Being put on a pedestal....

This topic was created in the Taurus forum by boxcarmirnta on Thursday, May 24, 2018 and has 27 replies.
And then kicked off of it bc of a stupid fight...ya know, i think it's really fucked to be wanted and pursued and asked a million questions, made to feel genuinely cared for and then ghosted . Fights happen, misunderstandings happen. I did my part trying to make it better..hes done NOTHING. And we were both basically saying the same thing, just in a different way. Do not act like yr into someone when you can drop them like garbage anytime things don't go perfectly according to your plans! Don't wanna see my fb insta and snapchat immediately, just to delete me!! Its fucked up. END RANT. sorry the rest of you taureans are cool af.
Posted by Masterful
gotta get bulls to sign on dotted lines to behave
your Avi 😂😂💀
I say junk punch him!
Posted by Arielle83
Never trust anyone to stick around when they put you on a pedestal.
They’re crazy.

apparently that's what tauruses do! But yes, in the beginning it is waaaay too soon...
Posted by Masterful
gotta get bulls to sign on dotted lines to behave


Hahaa yea like which ones...?
Posted by MadHatter
Rule #1 when dealing with a Taurus man:
When an argument is beginning.... show a boob.
You'll win. He'll win... there are no losers.. unless he sucks in bed... in which case.... cut him loose.. life's too short for bad sex.


NOW YOU TELL ME!!!!
Posted by LostinmyMind11
I say junk punch him!


If i ever see him again I WILL.
Posted by Impulsv
Take it as a blessing
Doesn’t have what it takes for real relationship


CLEARLY. guess it's good to know now...:/
Posted by MadHatter
Posted by boxcarmirnta
Posted by MadHatter
Rule #1 when dealing with a Taurus man:

When an argument is beginning.... show a boob.

You'll win. He'll win... there are no losers.. unless he sucks in bed... in which case.... cut him loose.. life's too short for bad sex.


NOW YOU TELL ME!!!! click to expand


You never asked.
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well now i know! I will use this knowledge in the future...
I HATE BLACK AND WHITE/ALL OR NOTHING THINKERS!!!!!!
Should have pooped with the door open. Nothing says human like the smell of shit, amirite
Posted by boxcarmirnta
Posted by LostinmyMind11
I say junk punch him!

If i ever see him again I WILL. click to expand
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Make sure to record it...not his face but the punch!


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I say junk punch him!


If i ever see him again I WILL. click to expand


Make sure to record it...not his face but the punch!
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definitely.
Posted by Impulsv
What was the argument about ?


Well what i can surmise.....i asked for a little consistency..when responding to me. I thought it was done. Then he started acting cold..i wanted to know why.

He assumed i wanted a SUPER COMMITTED LONG TERM RELATIONSHIP. (like men always think, and theyre wrong) Which i made very clear i did NOT. That i am a huge commitment phobe and was stepping into this with total trepidation and caution EXACTLY the same way he was (supposedly despite him being all over me) . So basically as soon as i asked for ONE thing he backed off and acted like he was no longer interested. I understood he wanted to take his time and feel things out. SO DO I. He was going back on all the things he said to me.basically...sounding like a lying player. I was angry he was angry.....i forgave him he wont forgive me...LAME
Posted by boxcarmirnta
I HATE BLACK AND WHITE/ALL OR NOTHING THINKERS!!!!!!
Same. Or narrow minded stubborn people.


It’s like talking to a brick wall
Posted by Impulsv
Posted by boxcarmirnta
Posted by Impulsv
What was the argument about ?


Well what i can surmise.....i asked for a little consistency..when responding to me. I thought it was done. Then he started acting cold..i wanted to know why.
He assumed i wanted a SUPER COMMITTED LONG TERM RELATIONSHIP. (like men always think, and theyre wrong) Which i made very clear i did NOT. That i am a huge commitment phobe and was stepping into this with total trepidation and caution EXACTLY the same way he was (supposedly despite him being all over me) . So basically as soon as i asked for ONE thing he backed off and acted like he was no longer interested. I understood he wanted to take his time and feel things out. SO DO I. He was going back on all the things he said to me.basically...sounding like a lying player. I was angry he was angry.....i forgave him he wont forgive me...LAME click to expand

Omg typical Taurus
I think they are being crossed off for me
U can’t ever ask talk to them
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apparently!!
Posted by WittyGem88v2
Posted by boxcarmirnta
Posted by Impulsv
What was the argument about ?


