Confused by Taurus Man
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As soon as I read 'I mentioned my ex' I just thought 'doh!' and almost slapped my forehead.
OP, you sound a bit needy and clingy. So much distrust with a guy you've known for only one month which basically equates to maybe 30 hours or so. It's not long. You sound like you still have issues with your ex or he is still in your life in some way. There's nothing wrong with this except I'd say it still sounds too recent rather than from years ago.
A water sign perhaps, Cancer seem to be all over the place at the moment. I'd be embarrassed if it were Scorp ?. Maybe air, seems a little disconnected.
50p on cancer Busy!!
OP, you sound a bit needy and clingy. So much distrust with a guy you've known for only one month which basically equates to maybe 30 hours or so. It's not long. You sound like you still have issues with your ex or he is still in your life in some way. There's nothing wrong with this except I'd say it still sounds too recent rather than from years ago.
A water sign perhaps, Cancer seem to be all over the place at the moment. I'd be embarrassed if it were Scorp ?. Maybe air, seems a little disconnected.
50p on cancer Busy!!
its you and your ex
more specifically the drama you rolled onto this guy taurus does not do drama and would take his time to get to know you i do not respond to more than half the text messages and do things according to my agenda
more specifically the drama you rolled onto this guy taurus does not do drama and would take his time to get to know you i do not respond to more than half the text messages and do things according to my agenda
Posted by EarthhorseYou're saying if you were him, you wouldn't respond to more than half the text messages and would do things according to your own agenda?
its you and your ex
more specifically the drama you rolled onto this guy taurus does not do drama and would take his time to get to know you i do not respond to more than half the text messages and do things according to my agenda
Is he trying to teach me a lesson? Is he just trying to sort things out in his head? I'm just wondering what he could be thinking. He went from being really great, buying me a gift, to pretty much going silent. He can't be seeing someone else, because he's had the flu this whole time. I believe him when he says it's because of my ex.
no what i said was that i as a taurus do not care to respond to every msg
no i dont think he is trying to teach you anything
no he is not sorting things out in his head
he is thinking that too bad a nice woman that he likes can not just chill out and take her time to get to know me instead of trying to get me to react emotionally
if you really want him than forget your ex never bring him up again or its over
taurus men do not compete over women i never have if she wanted someone else let her have him
invite him to go out and do something relaxing chill and make sure there food (food wine show or something he likes) do not have expectations and please let him know way way in advance as in a 3 weeks to a month out and remind him once a week of your plans together
best advice
if he likes you which probably he does since he got you the gift than try not to get too emotional either way sad/happy just be with him like a BFF the more you act like a best friend not a girlfriend the more he will open up to you
goodluck
no i dont think he is trying to teach you anything
no he is not sorting things out in his head
he is thinking that too bad a nice woman that he likes can not just chill out and take her time to get to know me instead of trying to get me to react emotionally
if you really want him than forget your ex never bring him up again or its over
taurus men do not compete over women i never have if she wanted someone else let her have him
invite him to go out and do something relaxing chill and make sure there food (food wine show or something he likes) do not have expectations and please let him know way way in advance as in a 3 weeks to a month out and remind him once a week of your plans together
best advice
if he likes you which probably he does since he got you the gift than try not to get too emotional either way sad/happy just be with him like a BFF the more you act like a best friend not a girlfriend the more he will open up to you
goodluck
I suspect this Taurus guy may be a lot more sensitive than he wants me to know. Does that seem like an accurate observation? I don't know a lot about Taurus men except they are stubborn and typically take a bit to decide if they really like you. He has said he is stubborn, but he seemed very interested. Whenever I would first see him, he would smile big and say, I'm so happy to see you! It bothered me that he didn't text much, but when he did, it would be very sweet. He would send stuff like--I'm thinking about you a lot.
Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeLol, I don't think I'm being clingy. I'm confused as to what this Taurus guy is thinking, because it would be a shame to let an ex ruin the possibility of a good thing. But, I don't feel I've been clingy before, at all. If anything, I've been cautious.Posted by ConfusedAboutTaurusPosted by CaramelizedCoffeeScorpio. He was extreeeemely sensitive and operated in extremes. I couldn't do the back and forth anymore. He would get his feelings hurt over the SMALLEST thing, and then go silent, but for long periods of time. I kept asking him to just communicate with me, even if it was to tell me he just needed some space. He never quite learned how to do that. Now that he sees I'm really moving on, he wants to quit and move out of the country. He's already told his supervisor he is probably going to put in his notice soon, and he has missed days of work.
what's your EX sign?
and girl grab that Taurus. YeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeHAWWWWWWWWWWWW
Anyway...I sincerely want to move on from him for good, because he was toxic. I finally found a guy I'm interested in, and it has felt great. It worries me that this Taurus guy is already pulling the silent treatment on me. I do not do well with ghosting. Aside from cheating, it's the worst thing you can do to me.
but it seems like you need time to move on from the Scorpio, I would be Wary if i was Taurus too, they're methodical.
i say take it slow, why are you even all gung ho and clingy.
chill out.
and i feel bad for the scorpio but watch your backclick to expand
So, should I just text Taurus once every day or two? I feel like I've made it clear (through words, since I can't see him at the moment) that I do really like him. What works with Taurus men?
Trust me, I know about Scorpios. This guy can be so mean when he is hurt...which is a big reason why I'm done. I was never unkind to him, and I expect the same courtesy/respect back. I know it seems to soon to move on, but this has been a 3.5 year roller coaster that I am READY to not ride anymore.
Posted by ConfusedAboutTaurusRe-read earthhorse's advice.
I suspect this Taurus guy may be a lot more sensitive than he wants me to know. Does that seem like an accurate observation? I don't know a lot about Taurus men except they are stubborn and typically take a bit to decide if they really like you. He has said he is stubborn, but he seemed very interested. Whenever I would first see him, he would smile big and say, I'm so happy to see you! It bothered me that he didn't text much, but when he did, it would be very sweet. He would send stuff like--I'm thinking about you a lot.
Too* soon
Posted by EarthhorseI somehow missed this before. Thank you for the advice!!! I will do that.
no what i said was that i as a taurus do not care to respond to every msg
no i dont think he is trying to teach you anything
no he is not sorting things out in his head
he is thinking that too bad a nice woman that he likes can not just chill out and take her time to get to know me instead of trying to get me to react emotionally
if you really want him than forget your ex never bring him up again or its over
taurus men do not compete over women i never have if she wanted someone else let her have him
invite him to go out and do something relaxing chill and make sure there food (food wine show or something he likes) do not have expectations and please let him know way way in advance as in a 3 weeks to a month out and remind him once a week of your plans together
best advice
if he likes you which probably he does since he got you the gift than try not to get too emotional either way sad/happy just be with him like a BFF the more you act like a best friend not a girlfriend the more he will open up to you
goodluck
For a Taurus, if a guy does like you, why do they want you to just treat them like a best friend? Is it because they get overwhelmed by too much, or? I don't have a lot of dating experience with Tauruses. My ex Scorpio (not to keep bringing him up, it's just the last thing I have dealt with) would literally tell me, "I want you to smother me." Very different wants, apparently. lol
Scorps are COMPLETELY different to Taurus. They're opposite and all that emotional bullshit you've had with the Scorp just doesn't exist within a Taurus, maybe unless they have some Scorp placements such as riding or moon, so you need to stop thinking as if the Taurus is or behaves as the Scorp. Scorp can be very tiring and draining. They can make issues from nothing and then wallow in their woe is me (water signs in general). The whole smothering thing is a good example. For some reason, they don't feel loved if they're not smothered or all or nothing. The issue here is that you cannot expect another person to be available to satisfy you 100% all of the time.
I'm a Scorp so I know their good and bad bits.
Being friends with a Taurus first, as others have suggested, may help them as they don't rush. It sounds like you want to step into this instant relationship with Taurus, possibly how you had things with Scorp, all in from the start, very quick etc. He's not ready to jump in. So approaching it from a friend point of view goes at his pace plus it gives you time to get to know each other to see if it could be a relationship.
People are too busy rushing in that they forget to take the time to actually get to know someone to see if they are even compatible. What's the rush? Why must you be in a relationship after only one month?
I think the ex thing put the Taurus off.
I'm a Scorp so I know their good and bad bits.
