Posted by chattyleo
I'm a 32 year old Leo woman and he's a 23 year old Taurus man. We had met years ago and recently reconnected 2 months ago. We started out as friends but it developed into something more. I am currently going through a divorce, so nothing beyond messages and texts. He would always run hot and cold and disappear frequently, but he has his own life and I have mine. He was pushing for dating and we had even talked about what we wanted in the future. He disappeared again for a week and I tried reaching out to him with no response. I ended up sending him a message letting him know that while I really like him, I refused to do all the work. He read the message but didn't respond. A few days later, I tried to message him and apologize for how I handled it, only to find out that he blocked me from messaging him. He's been having problems with his phone, so texting isn't an option. A few days later I saw that he was online while I was and clicked his profile to see if he was still a friend of mine. He was, but shortly after I noticed my profile was gone. I feel like he had my profile deactivated, so I deleted my account and the email account that we used to talk to each other.
My question is, why on earth would he react that way? To go from wanting to date me so hard and talking about our future to blocking me? I have zero experience with Taurus men so any input is greatly appreciated
Posted by chattyleo
He could have. But I have a hard time seeing that since he kept wanting to know when we could officially date and talked about our future, kids, etc.
I'm wondering how likely it is that he will try to contact me later on
Posted by AgentP911
He's 23. Case closed.
Posted by chattyleo
I appreciate all the insight, but I'm still confused. You all think he's just done?
Posted by chattyleo
Goodness.. I have been nothing but respectful toward you. However, I don't appreciate being indirectly called a cougar. It wasn't called for.
He initially reached out to me. I gave him space and didn't contact him when he'd disappear. The only thing I did was send one message reassuring him that I liked him, but wasn't willing to do all the work. Again, I don't think was unreasonable or pushy. If that was 'pushing it too far', then he's far too sensitive in my opinion
Posted by wicked
I dont think he was too young for you... just IMMATURE!
Maybe it was all about the chase... or it was a fantasy. Either ways its better you are rid of him now than later.
Personally i dislike it when we judge a woman because she is ready to date a much younger man. If a man were to do it, he is successful, rich or handsome. If a women were to do it, we call her a cougar. Not fair. We should play fair.
Posted by Heart
*Reads the headline
runs off to make a thread on how Tauruses are confusing.
Seriously, are we really?
Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
What did you tell him exactly?@OP-
Posted by chattyleoPosted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
What did you tell him exactly?@OP-
The last message he sent me was 'I was waiting on an email. I didn't realize you sent a message on here.'
He has never responded to a single email I've sent him. I used it mostly to send him pictures of things that would catch my eye and made me think of him.
I said something along the lines of 'I had always assumed you didn't care for email as you've never bothered to respond to anything I've ever sent you. But I do know that you haven't bothered to make an effort to contact me and honestly I'm in the same exact place I was the last time you blew me off for a week; hurt, confused and pissed off. I am not a toy you can play with whenever you're bored, lonely, or horny. I am worth so much more than that. I really do like you, but I refuse to do all the work.'
I don't feel like this was worded harshly and I put a lot of thought into exactly what I wanted to say before I sent itclick to expand
Posted by busyeyes88Posted by AgentP911Posted by chattyleo
Goodness.. I have been nothing but respectful toward you. However, I don't appreciate being indirectly called a cougar. It wasn't called for.
He initially reached out to me. I gave him space and didn't contact him when he'd disappear. The only thing I did was send one message reassuring him that I liked him, but wasn't willing to do all the work. Again, I don't think was unreasonable or pushy. If that was 'pushing it too far', then he's far too sensitive in my opinion
I wouldn't worry so much about it. I'm 36 and fancied a 23 year old (Scorp) but I thought he was older. I felt like a bloody cougar. I didn't pursue it. When I was 32 I like a 26 year old (Taurus) but I thought he was my age or older. Didn't work either! So don't take offence at cougar. I'm not in my 50's so I kinda feel cougar doesn't apply but the concept is the same regardless.
Let's hope I fair better with a potential new Taurus fella. Venus and Mars in Aries with a Sag Moon and maybe Cancer rising...
Busy, sag moon advice required... I know, I'm already fucked with that combination of his but is it a 'good' kinda fucked cos I'll take it!!