Well what i can surmise.....i asked for a little consistency..when responding to me. I thought it was done. Then he started acting cold..i wanted to know why.
He assumed i wanted a SUPER COMMITTED LONG TERM RELATIONSHIP. (like men always think, and theyre wrong) Which i made very clear i did NOT. That i am a huge commitment phobe and was stepping into this with total trepidation and caution EXACTLY the same way he was (supposedly despite him being all over me) . So basically as soon as i asked for ONE thing he backed off and acted like he was no longer interested. I understood he wanted to take his time and feel things out. SO DO I. He was going back on all the things he said to me.basically...sounding like a lying player. I was angry he was angry.....i forgave him he wont forgive me...LAME click to expand


Hmmm. What you stated is a bit confusing. You want more consistency but you dont want a super committed, longterm rs. Taurus men(from what I noticed and again, this is just based on my personal experience), want stability and knowing exactly what it is they have. So if you both agreed its not committed, then you gotta have to stick with it and not demand anything. If you want a committed rs, then thats what you have to express. Its hard to be in an “rs”where you dont want committment but you want consistency. Its not possible. So the fact that you expressed wanting consistency is like you crossing the boundaries that you both established in the beginning. So, possibly why he got upset. Just maybe, understand where he is coming from and be patient. Anyway, if he is into you, he will come around. Taurus guy deleted me in instagram when I rejected him and i pursued a relationship with someone else. But he came around and now still gets in touch once in a while. I communicated the situation to him clearly, without gray areas and he was a good man who understood. Taurus men are good! If not for aquas, i’d probably date them. click to expand
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i expect consistency even from friends. Common courtesy and respect. Thats it. I never said i was in it for the long haul...he assumed thats what i meant when i simply wanted common courtesy. We both are afraid of getting involved with the wrong people and that was made very clear by both of us. I accpted it he didnt. And he wont talk to me.
We did not establish anything until after i asked for consistency, (common courtesy that i would expect from anyone not just a lover). Seems we're on the same page so why cant we be friends?
Posted by WittyGem88v2
When arguing with a Taurus man, dont argue. Not saying always agree but they can be stubborn and if you force your ideals he will be more stubborn. Be a gentle, sweet one and ask gently. They like very feminine style . At least thats what I noticed with the one I was seeing before.

thats exactly what i did.
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Posted by boxcarmirnta
Posted by Impulsv
What was the argument about ?


Well what i can surmise.....i asked for a little consistency..when responding to me. I thought it was done. Then he started acting cold..i wanted to know why.
He assumed i wanted a SUPER COMMITTED LONG TERM RELATIONSHIP. (like men always think, and theyre wrong) Which i made very clear i did NOT. That i am a huge commitment phobe and was stepping into this with total trepidation and caution EXACTLY the same way he was (supposedly despite him being all over me) . So basically as soon as i asked for ONE thing he backed off and acted like he was no longer interested. I understood he wanted to take his time and feel things out. SO DO I. He was going back on all the things he said to me.basically...sounding like a lying player. I was angry he was angry.....i forgave him he wont forgive me...LAME click to expand



Hmmm. What you stated is a bit confusing. You want more consistency but you dont want a super committed, longterm rs. Taurus men(from what I noticed and again, this is just based on my personal experience), want stability and knowing exactly what it is they have. So if you both agreed its not committed, then you gotta have to stick with it and not demand anything. If you want a committed rs, then thats what you ahve to express. Its hard to be in an rs where you dont want committment but you want consistency. Its not possible. So the fact that you expressed wanting consistency is like you crossing the boundaries that you both established in the beginning. So, possibly why he got upset. Just maybe, understand where he is coming from and be patient. Anyway, if he is into you, he will come around. Taurus guy deleted me in instagram when I rejected him and pursued a relationship with someone else. But he came around and now still gets in touch once in a while. I communicated the situation to him clearly, without gray areas and he was a good man who understood. Taurus men are good! If not for aquas, i’d probably date them. click to expand