Being friends with a Taurus first, as others have suggested, may help them as they don't rush. It sounds like you want to step into this instant relationship with Taurus, possibly how you had things with Scorp, all in from the start, very quick etc. He's not ready to jump in. So approaching it from a friend point of view goes at his pace plus it gives you time to get to know each other to see if it could be a relationship.
People are too busy rushing in that they forget to take the time to actually get to know someone to see if they are even compatible. What's the rush? Why must you be in a relationship after only one month?
I think the ex thing put the Taurus off.
Taurus not like a water sign and would use the "manipulation" tactics you would use as described above. Its just natural for a Taurus to do their own thing. We do not sweat the small stuff and if someone sends a text which is in the form of a statement and therefore does not need an answer, then we don't see the need to respond to it!Lol...Your post made me laugh. I have been home three nights in one month. Why? Because I've had plans with people. Those three nights were only because I was exhausted and said no to friends. I'm pretty sure I don't need to get a life. I have one. But, thanks for assuming.
We are half logical and practical.
He can also see signs that your ex is a recent ex... You are too emotional. You should have kept that info to yourself, but as a typical cancer, you couldn't keep a lid on it could you.... Water constantly overflowing...
Get a life cancer....
None of my actions with the Taurus (before he got upset) have been clingy. He has done all of the pursuing, from asking me out every 2-3 days to the sweet texts. I was more hesitant than he. I sent him texts to let him know how I feel after he told me the issue. What I'm saying on this message board is not what I present to him. Duh.
Also, the Scorpios I know are all very sensitive. My ex was ten times more emotional than I, so I'm not sure where you're getting your perception of them, but I agree with the post about them probably being very different from a Taurus.
Thanks for the advice, everyone!!
Posted by JohnTheBaptist100Nowhere in my post did I say I knew the Taurus. It's too early for that; that's why I made this post. My post was about me.Posted by ConfusedAboutTaurusFine . If you have all the answers and know you bull so well, then why are you here with this thread?Taurus not like a water sign and would use the "manipulation" tactics you would use as described above. Its just natural for a Taurus to do their own thing. We do not sweat the small stuff and if someone sends a text which is in the form of a statement and therefore does not need an answer, then we don't see the need to respond to it!Lol...Your post made me laugh. I have been home three nights in one month. Why? Because I've had plans with people. Those three nights were only because I was exhausted and said no to friends. I'm pretty sure I don't need to get a life. I have one. But, thanks for assuming.
We are half logical and practical.
He can also see signs that your ex is a recent ex... You are too emotional. You should have kept that info to yourself, but as a typical cancer, you couldn't keep a lid on it could you.... Water constantly overflowing...
Get a life cancer....
None of my actions with the Taurus (before he got upset) have been clingy. He has done all of the pursuing, from asking me out every 2-3 days to the sweet texts. I was more hesitant than he. I sent him texts to let him know how I feel after he told me the issue. What I'm saying on this message board is not what I present to him. Duh.
Also, the Scorpios I know are all very sensitive. My ex was ten times more emotional than I, so I'm not sure where you're getting your perception of them, but I agree with the post about them probably being very different from a Taurus.
Thanks for the advice, everyone!!
You know nothing about him yet. you are ONLY one month in.... trust me girl, you have a long long way go ...
Have you been intimate with your Taurus?click to expand
From female who has been dealing with a Taurus bull for 4 years now, I will tell you that you have to go on with your life now. What I mean is stop worrying about how long it takes for him to respond back. So what it's been one, two or more hours. Men are not like us women and don't respond back right away. He is going to take his time no matter what & the more you question and push the more he will dig his heels into the mud and won't move until he-is-ready (key words here).
You've only known him for 30 days. That's way too soon to know anything yet. Take it lightly and have fun but if he is distant, let him be and leave him alone. Sorry but the truth hurts when dealing with them. Not to mention that you said you work with your ex. That won't work very well in your favor is he ever finds out. As it was suggested, you need to stop chasing him. If he is interested he will do that on his own but until then go out with other guys and keep busy enjoying your own life and give him space.
