Bulls...Why do you stalk your exes on social media?

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Just post inflammatory stuff until they give up trying to piece all the contradictions together.

Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns

Just checking if you got fat yet.

I don’t get why people are bothered about it though. If you’re concerned check your privacy settings.

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Just checking if you got fat yet.

I don’t get why people are bothered about it though. If you’re concerned check your privacy settings.

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Possessive

They don’t want you but don’t want others to have you either

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Possessive

They don’t want you but don’t want others to have you either

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I think people just have a habit of flattering themselves a little by feeling 'stalked' for likes, reads, followers etc. on social media....

not sure any of this behavior is astro-related though I have noticed a tendency for Leos to do the above....

OP - what is your sign?

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Possessive

They don’t want you but don’t want others to have you either

My possessiveness stops once I feel I am not the one for them. Since I genuinely care about my exes and want the best for them, and now feel I know that 'best' is not me, I can easily be happy for them in their new relationship, with their new family, whatever....And I can absolutely see myself being a bit voyeuristic and checking their pics out the 2 to 3 times per yr I feel bored enough to check social media. Its actually more dangerous and bothersome for me if it looks like they arent doing well.

I loved my exes enough to share my life with them, still love them as friends very deeply, and its hard for me to understand anything other than this. Have often given exes relationship advice for new dudes, pulled charts for them etc., would definitely even set them up with someone if I felt it was a good fit.....

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Possessive

They don’t want you but don’t want others to have you either

My possessiveness stops once I feel I am not the one for them. Since I genuinely care about my exes and want the best for them, and now feel I know that 'best' is not me, I can easily be happy for them in their new relationship, with their new family, whatever....And I can absolutely see myself being a bit voyeuristic and checking their pics out the 2 to 3 times per yr I feel bored enough to check social media. Its actually more dangerous and bothersome for me if it looks like they arent doing well.

I loved my exes enough to share my life with them, still love them as friends very deeply, and its hard for me to understand anything other than this. Have often given exes relationship advice for new dudes, pulled charts for them etc., would definitely even set them up with someone if I felt it was a good fit.....

Checking a few times a year I think is definitely normal for anyone.

Yea, I’ve never gotten the vibe you guys were still possessive once you’d determined the relationship wasn’t right for you. Now, my Gemini boyfriend definitely would still be possessive after the fact if we were to break up.

So in this post what would you say about this bull? Still possessive even though he said he didn’t still want his or he still wants her or none of the above?

https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/taurus/i-male-taurus-told-my-ex-to-move-on-i-keep-looking-at-her-leo-instagram--11062874/

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Possessive

They don’t want you but don’t want others to have you either

My possessiveness stops once I feel I am not the one for them. Since I genuinely care about my exes and want the best for them, and now feel I know that 'best' is not me, I can easily be happy for them in their new relationship, with their new family, whatever....And I can absolutely see myself being a bit voyeuristic and checking their pics out the 2 to 3 times per yr I feel bored enough to check social media. Its actually more dangerous and bothersome for me if it looks like they arent doing well.

I loved my exes enough to share my life with them, still love them as friends very deeply, and its hard for me to understand anything other than this. Have often given exes relationship advice for new dudes, pulled charts for them etc., would definitely even set them up with someone if I felt it was a good fit.....

Checking a few times a year I think is definitely normal for anyone.

Yea, I’ve never gotten the vibe you guys were still possessive once you’d determined the relationship wasn’t right for you. Now, my Gemini boyfriend definitely would still be possessive after the fact if we were to break up.

So in this post what would you say about this bull? Still possessive even though he said he didn’t still want his or he still wants her or none of the above?

https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/taurus/i-male-taurus-told-my-ex-to-move-on-i-keep-looking-at-her-leo-instagram--11062874/

That's not being possessive, but obsessive. Not to say that bull isn't in denial about lingering feelings, but he certainly isn't trying to own her or be with her in any way. Now if you're running into the dude in public places and he's cock blocking when he sees you with other men, etc. (something a friend was recently saying her ex-bull was doing), that's possessiveness.

Can't vouch for other bulls, but I'm extremely obsessive in most aspects of my life. I have definitely had lingering obsessions, even after I'm completely done with a relationship, and actually also with a Leo. The physical/sexual chemistry was extremely strong, have never had a woman be so aggressive or overt sexually towards me, but I felt she was really unstable and I wanted nothing to do with her relationship-wise. After I made that decision, it would literally turn my stomach to see her name/number pop up on my phone. At the same time, I just couldn't get her out of my head in terms of fantasizing; it took maybe 6 mos. to a year after losing contact for that to stop and I wasn't sure it ever would. Maybe if there was a snapchat then, and she was posting regularly, I would've creeped it...I have no idea. Really though, at that point it was just about working the whole thing out of my system, and nothing to do with the reality of her.

I think, particularly in this era of social media, people can even become obsessed with others being obsessed with them, for ego reasons alone. Attention is flattering and addictive, particularly from people you're attracted to. Might even be seen as a tad obsessive that you're still inquiring about this bull's behavior from so long ago, even though you're in a new relationship....ijs

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Possessive

They don’t want you but don’t want others to have you either

My possessiveness stops once I feel I am not the one for them. Since I genuinely care about my exes and want the best for them, and now feel I know that 'best' is not me, I can easily be happy for them in their new relationship, with their new family, whatever....And I can absolutely see myself being a bit voyeuristic and checking their pics out the 2 to 3 times per yr I feel bored enough to check social media. Its actually more dangerous and bothersome for me if it looks like they arent doing well.