I'm glad I wasn't the only one confused. click to expand


Haha! Yes! I’ve been dealing with fixed sign men in like forever! My childhood sweetheart is a Taurus man 😂 hes still unmarried now and still tries to ask me out to this day. So as far as long experience with Taurus men, I do have it and I understand from observation how they act and react. In a way, pretty similar to Aqua men. Fixed men dont like gray areas even if they dont communicate much about it and they are stubborn. I got so used to it by now that Cardinal men and Mutable men are harder for me to grasp. 😂 click to expand
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god i hate aquas and i am mostly aqua..
Posted by WittyGem88v2
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Posted by boxcarmirnta
Posted by Impulsv
What was the argument about ?


Well what i can surmise.....i asked for a little consistency..when responding to me. I thought it was done. Then he started acting cold..i wanted to know why.
He assumed i wanted a SUPER COMMITTED LONG TERM RELATIONSHIP. (like men always think, and theyre wrong) Which i made very clear i did NOT. That i am a huge commitment phobe and was stepping into this with total trepidation and caution EXACTLY the same way he was (supposedly despite him being all over me) . So basically as soon as i asked for ONE thing he backed off and acted like he was no longer interested. I understood he wanted to take his time and feel things out. SO DO I. He was going back on all the things he said to me.basically...sounding like a lying player. I was angry he was angry.....i forgave him he wont forgive me...LAME click to expand



Hmmm. What you stated is a bit confusing. You want more consistency but you dont want a super committed, longterm rs. Taurus men(from what I noticed and again, this is just based on my personal experience), want stability and knowing exactly what it is they have. So if you both agreed its not committed, then you gotta have to stick with it and not demand anything. If you want a committed rs, then thats what you have to express. Its hard to be in an “rs”where you dont want committment but you want consistency. Its not possible. So the fact that you expressed wanting consistency is like you crossing the boundaries that you both established in the beginning. So, possibly why he got upset. Just maybe, understand where he is coming from and be patient. Anyway, if he is into you, he will come around. Taurus guy deleted me in instagram when I rejected him and i pursued a relationship with someone else. But he came around and now still gets in touch once in a while. I communicated the situation to him clearly, without gray areas and he was a good man who understood. Taurus men are good! If not for aquas, i’d probably date them. click to expand

i expect consistency even from friends. Common courtesy and respect. Thats it. I never said i was in it for the long haul...he assumed thats what i meant when i simply wanted common courtesy. We both are afraid of getting involved with the wrong people and that was made very clear by both of us. I accpted it he didnt. And he wont talk to me. click to expand

Hmmm... can you share what specific consistency you are looking for with the Taurus man? Like in what ways does he need to be consistent with? Is it communication? Is it the days he comes to see you? Etc. click to expand
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it was just responding to txts in a timely fashion...like things that should not be left hanging...thats it.
Posted by WittyGem88v2
Posted by boxcarmirnta
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Posted by WittyGem88v2
Posted by boxcarmirnta
Posted by Impulsv
What was the argument about ?


Well what i can surmise.....i asked for a little consistency..when responding to me. I thought it was done. Then he started acting cold..i wanted to know why.
He assumed i wanted a SUPER COMMITTED LONG TERM RELATIONSHIP. (like men always think, and theyre wrong) Which i made very clear i did NOT. That i am a huge commitment phobe and was stepping into this with total trepidation and caution EXACTLY the same way he was (supposedly despite him being all over me) . So basically as soon as i asked for ONE thing he backed off and acted like he was no longer interested. I understood he wanted to take his time and feel things out. SO DO I. He was going back on all the things he said to me.basically...sounding like a lying player. I was angry he was angry.....i forgave him he wont forgive me...LAME click to expand