You've only known him for 30 days. That's way too soon to know anything yet. Take it lightly and have fun but if he is distant, let him be and leave him alone. Sorry but the truth hurts when dealing with them. Not to mention that you said you work with your ex. That won't work very well in your favor is he ever finds out. As it was suggested, you need to stop chasing him. If he is interested he will do that on his own but until then go out with other guys and keep busy enjoying your own life and give him space.
Posted by JohnTheBaptist100I'm not a fan of the Cancerian sign. I just feel their emotional ickiness glooping over everything they touch and do but then you could probably say the same about Scorp being mad!Posted by AgentP911I knew from her actions she was a water ie pisces or cancer.
As soon as I read 'I mentioned my ex' I just thought 'doh!' and almost slapped my forehead.
OP, you sound a bit needy and clingy. So much distrust with a guy you've known for only one month which basically equates to maybe 30 hours or so. It's not long. You sound like you still have issues with your ex or he is still in your life in some way. There's nothing wrong with this except I'd say it still sounds too recent rather than from years ago.
A water sign perhaps, Cancer seem to be all over the place at the moment. I'd be embarrassed if it were Scorp ?. Maybe air, seems a little disconnected.
50p on cancer Busy!!
Scorps NEVER behave in this way. They have pride and integrity which is why the bull may have difficulty keeping a long standing relationship with a scorp but we do respect and admire them. Bulls and scorps are very similar.
Cancer and pisces make me want to vomit... They are so weak and all I see is part of my own "weakness" (venus, Saturn and 4 other placements in pisces but thank God they have the hint of the 8th house! smh!)click to expand
yep - you can't seem to stop yapping about your ex - and that is what will turn off that Taurus for sure ... it turns me off just reading your stuff ... blah blah my ex, blah blah my ex etc.
it's over, you are single, since you work together you might need to handle things with him if need be but you don't have to broadcast it - other than that there does not need to be any mention whatsoever of him
relax and enjoy our life !
it's over, you are single, since you work together you might need to handle things with him if need be but you don't have to broadcast it - other than that there does not need to be any mention whatsoever of him
relax and enjoy our life !
Posted by ConfusedAboutTaurusThat's twice OP avoided the question about being intimate with the bull...Posted by JohnTheBaptist100Nowhere in my post did I say I knew the Taurus. It's too early for that; that's why I made this post. My post was about me.Posted by ConfusedAboutTaurusFine . If you have all the answers and know you bull so well, then why are you here with this thread?Taurus not like a water sign and would use the "manipulation" tactics you would use as described above. Its just natural for a Taurus to do their own thing. We do not sweat the small stuff and if someone sends a text which is in the form of a statement and therefore does not need an answer, then we don't see the need to respond to it!Lol...Your post made me laugh. I have been home three nights in one month. Why? Because I've had plans with people. Those three nights were only because I was exhausted and said no to friends. I'm pretty sure I don't need to get a life. I have one. But, thanks for assuming.
We are half logical and practical.
He can also see signs that your ex is a recent ex... You are too emotional. You should have kept that info to yourself, but as a typical cancer, you couldn't keep a lid on it could you.... Water constantly overflowing...
Get a life cancer....
None of my actions with the Taurus (before he got upset) have been clingy. He has done all of the pursuing, from asking me out every 2-3 days to the sweet texts. I was more hesitant than he. I sent him texts to let him know how I feel after he told me the issue. What I'm saying on this message board is not what I present to him. Duh.
Also, the Scorpios I know are all very sensitive. My ex was ten times more emotional than I, so I'm not sure where you're getting your perception of them, but I agree with the post about them probably being very different from a Taurus.
Thanks for the advice, everyone!!
You know nothing about him yet. you are ONLY one month in.... trust me girl, you have a long long way go ...
Have you been intimate with your Taurus?click to expand
Posted by AgentP911yep, we are counting too ... lolPosted by ConfusedAboutTaurusThat's twice OP avoided the question about being intimate with the bull...Posted by JohnTheBaptist100Nowhere in my post did I say I knew the Taurus. It's too early for that; that's why I made this post. My post was about me.Posted by ConfusedAboutTaurusFine . If you have all the answers and know you bull so well, then why are you here with this thread?Taurus not like a water sign and would use the "manipulation" tactics you would use as described above. Its just natural for a Taurus to do their own thing. We do not sweat the small stuff and if someone sends a text which is in the form of a statement and therefore does not need an answer, then we don't see the need to respond to it!Lol...Your post made me laugh. I have been home three nights in one month. Why? Because I've had plans with people. Those three nights were only because I was exhausted and said no to friends. I'm pretty sure I don't need to get a life. I have one. But, thanks for assuming.
