Cap Girl Taurus Guy Help Again Please

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Ok I've been here before, curious about a taurean in my life. Here's the recap:So last summer I met a great Taurus guy and we immediately hit it off, just off the charts chemistry from our first conversation. We dated for a bit but cooled things off because we attended college 1,200 miles away from one another. He made it clear that he considered me future material and that he eventually wanted to pick things back up when we were at more stable places in our lives. Being the no nonsense cap that i am, i figured he was full of **** and quit talking to him. five weeks later he contacts me, and ever since then he's been texting me once a week, every couple weeks, and more often than not we have legitimate days long conversations, he'll send my pictures of his family, it's all good. He tells me about every achievement in his life, and when i congratulate him it seems to mean the world to him...but it's only through texts. On the 12th he texted me saying he was going to be in my city for July 4th and wanted to be sure we got together. Ironically I was just about to text him to say that I'd be in his town for work July 14th. He seemed genuinely excited about us meeting up but when I texted him last week just to see how he was doing (just like we always do) he didn't reply. Since we met that's NEVER happened before, not even during our "off" periods. Like it struck me as so odd that I kind of got worried about his well-being or figured he might not have received the message (I'm really not the type to rationalize people's actions though). I only initiate 20% -30% of our conversations (not to play games at all, just because things seem to flow better when he gets the ball rolling). So now I'm very confused. Why would he want to see me one week and then not even answer a text? This isn't one of those scenarios where the woman texts the guy too much and he freaks out, it's just a really confusing situation. Help please.
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@Curiouscap....

Consider this constructive criticism, but you may want to change that negative thought process.

1. He would rather see you than text you. He's even excited about seeing you. I can't speak for other Bulls, but I find 'texting' way too impersonal. It can lead to a myriad of interpretations. Seeing the excitement on someone's face (up and close in person) is PRICELESS!

2. He's including you in his inner circle, gradually. We rarely do this to individuals we're just passing time with. He sees a future with you. Stability with you. He clearly trusts you. How do you know this? He told you he sees a future with you verbatim.

3. Cappie, he's focused on his studies. He's attending school 1200 miles away from you. He will graduate, get a stable job, and take care of a future wife. He's a Taurus man. Let him handle his business so he can take care of you.

Or would you rather have him drop out of school, move in with you, mooch off of you financially, to erase those little paranoid ants roaming around in your head?
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Posted by TaurusBull1977
@Curiouscap....

Consider this constructive criticism, but you may want to change that negative thought process.

1. He would rather see you than text you. He's even excited about seeing you. I can't speak for other Bulls, but I find 'texting' way too impersonal. It can lead to a myriad of interpretations. Seeing the excitement on someone's face (up and close in person) is PRICELESS!

2. He's including you in his inner circle, gradually. We rarely do this to individuals we're just passing time with. He sees a future with you. Stability with you. He clearly trusts you. How do you know this? He told you he sees a future with you verbatim.

3. Cappie, he's focused on his studies. He's attending school 1200 miles away from you. He will graduate, get a stable job, and take care of a future wife. He's a Taurus man. Let him handle his business so he can take care of you.

Or would you rather have him drop out of school, move in with you, mooch off of you financially, to erase those little paranoid ants roaming around in your head?




Thank you so much, I can get really melancholy sometimes I guess. And yeah you're right about the focusing part. We just graduated and I know he's been stressing trying to find a job. I'm trying not to overthink things with him but it's hard because I don't fall for people often. He's one of only 2 guys I've seriously developed feelings for in the past 4 years (the other was a sagittarius, you can imagine how that worked out lol) and I'm just trying to keep things running smoothly (which is why I freak out here instead of to him) I hate texting too, and I know he doesn't like it either but it occurred to me more than once that because of the awkward way things ended a year ago he might not feel comfortable calling. I know an unreciprocated text shouldn't mean this much to anyone EVER, but it's just weird for us I guess.

*Sidenote: I love your Kathleen Cleaver avi, she's kind of my personal hero
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I hate to play devil's advocate but something else might have caught his eye much closer and he's weighing his options.



Yeah I figured as much, but on a friendship level the recent change seems weird to me. Because despite whatever weird history we have, we really are friends and I don't think I would go from wanting to see somebody I'm cool with one week not caring at all the next.
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I can understand your frustration.

