Can I grow to love someone else?

This topic was created in the Taurus forum by SunTauVenGem on Monday, December 23, 2013 and has 27 replies.
I got myself into deep trouble again! Met someone from the dating website. He's got everything going for him ( not that it matters for me that much as I am independent and love to achieve things on my own) he's a Taurus with venus in Taurus and most like moon in Pisces. He drove all the way to see me last night. He couldn't stop hugging me... We just cuddled and cuddled and cuddled and talked a lot.. I gathered from all the conversations that I am now "the one". I am everything he's been looking for. He wants to settle down and find that perfect woman. I want to buy a house and from what I could gather he wants me in it!!! He said he will be there for me no matter what and whatever I say he will do . He's very stubborn but he knows the first moment he talked to me that he will bend down to me! LoL. His mum and me.... He is an engineer so he will travel a fair bit from home for a few years but he said he can set us up financially if his partner can put up with him. He is very manganous person so now I do assume kissing anyone else would be cheating! My question is ! He has no fire placements and I must admit I feel like I will have a semi boring bull + bull life style !!! I hinted us doing things outside of the bedroom like activities n that! He said we can go to a picnic and cuddled all day' he surely love his cuddles!!! Look I admire the guy I do think I can grow to love him... I can't stop thinking about the other bull still and I don't want to turn this bull now for someone else who doesn't share the same feelings!!! Advice please! Oh and we had not had sex. He was a great man and waited eventhough I was not making it easy on him. I want to wait untill he ask me to be his girlfriend... I don't want to hurt him.... Thoughts on this plz?
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Can I ask how old you are? I only ask cause some of your post seem a bit....young.
You seem to be everywhere...and searching for a ideal relationship...
One minute you say your in love with this guy, then the next your dating another guy. You just don't seem like the ideal person for a taurus.
My advice is listen to your heart, and stop being greedy or else your a glutton for punishment....
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How long have you guys been seeing each other? Buying a house is serious...
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@STVG smile im so happy for you! Seems you're over the main bull ^-^
buying a house?!!?! well.....that escalated quickly
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@ five by five . I am 24 and I am not young in term of maturity. To be frankly honest I am tired of being hurt. When I joined the site I simply did it for fun and wasn't exactly looking for anything" serious". This site is great though it find matches for you based on your personalities and all that and what you want out of life and what you want in a partner not based on astrology but funny enough It found sincere Taurus match for me! I didn't expect it to turn out this serious. Men that go on it do want long term serious relationships. Me on the other hand just wanted to see where it takes me.
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Posted by Impulsv
Mmm is he saying a this after just meeting? Or been dating a while? Mm u got to let go
Of the other Taurus completely not good to do this to this bull if ur not in 100 percent. U can but not while stuck on another.

He has always been sincere from the beginning. He told me he knew he was in trouble the first time he got talking to me. The dating website says a lot about me without even meeting in person. His venus in Taurus is very strong! He has always wanted to settle down with someone and have a family since he was young. A girl slapped him once cause they thought he wanted to get into her pants ! ... I know I have to let go of the other bull... I don't think me and that bull that I love will work in marriage anyway! His Leo moon bring in to much drama.i can't deal with drama! Sad in saying that I cause it myself too...
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Posted by PVAF
Gemini Venus issues??


Hey now! Tongue
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I think I found the right man ( venus in Taurus) to calm that crap down ! I need something serious like this to stop me getting into anymore trouble !!! FML
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@ scribble.! Wise answers. I totally agree with you on that one. While he was holding me close I wanted to ask him that he was very serious wasn't he but I couldn't bring myself to it. I also didn't really want to bring my past issues to current one.. In saying that I was hoping by the time we see each other next I will be able to move on from the main bull by myself. I don't want to cause any insecurities to our relationship if you know what I mean... ;(
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Posted by aftershine
@STVG smile im so happy for you! Seems you're over the main bull ^-^
buying a house?!!?! well.....that escalated quickly

I think it's getting there slowly Winking
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Posted by PVAF
Gemini Venus issues??


Oh God, it's the fucking worse. I have Gemini rising as well, and it's so damn contradictory what goes in my head sometimes, but I'm loaded with Taurus sun power that I let those voices know who's boss.
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Posted by SunTauVenGem
I got myself into deep trouble again! Met someone from the dating website. He's got everything going for him ( not that it matters for me that much as I am independent and love to achieve things on my own) he's a Taurus with venus in Taurus and most like moon in Pisces. He drove all the way to see me last night. He couldn't stop hugging me... We just cuddled and cuddled and cuddled and talked a lot.. I gathered from all the conversations that I am now "the one". I am everything he's been looking for. He wants to settle down and find that perfect woman. I want to buy a house and from what I could gather he wants me in it!!! He said he will be there for me no matter what and whatever I say he will do . He's very stubborn but he knows the first moment he talked to me that he will bend down to me! LoL. His mum and me.... He is an engineer so he will travel a fair bit from home for a few years but he said he can set us up financially if his partner can put up with him. He is very manganous person so now I do assume kissing anyone else would be cheating! My question is ! He has no fire placements and I must admit I feel like I will have a semi boring bull + bull life style !!! I hinted us doing things outside of the bedroom like activities n that! He said we can go to a picnic and cuddled all day' he surely love his cuddles!!! Look I admire the guy I do think I can grow to love him... I can't stop thinking about the other bull still and I don't want to turn this bull now for someone else who doesn't share the same feelings!!! Advice please! Oh and we had not had sex. He was a great man and waited eventhough I was not making it easy on him. I want to wait untill he ask me to be his girlfriend... I don't want to hurt him.... Thoughts on this plz?