We are half logical and practical.
He can also see signs that your ex is a recent ex... You are too emotional. You should have kept that info to yourself, but as a typical cancer, you couldn't keep a lid on it could you.... Water constantly overflowing...
Get a life cancer....
None of my actions with the Taurus (before he got upset) have been clingy. He has done all of the pursuing, from asking me out every 2-3 days to the sweet texts. I was more hesitant than he. I sent him texts to let him know how I feel after he told me the issue. What I'm saying on this message board is not what I present to him. Duh.
Also, the Scorpios I know are all very sensitive. My ex was ten times more emotional than I, so I'm not sure where you're getting your perception of them, but I agree with the post about them probably being very different from a Taurus.
Thanks for the advice, everyone!!
You know nothing about him yet. you are ONLY one month in.... trust me girl, you have a long long way go ...
Have you been intimate with your Taurus?click to expand
Because I know that has nothing to do with him pulling back, and because I don't really respond to unnecessary rudeness. I can just see the attacks coming from that person already. Lol smh. But, yes, I have.
That's twice OP avoided the question about being intimate with the bull...
Also, every Scorpio I know is way more emotional and has big time double standards. Cancers are emotional, but you can be emotional and emotionally intelligent.
I don't know much about natal charts, but I've seen some people ask about them on this board. He is:. Sun-Taurus, moon-Leo, mercury-Gemini, Venus-Cancer. Does that matter at all? Lol
Posted by JohnTheBaptist100You must have had a bad experience with a Cancer. I'm very direct, and hate games. Tell me if you don't want to keep seeing me. If you don't, cool. If you do, let's discuss it if you need to, get over it, and move on. I don't understand why people want to stay in limbo. It's a waste of time.Posted by AgentP911You describe the cancers perfectly... Sneaky sneaky.. They are not direct. Scorps you will know.. They are all in or all out - direct..Posted by JohnTheBaptist100I'm not a fan of the Cancerian sign. I just feel their emotional ickiness glooping over everything they touch and do but then you could probably say the same about Scorp being mad!Posted by AgentP911I knew from her actions she was a water ie pisces or cancer.
As soon as I read 'I mentioned my ex' I just thought 'doh!' and almost slapped my forehead.
OP, you sound a bit needy and clingy. So much distrust with a guy you've known for only one month which basically equates to maybe 30 hours or so. It's not long. You sound like you still have issues with your ex or he is still in your life in some way. There's nothing wrong with this except I'd say it still sounds too recent rather than from years ago.
A water sign perhaps, Cancer seem to be all over the place at the moment. I'd be embarrassed if it were Scorp ?. Maybe air, seems a little disconnected.
50p on cancer Busy!!
Scorps NEVER behave in this way. They have pride and integrity which is why the bull may have difficulty keeping a long standing relationship with a scorp but we do respect and admire them. Bulls and scorps are very similar.
Cancer and pisces make me want to vomit... They are so weak and all I see is part of my own "weakness" (venus, Saturn and 4 other placements in pisces but thank God they have the hint of the 8th house! smh!)
But as you say cancer "gloopy"
Then Pisces "wishy-washy"
Give me a scorp any day... I would rather face hell than the above two options..click to expand
People's signs are just a general guideline, anyway. Every person is unique. Maturity level also plays a huge role in how people handle situations.
Posted by JohnTheBaptist100Posted by ConfusedAboutTaurus
That's twice OP avoided the question about being intimate with the bull...
Lol I'm not ashamed or I wouldn't have answered at all. I just don't respond to personal attacks, especially from strangers.
There u go!
Do you think we are dumb?!!! you knew or felt that you slept with him too soon or you wouldn't have been so ashamed to own it...
Unfortunately for you, when dealing with a bull when you sleep with them under one month, it does not last long... No emotional attachment has been made and we can see that...
If you keep pursuing, he will put you on his harem list. How old is he?