I loved my exes enough to share my life with them, still love them as friends very deeply, and its hard for me to understand anything other than this. Have often given exes relationship advice for new dudes, pulled charts for them etc., would definitely even set them up with someone if I felt it was a good fit.....

Checking a few times a year I think is definitely normal for anyone.

Yea, I’ve never gotten the vibe you guys were still possessive once you’d determined the relationship wasn’t right for you. Now, my Gemini boyfriend definitely would still be possessive after the fact if we were to break up.

So in this post what would you say about this bull? Still possessive even though he said he didn’t still want his or he still wants her or none of the above?

https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/taurus/i-male-taurus-told-my-ex-to-move-on-i-keep-looking-at-her-leo-instagram--11062874/

That's not being possessive, but obsessive. Not to say that bull isn't in denial about lingering feelings, but he certainly isn't trying to own her or be with her in any way. Now if you're running into the dude in public places and he's cock blocking when he sees you with other men, etc. (something a friend was recently saying her ex-bull was doing), that's possessiveness.

Can't vouch for other bulls, but I'm extremely obsessive in most aspects of my life. I have definitely had lingering obsessions, even after I'm completely done with a relationship, and actually also with a Leo. The physical/sexual chemistry was extremely strong, have never had a woman be so aggressive or overt sexually towards me, but I felt she was really unstable and I wanted nothing to do with her relationship-wise. After I made that decision, it would literally turn my stomach to see her name/number pop up on my phone. At the same time, I just couldn't get her out of my head in terms of fantasizing; it took maybe 6 mos. to a year after losing contact for that to stop and I wasn't sure it ever would. Maybe if there was a snapchat then, and she was posting regularly, I would've creeped it...I have no idea. Really though, at that point it was just about working the whole thing out of my system, and nothing to do with the reality of her.

I think, particularly in this era of social media, people can even become obsessed with others being obsessed with them, for ego reasons alone. Attention is flattering and addictive, particularly from people you're attracted to. Might even be seen as a tad obsessive that you're still inquiring about this bull's behavior from so long ago, even though you're in a new relationship....ijs

Oh no, I'm not inquiring because of my ex per se. I saw the post and thought it was funny and thought maybe there was some truth to it since my ex did it and then this other bull posted his story not too long ago.

Yea I can see how you became a little obsessive because you still craved her sexually, but I think obsessing over an ex that you wanted to marry is different. Especially one you were trying to reconcile with...she said one that made him snap. I bet a million and one dollars if his ex-apologized for whatever she said and showed that she was sorry he'd consider being with her. I usually take obsessive behavior like the bull dannmann1992, as a form of regret. Why obsess over something that you don't want anymore? I don't know you bulls are weird lol.

I guess one said boredom

I wonder if they understand they are being caught n how it could be perceived by the ex as him still wanting something

Like u said one trying to reconcile

Like false hope

is it clueless behavior ? Or masochistic

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Possessive

They don’t want you but don’t want others to have you either

My possessiveness stops once I feel I am not the one for them. Since I genuinely care about my exes and want the best for them, and now feel I know that 'best' is not me, I can easily be happy for them in their new relationship, with their new family, whatever....And I can absolutely see myself being a bit voyeuristic and checking their pics out the 2 to 3 times per yr I feel bored enough to check social media. Its actually more dangerous and bothersome for me if it looks like they arent doing well.

I loved my exes enough to share my life with them, still love them as friends very deeply, and its hard for me to understand anything other than this. Have often given exes relationship advice for new dudes, pulled charts for them etc., would definitely even set them up with someone if I felt it was a good fit.....

Checking a few times a year I think is definitely normal for anyone.

Yea, I’ve never gotten the vibe you guys were still possessive once you’d determined the relationship wasn’t right for you. Now, my Gemini boyfriend definitely would still be possessive after the fact if we were to break up.

So in this post what would you say about this bull? Still possessive even though he said he didn’t still want his or he still wants her or none of the above?

https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/taurus/i-male-taurus-told-my-ex-to-move-on-i-keep-looking-at-her-leo-instagram--11062874/

That's not being possessive, but obsessive. Not to say that bull isn't in denial about lingering feelings, but he certainly isn't trying to own her or be with her in any way. Now if you're running into the dude in public places and he's cock blocking when he sees you with other men, etc. (something a friend was recently saying her ex-bull was doing), that's possessiveness.

Can't vouch for other bulls, but I'm extremely obsessive in most aspects of my life. I have definitely had lingering obsessions, even after I'm completely done with a relationship, and actually also with a Leo. The physical/sexual chemistry was extremely strong, have never had a woman be so aggressive or overt sexually towards me, but I felt she was really unstable and I wanted nothing to do with her relationship-wise. After I made that decision, it would literally turn my stomach to see her name/number pop up on my phone. At the same time, I just couldn't get her out of my head in terms of fantasizing; it took maybe 6 mos. to a year after losing contact for that to stop and I wasn't sure it ever would. Maybe if there was a snapchat then, and she was posting regularly, I would've creeped it...I have no idea. Really though, at that point it was just about working the whole thing out of my system, and nothing to do with the reality of her.