Earth and Earth is a BEAUTIFUL pairing....but a very slow pairing. You're dealing with two very guarded emotional souls (despite the shield of armor we represent to the public), very cautious individuals, and ambitious go-getters who want to create a life of stability, security and happiness. Despite all the familiarity and easy-going nature that's displayed when earth signs interact, there is still some level of insecurities that rears its ugly head when we fall hard and we sense the other person may not be on the same page as we are.

This becomes a challenge when the other party is an Earth sign as well.

I should know.

I'm with a Virgo.

During the initial states of dating, he was actually a lot slower than I was. Who would of known? Combine that with his mutable nature, and it was extremely frustrating regardless of the soul mate connection I had with him. With him, it just worked, we clicked, and it all made sense. Scary, almost.

So trust me, I know what you're going through. Caps are good for Bulls. Just enjoy the ride, and allow things to flow organically.

Good Luck 😉


Sidenote: Kathleen is my hero, too. She's also a Taurus.
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I'm not a Taurus, but one thing I can tell you as a Capricorn is don't assume! We are naturally negative...it's 2nd nature, so your assumptions will most likely be for the worst, especially since your feelings are involved. One thing about my Taurus friend is that he'll ask questions and make me elaborate. I don't do that. I automatically think I know what's going on, which 99.9% of the time negative, then I pull away for the 1976th time and we don't get anywhere, so I agree with TaurusBull...try to chill with the negativity.

Even if things aren't 100% now...it's technically still the beginning stages, they will grow to be much better if you ask questions instead of assuming the worst, and the two of you slowly get to know eachother.
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Posted by lnana04
I'm not a Taurus, but one thing I can tell you as a Capricorn is don't assume! We are naturally negative...it's 2nd nature, so your assumptions will most likely be for the worst, especially since your feelings are involved.



So true. She already went this route in this thread. Another Cap is like "oh he's probably looking at another girl", and she is like "Yeah, I figured as much"...LOL, I see this kind of stuff with Cap women alot - the pessimism....
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Posted by lnana04
I'm not a Taurus, but one thing I can tell you as a Capricorn is don't assume! We are naturally negative...it's 2nd nature, so your assumptions will most likely be for the worst, especially since your feelings are involved.



So true. She already went this route in this thread. Another Cap is like "oh he's probably looking at another girl", and she is like "Yeah, I figured as much"...LOL, I see this kind of stuff with Cap women alot - the pessimism....
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I know, I am. It's just I've been mentally and physically hurt really badly in the love department before so I always proceed with caution, hope for the best but plan for the worst. I try not to, it's just that assuming the worst comes more naturally to me than longing and daydreaming of anything really good happening when it comes to guys. I really am a romantic though, just not a very good one yet.
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There are times I don't feel like texting, and times I don't receive texts. Last I tried to send emails via Gmail, it wasn't working for me despite my having received emails. I also am not the type who has my cell with me wherever I go. To conserve battery, I put it on airplane mode. As you can see, most of these situations have nothing to do with the other person. Regardless, whatever you do, don't have an asshole attitude with him lest you wind up in a situation similar to mine:

There's a Cap who was(is?) in love with me, but when one of her coworkers mentioned something about me that isn't bad at all, she had a change of heart and was a complete asshole. Months have passed, some time went by where the few minutes we were in each others' vicinity and she'd look at the floor, a bit later I reali zed she was apparently still paying attention to me, months have passed and she has started to look directly at me while smiling again. Guess what I'm doing and have been doing?

Ignoring her. There was a moment I somehow wanted to fuck her despite still being pissed, but for the most part, I am indifferent. She is not a part of my world anymore. I have none of the enthusiasm I originally did for her. Until she actually apologizes for what she did, she does not exist to me. I want her to know how hurt I felt because of her behavior, even more so because she was always the one trying to get my attention. But I can't express pain in words, as it is only understood when it is felt. When a Taurus is pissed, you will know it.
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Posted by curiouscap

I really am a romantic though, just not a very good one yet.



Here is some advice.
You obviously have his heart.
But if you need additional reassurance....

Give him mind-blowing sex, and tell him your Va-jay-jay belongs to him.
In the morning, wake him up to some bacon and eggs (breakfast in bed), kiss your man on the lips, and crack a joke or two to start his day.
You will have his heart FOREVER! 😉

Taurus men love good sex.
Good Food.
And a strong woman with s sense of humor.

All this TMI on a Taurus board.....

