband. I moved work and homes. I do not contact him. He looked up where I work now.. And sent it to me.
sounds normal if they had a normal marriage that ended amicably. use your intuition tho and talk to him about anything that bothers you about it. it's not worth building resentments over and I think he'd agree and try to avoid any unpleasantries with you. you both will have to talk and compromise if he chooses to keep contact with her.click to expand
Posted by AbbyNormalIt ended horribly.
sounds normal if you had a normal marriage that ended amicably. he just still cares about you.
But how long will it take then for this to stop?
Posted by AbbyNormalSorry, I responded and then saw you edited it. LolPosted by jane84yeah I reread and tried to edit. mah bad...Posted by AbbyNormalHe's my ex husband. I moved work and homes. I do not contact him. He looked up where I work now.. And sent it to me.
sounds normal if they had a normal marriage that ended amicably. use your intuition tho and talk to him about anything that bothers you about it. it's not worth building resentments over and I think he'd agree and try to avoid any unpleasantries with you. you both will have to talk and compromise if he chooses to keep contact with her.click to expand
Posted by jane84this is definitely unhealthy. you have made strict boundaries for contact for your own reasons and he is not respecting that. he's obviously not in a good place for himself or he would be respecting your wishes. it's probably best to take action like a restraining order if you start to feel unsafe because of this unwanted, unwarranted contact. what he may seem as nice and caring is actually emotional manipulation and a power play. you need to at least make it clear once again that he is not to contact you for any reason (I can see if you share a child but really there's not much more than that to be excused).Posted by AbbyNormalHe's my ex husband. I moved work and homes. I do not contact him. He looked up where I work now.. And sent it to me.
sounds normal if they had a normal marriage that ended amicably. use your intuition tho and talk to him about anything that bothers you about it. it's not worth building resentments over and I think he'd agree and try to avoid any unpleasantries with you. you both will have to talk and compromise if he chooses to keep contact with her.click to expand
Posted by jane84it won't until you make it absolutely clear that it must, that his attention is unwanted. and even then, depending on how low he is, you may consider a restraining order just even as a final, tangible step for him to HAVE to obey or suffer consequences of the law.Posted by AbbyNormalIt ended horribly.
sounds normal if you had a normal marriage that ended amicably. he just still cares about you.
But how long will it take then for this to stop?
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Posted by Arielle83Yeah maybe. But geez it's been 2 years. I'm happy and moving on. But that could be it. I just wished he stop.Posted by jane84Then maybe he's doing it to rectify his guilt for being such a c.unt?Posted by Arielle83Most of our marriage? Nice
Is he genuinely nice or a manipulator?
The ending.. He was just plain horrible.. Not a manipulator though. More like selfish and then abusive when drunk.click to expand
Posted by AbbyNormalYeah I tried to civil before as birthdays aren't the only times he's tried to contact me. But today I made it clear he needs to stop. The problem is his whole family loves me. His Mom and I were super close and he is super close to his Mom. I think that has made him want to try and keep me in his life? I have no idea. But you're right. He is the most stubborn man on this planet. I might have to do that.Posted by jane84it won't until you make it absolutely clear that it must, that his attention is unwanted. and even then, depending on how low he is, you may consider a restraining order just even as a final, tangible step for him to HAVE to obey or suffer consequences of the law.Posted by AbbyNormalIt ended horribly.
sounds normal if you had a normal marriage that ended amicably. he just still cares about you.
But how long will it take then for this to stop?
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Posted by littlenanobyteThat's what I'm saying? Like his new gf isn't pissed that he's sending me all this and having it delivered?? I don't understand.
Tbh at first I was going to say it was sweet but then I thought about it for a minute, and I came to the conclusion that if my boyfriend's ex wife did this or he did this for her, I would fckin lose it
I even told him this. There's no way I'd be ok with that. I mean if you happen to see them and say Happy Birthday then fine, but that's a little much. And I'm happy..
It wouldn't be an issue if it was like a one time thing to say I'm sorry. That's it. But 2 years later?? This I don't understand
Posted by ExplicitI know that mask of his well. I will not go back. I'm happy where I am in life. I don't even feel like this is respectful to my new relationship.