I think, particularly in this era of social media, people can even become obsessed with others being obsessed with them, for ego reasons alone. Attention is flattering and addictive, particularly from people you're attracted to. Might even be seen as a tad obsessive that you're still inquiring about this bull's behavior from so long ago, even though you're in a new relationship....ijs

Oh no, I'm not inquiring because of my ex per se. I saw the post and thought it was funny and thought maybe there was some truth to it since my ex did it and then this other bull posted his story not too long ago.

Yea I can see how you became a little obsessive because you still craved her sexually, but I think obsessing over an ex that you wanted to marry is different. Especially one you were trying to reconcile with...she said one that made him snap. I bet a million and one dollars if his ex-apologized for whatever she said and showed that she was sorry he'd consider being with her. I usually take obsessive behavior like the bull dannmann1992, as a form of regret. Why obsess over something that you don't want anymore? I don't know you bulls are weird lol.

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Possessive

They don’t want you but don’t want others to have you either

My possessiveness stops once I feel I am not the one for them. Since I genuinely care about my exes and want the best for them, and now feel I know that 'best' is not me, I can easily be happy for them in their new relationship, with their new family, whatever....And I can absolutely see myself being a bit voyeuristic and checking their pics out the 2 to 3 times per yr I feel bored enough to check social media. Its actually more dangerous and bothersome for me if it looks like they arent doing well.

I loved my exes enough to share my life with them, still love them as friends very deeply, and its hard for me to understand anything other than this. Have often given exes relationship advice for new dudes, pulled charts for them etc., would definitely even set them up with someone if I felt it was a good fit.....

Checking a few times a year I think is definitely normal for anyone.

Yea, I’ve never gotten the vibe you guys were still possessive once you’d determined the relationship wasn’t right for you. Now, my Gemini boyfriend definitely would still be possessive after the fact if we were to break up.

So in this post what would you say about this bull? Still possessive even though he said he didn’t still want his or he still wants her or none of the above?

https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/taurus/i-male-taurus-told-my-ex-to-move-on-i-keep-looking-at-her-leo-instagram--11062874/

That's not being possessive, but obsessive. Not to say that bull isn't in denial about lingering feelings, but he certainly isn't trying to own her or be with her in any way. Now if you're running into the dude in public places and he's cock blocking when he sees you with other men, etc. (something a friend was recently saying her ex-bull was doing), that's possessiveness.

Can't vouch for other bulls, but I'm extremely obsessive in most aspects of my life. I have definitely had lingering obsessions, even after I'm completely done with a relationship, and actually also with a Leo. The physical/sexual chemistry was extremely strong, have never had a woman be so aggressive or overt sexually towards me, but I felt she was really unstable and I wanted nothing to do with her relationship-wise. After I made that decision, it would literally turn my stomach to see her name/number pop up on my phone. At the same time, I just couldn't get her out of my head in terms of fantasizing; it took maybe 6 mos. to a year after losing contact for that to stop and I wasn't sure it ever would. Maybe if there was a snapchat then, and she was posting regularly, I would've creeped it...I have no idea. Really though, at that point it was just about working the whole thing out of my system, and nothing to do with the reality of her.

I think, particularly in this era of social media, people can even become obsessed with others being obsessed with them, for ego reasons alone. Attention is flattering and addictive, particularly from people you're attracted to. Might even be seen as a tad obsessive that you're still inquiring about this bull's behavior from so long ago, even though you're in a new relationship....ijs

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Possessive

They don’t want you but don’t want others to have you either

My possessiveness stops once I feel I am not the one for them. Since I genuinely care about my exes and want the best for them, and now feel I know that 'best' is not me, I can easily be happy for them in their new relationship, with their new family, whatever....And I can absolutely see myself being a bit voyeuristic and checking their pics out the 2 to 3 times per yr I feel bored enough to check social media. Its actually more dangerous and bothersome for me if it looks like they arent doing well.

I loved my exes enough to share my life with them, still love them as friends very deeply, and its hard for me to understand anything other than this. Have often given exes relationship advice for new dudes, pulled charts for them etc., would definitely even set them up with someone if I felt it was a good fit.....

Checking a few times a year I think is definitely normal for anyone.

Yea, I’ve never gotten the vibe you guys were still possessive once you’d determined the relationship wasn’t right for you. Now, my Gemini boyfriend definitely would still be possessive after the fact if we were to break up.

So in this post what would you say about this bull? Still possessive even though he said he didn’t still want his or he still wants her or none of the above?

https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/taurus/i-male-taurus-told-my-ex-to-move-on-i-keep-looking-at-her-leo-instagram--11062874/

That's not being possessive, but obsessive. Not to say that bull isn't in denial about lingering feelings, but he certainly isn't trying to own her or be with her in any way. Now if you're running into the dude in public places and he's cock blocking when he sees you with other men, etc. (something a friend was recently saying her ex-bull was doing), that's possessiveness.