*crosses legs, and blushes embarrassingly*
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There are times I don't feel like texting, and times I don't receive texts. Last I tried to send emails via Gmail, it wasn't working for me despite my having received emails. I also am not the type who has my cell with me wherever I go. To conserve battery, I put it on airplane mode. As you can see, most of these situations have nothing to do with the other person. Regardless, whatever you do, don't have an asshole attitude with him lest you wind up in a situation similar to mine:

There's a Cap who was(is?) in love with me, but when one of her coworkers mentioned something about me that isn't bad at all, she had a change of heart and was a complete asshole. Months have passed, some time went by where the few minutes we were in each others' vicinity and she'd look at the floor, a bit later I reali zed she was apparently still paying attention to me, months have passed and she has started to look directly at me while smiling again. Guess what I'm doing and have been doing?

Ignoring her. There was a moment I somehow wanted to fuck her despite still being pissed, but for the most part, I am indifferent. She is not a part of my world anymore. I have none of the enthusiasm I originally did for her. Until she actually apologizes for what she did, she does not exist to me. I want her to know how hurt I felt because of her behavior, even more so because she was always the one trying to get my attention. But I can't express pain in words, as it is only understood when it is felt. When a Taurus is pissed, you will know it.




Oh gosh it's nothing like that. I'm just confused, not angry and I'd never dream of hurting this guy's feelings (seriously, in the 12 months that we've known one another I have literally NEVER said anything to offend him lol talking to him makes me too happy for that) We've always been genuinely kind to one another and we don't know enough people in common to have gossip issues. I'm so sorry that happened to you, I was with a sagittarius who treated me similarly.
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Posted by curiouscap

I really am a romantic though, just not a very good one yet.



Here is some advice.
You obviously have his heart.
But if you need additional reassurance....

Give him mind-blowing sex, and tell him your Va-jay-jay belongs to him.
In the morning, wake him up to some bacon and eggs (breakfast in bed), kiss your man on the lips, and crack a joke or two to start his day.
You will have his heart FOREVER! 😉

Taurus men love good sex.
Good Food.
And a strong woman with s sense of humor.



LMFAO I would LOVE to give it up to him, that's seriously been on my mind ever since I found out I'd be in his hometown for work (of course the victoria's secret semi-annual sale coincides with my bad intentions lol) but I worry that with us being so hot & cold it wouldn't be a good idea. I cooked for him last summer (I SLAY in the kitchen) and he was all over it soI've got that part down, but I just always figured that banging him would mess everything up. Call me old-fashioned but I'm really not a fan of sex without monogamy because it always seems to complicate things and that happened with him I feel like I'd be kicking myself for years to come.

All this TMI on a Taurus board.....

*crosses legs, and blushes embarrassingly*
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You don't need to apologize, it's not your fault. I'm just relating that so you are aware of what happens if the relationship has gone sour since you seem to be coming up with reasons over the lack of response as if you did something wrong or if he suddenly changed his mind or some other negative thing that hasn't actually happened. I don't drag people I was interested in around if they no longer mean anything to me. I only disappear when it has been established that I'm not wanted because why waste time? Of coarse, I can't speak for all people born under Taurus, except when I say how long we hold grudges, what caused it and how to fix it. But I don't think that's what has happened with you. As someone previously suggested about him preferring to see you, I agree; I HATE talking on the phone. If I must actually speak to someone I don't work with, I would rather do it face to face. Also, if you continue talking on the phone or texting, what will you have to discuss when you actually see each other? He could be trying to avoid such a situation.
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curiouscap,

Why are you so confused? He might busy... my ex taurus man we have this back and forth emails..

some of my emails are not answered. I don't whine. lol. But when he have time he respond back.


I think it was obvious you send a text that you are going to his town on July 14? if he was excited

I bet he stick to that date. Just keep yourself busy and don't bother him for now.. I am pretty sure

he will get back with you before July 14.

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curiouscap,

Why are you so confused? He might busy... my ex taurus man we have this back and forth emails..

some of my emails are not answered. I don't whine. lol. But when he have time he respond back.


I think it was obvious you send a text that you are going to his town on July 14? if he was excited

I bet he stick to that date. Just keep yourself busy and don't bother him for now.. I am pretty sure

he will get back with you before July 14.



It's hot and cold, that's why I'm confused. We never ignore one another and it's difficult always being thrown for a loop.
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Hi curiouscap!