Hmmm. What you stated is a bit confusing. You want more consistency but you dont want a super committed, longterm rs. Taurus men(from what I noticed and again, this is just based on my personal experience), want stability and knowing exactly what it is they have. So if you both agreed its not committed, then you gotta have to stick with it and not demand anything. If you want a committed rs, then thats what you ahve to express. Its hard to be in an rs where you dont want committment but you want consistency. Its not possible. So the fact that you expressed wanting consistency is like you crossing the boundaries that you both established in the beginning. So, possibly why he got upset. Just maybe, understand where he is coming from and be patient. Anyway, if he is into you, he will come around. Taurus guy deleted me in instagram when I rejected him and pursued a relationship with someone else. But he came around and now still gets in touch once in a while. I communicated the situation to him clearly, without gray areas and he was a good man who understood. Taurus men are good! If not for aquas, i’d probably date them. click to expand



I'm glad I wasn't the only one confused. click to expand



Haha! Yes! I’ve been dealing with fixed sign men in like forever! My childhood sweetheart is a Taurus man 😂 hes still unmarried now and still tries to ask me out to this day. So as far as long experience with Taurus men, I do have it and I understand from observation how they act and react. In a way, pretty similar to Aqua men. Fixed men dont like gray areas even if they dont communicate much about it and they are stubborn. I got so used to it by now that Cardinal men and Mutable men are harder for me to grasp. 😂 click to expand

god i hate aquas and i am mostly aqua.. click to expand

Hahahah many women hate aqua men wahahahaa but its my best relationship ever. Have been with 4 aquas in my life and one was my longest rs ever. And currently with another one for 6 mos now 😂😂😂😂😂 they’re the only ones who get me more than the others hahaha click to expand
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cuz yr a gemini eh? I usually get along great with geminis til they turn on me...no offense but they always seem super bipolar.
Posted by WittyGem88v2
Posted by boxcarmirnta
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Posted by Impulsv
What was the argument about ?


Well what i can surmise.....i asked for a little consistency..when responding to me. I thought it was done. Then he started acting cold..i wanted to know why.
He assumed i wanted a SUPER COMMITTED LONG TERM RELATIONSHIP. (like men always think, and theyre wrong) Which i made very clear i did NOT. That i am a huge commitment phobe and was stepping into this with total trepidation and caution EXACTLY the same way he was (supposedly despite him being all over me) . So basically as soon as i asked for ONE thing he backed off and acted like he was no longer interested. I understood he wanted to take his time and feel things out. SO DO I. He was going back on all the things he said to me.basically...sounding like a lying player. I was angry he was angry.....i forgave him he wont forgive me...LAME click to expand



Hmmm. What you stated is a bit confusing. You want more consistency but you dont want a super committed, longterm rs. Taurus men(from what I noticed and again, this is just based on my personal experience), want stability and knowing exactly what it is they have. So if you both agreed its not committed, then you gotta have to stick with it and not demand anything. If you want a committed rs, then thats what you have to express. Its hard to be in an “rs”where you dont want committment but you want consistency. Its not possible. So the fact that you expressed wanting consistency is like you crossing the boundaries that you both established in the beginning. So, possibly why he got upset. Just maybe, understand where he is coming from and be patient. Anyway, if he is into you, he will come around. Taurus guy deleted me in instagram when I rejected him and i pursued a relationship with someone else. But he came around and now still gets in touch once in a while. I communicated the situation to him clearly, without gray areas and he was a good man who understood. Taurus men are good! If not for aquas, i’d probably date them. click to expand

i expect consistency even from friends. Common courtesy and respect. Thats it. I never said i was in it for the long haul...he assumed thats what i meant when i simply wanted common courtesy. We both are afraid of getting involved with the wrong people and that was made very clear by both of us. I accpted it he didnt. And he wont talk to me. click to expand

Hmmm... can you share what specific consistency you are looking for with the Taurus man? Like in what ways does he need to be consistent with? Is it communication? Is it the days he comes to see you? Etc. click to expand

it was just responding to txts in a timely fashion...like things that should not be left hanging...thats it. click to expand

What do you consider a timely fashion? 2 hours? 3 hours? One day? click to expand
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...not waiting 3 days.....
Posted by WittyGem88v2
Posted by boxcarmirnta
Posted by Impulsv
What was the argument about ?