Can't vouch for other bulls, but I'm extremely obsessive in most aspects of my life. I have definitely had lingering obsessions, even after I'm completely done with a relationship, and actually also with a Leo. The physical/sexual chemistry was extremely strong, have never had a woman be so aggressive or overt sexually towards me, but I felt she was really unstable and I wanted nothing to do with her relationship-wise. After I made that decision, it would literally turn my stomach to see her name/number pop up on my phone. At the same time, I just couldn't get her out of my head in terms of fantasizing; it took maybe 6 mos. to a year after losing contact for that to stop and I wasn't sure it ever would. Maybe if there was a snapchat then, and she was posting regularly, I would've creeped it...I have no idea. Really though, at that point it was just about working the whole thing out of my system, and nothing to do with the reality of her.

I think, particularly in this era of social media, people can even become obsessed with others being obsessed with them, for ego reasons alone. Attention is flattering and addictive, particularly from people you're attracted to. Might even be seen as a tad obsessive that you're still inquiring about this bull's behavior from so long ago, even though you're in a new relationship....ijs

Why do you think he doesn't want to be with her in any way? Because he told her to move on and hasn't said anything to her? Did you see another poster pulled up his old thread where she broke up with him, she tried to reconcile and they were talking, she said something he didn't like so he called it off before and then obviously posted another woman to make her jealous? Same stupid behavior his exhibiting, yet he entertained them getting back together after that then told her to move on because he doesn't want her *rolls eyes. Now it's she said something that pissed him off, he told her to move on, then went straight into stalking her on social media. It's the same cycle for him.

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Possessive

They don’t want you but don’t want others to have you either

My possessiveness stops once I feel I am not the one for them. Since I genuinely care about my exes and want the best for them, and now feel I know that 'best' is not me, I can easily be happy for them in their new relationship, with their new family, whatever....And I can absolutely see myself being a bit voyeuristic and checking their pics out the 2 to 3 times per yr I feel bored enough to check social media. Its actually more dangerous and bothersome for me if it looks like they arent doing well.

I loved my exes enough to share my life with them, still love them as friends very deeply, and its hard for me to understand anything other than this. Have often given exes relationship advice for new dudes, pulled charts for them etc., would definitely even set them up with someone if I felt it was a good fit.....

Checking a few times a year I think is definitely normal for anyone.

Yea, I’ve never gotten the vibe you guys were still possessive once you’d determined the relationship wasn’t right for you. Now, my Gemini boyfriend definitely would still be possessive after the fact if we were to break up.

So in this post what would you say about this bull? Still possessive even though he said he didn’t still want his or he still wants her or none of the above?

https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/taurus/i-male-taurus-told-my-ex-to-move-on-i-keep-looking-at-her-leo-instagram--11062874/

That's not being possessive, but obsessive. Not to say that bull isn't in denial about lingering feelings, but he certainly isn't trying to own her or be with her in any way. Now if you're running into the dude in public places and he's cock blocking when he sees you with other men, etc. (something a friend was recently saying her ex-bull was doing), that's possessiveness.

Can't vouch for other bulls, but I'm extremely obsessive in most aspects of my life. I have definitely had lingering obsessions, even after I'm completely done with a relationship, and actually also with a Leo. The physical/sexual chemistry was extremely strong, have never had a woman be so aggressive or overt sexually towards me, but I felt she was really unstable and I wanted nothing to do with her relationship-wise. After I made that decision, it would literally turn my stomach to see her name/number pop up on my phone. At the same time, I just couldn't get her out of my head in terms of fantasizing; it took maybe 6 mos. to a year after losing contact for that to stop and I wasn't sure it ever would. Maybe if there was a snapchat then, and she was posting regularly, I would've creeped it...I have no idea. Really though, at that point it was just about working the whole thing out of my system, and nothing to do with the reality of her.

I think, particularly in this era of social media, people can even become obsessed with others being obsessed with them, for ego reasons alone. Attention is flattering and addictive, particularly from people you're attracted to. Might even be seen as a tad obsessive that you're still inquiring about this bull's behavior from so long ago, even though you're in a new relationship....ijs

Why do you think he doesn't want to be with her in any way? Because he told her to move on and hasn't said anything to her? Did you see another poster pulled up his old thread where she broke up with him, she tried to reconcile and they were talking, she said something he didn't like so he called it off before and then obviously posted another woman to make her jealous? Same stupid behavior his exhibiting, yet he entertained them getting back together after that then told her to move on because he doesn't want her *rolls eyes. Now it's she said something that pissed him off, he told her to move on, then went straight into stalking her on social media. It's the same cycle for him.

Yes, saw the old thread....I mean maybe, but it just doesn't really sound like behavior working towards that end. The latest sounds more like he's trying to understand and rationalize his own obsessive behavior. Either way, I wouldn't call it possessiveness....

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Possessive

They don’t want you but don’t want others to have you either

My possessiveness stops once I feel I am not the one for them. Since I genuinely care about my exes and want the best for them, and now feel I know that 'best' is not me, I can easily be happy for them in their new relationship, with their new family, whatever....And I can absolutely see myself being a bit voyeuristic and checking their pics out the 2 to 3 times per yr I feel bored enough to check social media. Its actually more dangerous and bothersome for me if it looks like they arent doing well.

