Civil breakup or glimmer of hope?

Heartbroken, please help. I just want to know how to handle my feelings and how to proceed.


I had been dating my Taurus for 15 months.
He treated me with more conviction than I have ever received,
He was committed to me with more fervor than Ive ever known.
I squandered that with my insecurities and flare ups.

Within the last three months I had made great strides in changing my behaviors.
Believe me when I say this is something that I value, because I was very emotionally unhealthy.
However all the times of turmoil have seemingly caught up to him.
He feels emotionally drained and at times impatient or quick to assume a repetitive pattern.

After a night of declaring he couldn't wait for us to feel intimate and safe and close again he broke up with me.

He says he feels insecure when feeling or expressing affection to me. ( He emphasizes this most)
He says he doesnt feel as strongly as he used to.
He also says he needs time to himself (he had to move back with his parents and is stressed about that as well as finding a job) (emphasizes this a lot too)

He says he doesnt want a relationship because he doesnt want to feel like hes being questioned all the time and have to answer to my feelings
( I was insecure and yeah fucked up there but havent for the past 3 months. He emphasized how it hurt him that i would distrust him even though he was so committed to which I am sympathetic)

We have, however seen each other day since.
I tried to be completely bound to friendship conduct, but he was the first to break it and show affection.
every day since he has shown more and more affection.
Just yesterday though he was really down and moody and disengaged just after the previous night where he was very touchy feely cuddles and tickles galore.

I assume stress from being low on cash, job security and insecure of the level of interaction we had?

He still uses words like "us" and "we"
He still tells some people were together apparently.
He tells me that hes not looking for anyone else and still adhering to the standards that existed in our relationship, and that i shouldnt worry and that he would tell me if he did start dating or having feelings for anyone else.

He also used this language
" I want action, I want actual change"
"But your words need to mean something, i dont care if you say it or say it through a song. Make it happen, finally."
"Dont even say anything just do it."

He also seems to be testing me now. Sometimes

sometimes.... trying to gauge my reaction.

I dont even care about a "relationship" in the title's sake
I just want to know if hes open to being intimate with me
as an individual.
or if thats even possible after everything?

What he means holistically.
Some of the things he says are unnecessary to say.. His reassurances. I just want to know if he would lie to spare my feelings. Which is paradoxical because some of his sadness comes from me not just "Feeling that he loves me" or loved.

I just dont know where I stand
And for a long time I didnt..
Which isnt helping my guilt.
I sympathize with him.

It just breaks my heart that hes so closed off and distant now.
I want to know if its possible for him to blossom up again to me..
I cherish him so much

as an individual and for his thoughts and inner feelings.

Well I am confused on who is the Taurus, but to me it seems like he is. IDK. If you love him, just go through the tough times. This is what marriage is all about. The ups and the downs. Seems like he is depressed from not working. Which can cause him to worry and become anxious. When u really love someone you should be there, but if it goes on too long (only you know your breaking points). then its time to either be back together, or get male friends and not put all of ur eggs in a basket.

Sometimes Taurus' need that reassurance that the person we are with is a good choice for us, take him out on a date show him a good time. Help him forget about his stress and problems he is currently facing. We don't want TALK we want ACTION show us you will change don't just say it. Eventually when a Taurus is fed up we will leave (it takes a long time to do so thought), but we get so lonely we always end up coming back. A lot of Taurus' need affection from others and it is hard for us to be alone. If you really want to be with him then change, and that will motivate him to change and appreciate you more. It sounds to me like you guys just need to take a break for awhile, if you love someone sometimes you have to let them go. He seems like he has some deep rooted issues he needs to sort out for himself and his life, and he's never going to able to do that if you are distracting him. Just take a break for awhile 15 months is not a very long time being with one another, and then after he gets a job and gets back on his feet try something again. Because right now things are not working. And with a Taurus it's hard for us to truly break things off so maybe you need to be the person to do it, for his sake. He needs to get his life together before you two have a serious relationship. Good luck to you xx

He is the taurus.

He definitely reiterates needing time and space, and still shows some subtle affection in physical proximity, tending to gravitate closer and closer to me when we are hanging out.
Im just so confused because he says he has no more affections for me right now, yet gives information he doesnt need to that alludes to fidelity.
And then the "right now" part is confusing, but.... that could just be a realistic note on the fluidity and non-definitive state of the future.

Yeah, a break is definitely what we both need. :/
I guess im just being selfish with my affections.

I do love him, and Ill accept whatever comes as long as its healthy.


He still chooses to see me, which is nice. That space between us, that stops me from embracing him is the most difficult thing right now. Which is dumb considering he is giving me so much more than I deserve.

He has noted that I have changed alot.
Im just fearful that his feelings for me wont return.
ughhh So basic i am.

aww. I was thinking the same thing. They retreat when they can't get what they give... affection, attention etc. yes.. he broke up with me and get back again...

Cammie, he will comeback. just give him space. Multiple space. lol.