I am the last person to give advice re taurus with a sag moon!!! Lol lol Mutable - his mind/emotions changes like the wind!! Hang on tight you are in for a ride!! Enjoy!! That Aries is really strong too jeez!!! Just spend time with his and pay close attention to the way he treats you. Sag moon will talk a hellava lot!! Mine never stopped talking.. Very open. Will tell you EVERYTHING that is going on with them and even stuff you don't want to know!!! Very sexual. Likes to eat in usual places ie foreign cuisine. But very changeable nature and always always on the move and travels alot. May have a pet or two or three in my taurus case. Let us know how you get on. Hard work is all I have to say!! Us tauruses are hard work.. Now I feel sorry for those who use to date me!!! Lol lol ðŸ˜click to expand
Posted by AgentP911
You're the best for Sag moon advice! What you talking about!
So far he's been chatty and open (via whatsapp). He's an inquisitive little shit too but it's kinda cool. Fuck, I'm mutable Pisces moon so we will be buggered! The Aries is pretty strong in this one but I'm hoping his Sag moon gets on with my Sag rising and merc. Will see what he's like tomorrow but he's already trying to get in me knickers! Mind you, he bothered to ask me out rather than sitting there like a 'keyboard warrior' and expecting me to gift wrap meself on a plate!
Posted by jeanePosted by AgentP911
You're the best for Sag moon advice! What you talking about!
So far he's been chatty and open (via whatsapp). He's an inquisitive little shit too but it's kinda cool. Fuck, I'm mutable Pisces moon so we will be buggered! The Aries is pretty strong in this one but I'm hoping his Sag moon gets on with my Sag rising and merc. Will see what he's like tomorrow but he's already trying to get in me knickers! Mind you, he bothered to ask me out rather than sitting there like a 'keyboard warrior' and expecting me to gift wrap meself on a plate!
sag moon is great. i have sag moon and so does my bull. lot of laughs, lots of chat and lots of fun but don't tie us down! we each give the other the freedom we both crave so it works for us.
you will have lots of fun with this one agent p. fingers crossed for you!click to expand
Posted by jeanePosted by chattyleoPosted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
What did you tell him exactly?@OP-
The last message he sent me was 'I was waiting on an email. I didn't realize you sent a message on here.'
He has never responded to a single email I've sent him. I used it mostly to send him pictures of things that would catch my eye and made me think of him.
I said something along the lines of 'I had always assumed you didn't care for email as you've never bothered to respond to anything I've ever sent you. But I do know that you haven't bothered to make an effort to contact me and honestly I'm in the same exact place I was the last time you blew me off for a week; hurt, confused and pissed off. I am not a toy you can play with whenever you're bored, lonely, or horny. I am worth so much more than that. I really do like you, but I refuse to do all the work.'
I don't feel like this was worded harshly and I put a lot of thought into exactly what I wanted to say before I sent it
this sounds aggressive to me. you sound exasperated with him. you are within your rights to be annoyed. like you said, you were hurt but i don't know, maybe it is the libra in me, i wouldn't write something like this at this stage. i might be extra sensitive though.click to expand
Posted by chattyleo
Does that really come across as aggressive? I'm a very direct person and he knows that. I was just being honest and direct because it was something that mattered to me. I was irritated for sure, and I'm sure anyone with common sense would have picked up on that. However, I still don't feel like being blocked over it was warranted. You think it hurt his feelings?
Posted by busyeyes88Posted by chattyleoPosted by jeanePosted by chattyleoPosted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
What did you tell him exactly?@OP-
The last message he sent me was 'I was waiting on an email. I didn't realize you sent a message on here.'
He has never responded to a single email I've sent him. I used it mostly to send him pictures of things that would catch my eye and made me think of him.
I said something along the lines of 'I had always assumed you didn't care for email as you've never bothered to respond to anything I've ever sent you. But I do know that you haven't bothered to make an effort to contact me and honestly I'm in the same exact place I was the last time you blew me off for a week; hurt, confused and pissed off. I am not a toy you can play with whenever you're bored, lonely, or horny. I am worth so much more than that. I really do like you, but I refuse to do all the work.'
I don't feel like this was worded harshly and I put a lot of thought into exactly what I wanted to say before I sent it
this sounds aggressive to me. you sound exasperated with him. you are within your rights to be annoyed. like you said, you were hurt but i don't know, maybe it is the libra in me, i wouldn't write something like this at this stage. i might be extra sensitive though.