I loved my exes enough to share my life with them, still love them as friends very deeply, and its hard for me to understand anything other than this. Have often given exes relationship advice for new dudes, pulled charts for them etc., would definitely even set them up with someone if I felt it was a good fit.....

Checking a few times a year I think is definitely normal for anyone.

Yea, I’ve never gotten the vibe you guys were still possessive once you’d determined the relationship wasn’t right for you. Now, my Gemini boyfriend definitely would still be possessive after the fact if we were to break up.

So in this post what would you say about this bull? Still possessive even though he said he didn’t still want his or he still wants her or none of the above?

https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/taurus/i-male-taurus-told-my-ex-to-move-on-i-keep-looking-at-her-leo-instagram--11062874/

That's not being possessive, but obsessive. Not to say that bull isn't in denial about lingering feelings, but he certainly isn't trying to own her or be with her in any way. Now if you're running into the dude in public places and he's cock blocking when he sees you with other men, etc. (something a friend was recently saying her ex-bull was doing), that's possessiveness.

Can't vouch for other bulls, but I'm extremely obsessive in most aspects of my life. I have definitely had lingering obsessions, even after I'm completely done with a relationship, and actually also with a Leo. The physical/sexual chemistry was extremely strong, have never had a woman be so aggressive or overt sexually towards me, but I felt she was really unstable and I wanted nothing to do with her relationship-wise. After I made that decision, it would literally turn my stomach to see her name/number pop up on my phone. At the same time, I just couldn't get her out of my head in terms of fantasizing; it took maybe 6 mos. to a year after losing contact for that to stop and I wasn't sure it ever would. Maybe if there was a snapchat then, and she was posting regularly, I would've creeped it...I have no idea. Really though, at that point it was just about working the whole thing out of my system, and nothing to do with the reality of her.

I think, particularly in this era of social media, people can even become obsessed with others being obsessed with them, for ego reasons alone. Attention is flattering and addictive, particularly from people you're attracted to. Might even be seen as a tad obsessive that you're still inquiring about this bull's behavior from so long ago, even though you're in a new relationship....ijs

Why do you think he doesn't want to be with her in any way? Because he told her to move on and hasn't said anything to her? Did you see another poster pulled up his old thread where she broke up with him, she tried to reconcile and they were talking, she said something he didn't like so he called it off before and then obviously posted another woman to make her jealous? Same stupid behavior his exhibiting, yet he entertained them getting back together after that then told her to move on because he doesn't want her *rolls eyes. Now it's she said something that pissed him off, he told her to move on, then went straight into stalking her on social media. It's the same cycle for him.

Yes, saw the old thread....I mean maybe, but it just doesn't really sound like behavior working towards that end. The latest sounds more like he's trying to understand and rationalize his own obsessive behavior. Either way, I wouldn't call it possessiveness....

Hmm interesting. I guess I thought this bull still wanted to be with her because they were reconciling for two months, then she said one thing and then it was move on, but let me obessess over you. Sounds more like a reactionary decision out of anger followed by the obesseive behavior because of regret.

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Possessive

They don’t want you but don’t want others to have you either

My possessiveness stops once I feel I am not the one for them. Since I genuinely care about my exes and want the best for them, and now feel I know that 'best' is not me, I can easily be happy for them in their new relationship, with their new family, whatever....And I can absolutely see myself being a bit voyeuristic and checking their pics out the 2 to 3 times per yr I feel bored enough to check social media. Its actually more dangerous and bothersome for me if it looks like they arent doing well.

I loved my exes enough to share my life with them, still love them as friends very deeply, and its hard for me to understand anything other than this. Have often given exes relationship advice for new dudes, pulled charts for them etc., would definitely even set them up with someone if I felt it was a good fit.....

Checking a few times a year I think is definitely normal for anyone.

Yea, I’ve never gotten the vibe you guys were still possessive once you’d determined the relationship wasn’t right for you. Now, my Gemini boyfriend definitely would still be possessive after the fact if we were to break up.

So in this post what would you say about this bull? Still possessive even though he said he didn’t still want his or he still wants her or none of the above?

https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/taurus/i-male-taurus-told-my-ex-to-move-on-i-keep-looking-at-her-leo-instagram--11062874/

That's not being possessive, but obsessive. Not to say that bull isn't in denial about lingering feelings, but he certainly isn't trying to own her or be with her in any way. Now if you're running into the dude in public places and he's cock blocking when he sees you with other men, etc. (something a friend was recently saying her ex-bull was doing), that's possessiveness.

Can't vouch for other bulls, but I'm extremely obsessive in most aspects of my life. I have definitely had lingering obsessions, even after I'm completely done with a relationship, and actually also with a Leo. The physical/sexual chemistry was extremely strong, have never had a woman be so aggressive or overt sexually towards me, but I felt she was really unstable and I wanted nothing to do with her relationship-wise. After I made that decision, it would literally turn my stomach to see her name/number pop up on my phone. At the same time, I just couldn't get her out of my head in terms of fantasizing; it took maybe 6 mos. to a year after losing contact for that to stop and I wasn't sure it ever would. Maybe if there was a snapchat then, and she was posting regularly, I would've creeped it...I have no idea. Really though, at that point it was just about working the whole thing out of my system, and nothing to do with the reality of her.

