Bossy Boots!
This topic was created in the Taurus forum by ScarlettGirl on Monday, January 14, 2013 and has 10 replies.
I know that Taurus don't like to be told what to do.
BUT, if someone needs to give you some direction, how do you prefer to be told, especially when it can't be face to face?
Short and direct?
Softened and sweet?
With explanations?
BUT, if someone needs to give you some direction, how do you prefer to be told, especially when it can't be face to face?
Short and direct?
Softened and sweet?
With explanations?
Posted by ScarlettGirl
BUT, if someone needs to give you some direction, how do you prefer to be told, especially when it can't be face to face?
Short and direct?
Direct. No vague statements... We're Black or White. Please avoid being abstract.....and definitely NO REPETITION. We hate that!
Posted by ScarlettGirl
Softened and sweet?click to expand
Ice cream with sprinkles and a cherry on top. Bring up the topic during a warm bubble bath, or a nice back massage.
Timing and desserts are very important....
Direct. Yes.
Short and sweet? If it is condescending my smartass and stubborn come to the fore.
Explanation? Not necessary, insults intelligence. To recap:
Smartass and stubborn.
Short and sweet? If it is condescending my smartass and stubborn come to the fore.
Explanation? Not necessary, insults intelligence. To recap:
Smartass and stubborn.
As a capricorn, I give them suggestions, an opinion of what I think. Like an option in the nicest way possible and they can decide whether or not if they want to do it or not.
Tonality is everything for me..I don't necessarily need "Sugary sweet"...but nice, calm and humble...and is puts me in a more receptive mood. as opposed to stuborn & defensive.
I need to figure out a way to explain what I want to a Taurus.
He needs space... which I get.
But....I am an Aries.
Have you ever spent time with a kid of about 5 years old, at a park? They want their independence. They want to run around and play and direct other people and explore and have a great time. BUT, they look over their shoulder to make sure that you are watching, keeping an eye on them, making sure that they are safe. If they don't see you watching, they will run over for a little snuggle and reassurance and then get back to playing.
THAT is an Aries.
We are independent, inquisitive, fun loving 5 year olds. We want our own freedom. We want to be able to play and explore and have fun with friends....but we want to make certain that you are right there, ready with a reassuring snuggle.
I don't want you to hover over me or direct me or boss me around and I certainly don't want to feel that you don't approve of me. But I do want a lot of little moments of attention.
I just don't know how to explain that without seeming like I am being bossy or that I want to change him or crowd him....Ideas?
He needs space... which I get.
But....I am an Aries.
Have you ever spent time with a kid of about 5 years old, at a park? They want their independence. They want to run around and play and direct other people and explore and have a great time. BUT, they look over their shoulder to make sure that you are watching, keeping an eye on them, making sure that they are safe. If they don't see you watching, they will run over for a little snuggle and reassurance and then get back to playing.
THAT is an Aries.
We are independent, inquisitive, fun loving 5 year olds. We want our own freedom. We want to be able to play and explore and have fun with friends....but we want to make certain that you are right there, ready with a reassuring snuggle.
I don't want you to hover over me or direct me or boss me around and I certainly don't want to feel that you don't approve of me. But I do want a lot of little moments of attention.
I just don't know how to explain that without seeming like I am being bossy or that I want to change him or crowd him....Ideas?
Posted by ScarlettGirl
THAT is an Aries.
We are independent, inquisitive, fun loving 5 year olds. We want our own freedom. We want to be able to play and explore and have fun with friends....but we want to make certain that you are right there, ready with a reassuring snuggle.
I don't want you to hover over me or direct me or boss me around and I certainly don't want to feel that you don't approve of me. But I do want a lot of little moments of attention.
I just don't know how to explain that without seeming like I am being bossy or that I want to change him or crowd him....Ideas?
My Venus is in Aries so I TOTALLY get this. I have my moments where I'm intensely focused, then want to have my moments alone, but want to know in the back of my mind that my mate is within reach, a phonecall, text..etc..
I don't see why your Taurus wouldn't understand when you need your "Me time." When he wants his space, you allow him to. So its only right when he lets you do the same. How long have you two been dating? If he has fire in his chart I'm sure he'll catch the drift. Just keep the conversation light and without pressure, and you'll be fine. After all Communication is what makes all the difference. you'll never know until you actually TALK about it.
Posted by ScarlettGirl
I just don't know how to explain that without seeming like I am being bossy or that I want to change him or crowd him....Ideas?
Bulls, we're logical & practical.
One thing implicates another.
p -----> q
If you want freedom...we will give it to you....just as long as you show us the same consideration when we need our space.
It sounds to me like you want your Bull to stay put, bay at the moon and await your return...Allow you to have your own independence while infringing on his own.
If you're not careful, this may come across as selfishness.
Before you approach your Bull...
Tread lightly.
Ask yourself... what is it you're EXACTLY asking for.
...And what incentives are you putting on the table.
Posted by BullGem
I'd like to add that the moment I detect a bossy tone, if I think I'm being ordered around, my first thought -and sometimes the first words out of my mouth- will be "Well, what the fuck makes you think you're right, anyway?!"
I sense a bossy tone from the OP.
Thanks guys.
It's not about me wanting time away with him waiting. It is that he doesn't seem to get that when he goes without warning for days on end (online) it makes me feel like he doesnt understand. I don't need constant attention....I do need to be able to reach out for a little reassuring snuggle, without knowing if he will respond within the day or three weeks later.
I want him to understand..without sounding bossy...that I need more contact...but not full on contact all the time.
Make sense?
It's not about me wanting time away with him waiting. It is that he doesn't seem to get that when he goes without warning for days on end (online) it makes me feel like he doesnt understand. I don't need constant attention....I do need to be able to reach out for a little reassuring snuggle, without knowing if he will respond within the day or three weeks later.
I want him to understand..without sounding bossy...that I need more contact...but not full on contact all the time.
Make sense?
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