Deep Breath suntau. While it sounds good, take things at your pace. The Gemini in you is telling you things, confusing you but remember your Taurus nature. Analyze, Smell these guys out, keep emotions controlled, maybe even do a risk-analysis cause and effect mental chart(okay im weird).
But, yeah I mean. Taurus are the best at emotional control, you can definitely grow to love someone else. Looks like you have to start being direct with this other guy who's taking too long (is he a bull to?), he'll have to know at this rate he's going to turn into just an option.
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Posted by thescepter
Posted by PVAF
What's the name of this dating website?


LMFAO!
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is this a sacarstic question lol :p I will pm you Winking
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Posted by SunTauVenGem
@ five by five . I am 24 and I am not young in term of maturity. To be frankly honest I am tired of being hurt. When I joined the site I simply did it for fun and wasn't exactly looking for anything" serious". This site is great though it find matches for you based on your personalities and all that and what you want out of life and what you want in a partner not based on astrology but funny enough It found sincere Taurus match for me! I didn't expect it to turn out this serious. Men that go on it do want long term serious relationships. Me on the other hand just wanted to see where it takes me.


If okcupid is the site, you can also search by astrological match. I get only Taurus and Cancer.
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Posted by Vainth
Posted by PVAF
Gemini Venus issues??


Oh God, it's the fucking worse. I have Gemini rising as well, and it's so damn contradictory what goes in my head sometimes, but I'm loaded with Taurus sun power that I let those voices know who's boss.
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It's not fun! I do feel though that I need a strong character in a person to calm my venus down! It's been good so far . I finally feel peaceful and not running from one to the next! venus in Gemini is the worst!
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Posted by Damnata
Posted by SunTauVenGem
@ five by five . I am 24 and I am not young in term of maturity. To be frankly honest I am tired of being hurt. When I joined the site I simply did it for fun and wasn't exactly looking for anything" serious". This site is great though it find matches for you based on your personalities and all that and what you want out of life and what you want in a partner not based on astrology but funny enough It found sincere Taurus match for me! I didn't expect it to turn out this serious. Men that go on it do want long term serious relationships. Me on the other hand just wanted to see where it takes me.


If okcupid is the site, you can also search by astrological match. I get only Taurus and Cancer.
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No it isn't. It's a full on website and the majority of men go there for serious relationships. It's very popular in Australia. They find matches for me... It takes a long time to create your profile. I have to answer 500 questions!!!!
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@vainth. Thank you! My taurus nature is coming back !!! I can feel the warm wind blowing peacefully...your response is great though! I will take my time and sniff these guys out! The analysis you suggested is a must!Winking I can grow to love him... Bulls are too sweet to resist!!!!
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Posted by Damnata
Posted by SunTauVenGem
@ five by five . I am 24 and I am not young in term of maturity. To be frankly honest I am tired of being hurt. When I joined the site I simply did it for fun and wasn't exactly looking for anything" serious". This site is great though it find matches for you based on your personalities and all that and what you want out of life and what you want in a partner not based on astrology but funny enough It found sincere Taurus match for me! I didn't expect it to turn out this serious. Men that go on it do want long term serious relationships. Me on the other hand just wanted to see where it takes me.


If okcupid is the site, you can also search by astrological match. I get only Taurus and Cancer.

No it isn't. It's a full on website and the majority of men go there for serious relationships. It's very popular in Australia. They find matches for me... It takes a long time to create your profile. I have to answer 500 questions!!!!
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The only dating website I know like that is eharmony....it makes you answer 500 questions and it took me nearly a week to do them all.
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Why? Because he's showing you affection and making plans for your future together? You need to step away from the computer and men in general and find out what it is about you that makes you respond so irrationally to attention from men. You've spoken to him for a few weeks and met him once and now you're talking yourself into spending the rest of your life with some randomer.... Because he wants to... seriously?
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Posted by PVAF
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Posted by SunTauVenGem
Posted by Damnata
Posted by SunTauVenGem
@ five by five . I am 24 and I am not young in term of maturity. To be frankly honest I am tired of being hurt. When I joined the site I simply did it for fun and wasn't exactly looking for anything" serious". This site is great though it find matches for you based on your personalities and all that and what you want out of life and what you want in a partner not based on astrology but funny enough It found sincere Taurus match for me! I didn't expect it to turn out this serious. Men that go on it do want long term serious relationships. Me on the other hand just wanted to see where it takes me.