Well what i can surmise.....i asked for a little consistency..when responding to me. I thought it was done. Then he started acting cold..i wanted to know why.
He assumed i wanted a SUPER COMMITTED LONG TERM RELATIONSHIP. (like men always think, and theyre wrong) Which i made very clear i did NOT. That i am a huge commitment phobe and was stepping into this with total trepidation and caution EXACTLY the same way he was (supposedly despite him being all over me) . So basically as soon as i asked for ONE thing he backed off and acted like he was no longer interested. I understood he wanted to take his time and feel things out. SO DO I. He was going back on all the things he said to me.basically...sounding like a lying player. I was angry he was angry.....i forgave him he wont forgive me...LAME click to expand


Hmmm. What you stated is a bit confusing. You want more consistency but you dont want a super committed, longterm rs. Taurus men(from what I noticed and again, this is just based on my personal experience), want stability and knowing exactly what it is they have. So if you both agreed its not committed, then you gotta have to stick with it and not demand anything. If you want a committed rs, then thats what you have to express. Its hard to be in an “rs”where you dont want committment but you want consistency. Its not possible. So the fact that you expressed wanting consistency is like you crossing the boundaries that you both established in the beginning. So, possibly why he got upset. Just maybe, understand where he is coming from and be patient. Anyway, if he is into you, he will come around. Taurus guy deleted me in instagram when I rejected him and i pursued a relationship with someone else. But he came around and now still gets in touch once in a while. I communicated the situation to him clearly, without gray areas and he was a good man who understood. Taurus men are good! If not for aquas, i’d probably date them. click to expand
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also i have made several attempts now, to make it right..sent him thoughtful stuff..i didnt even notice he deleted me on snapchat (which i rarely use anyway). Hes just being cruel. I don't deserve to be treated like this i didnt do anything wrong. If he cared about me he'd WANT to work through it. Sweethearts dont ignore people and make them feel abandoned. He presented himself falsely in the beginning...Ugh...sorry...
Posted by WittyGem88v2
Posted by boxcarmirnta
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Posted by boxcarmirnta
Posted by Impulsv
What was the argument about ?


Well what i can surmise.....i asked for a little consistency..when responding to me. I thought it was done. Then he started acting cold..i wanted to know why.
He assumed i wanted a SUPER COMMITTED LONG TERM RELATIONSHIP. (like men always think, and theyre wrong) Which i made very clear i did NOT. That i am a huge commitment phobe and was stepping into this with total trepidation and caution EXACTLY the same way he was (supposedly despite him being all over me) . So basically as soon as i asked for ONE thing he backed off and acted like he was no longer interested. I understood he wanted to take his time and feel things out. SO DO I. He was going back on all the things he said to me.basically...sounding like a lying player. I was angry he was angry.....i forgave him he wont forgive me...LAME click to expand



Hmmm. What you stated is a bit confusing. You want more consistency but you dont want a super committed, longterm rs. Taurus men(from what I noticed and again, this is just based on my personal experience), want stability and knowing exactly what it is they have. So if you both agreed its not committed, then you gotta have to stick with it and not demand anything. If you want a committed rs, then thats what you have to express. Its hard to be in an “rs”where you dont want committment but you want consistency. Its not possible. So the fact that you expressed wanting consistency is like you crossing the boundaries that you both established in the beginning. So, possibly why he got upset. Just maybe, understand where he is coming from and be patient. Anyway, if he is into you, he will come around. Taurus guy deleted me in instagram when I rejected him and i pursued a relationship with someone else. But he came around and now still gets in touch once in a while. I communicated the situation to him clearly, without gray areas and he was a good man who understood. Taurus men are good! If not for aquas, i’d probably date them. click to expand

also i have made several attempts now, to make it right..sent him thoughtful stuff..i didnt even notice he deleted me on snapchat (which i rarely use anyway). Hes just being cruel. I don't deserve to be treated like this i didnt do anything wrong. If he cared about me he'd WANT to work through it. Sweethearts dont ignore people and make them feel abandoned. He presented himself falsely in the beginning...Ugh...sorry... click to expand