I think, particularly in this era of social media, people can even become obsessed with others being obsessed with them, for ego reasons alone. Attention is flattering and addictive, particularly from people you're attracted to. Might even be seen as a tad obsessive that you're still inquiring about this bull's behavior from so long ago, even though you're in a new relationship....ijs

Why do you think he doesn't want to be with her in any way? Because he told her to move on and hasn't said anything to her? Did you see another poster pulled up his old thread where she broke up with him, she tried to reconcile and they were talking, she said something he didn't like so he called it off before and then obviously posted another woman to make her jealous? Same stupid behavior his exhibiting, yet he entertained them getting back together after that then told her to move on because he doesn't want her *rolls eyes. Now it's she said something that pissed him off, he told her to move on, then went straight into stalking her on social media. It's the same cycle for him.

Yes, saw the old thread....I mean maybe, but it just doesn't really sound like behavior working towards that end. The latest sounds more like he's trying to understand and rationalize his own obsessive behavior. Either way, I wouldn't call it possessiveness....

Hmm interesting. I guess I thought this bull still wanted to be with her because they were reconciling for two months, then she said one thing and then it was move on, but let me obessess over you. Sounds more like a reactionary decision out of anger followed by the obesseive behavior because of regret.

Could be true, but reactionary decisions out of anger can often actually create finality in a relationship. I've done it myself. I can tolerate a lot, but I just can't deal with people who push certain buttons. Push them enough times, and I'll end things, *without regret*, and I'll go through the withdrawal, wait that lingering obsession out, etc. You can make a rational or practical decision to avoid what you see as a negative trend or pattern, even though there's still a residue of irrational emotions and behaviors that take time to dissipate....I think that's common place to a degree when you decide to end any relationship....trying to actually be with someone, especially "own" them in some sense, looks very different though IMO....

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Possessive

They don’t want you but don’t want others to have you either

My possessiveness stops once I feel I am not the one for them. Since I genuinely care about my exes and want the best for them, and now feel I know that 'best' is not me, I can easily be happy for them in their new relationship, with their new family, whatever....And I can absolutely see myself being a bit voyeuristic and checking their pics out the 2 to 3 times per yr I feel bored enough to check social media. Its actually more dangerous and bothersome for me if it looks like they arent doing well.

I loved my exes enough to share my life with them, still love them as friends very deeply, and its hard for me to understand anything other than this. Have often given exes relationship advice for new dudes, pulled charts for them etc., would definitely even set them up with someone if I felt it was a good fit.....

Checking a few times a year I think is definitely normal for anyone.

Yea, I’ve never gotten the vibe you guys were still possessive once you’d determined the relationship wasn’t right for you. Now, my Gemini boyfriend definitely would still be possessive after the fact if we were to break up.

So in this post what would you say about this bull? Still possessive even though he said he didn’t still want his or he still wants her or none of the above?

https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/taurus/i-male-taurus-told-my-ex-to-move-on-i-keep-looking-at-her-leo-instagram--11062874/

That's not being possessive, but obsessive. Not to say that bull isn't in denial about lingering feelings, but he certainly isn't trying to own her or be with her in any way. Now if you're running into the dude in public places and he's cock blocking when he sees you with other men, etc. (something a friend was recently saying her ex-bull was doing), that's possessiveness.

Can't vouch for other bulls, but I'm extremely obsessive in most aspects of my life. I have definitely had lingering obsessions, even after I'm completely done with a relationship, and actually also with a Leo. The physical/sexual chemistry was extremely strong, have never had a woman be so aggressive or overt sexually towards me, but I felt she was really unstable and I wanted nothing to do with her relationship-wise. After I made that decision, it would literally turn my stomach to see her name/number pop up on my phone. At the same time, I just couldn't get her out of my head in terms of fantasizing; it took maybe 6 mos. to a year after losing contact for that to stop and I wasn't sure it ever would. Maybe if there was a snapchat then, and she was posting regularly, I would've creeped it...I have no idea. Really though, at that point it was just about working the whole thing out of my system, and nothing to do with the reality of her.

I think, particularly in this era of social media, people can even become obsessed with others being obsessed with them, for ego reasons alone. Attention is flattering and addictive, particularly from people you're attracted to. Might even be seen as a tad obsessive that you're still inquiring about this bull's behavior from so long ago, even though you're in a new relationship....ijs

Why do you think he doesn't want to be with her in any way? Because he told her to move on and hasn't said anything to her? Did you see another poster pulled up his old thread where she broke up with him, she tried to reconcile and they were talking, she said something he didn't like so he called it off before and then obviously posted another woman to make her jealous? Same stupid behavior his exhibiting, yet he entertained them getting back together after that then told her to move on because he doesn't want her *rolls eyes. Now it's she said something that pissed him off, he told her to move on, then went straight into stalking her on social media. It's the same cycle for him.

Yes, saw the old thread....I mean maybe, but it just doesn't really sound like behavior working towards that end. The latest sounds more like he's trying to understand and rationalize his own obsessive behavior. Either way, I wouldn't call it possessiveness....

Hmm interesting. I guess I thought this bull still wanted to be with her because they were reconciling for two months, then she said one thing and then it was move on, but let me obessess over you. Sounds more like a reactionary decision out of anger followed by the obesseive behavior because of regret.