Same situation here 🙂)) just we live in a different countries, I have visited him for a week, and after one month I had an option to movie to his country, but.. he become distant, so I decided to go to diferent country. He was distant off course, because everything was going to fast for him, and that I don't know his language, so it would be hard to find a job and other issues. Yes yes.. he is not ready to change his plans now.
This is so sad and frustrating. Because I feel we like each other, and he was extremely nice when I visited him, he did care..
Now he still wants us to be friends, but I am like, we should make a commitment to each other that we will not sleep with others ( I know, it would be to hard for any guy) or we stop communicating because I really like him very much and it hurts me.
Still at the end he convinced me to keep in touch.. He tells me his plans, sends pictures, asks milion question how am I. I don't know will our friendship die or what, but.. keep waiting for what? like slow death. 🙂
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Hello curiouscap,

I like the hot & cold thing. If it is too hot will get burned. If it is too cold will get icy.

so hot n' cold is just a warm up combination.



Caps aren't really built that way. You give us cold and we give you colder. We're consistent like that.
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Exactly. It's impossible to respond to a wishy washy person and I've been hurt too badly in the past to have faith in anyone who doesn't care enough to have it in me.
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I just don't understand him. Why continue to talk to me? Our only foundation is a very short courtship so it's not as if there was a serious commitment for him to get over. We never slept together and honestly could probably go a lifetime without running into one another. Why does he continue to contact me? I'm so tired of being placed in the "wife category" by young men still trying to sow their wild oats or whatever. I've been going through a lot with my health and my family and I just don't need another headache. Why does he keep doing this? Why does he contact me about every accomplishment he makes, his family photographs, etc.? This is not normal behavior for a 22 year old man just looking for a friend.
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Maybe he's lonely or has a case of the Stalker Mentality. Personally, I don't linger when I'm unwanted. Of course it's all different when your in person, but long distance should be avoided at all costs as rarely does it ever truly work out. Your relationship albeit brief, was doomed from the start.

I personally find Cap Gals to be offensive to me. Last woman I courted was a Cap Gal and she was racking up Strikes against her on the daily. Playing mind games, everything was always a "Test", instead of being face to face she preferred Chat or Text, which was another Strike. Instead of engaging in meaningful conversation, she lied to me constantly and I sensed ulterior motives. I couldn't break it off and disappear fast enough!

Supposedly Cap / Taurus Relationship is one of the best, but every Cap gal I meet gets on my nerves. Instead of living in the moment and letting things unfold naturally, they play games and second guess everything. Annoying!
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Maybe he's lonely or has a case of the Stalker Mentality. Personally, I don't linger when I'm unwanted. Of course it's all different when your in person, but long distance should be avoided at all costs as rarely does it ever truly work out. Your relationship albeit brief, was doomed from the start.

I personally find Cap Gals to be offensive to me. Last woman I courted was a Cap Gal and she was racking up Strikes against her on the daily. Playing mind games, everything was always a "Test", instead of being face to face she preferred Chat or Text, which was another Strike. Instead of engaging in meaningful conversation, she lied to me constantly and I sensed ulterior motives. I couldn't break it off and disappear fast enough!

Supposedly Cap / Taurus Relationship is one of the best, but every Cap gal I meet gets on my nerves. Instead of living in the moment and letting things unfold naturally, they play games and second guess everything. Annoying!



I'm not the game playing type and Ive never been a liar. There was no need to be rude. I'm sorry cap women haven't worked out for you but that's no reason to bring unwarranted negativity into this thread.
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I just don't understand him. Why continue to talk to me? Our only foundation is a very short courtship so it's not as if there was a serious commitment for him to get over. We never slept together and honestly could probably go a lifetime without running into one another. Why does he continue to contact me? I'm so tired of being placed in the "wife category" by young men still trying to sow their wild oats or whatever. I've been going through a lot with my health and my family and I just don't need another headache. Why does he keep doing this? Why does he contact me about every accomplishment he makes, his family photographs, etc.? This is not normal behavior for a 22 year old man just looking for a friend.



So you didn't meet up?
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Oh no we did. It was lovely to see one another but there was an obvious elephant in the room. We're seeing each other again in October.
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Maybe he's lonely or has a case of the Stalker Mentality. Personally, I don't linger when I'm unwanted. Of course it's all different when your in person, but long distance should be avoided at all costs as rarely does it ever truly work out. Your relationship albeit brief, was doomed from the start.

I personally find Cap Gals to be offensive to me. Last woman I courted was a Cap Gal and she was racking up Strikes against her on the daily. Playing mind games, everything was always a "Test", instead of being face to face she preferred Chat or Text, which was another Strike. Instead of engaging in meaningful conversation, she lied to me constantly and I sensed ulterior motives. I couldn't break it off and disappear fast enough!