You should have got to know him as a person first before bedding him. And you mention your ex.. i don't think this will go long term so don't get hooked. Go out and date others.
I can tell this guy liked me a lot, but I do think it really bothered him to hear about my ex. Understandable. Lesson learned. I saw him almost every other day for a month, so it's not like we went on three dates and that was it. But, that doesn't even always matter, anyway. I don't recommend sleeping with someone so soon either. I can say he has been the only person I've slept with that didnt lead to a serious relationship (if it wasn't already). So, it really depends on the situation/people involved.
I know that has nothing to do with his pulling away, though. If I even suspected it, I'd be on here asking about that instead.
If he doesn't make an attempt to see me soon, I'm going to just give up, and move on. I do understand where he is coming from, but I also don't want to go further with someone who can't forgive and move on.click to expand
Posted by Earthhorse
no what i said was that i as a taurus do not care to respond to every msg
no i dont think he is trying to teach you anything
no he is not sorting things out in his head
he is thinking that too bad a nice woman that he likes can not just chill out and take her time to get to know me instead of trying to get me to react emotionally
if you really want him than forget your ex never bring him up again or its over
taurus men do not compete over women i never have if she wanted someone else let her have him
invite him to go out and do something relaxing chill and make sure there food (food wine show or something he likes) do not have expectations and please let him know way way in advance as in a 3 weeks to a month out and remind him once a week of your plans together
best advice
if he likes you which probably he does since he got you the gift than try not to get too emotional either way sad/happy just be with him like a BFF the more you act like a best friend not a girlfriend the more he will open up to you
goodluck
great advise ? be our best friend and we'll love you forever
My confusion comes from me straight up telling him--If you don't want to see me anymore, that's fine. Just let me know. Also, him sending me a video of him that was sweet. No mention of what I said. If it were me and I was done with you, I'd just say--hey, we aren't going to work out. I also asked if he was going to stay upset with me and he said, no, I won't.
Posted by JohnTheBaptist100I have to agree with this because that is sort of what I was trying to say a few posts ago - she keeps talking about her ex ... which equals "in limbo" - whether she sees that or not; I don't think soPosted by ConfusedAboutTaurusThe Taurus is not in limbo trust me but it sounds as if you are!Posted by JohnTheBaptist100You must have had a bad experience with a Cancer. I'm very direct, and hate games. Tell me if you don't want to keep seeing me. If you don't, cool. If you do, let's discuss it if you need to, get over it, and move on. I don't understand why people want to stay in limbo. It's a waste of time.Posted by AgentP911You describe the cancers perfectly... Sneaky sneaky.. They are not direct. Scorps you will know.. They are all in or all out - direct..Posted by JohnTheBaptist100I'm not a fan of the Cancerian sign. I just feel their emotional ickiness glooping over everything they touch and do but then you could probably say the same about Scorp being mad!Posted by AgentP911I knew from her actions she was a water ie pisces or cancer.
As soon as I read 'I mentioned my ex' I just thought 'doh!' and almost slapped my forehead.
OP, you sound a bit needy and clingy. So much distrust with a guy you've known for only one month which basically equates to maybe 30 hours or so. It's not long. You sound like you still have issues with your ex or he is still in your life in some way. There's nothing wrong with this except I'd say it still sounds too recent rather than from years ago.
A water sign perhaps, Cancer seem to be all over the place at the moment. I'd be embarrassed if it were Scorp ?. Maybe air, seems a little disconnected.
50p on cancer Busy!!
Scorps NEVER behave in this way. They have pride and integrity which is why the bull may have difficulty keeping a long standing relationship with a scorp but we do respect and admire them. Bulls and scorps are very similar.
Cancer and pisces make me want to vomit... They are so weak and all I see is part of my own "weakness" (venus, Saturn and 4 other placements in pisces but thank God they have the hint of the 8th house! smh!)
But as you say cancer "gloopy"
Then Pisces "wishy-washy"
Give me a scorp any day... I would rather face hell than the above two options..
People's signs are just a general guideline, anyway. Every person is unique. Maturity level also plays a huge role in how people handle situations.click to expand
Posted by ConfusedAboutTaurus
My confusion comes from me straight up telling him--If you don't want to see me anymore, that's fine. Just let me know. Also, him sending me a video of him that was sweet. No mention of what I said. If it were me and I was done with you, I'd just say--hey, we aren't going to work out. I also asked if he was going to stay upset with me and he said, no, I won't.