Could be true, but reactionary decisions out of anger can often actually create finality in a relationship. I've done it myself. I can tolerate a lot, but I just can't deal with people who push certain buttons. Push them enough times, and I'll end things, *without regret*, and I'll go through the withdrawal, wait that lingering obsession out, etc. You can make a rational or practical decision to avoid what you see as a negative trend or pattern, even though there's still a residue of irrational emotions and behaviors that take time to dissipate....I think that's common place to a degree when you decide to end any relationship....trying to actually be with someone, especially "own" them in some sense, looks very different though IMO....

I agree. That you can make a final decision from a reactionary one-I've done it. I was pushed and pushed and pushed. It took years to get there and once I made that choice I didn't really look back. I definitely didn't obsess over it.

What do you mean, "wait that lingering obsession out"? You were obsessive and acted on it? Or you were still obsessed, recognized it, and try to keep it under control?

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Possessive

They don’t want you but don’t want others to have you either

My possessiveness stops once I feel I am not the one for them. Since I genuinely care about my exes and want the best for them, and now feel I know that 'best' is not me, I can easily be happy for them in their new relationship, with their new family, whatever....And I can absolutely see myself being a bit voyeuristic and checking their pics out the 2 to 3 times per yr I feel bored enough to check social media. Its actually more dangerous and bothersome for me if it looks like they arent doing well.

I loved my exes enough to share my life with them, still love them as friends very deeply, and its hard for me to understand anything other than this. Have often given exes relationship advice for new dudes, pulled charts for them etc., would definitely even set them up with someone if I felt it was a good fit.....

Checking a few times a year I think is definitely normal for anyone.

Yea, I’ve never gotten the vibe you guys were still possessive once you’d determined the relationship wasn’t right for you. Now, my Gemini boyfriend definitely would still be possessive after the fact if we were to break up.

So in this post what would you say about this bull? Still possessive even though he said he didn’t still want his or he still wants her or none of the above?

https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/taurus/i-male-taurus-told-my-ex-to-move-on-i-keep-looking-at-her-leo-instagram--11062874/

That's not being possessive, but obsessive. Not to say that bull isn't in denial about lingering feelings, but he certainly isn't trying to own her or be with her in any way. Now if you're running into the dude in public places and he's cock blocking when he sees you with other men, etc. (something a friend was recently saying her ex-bull was doing), that's possessiveness.

Can't vouch for other bulls, but I'm extremely obsessive in most aspects of my life. I have definitely had lingering obsessions, even after I'm completely done with a relationship, and actually also with a Leo. The physical/sexual chemistry was extremely strong, have never had a woman be so aggressive or overt sexually towards me, but I felt she was really unstable and I wanted nothing to do with her relationship-wise. After I made that decision, it would literally turn my stomach to see her name/number pop up on my phone. At the same time, I just couldn't get her out of my head in terms of fantasizing; it took maybe 6 mos. to a year after losing contact for that to stop and I wasn't sure it ever would. Maybe if there was a snapchat then, and she was posting regularly, I would've creeped it...I have no idea. Really though, at that point it was just about working the whole thing out of my system, and nothing to do with the reality of her.

I think, particularly in this era of social media, people can even become obsessed with others being obsessed with them, for ego reasons alone. Attention is flattering and addictive, particularly from people you're attracted to. Might even be seen as a tad obsessive that you're still inquiring about this bull's behavior from so long ago, even though you're in a new relationship....ijs

Why do you think he doesn't want to be with her in any way? Because he told her to move on and hasn't said anything to her? Did you see another poster pulled up his old thread where she broke up with him, she tried to reconcile and they were talking, she said something he didn't like so he called it off before and then obviously posted another woman to make her jealous? Same stupid behavior his exhibiting, yet he entertained them getting back together after that then told her to move on because he doesn't want her *rolls eyes. Now it's she said something that pissed him off, he told her to move on, then went straight into stalking her on social media. It's the same cycle for him.

Yes, saw the old thread....I mean maybe, but it just doesn't really sound like behavior working towards that end. The latest sounds more like he's trying to understand and rationalize his own obsessive behavior. Either way, I wouldn't call it possessiveness....

Hmm interesting. I guess I thought this bull still wanted to be with her because they were reconciling for two months, then she said one thing and then it was move on, but let me obessess over you. Sounds more like a reactionary decision out of anger followed by the obesseive behavior because of regret.

Could be true, but reactionary decisions out of anger can often actually create finality in a relationship. I've done it myself. I can tolerate a lot, but I just can't deal with people who push certain buttons. I know how bad my anger can be and I have no interest in a dynamic that keeps me in that state too often - doesn't matter how much I like the person. Push those buttons enough times, and I'll end things, *without regret*, and I'll go through the withdrawal, wait that lingering obsession out, etc. Its best for all involved IMO. You can make a rational or practical decision to avoid what you see as a negative trend or pattern, even though there's still a residue of irrational emotions and behaviors that take time to dissipate....I think that's common place to a degree when you decide to end any relationship....trying to actually be with someone, especially "own" them in some sense, looks very different though IMO...

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This isn't a sign thing. It's a people thing.