Does that really come across as aggressive? I'm a very direct person and he knows that. I was just being honest and direct because it was something that mattered to me. I was irritated for sure, and I'm sure anyone with common sense would have picked up on that. However, I still don't feel like being blocked over it was warranted. You think it hurt his feelings?
As I said above, Leo women can't see how aggressive they are when they are in 'hunt mode'!!! You probably sounded 'pushy' to him and he doesn't want too deal! It seems as though Taurus men are pretty 'delicate', proud with egos to match! You need to back off and let him hunt... But too late he has already deleted and blocked you!! It's a hint that you should indeed move on?!click to expand
Posted by jeanePosted by chattyleo
Does that really come across as aggressive? I'm a very direct person and he knows that. I was just being honest and direct because it was something that mattered to me. I was irritated for sure, and I'm sure anyone with common sense would have picked up on that. However, I still don't feel like being blocked over it was warranted. You think it hurt his feelings?
to me it sounds aggressive.
for example
"i always assumed"
"you've never bothered"
"you haven't bothered to make an effort"
"you blew me off"
then there are accusations, implying he considers you a toy, has no regard, is an all round bastard...
then there is stamping your worth..
ending with "i refuse"
now, i don't dispute you are probably right to feel the way you do. you need to set down boundaries so people know how to treat you. i don't begrudge you any of that. good for you for sticking up for yourself. not enough women do it in my mind.
it's just i would have gone in with a softer touch. you know that old saying an iron fist in a velvet glove? at this stage, before you really know each other, i would have trodden a little softer with my point.
and oh god, i would embrace the term cougar! (not that you are one...) cougars are sexy women who are independent and self reliant and like being shagged ruthlessly by a younger guy. i could only wish to be a cougar when the time comes!
hurt his feelings? i don't know. he may have had second thoughts on his ability to match you though. it doesn't mean he probably couldn't but you may have intimidated him beyond what you meant to.
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Posted by busyeyes88
@CL. Ahhhhh see!!
Blame my Leo moon and Leo rising!!
How I sound to you!! Is probably how you sounded to the bull!! get it!!!
Posted by chattyleo
The thing is, it's all true. He couldn't be bothered to answer or acknowledge any past emails. He didn't bother to try and contact me another way and if he wanted to bad enough, he would have found a way. He did blow me off, more than once, and he knew how I felt about it. I feel like if he cared at all, he wouldn't have done it again. If he had cared at all and actually meant everything he said to me, he wouldn't have thrown it all away over that. I know I wouldn't have.. I'll fight for something if it matters to me.
I realize now that I should have addressed it differently. After I was blocked I did end up sending him a email letting him know that I realized I should have handled it differently and apologized for handling it the way I did. At least I did that
Posted by busyeyes88
The thing is, it's all true. He couldn't be bothered to answer or acknowledge any past emails. He didn't bother to try and contact me another way and if he wanted to bad enough, he would have found a way. He did blow me off, more than once, and he knew how I felt about it. I feel like if he cared at all, he wouldn't have done it again. If he had cared at all and actually meant everything he said to me, he wouldn't have thrown it all away over that. I know I wouldn't have.. I'll fight for something if it matters to me.
I realize now that I should have addressed it differently. After I was blocked I did end up sending him a email letting him know that I realized I should have handled it differently and apologized for handling it the way I did. At least I did that
Look at what you have written!!!!
If I felt all the things about a guy that you felt and wrote here, do you think.that I would lower my standards to email him and call him out on his bs?!! No!!! I would take the hint, walk away with my pride in tact instead of emailing him and looking "desperate " for him to turn around and block me!! Smh!!!
AND to.make it even worse, you STILL email him AFTER he has blocked you!!! Desperation BIG TIME!!! I thought leos had pride?!!!!
Posted by jeanePosted by chattyleo
The thing is, it's all true. He couldn't be bothered to answer or acknowledge any past emails. He didn't bother to try and contact me another way and if he wanted to bad enough, he would have found a way. He did blow me off, more than once, and he knew how I felt about it. I feel like if he cared at all, he wouldn't have done it again. If he had cared at all and actually meant everything he said to me, he wouldn't have thrown it all away over that. I know I wouldn't have.. I'll fight for something if it matters to me.