Typical.
The person that things ended with thought it was going to be greener on the other side... And then he realized the reality! And now he has the nerve to be sending you stuff when you're both in different relationships. Disgusting.
And this is where some people get weak, end up taking dirt bags like this back, then the dirt bag gets comfortable and goes back to his douchey ways.
I say ignore him!
Posted by littlenanobyteHe doesn't like it, but we just hit a year and I think he's more looking to see my reaction right now. And I would just ignore it if I was single or tell him to stop, but I'm not and I don't want him to think I'm ok with it or am somehow making this happen. It's not cool.Posted by jane84All hell would break lose! What did your boyfriend think?Posted by littlenanobyteThat's what I'm saying? Like his new gf isn't pissed that he's sending me all this and having it delivered?? I don't understand.
Tbh at first I was going to say it was sweet but then I thought about it for a minute, and I came to the conclusion that if my boyfriend's ex wife did this or he did this for her, I would fckin lose it
I even told him this. There's no way I'd be ok with that. I mean if you happen to see them and say Happy Birthday then fine, but that's a little much. And I'm happy..
It wouldn't be an issue if it was like a one time thing to say I'm sorry. That's it. But 2 years later?? This I don't understandclick to expand
So finally came here for advice.. Maybe a restraining order is necessary.
Posted by jane84I wouldn't make too much of it, unless he harasses you for a response. I think it's nice (unless3ss you separated under bad circumstances). Probably not necessarily trying to get you back or anything.Posted by sultrykittyI guess so.. It's been 2 years. Last birthday he sent me a gift, flowers, and a letter. I moved work because of it.
Fixed never lets go. Even if the romance is over, love remains.click to expand
Meh, just read the rest of the thread. Personally, I think a restraining order is a bit much.
If it hasn't escalated to stalking or making you feel unsafe, it's an abuse of the courts.
If you don't like it, tell him so, and throw the stuff away. Don't entertain any discussion about it.
If it hasn't escalated to stalking or making you feel unsafe, it's an abuse of the courts.
If you don't like it, tell him so, and throw the stuff away. Don't entertain any discussion about it.
Posted by jane84omg. yes it makes it loads more difficult when the family loves you ( most likely bc you were the best thing that ever happened to him). simply put, it's not your problem anymore though. distance yourself in all ways possible or he will continue to try to "keep you" in his life.Posted by AbbyNormalYeah I tried to civil before as birthdays aren't the only times he's tried to contact me. But today I made it clear he needs to stop. The problem is his whole family loves me. His Mom and I were super close and he is super close to his Mom. I think that has made him want to try and keep me in his life? I have no idea. But you're right. He is the most stubborn man on this planet. I might have to do that.Posted by jane84it won't until you make it absolutely clear that it must, that his attention is unwanted. and even then, depending on how low he is, you may consider a restraining order just even as a final, tangible step for him to HAVE to obey or suffer consequences of the law.Posted by AbbyNormalIt ended horribly.
sounds normal if you had a normal marriage that ended amicably. he just still cares about you.
But how long will it take then for this to stop?
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Posted by tiziani?Posted by AbbyNormalIt's acceptably not optimal, that's for sure.
sounds normal if you had a normal marriage that ended amicably. he just still cares about you.click to expand
How did he 'look up' and find where you worked? Limit the personal info you share on social media so he can't look you up again.
Posted by AgentP911I happened to win an award at my new job. He was able to google my name with my city and state and it pops up since they put me on their website.
How did he 'look up' and find where you worked? Limit the personal info you share on social media so he can't look you up again.
Posted by Redoctober2000I'm sure not all of them are. But you know what the crazy thing is? When I tell him what I think of his ways, he says stuff like "well I'm a Taurus." ?
When I left my ex hubby... I left without a trace..... Changed everything number, job, the works.
U didn't realise Taurus men were like this.. . But not all of them are.... My Taurus friend of 27 cut his ex out of his life and doesn't even want her name mentioned.
But cut me out his life? No. That's the opposite of what's going to happen.. Even though he needs to so he can move on like I did.