Great so that's how you behave. Not everyone is going to behave like you. You either give this guy a chance to see how he wants to proceed or you find someone more like yourself.
I get the sense you and your ex are not fully resolved either. If I come to that conclusion over the internet what would an intuitive bull who doesn't want to get hurt think?
Posted by tctaI can see where someone could think that, which is why I apologized to him and said now that I think about it, if the roles were reversed, I would probably think he may not be over his ex. I could very easily have my ex back, but I know he is not for me. I want to move forward. The Taurus probably needs to see I won't mention the ex again, and see I'm only interested in him, but I'm not sure how to show action if I don't see him. So, I said what I could to reassure him, and now the ball is in his court.Posted by JohnTheBaptist100I have to agree with this because that is sort of what I was trying to say a few posts ago - she keeps talking about her ex ... which equals "in limbo" - whether she sees that or not; I don't think soPosted by ConfusedAboutTaurusThe Taurus is not in limbo trust me but it sounds as if you are!Posted by JohnTheBaptist100You must have had a bad experience with a Cancer. I'm very direct, and hate games. Tell me if you don't want to keep seeing me. If you don't, cool. If you do, let's discuss it if you need to, get over it, and move on. I don't understand why people want to stay in limbo. It's a waste of time.Posted by AgentP911You describe the cancers perfectly... Sneaky sneaky.. They are not direct. Scorps you will know.. They are all in or all out - direct..Posted by JohnTheBaptist100I'm not a fan of the Cancerian sign. I just feel their emotional ickiness glooping over everything they touch and do but then you could probably say the same about Scorp being mad!Posted by AgentP911I knew from her actions she was a water ie pisces or cancer.
As soon as I read 'I mentioned my ex' I just thought 'doh!' and almost slapped my forehead.
OP, you sound a bit needy and clingy. So much distrust with a guy you've known for only one month which basically equates to maybe 30 hours or so. It's not long. You sound like you still have issues with your ex or he is still in your life in some way. There's nothing wrong with this except I'd say it still sounds too recent rather than from years ago.
A water sign perhaps, Cancer seem to be all over the place at the moment. I'd be embarrassed if it were Scorp ?. Maybe air, seems a little disconnected.
50p on cancer Busy!!
Scorps NEVER behave in this way. They have pride and integrity which is why the bull may have difficulty keeping a long standing relationship with a scorp but we do respect and admire them. Bulls and scorps are very similar.
Cancer and pisces make me want to vomit... They are so weak and all I see is part of my own "weakness" (venus, Saturn and 4 other placements in pisces but thank God they have the hint of the 8th house! smh!)
But as you say cancer "gloopy"
Then Pisces "wishy-washy"
Give me a scorp any day... I would rather face hell than the above two options..
People's signs are just a general guideline, anyway. Every person is unique. Maturity level also plays a huge role in how people handle situations.click to expand
Posted by jeaneMy ex doesn't feel resolved, but he is forcing himself to move on. I feel done. That relationship wasted so much of my time. I can absolutely see what you're saying, though. I really regret bringing up my ex at all.Posted by ConfusedAboutTaurus
My confusion comes from me straight up telling him--If you don't want to see me anymore, that's fine. Just let me know. Also, him sending me a video of him that was sweet. No mention of what I said. If it were me and I was done with you, I'd just say--hey, we aren't going to work out. I also asked if he was going to stay upset with me and he said, no, I won't.
Great so that's how you behave. Not everyone is going to behave like you. You either give this guy a chance to see how he wants to proceed or you find someone more like yourself.
I get the sense you and your ex are not fully resolved either. If I come to that conclusion over the internet what would an intuitive bull who doesn't want to get hurt think?click to expand
The Taurus is not in limbo trust me but it sounds as if you are!