Your condescending tone towards the "stalking thread" is actually more sign fitting for Leo than stalking is for bulls. Stalking is universal. The poster who made a the "stalking thread" has obviously done some introspection and noticed his behavior is "off", hence the need to post in the manner he did. That's part of the healing process IME. Some return to their exes over and over knowing it will never work, some jump on the first piece of ass they see in hopes of getting over an ex - rebounds are fleeting, and some mentally torture themselves, all are coping mechanisms. Some people are just more willing to admit it than others.

https://www.google.com/amp/s/metro.co.uk/2017/10/29/how-normal-is-your-social-media-stalking-7036400/amp/

https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2018/feb/13/social-media-spying-stalking

https://techcrunch.com/gallery/9-reasons-social-media-stalking-feels-so-right/

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Leo’s need attention. It’s your modus operandi.

Without it you simply wither and die.


If a Taurus loves you he ain’t doing it subtly. Your ex is/was curious.

He wouldn’t let you go if it was a case of stalking/missing you. Bulls are material so they need more than online bs.

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Leo’s need attention. It’s your modus operandi.

Without it you simply wither and die.


If a Taurus loves you he ain’t doing it subtly. Your ex is/was curious.

He wouldn’t let you go if it was a case of stalking/missing you. Bulls are material so they need more than online bs.

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Leo’s need attention. It’s your modus operandi.

Without it you simply wither and die.


If a Taurus loves you he ain’t doing it subtly. Your ex is/was curious.

He wouldn’t let you go if it was a case of stalking/missing you. Bulls are material so they need more than online bs.

Its a bingo.

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Leo’s need attention. It’s your modus operandi.

Without it you simply wither and die.


If a Taurus loves you he ain’t doing it subtly. Your ex is/was curious.

He wouldn’t let you go if it was a case of stalking/missing you. Bulls are material so they need more than online bs.

Its a bingo.

Not quite a bingo. He broke up with me and was all on my social media, then he eventually stopped. After a long period of time, he eventually reached out and said he had missed me and tried to get me back but I had moved on by then. He told me that even though he broke up with me he wanted me to say something to him (wth?) but I didn't so he figured I was okay with the breakup (which I wasn't). According to him, he had never loved anyone as much as me and he was stalking me and missing me but didn't say anything.

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This isn't a sign thing. It's a people thing.

Your condescending tone towards the "stalking thread" is actually more sign fitting for Leo than stalking is for bulls. Stalking is universal. The poster who made a the "stalking thread" has obviously done some introspection and noticed his behavior is "off", hence the need to post in the manner he did. That's part of the healing process IME. Some return to their exes over and over knowing it will never work, some jump on the first piece of ass they see in hopes of getting over an ex - rebounds are fleeting, and some mentally torture themselves, all are coping mechanisms. Some people are just more willing to admit it than others.

https://www.google.com/amp/s/metro.co.uk/2017/10/29/how-normal-is-your-social-media-stalking-7036400/amp/

https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2018/feb/13/social-media-spying-stalking

https://techcrunch.com/gallery/9-reasons-social-media-stalking-feels-so-right/

I made the thread not because I was being introspective. I personally didn't think it was weird to continue to look at my ex's posts daily, my best friend, on the other hand, thought it was which prompted me to create the thread to prove he was wrong. I don't think OP was being condescending. I took no offense. She thought it was funny and I can kind of see why.

What moon do you have?

I was not referring to the OP being condescending towards you, just in general towards this topic. People have different ways of dealing with issues.

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Just saw this post on Instagram (peep the link below) and started cracking up. My ex of years ago broke up with me and then started stalking my social media so I figured it was just his character, but may be it's not? So, bulls...when you no longer want your ex why do you still stalk them? Or maybe the post is just dead wrong haha.

https://imgur.com/a/RKn33DT

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This happened with my ex years ago. I'm not asking for myself. I thought the post was funny and was curious about the validity of it.

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Leo’s need attention. It’s your modus operandi.

Without it you simply wither and die.


If a Taurus loves you he ain’t doing it subtly. Your ex is/was curious.

He wouldn’t let you go if it was a case of stalking/missing you. Bulls are material so they need more than online bs.

Its a bingo.

Not quite a bingo. My ex broke up with me and was all on my social media obsessively, then he eventually stopped. After a long period of time, he eventually reached out and said he had missed me and tried to get me back but I had moved on by then. He told me that even though he broke up with me he wanted me to say something to him (wth?) but I didn't so he figured I was okay with the breakup (which I wasn't). According to him, he had never loved anyone as much as me and he was stalking me and missing me but didn't say anything.

Again if he was serious he would have reached out sooner but with the advent of social media things get convoluted and stupid very quick.

Emotional honesty is out the window.

You weren’t ok with the break up and I know Leo’s who employ social media tactics like they are on a 6 figure payroll.

Your posting habits would have changed. Everyone loves the Rumi quotes and “I’m so happy in my life” projections.

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Not

But my point is your ex was just doing what most men and women do during a breakup. Processing.

He reached out which is very earthy and you by omission had moved on.

So why ask?

I agree that you may enjoy the mind fkry of it all like most Leo. The ego is so strong.

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social media is driving folks mad. so what if he looked? so do all your other followers. they look too. it's not a big deal. you're overthinking it. just do you.