Confuse with a Taurus friend behavior........

.....whom I?m strongly attractive to and we are "FWB". He is not a stranger; he is a childhood friend.

He called me after 2 months not hearing from him, by the way he is intoxicated??again......

He thought I had gotten married and thought that is why I haven?t call him and he sounds frantic. He asked why I haven?t called him and it?s been a year since he havn't heard from me (Which has only been 2 months). His excuse is always, "Is it because you are giving me my space?"

I don?t know why he always used that excuse "I'm giving him his space!" Why wouldn't I give him his space. He wants the relationship to be only casual.

My reason for not calling him is because when I do called, he doesn?t answer, so I don?t tried again.

When I went over to see him, he wanted to tell me something??but stumble on his words and asked me to ask him to make him tell me. I said please, but he never did mention it.

I left a CD at his house that night and I e-mail him if I can come by and get it. He didn't return my e-mail....it's been 3 days.

Any Taurus knows what he is up to? I know he can handle his alcohol and I know he knows what he said and did while he is drunk.

Any responds back would be greatly appriecated it!

What is FWB?

FWB means friend with benefits.

I used the term ?FWB?. I don?t know what he calls this relationship, but he sure makes this relationship more difficult than just casual dating. He is so compassionate and sincere when we do spend time together. He is goofy when he drunk, he is a lot fun and he?s funny??.but man, does he have an alluring body and beautiful features!

Just the ways he handle me after sex?..if he thinks he hurt me in someway he?ll apologize until his heart content. He always has this glaze look in his eyes like he would be lost without me.

I?m holding back a lot of feelings I have for him. Last year, I had brought up about my feelings. He said he like to keep it simple. I got the picture after that and didn?t try to push for anything further.

Now, it seems he is trying to send some kind of message to me. He always vaguely saying ?I want you help me?? or ?I?m so glad you are here.?

I noticed he took down his ex?s picture of his photo board on the wall. Does that imply he is over them and is ready to move on?

It?s been a year and I don?t know where I stand. I don?t want to be foolish again to express my true feelings and get denied. I don?t know what he wants from me and I?m drained trying to figure it all out.

He is begun to open a little to me. He said his financial life is good, but the other part of his life isn?t. I know he feel alone and sad inside. My heart is aching for him and I to need him and I know deep down inside he needs me to?? why can?t people come fourth with their feelings, instead of playing games and being a Pisces doesn?t make it any easier when I?m conflicting with my own emotions.

He is an old friend of mind who I cherish and care so deeply for.
Can a Taurus be real good at fooling a friend because he/she knows that friend would always be loyal to him/her, even if he/she doesn?t reciprocated it back?

How can I heal my heart and close his wound?

Thanks for your try sagitTaurus.

But you know if he wasn't sucj a dear freind from childhood, I could easily left it alone.

Too true, what do you have to lose? I'm sure the friendship will endure. Trust the loyalty factor. They don't take long lasting true friendships lightly, and I would guess that the last thing he would do is hurt you deliberately. I am such a big fan of this sign, their lack of bullshi_t and honesty in all things. You might be surprised by his response, if you tell him your feelings.
You said in previous posts, that he uses "you want to give him space" as an excuse. Maybe he doesn't want space? Maybe he wants you to close in a little? I say a little, because I know they need plenty of time to work things out. It's all worth it in the end, it isn't a race now, is it?

Daydreamer,

No, no, no. Everyone's missing the mark. I'll tell you what this guy's doing - first of all, a Taurus views *everyone* as his/her property, whether they mean to or not. We just do - so your 'fwb' guy is only going to put in as much as is necessary to keep you around. So far, you're making this very easy on him.

You're giving him WAY too much credit by reading into what he says when you're together and whether it means he's emotionally available when he takes a picture off of his wall... don't be ridiculous.

This guy is obviously young and immature. You need to keep him as a friend and nothing more. Yattayattahey says taureans are great because we're frank and to the point... well, yes, we are. BUT... we can also act aloof and innocent to save ourselves the hassle of trying to deal with someone's feelings.

I hate to say it, but this guy sounds like he's using you. Don't get upset, though, there may be hope yet. The great thing about a taurus is that you can get our attention by knocking us in the back of our heads... just simply tell him what's going on. Say, "Listen, buddy, I'm tired of your crap. I told you my feelings and you pushed me away. I'm not going to deal with that. So it's either friends or lovers, none of this in-between junk."

He may decide only to keep you as a friend, but trust me - he will never forget what you said to him, and if/when he decides to dive into the real deal with you (which I think is probably what he wants, he's just too afraid to admit it), he'll know that he had better have his mind made up solidly. You need to demand respect from him, or he won't have any reason to treat you well.

I hope this helps out.

I do appreciate every one?s advice, especially TaurusRules , you gave the worst possible possibility to what he might be up to and you gave a solution to solve it. Thank you!

I have called him out on his bs***. I told him he didn?t have to cheap talk me into seeing him. I said I wasn?t going to see him anymore because I felt he devalue me. He said he understand if I didn?t want to see him anymore, but he said it doesn?t have to be this way. Then he tells me to be patience with him, he doesn?t have a lot to offer. He said he has to know a person a year or so before he gets serious with them. Well, it?s a year now.

I have to mention that I?m a single mother 2 boys, He knows this too. What would Taurus thinks about a woman having children? Would you hesitate to get seriously involve with someone that has children? On that note, I think he has a child of his own, but he is not admitting to it. There are clues that lend me to believe it is a possibility. One night, while intoxicated, he said he has a secret to me, but he was so drunk he never did. My gut feeling tells me he wanted to tell me he has a child, but I don?t know what is holding him back from telling me?

I?m seeing him later today, I think I held it in long it enough and I need to bring my feelings to the surface! I don?t want him to treat me like this forever. I?m a genuine, sincere, compassionate person and I don?t have bad intention on hurting anymore. How do I get him to see that in me and that I?m not going to hurt him? Keep in mind, he?s been deeply hurt. I know this just by the look in his eyes.

The funny thing is he used to tease me in school. Now he admitted it, it is because he liked me. He asked me would I have gone out with if he did ask me out in high school. I said of course, but I wouldn?t have asked him because I was very shy. He had this surprise look on his face, ?You would have!? I wonder if he is more shy and insecure than I thought, and maybe that is why he is not admitting to his feelings.
Hmmmmmm??

"....teaching others how to be self-reliant"
Whenever the Taurus I am currently involved with withdraws, I find myself being very introspective and always come out the other side feeling a stronger, more independent and better person.
BTW, did you go to that astrology3d one? I had quite a bit of fun with the reports.

I wrote my friend a heartfelt, honest, true confession type of letter. I?m not so worried about his respond, for this letter is for me to be a more honest and open person about the people I care about. How do you think he will take it?