Supposedly Cap / Taurus Relationship is one of the best, but every Cap gal I meet gets on my nerves. Instead of living in the moment and letting things unfold naturally, they play games and second guess everything. Annoying!



I'm not the game playing type and Ive never been a liar. There was no need to be rude. I'm sorry cap women haven't worked out for you but that's no reason to bring unwarranted negativity into this thread.
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It's called Honesty. I know that's a dying quality that many humans have lost over time... I don't beat around the bush nor do I mince words and I don't find my response offensive or rude. Rude would be attacking you on a personal level, I did not do that. If you can't handle the Bull, perhaps you should avoid the arena 😛
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Maybe he's lonely or has a case of the Stalker Mentality. Personally, I don't linger when I'm unwanted. Of course it's all different when your in person, but long distance should be avoided at all costs as rarely does it ever truly work out. Your relationship albeit brief, was doomed from the start.

I personally find Cap Gals to be offensive to me. Last woman I courted was a Cap Gal and she was racking up Strikes against her on the daily. Playing mind games, everything was always a "Test", instead of being face to face she preferred Chat or Text, which was another Strike. Instead of engaging in meaningful conversation, she lied to me constantly and I sensed ulterior motives. I couldn't break it off and disappear fast enough!

Supposedly Cap / Taurus Relationship is one of the best, but every Cap gal I meet gets on my nerves. Instead of living in the moment and letting things unfold naturally, they play games and second guess everything. Annoying!



I'm not the game playing type and Ive never been a liar. There was no need to be rude. I'm sorry cap women haven't worked out for you but that's no reason to bring unwarranted negativity into this thread.



It's called Honesty. I know that's a dying quality that many humans have lost over time... I don't beat around the bush nor do I mince words and I don't find my response offensive or rude. Rude would be attacking you on a personal level, I did not do that. If you can't handle the Bull, perhaps you should avoid the arena 😛
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I appreciate you taking the time to answer, but it seems that your honesty and the subject matter of your response would be better suited for the capricorn forum. If you'd read this post in its entirety you'd see that the Taurus I'm dealing with exhibited every quality you listed as exclusive to capricorn women. If you're going to respond, it just seems like you should read prior to posting and respond with more relevant information.
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Posted by TaurusBull1977
Posted by curiouscap

I really am a romantic though, just not a very good one yet.



Here is some advice.
You obviously have his heart.
But if you need additional reassurance....

Give him mind-blowing sex, and tell him your Va-jay-jay belongs to him.
In the morning, wake him up to some bacon and eggs (breakfast in bed), kiss your man on the lips, and crack a joke or two to start his day.
You will have his heart FOREVER! 😉

Taurus men love good sex.
Good Food.
And a strong woman with s sense of humor.

All this TMI on a Taurus board.....

*crosses legs, and blushes embarrassingly*
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Question TB1977 aka Kathleen Cleaver 😉

please check your private messages!!
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Oh, I see.

Perhaps if it was spaced out in proper paragraphs it would be easier to interpret. My initial impression was that you were clueless and whining. Bulls don't like to explain ourselves, especially to people we initially like but then find out don't meet our stringent requirements as an ideal mate.

The average Bull doesn't know how to handle certain situations and therefore struggle's with how to proceed. Saying that a Bull Lies or plays games is completely wrong. We see things from different perspectives, a lot of us throw ourselves into work and are hyper focused on that. We're highly perceptive at picking up on hints that things are suspicious or not necessarily on the up and up.

This causes us to take a step back and re-evaluate. Bulls with less experience tend to throw out mixed signals, on the one hand they may like you; but on the other they may feel like your intentions aren't pure or sincere. We're all about Security and Stability, so if we sense that you are flawed in these areas we become distant.

My interpretation of your last reply to me is that you were being polite towards me, even though you really wanted to tell me to go pound sand or Fuck off.

My initial reply still holds merit, you shouldn't get into a long distance relationship, especially with a Bull. Bulls require face to face time, having the opportunity to gaze into one's eyes and see if they are sincere. We're also realists.

Bottom line for me is that you already have two strikes against you and I feel like marching up a stairwell in the tallest building and taking a nose dive off the roof just so I don't have to interact with you anymore. In fact, I'm done browsing your thread, now knowing that you just don't "get it" and refuse to waste my time trying to educate you further.

Good luck in life and remember to wear a Helmet, it's tough out there! 😉
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I think he likes you, he just can't step up the way you'd like.