Posted by leowwwYeah I have done that. Just threw it away, didn't say anything. It continues. Just threw me off when I got a couple of deliveries to work and one was from him, when I thought he didn't know where I worked. Afterwards I did the Google search and knew that's how he found me.Posted by jane84It's weird. Definitely strange.Posted by AbbyNormalIt ended horribly.
sounds normal if you had a normal marriage that ended amicably. he just still cares about you.
But how long will it take then for this to stop?
How, don't acknowledge it.
As bad as it sounds you have better chances he'll stop.click to expand
But at least this time he didn't actually come to my work. He did that before when I worked at the other place.
Weird as fuuuuuck
Posted by jane84Gutting! But congrats on the award. He's super stalker level! As a Scorp, I'm proud of him! ? Must be irritating though if he's in contact.Posted by AgentP911I happened to win an award at my new job. He was able to google my name with my city and state and it pops up since they put me on their website.
How did he 'look up' and find where you worked? Limit the personal info you share on social media so he can't look you up again.click to expand
Posted by leowwwIt definitley didn't end on his terms. I agree with you.Posted by jane84Yikes. Good for you though! Don't pay mind to whatever he sends you.Posted by leowwwYeah I have done that. Just threw it away, didn't say anything. It continues. Just threw me off when I got a couple of deliveries to work and one was from him, when I thought he didn't know where I worked. Afterwards I did the Google search and knew that's how he found me.Posted by jane84It's weird. Definitely strange.Posted by AbbyNormalIt ended horribly.
sounds normal if you had a normal marriage that ended amicably. he just still cares about you.
But how long will it take then for this to stop?
How, don't acknowledge it.
As bad as it sounds you have better chances he'll stop.
But at least this time he didn't actually come to my work. He did that before when I worked at the other place.
He's Taurus yea? I'll tell you something, they say fire men are explosive or Water men are too sensitive...but Earth men...when it's not over on their own terms, they can become quite scary.
Be careful, he sounds creepy.
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My exhusband does things like that, it's because he cares and thinks your current boyfriend won't do that and you deserve it. Just be gracious and say thank you.
The stalker part is a little weird though...sorry didn't see that before. I would question it
Jane84,
He still not over yet. But if I were you I will tell him to stop and save your current relationship.
I shared you something part of being a snooper,
I saw an old email coming from an ex wife of my bull I am living With saying " thank you for greeting me on my birthday, I dont ask anything from an ex husband other than the flowers he sent". So he sent her flowers and greeted her.
I had a chance to asked him if he ever cried once. He said "yes"Divorced from first wife.15 yrs of marriage.
He still not over yet. But if I were you I will tell him to stop and save your current relationship.
I shared you something part of being a snooper,
I saw an old email coming from an ex wife of my bull I am living With saying " thank you for greeting me on my birthday, I dont ask anything from an ex husband other than the flowers he sent". So he sent her flowers and greeted her.
I had a chance to asked him if he ever cried once. He said "yes"Divorced from first wife.15 yrs of marriage.
Posted by LibrajeanIs your ex husband a taurus?
My exhusband does things like that, it's because he cares and thinks your current boyfriend won't do that and you deserve it. Just be gracious and say thank you.
Posted by M143He is a Taurus, but we have a child together. We are old friends and care about each other because of our daughter.Posted by LibrajeanIs your ex husband a taurus?
My exhusband does things like that, it's because he cares and thinks your current boyfriend won't do that and you deserve it. Just be gracious and say thank you.
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Posted by M143Yeah I told him to stop. I've done that before too..
Jane84,
He still not over yet. But if I were you I will tell him to stop and save your current relationship.
I shared you something part of being a snooper,
I saw an old email coming from an ex wife of my bull I am living With saying " thank you for greeting me on my birthday, I dont ask anything from an ex husband other than the flowers he sent". So he sent her flowers and greeted her.
I had a chance to asked him if he ever cried once. He said "yes"Divorced from first wife.15 yrs of marriage.
How long has it been since your guy has been divorced?
The thing is my ex and I didn't just split up for a small reason. He was physically abusive and treated me like I was nothing. Then once I left him and got back on my feet he started wanting to come back into my life. Now he's still sending me stuff 2 years later. I just want it to stop.
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