Confused

This topic was created in the Taurus forum by jerikajack on Wednesday, April 22, 2015 and has 7 replies.
We met on an adult site and was just supposed to be fun. We talked online for a few weeks and then met in person. We did end up having sex right away. He has always complimented me and give me kisses on the forehead when cuddling while watching tv or movies. About a month after we met out of the blue he started a conversation about us just having fun. I thought it was weird at the time because i thought that was already established but he just kept saying how it was just fun and we have a lot of fun together. We had always texted each other from the time he woke up til the time we went to bed. He lives about 90 min from me so we met up once every week or 2. Then he started school and the communication slowed down a lot. At first I was ok with it he is working FT and going to school FT so not a lot of extra time to chat. But then it got less and less and he went 8 days of no communication and wouldn't reply to texts. I wasn't sending them all day or even daily just every couple days and they were just hi how are you doing or hope everything is going well. After the 8 days of nothing he started chatting again and we met up again. Went walking thru a park and he would grab my hand and hold it or interlock fingers as we were walking around or walk behind me with his hands around my waist. I didnt know what to think is it a Taurus thing or is he trying to tell me something? After that meeting he stopped replying or chatting/texting for 3 weeks this time. Then out of the blue he starts chatting again all day and night and after about a week we met up again at his place this time yes there was sex involved. Again he cuddles with me like always but this time he spoons me puts his leg over min then puts his hand over mine interlocks our fingers and falls asleep like that. After about 20 min i tried to move and he grabbed me held me tight and said he wasn't going to let me go anywhere. This last meet up was last Thursday about 20 min after I left he sent a text saying It was really nice seeing you... but since then nothing. We met in Dec so this has been going on for almost 4 months. I don't get all the cuddling and all the mushy stuff when its just supposed to be fun. When we are together he will always ask questions trying to really get to know me and my past or he will tell me about his has even show me pictures from childhood. He has spent the night at my place and I have been to his place.
For the most part I am sure there is no one else for either of us. He did ask me in Jan if I was seeing anyone else I told him no and Im not but I never asked him if he was. Here is the thing that kind of caught me a bit off. The last meeting his phone went off and I jokingly said oh its your gf and his response was no she isn't calling. I looked at him and slapped him jokingly and said you have a gf? He said no i don't have a gf so she wouldn't be calling me. I said you saying she implies you have a gf he said again i don't have a gf. I'm Scorpio so that was like bells and whistles but I am trying to not flip out on him and believe him until I find out otherwise. And yes I have had feelings for him for awhile now but I am shy and not one to say anything first especially if i don't know how the other feels. But I did send a text saying I thought he was a great guy and wanted to discuss the possibility of being more than friends. This was during the 3 weeks of no communication and he didn't respond to that so idk if he got the message or is just ignoring it.
So yes whats with all the mushy cuddling stuff? Whats with the no talking for days or weeks? Well that is partially my fault because I know he is busy and Taurus like their space I haven't mentioned it. Idk I have had FWB's/FB before but they were never like this. It was just business then gone.... no cuddling ....or asking about life and past and health and pretty much everything...no showing family photos or talking about family.... no staying over.... no talking all the time....no meeting in Public or PDA
Sounds JUST like a fwb I had.
Some guys just get all cuddly and all that bs when it comes to sex. Doesn't mean anything.
It sounds like because you like him that you're reading into all that mushy post coital stuff as meaning something, but it doesn't. I know it's weird and throws you for a loop, but some guys just get like that in the sack and then return to being a weirdo or jerk outside the bedroom.
You shouldn't really be holding out hope and thinking more will come of it. It really doesn't sound like it is.
^^^ it's a FWB. What did you expect?
Rocky is right, some guys like the mushy stuff after but it doesn't mean anything.
I imagine FWB to be very difficult emotionally. It's hard enough coping being a Scorp without added emotional stress and upheaval.
Thanks for the replies. I was just expecting it to be fun and honestly didn't think it would have gone on this long. I let myself start having feelings and should have ended it then. I knew before we met I was in trouble with him. Not in a bad way I just had the feeling it was going to be a ride.
I don't think the majority of women are built for FWB. Some are but certainly not Scorps and certainly not Scorp Venus, if you have both then separating feelings etc is very hard.
I've had one off's occasionally. Mainly in my younger days. They're rubbish because the thing that makes it good is missing. The connection. Emotional and sexual. But they serve a purpose but regardless of how that one off goes, it remains a one off. Any further occurrences starts to become a FWB and it starts to over complicates the reason why you met in the first place.
I guess you can either tell him how you feel and put it out there that things have changed at your end or you can cut your loses.
Continuing under 'false pretences' will become even harder for you further down the line and God help you both if or when he finds someone else. It will hurt you significantly and nobody needs that shit to deal with.
I wouldn't really take other peoples' opinions too seriously on how someone I'm interested in, actually feels.
Stop being shy and go to the source. Its nothing to be ashamed of....So you have feelings, you are human, etc. Rather than just assume, tell him how you feel....See how he responds. He may have real feelings as well.
How can you be open enough to let a man sleep with you, but its hard to tell him how you feel about him????
I don't understand!!!! Seems totally backwards....