I think after they court you it's your turn to step up and ask for a relationship etc. I could be wrong, but after having a talk with my Taurus a few days ago about something similar, it's the impression I get.




That's fair. How'd it work out between you two?
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It's not really going anywhere.

Although we are comfortable with each-other, neither of us inspire forward movement. I told him I'm enabling him to be lazy in relationships, and honestly he might be enabling me as well. I told him things need to change because we can no longer continue on how we have...and I've been met with even more games. He's cancelled on seeing me twice...Friday and yesterday, which is rare, so...

It could simply be a timing issue. We kind of reminisced on first meeting, and in his mind he put in so much work to get to know me, and so much effort to trying to ask me out. I was always unsure with him, so I didn't see his action as those of someone that really wanted me, while I guess he felt he was showing his best. Lately, I feel I've been putting in the effort, and I've been rejected. I assume he may not see where/how I'm showing I want him, idk. ...so it just seems like misunderstandings, miscommunication and timing.
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Posted by Sehd510
Oh, I see.

Perhaps if it was spaced out in proper paragraphs it would be easier to interpret. My initial impression was that you were clueless and whining. Bulls don't like to explain ourselves, especially to people we initially like but then find out don't meet our stringent requirements as an ideal mate.

The average Bull doesn't know how to handle certain situations and therefore struggle's with how to proceed. Saying that a Bull Lies or plays games is completely wrong. We see things from different perspectives, a lot of us throw ourselves into work and are hyper focused on that. We're highly perceptive at picking up on hints that things are suspicious or not necessarily on the up and up.

This causes us to take a step back and re-evaluate. Bulls with less experience tend to throw out mixed signals, on the one hand they may like you; but on the other they may feel like your intentions aren't pure or sincere. We're all about Security and Stability, so if we sense that you are flawed in these areas we become distant.

My interpretation of your last reply to me is that you were being polite towards me, even though you really wanted to tell me to go pound sand or Fuck off.

My initial reply still holds merit, you shouldn't get into a long distance relationship, especially with a Bull. Bulls require face to face time, having the opportunity to gaze into one's eyes and see if they are sincere. We're also realists.

Bottom line for me is that you already have two strikes against you and I feel like marching up a stairwell in the tallest building and taking a nose dive off the roof just so I don't have to interact with you anymore. In fact, I'm done browsing your thread, now knowing that you just don't "get it" and refuse to waste my time trying to educate you further.

Good luck in life and remember to wear a Helmet, it's tough out there! 😉



Huh? You were doing so well with the advice lol. Why get so nasty towards the end?

This is similar to what I deal with with my Taurus. He'll be all sweet to reel me in then stab me and twist the knife.

Speaking on sincerity, when it comes to this type of behavior, how do you know if a Taurus is being sincere or reeling you just to kind of torture you? Also, once that behavior starts is it good to just let him go?

I often feel I'm still being punished for brushing off my Taurus advan
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advances years ago. I even sometimes get the impression he doesn't like me...he just can't stay away, or maybe he enjoys the torture.

Me being na??ve and "too nice" as he says, won't cut him completely off how I probably should.*sigh*




I'm in the exact place that you are. Clearly there are feelings there because we keep talking but neither of us seem to know how to kick everything into gear. I'm sighing right along with you.
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This seems to be a constant thing between Caps and Taurus. I would like to here from a Cap or Taurus that has actually gotten past this part and ended up in a great relationship. From what I hear we're the best match which I can feel when I'm with my Taurus but it's seems impossible to get past this road block. It's kind of comforting that others are having the same issue. I keep getting the advice of letting things be "organic" for the bull but when Taurus moves slow it makes me want to take control. Honestly the organic advice is good advice. When I'm not paying attention that's when my bull surprises me 🙂
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Posted by noonie1801
This seems to be a constant thing between Caps and Taurus. I would like to here from a Cap or Taurus that has actually gotten past this part and ended up in a great relationship. From what I hear we're the best match which I can feel when I'm with my Taurus but it's seems impossible to get past this road block. It's kind of comforting that others are having the same issue. I keep getting the advice of letting things be "organic" for the bull but when Taurus moves slow it makes me want to take control. Honestly the organic advice is good advice. When I'm not paying attention that's when my bull surprises me 🙂



Lol it's like we need a support group or something. I completely get what you mean. The chemistry between me and this guy is palpable, different from anything I've ever experienced, but I just can't seem to move it forward. I would love to hear from some successfully coupled Caps/Taureans