I realize now that I should have addressed it differently. After I was blocked I did end up sending him a email letting him know that I realized I should have handled it differently and apologized for handling it the way I did. At least I did that
i believe you. it doesn't read like it is without merit.
the thing is he "couldn't be bothered" goes to motivation. unless he said that, it's an assumption. again, you're probably right but your approach may be something you want to consider.
i'm not saying i am perfect. far from it. it's because i have the same issues and super sensitive in the words i choose that it struck with me. i still have issue not to jump to conclusions. i'm trying to be a better listener and a better communicator.
there's another assumption, just because you approach the budding relationship in one way, then he must be the same. "he wouldn't have thrown it away. i wouldn't have. i'd fight". just because you see the world one way, doesn't mean he has the same goggles.
i know you are no longer interested in this guy. i imagine being a fully grown woman and a leo you would have had this young taurus for breakfast but maybe this might pop into your mind the next time and you take something from it.
i always learn a lot from people here maybe there is a snippet that resonates with you.click to expand
Posted by busyeyes88Posted by AgentP911
Ladies, ladies, ladies... I'm so glad that for once I am not the root of the bitch fight 😎
He's 23. That really is all there is to it. I wish I could dress it up with the razamataz show Busy has or the calmer demeanour of Jeane but I can't.
Now, I might go and have a little perv over the 23 year old physiotherapist I should have eaten for MY breakfast a few months back... But I didn't... I'm not a kiddie fiddler!!
"kiddie fiddler".. Never a truer word said!!!click to expand
Posted by busyeyes88Posted by AgentP911
Yeah, that shit above rhymes... On purpose.
Lololololololololololololo lololololololololololololo No kidding! Don't give up your day job you!!
We are both based in London?! We should meet in the new year?!! Lolclick to expand
Posted by chattyleoPosted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
What did you tell him exactly?@OP-
The last message he sent me was 'I was waiting on an email. I didn't realize you sent a message on here.'
He has never responded to a single email I've sent him. I used it mostly to send him pictures of things that would catch my eye and made me think of him.
I said something along the lines of 'I had always assumed you didn't care for email as you've never bothered to respond to anything I've ever sent you. But I do know that you haven't bothered to make an effort to contact me and honestly I'm in the same exact place I was the last time you blew me off for a week; hurt, confused and pissed off. I am not a toy you can play with whenever you're bored, lonely, or horny. I am worth so much more than that. I really do like you, but I refuse to do all the work.'
I don't feel like this was worded harshly and I put a lot of thought into exactly what I wanted to say before I sent itclick to expand
Posted by Pandora101Posted by chattyleoPosted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
What did you tell him exactly?@OP-
The last message he sent me was 'I was waiting on an email. I didn't realize you sent a message on here.'
He has never responded to a single email I've sent him. I used it mostly to send him pictures of things that would catch my eye and made me think of him.
I said something along the lines of 'I had always assumed you didn't care for email as you've never bothered to respond to anything I've ever sent you. But I do know that you haven't bothered to make an effort to contact me and honestly I'm in the same exact place I was the last time you blew me off for a week; hurt, confused and pissed off. I am not a toy you can play with whenever you're bored, lonely, or horny. I am worth so much more than that. I really do like you, but I refuse to do all the work.'
I don't feel like this was worded harshly and I put a lot of thought into exactly what I wanted to say before I sent it
OP, I think your message was too much drama in this early stage of your "relationship"....... I think he got scared about the "future talks" even if he initiated it himself. He retreated to think about it, and when he came back he got this message.... way too emotional.... If you really tought he is not treating you well, you should have mirrored his actions and retreat yourself..... And you were not consistent, by apologizing later....... If its really what you felt, why apologize?....
Too much drama, I think your taurus could not handle it....... Angry message, then apologizing, then deleting your account...... drama
Next time if you want to stand up for yourself, do it quietly and just ignore the man, dont explain, dont apologize, just ignoreclick to expand
Posted by busyeyes88Posted by AgentP911Posted by busyeyes88Posted by AgentP911
Yeah, that shit above rhymes... On purpose.
Lololololololololololololo lololololololololololololo No kidding! Don't give up your day job you!!
We are both based in London?! We should meet in the new year?!! Lol
I'm harnessing my talent!!! You in London? So close, where abouts??
South Ruislip! Where you based?click to expand