I understand what you mean. However, if its not a committed rs, youre not supposed to have any expectations. Expectations are designed for committed rs. Thats the tricky part. Because from his POV, youre not committed, then he is under no obligation to meet your needs even if its just as a courtesy. He can do whatever and I am guessing that if you did the same towards him, he also cannot complain/expect because of the status that you both are in. It happened a lot with several women here on dxp. No committment but there are expectations. Thing is, if you have certain expectations, you are not supposed to be in a non-committed rs or you are just gonna give yourself a massive headache. Since he already deleted you on social media, best to just move on (not saying date other men but rather, move on with your life and dont wait for him). He will come back if he wants to. And dont stress yourself over someone who isnt committed to you. You dont deserve it. click to expand
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i disagree sorry....i expect common courtesy from everyone. Not just lovers. He was also my friend. But true, i don't deserve it.
Posted by WittyGem88v2
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Posted by Impulsv
What was the argument about ?


Well what i can surmise.....i asked for a little consistency..when responding to me. I thought it was done. Then he started acting cold..i wanted to know why.
He assumed i wanted a SUPER COMMITTED LONG TERM RELATIONSHIP. (like men always think, and theyre wrong) Which i made very clear i did NOT. That i am a huge commitment phobe and was stepping into this with total trepidation and caution EXACTLY the same way he was (supposedly despite him being all over me) . So basically as soon as i asked for ONE thing he backed off and acted like he was no longer interested. I understood he wanted to take his time and feel things out. SO DO I. He was going back on all the things he said to me.basically...sounding like a lying player. I was angry he was angry.....i forgave him he wont forgive me...LAME click to expand



Hmmm. What you stated is a bit confusing. You want more consistency but you dont want a super committed, longterm rs. Taurus men(from what I noticed and again, this is just based on my personal experience), want stability and knowing exactly what it is they have. So if you both agreed its not committed, then you gotta have to stick with it and not demand anything. If you want a committed rs, then thats what you have to express. Its hard to be in an “rs”where you dont want committment but you want consistency. Its not possible. So the fact that you expressed wanting consistency is like you crossing the boundaries that you both established in the beginning. So, possibly why he got upset. Just maybe, understand where he is coming from and be patient. Anyway, if he is into you, he will come around. Taurus guy deleted me in instagram when I rejected him and i pursued a relationship with someone else. But he came around and now still gets in touch once in a while. I communicated the situation to him clearly, without gray areas and he was a good man who understood. Taurus men are good! If not for aquas, i’d probably date them. click to expand

i expect consistency even from friends. Common courtesy and respect. Thats it. I never said i was in it for the long haul...he assumed thats what i meant when i simply wanted common courtesy. We both are afraid of getting involved with the wrong people and that was made very clear by both of us. I accpted it he didnt. And he wont talk to me. click to expand

Hmmm... can you share what specific consistency you are looking for with the Taurus man? Like in what ways does he need to be consistent with? Is it communication? Is it the days he comes to see you? Etc. click to expand

it was just responding to txts in a timely fashion...like things that should not be left hanging...thats it. click to expand

What do you consider a timely fashion? 2 hours? 3 hours? One day? click to expand

...not waiting 3 days..... click to expand

Hes prolly in his man cave or chasing another girl because youre not committed so he is entitled to do as he pleases. Its the sad reality click to expand
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i told him to date other people!! Cuz he'd just moved here etc...he said he didnt want to.
Posted by Impulsv
They Are big babies lol well the immature ones even at 40 lol


Ughgughhgghh seriously. No matter what age they are all immature af. Every sign. No one ever taught them how to communicate.. Or to grow up.

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