If okcupid is the site, you can also search by astrological match. I get only Taurus and Cancer.

No it isn't. It's a full on website and the majority of men go there for serious relationships. It's very popular in Australia. They find matches for me... It takes a long time to create your profile. I have to answer 500 questions!!!!


The only dating website I know like that is eharmony....it makes you answer 500 questions and it took me nearly a week to do them all.

Oh I thought it was something new.
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It's new to me :p
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Posted by celticlioness
Why? Because he's showing you affection and making plans for your future together? You need to step away from the computer and men in general and find out what it is about you that makes you respond so irrationally to attention from men. You've spoken to him for a few weeks and met him once and now you're talking yourself into spending the rest of your life with some randomer.... Because he wants to... seriously?

I don't think I'm responding irrationally. There are many factors about him that is making me consider him seriously. He's willing to provide a stable life style that is long lasting. How can I deny that. I am going to make him work for it obviously. I followed my heart too many times and it only led me to hell so I am going with my head this time.
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Let's do a debate..:p who thinks I should tell this guy to take it slowwwww....? He's monogamous kind of man so I don't think he will be happy if I say.... I'm not ready to be exclusive yet...thoughts? ... Who thinks I should take sometime out from all the men...:p
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Posted by soultalk
Posted by SunTauVenGem
Posted by celticlioness
Why? Because he's showing you affection and making plans for your future together? You need to step away from the computer and men in general and find out what it is about you that makes you respond so irrationally to attention from men. You've spoken to him for a few weeks and met him once and now you're talking yourself into spending the rest of your life with some randomer.... Because he wants to... seriously?

I don't think I'm responding irrationally. There are many factors about him that is making me consider him seriously. He's willing to provide a stable life style that is long lasting. How can I deny that. I am going to make him work for it obviously. I followed my heart too many times and it only led me to hell so I am going with my head this time.


Yes, in my culture it is called arranged marriage. Nothing wrong in it, only you need to check and double check the guy and his credibility. Involve families, have everything verified, confirmed so you know he is who he says he is. You don't want to take any risks.
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I agreed with that. I heard many success stories with arranged marriages. Some couples don't even see each other's faces until their wedding days! Winking
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... It's official... I am taken! Bull is the best sign of the zodiac !! ..so Promising..! The future seems so predictable already ! .. Typical bull trait ! So stable .. Consistent.. Like a rock... Wouldn't trade him for anyone else!
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Posted by celticlioness
Why? Because he's showing you affection and making plans for your future together? You need to step away from the computer and men in general and find out what it is about you that makes you respond so irrationally to attention from men. You've spoken to him for a few weeks and met him once and now you're talking yourself into spending the rest of your life with some randomer.... Because he wants to... seriously?


And let the church say AMEN!!
I agree fully with the above. From your previous post you seem a bit....boy loco.
Maybe you need to pump the breaks on dating and take some time to discover what you really want in a mate, No shade....but you come off as someone who's all bout chasing tempory high in the men's department.
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Posted by SunTauVenGem
... It's official... I am taken! Bull is the best sign of the zodiac !! ..so Promising..! The future seems so predictable already ! .. Typical bull trait ! So stable .. Consistent.. Like a rock... Wouldn't trade him for anyone else!


Taurus x Taurus??? Master combo imo.
Hooray! Let us know how it goes.
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Posted by Vainth
Posted by SunTauVenGem
... It's official... I am taken! Bull is the best sign of the zodiac !! ..so Promising..! The future seems so predictable already ! .. Typical bull trait ! So stable .. Consistent.. Like a rock... Wouldn't trade him for anyone else!


Taurus x Taurus??? Master combo imo.
Hooray! Let us know how it goes.
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So far so great!! Venus in Taurus perhaps? So many future plans together. He's like a rock. Best combination ! We make each other feel very secure/love/ wanted. No drama..just a stable consistent secure life together. When a bull make a decision he/she is the one.. Nothing can stop them.
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Posted by celticlioness
Why? Because he's showing you affection and making plans for your future together? You need to step away from the computer and men in general and find out what it is about you that makes you respond so irrationally to attention from men. You've spoken to him for a few weeks and met him once and now you're talking yourself into spending the rest of your life with some randomer.... Because he wants to... seriously?

I don't think I'm responding irrationally. There are many factors about him that is making me consider him seriously. He's willing to provide a stable life style that is long lasting. How can I deny that. I am going to make him work for it obviously. I followed my heart too many times and it only led me to hell so I am going with my head this time.


Yes, in my culture it is called arranged marriage. Nothing wrong in it, only you need to check and double check the guy and his credibility. Involve families, have everything verified, confirmed so you know he is who he says he is. You don't want to take any risks.

I agreed with that. I heard many success stories with arranged marriages. Some couples don't even see each other's faces until their wedding days! Winking


lol those days are long gone. no blind marriages Tongue. congratulations!
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Thank you!!!
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