I have to agree with this because that is sort of what I was trying to say a few posts ago - she keeps talking about her ex ... which equals "in limbo" - whether she sees that or not; I don't think so
I can see where someone could think that, which is why I apologized to him and said now that I think about it, if the roles were reversed, I would probably think he may not be over his ex. I could very easily have my ex back, but I know he is not for me. I want to move forward. The Taurus probably needs to see I won't mention the ex again, and see I'm only interested in him, but I'm not sure how to show action if I don't see him. So, I said what I could to reassure him, and now the ball is in his court.
what you "want" is not always what you "show" you are doing - and you may not realize that ... relax and stop having expectations and see if he comes to you ... that is "if" you can forget about you "ex" although I am not sure that you are not on rebound meaning this might have been too soon to try to jump into the fire again - in that case, just be friends with Taurus for the time being - if you are truly "over" your ex, it will show, he will see it, and maybe be more fully vested ... have you thought about changing jobs due to your ex working where you work ?
Posted by tctaThe Taurus is not in limbo trust me but it sounds as if you are!
I have to agree with this because that is sort of what I was trying to say a few posts ago - she keeps talking about her ex ... which equals "in limbo" - whether she sees that or not; I don't think so
I can see where someone could think that, which is why I apologized to him and said now that I think about it, if the roles were reversed, I would probably think he may not be over his ex. I could very easily have my ex back, but I know he is not for me. I want to move forward. The Taurus probably needs to see I won't mention the ex again, and see I'm only interested in him, but I'm not sure how to show action if I don't see him. So, I said what I could to reassure him, and now the ball is in his court.
what you "want" is not always what you "show" you are doing - and you may not realize that ... relax and stop having expectations and see if he comes to you ... that is "if" you can forget about you "ex" although I am not sure that you are not on rebound meaning this might have been too soon to try to jump into the fire again - in that case, just be friends with Taurus for the time being - if you are truly "over" your ex, it will show, he will see it, and maybe be more fully vested ... have you thought about changing jobs due to your ex working where you work ?
I have, but I have a great job. I'm debating on job searching, though. I think he may actually quit, which would be ideal. I am really over it. This has needed to happen for a while now. It actually feels really good to not be emotionally attached anymore. I could go out and be open to other guys, but this guy has a lot of good qualities. So, I'll wait a bit and see what happens. If it doesn't work out, I won't be going back to my ex. I'll just go on dates with other people.
Your ex is bothering me and I'm not even the Taurus guy you're seeing.
So much cancer bashing on the Taurus threads (mostly from women) yet Taurus males are drawn to us !
I agree Cancers sort of suck when we are younger in relationships (I'm a sun and ascendent so I am a good candidate to discuss it) BUT as we age and we go through hardships we learn to become very strong and start to deal with things differently - soon the tears and clinginess stops. We will kill you with silence and strength once we master the art of pride for major faux pas.
You won't see tears you just see the power of the block feature or distance and it will blindside a person as we learn to not waste tears on someone who doesn't deserve them.
The feelings as we age sort of learn to exist on a different plane and self protection learns to take place no matter how much we hurt. I'm talking late 30s to get there though we need to go
Through a lot of butter to get there and as much as it's painful it really becomes a blessing in disguise.
Also we have Pluto going through our seventh house so the early Cancers have had that bad boy just over our descendent and he brings all the lessons you need in strength and Taurus men love it to be honest it's almost as we then possess all the Cancer soft parts mixed with strength in relationships. I'd say a lot of the cancer stupid stuff you read are Cancers going through Pluto in the 6th getting ready to cross over bringing the lessons (it's a doozy to experience) but worth it in the end.
We are also very strong in our work and learn to channel the pain into work to not have to feel so much. Quite different to the Taurus way of working from what I've seen. Again Taurus man loves it though like a bee to honey
I agree Cancers sort of suck when we are younger in relationships (I'm a sun and ascendent so I am a good candidate to discuss it) BUT as we age and we go through hardships we learn to become very strong and start to deal with things differently - soon the tears and clinginess stops. We will kill you with silence and strength once we master the art of pride for major faux pas.
You won't see tears you just see the power of the block feature or distance and it will blindside a person as we learn to not waste tears on someone who doesn't deserve them.
The feelings as we age sort of learn to exist on a different plane and self protection learns to take place no matter how much we hurt. I'm talking late 30s to get there though we need to go
Through a lot of butter to get there and as much as it's painful it really becomes a blessing in disguise.
Also we have Pluto going through our seventh house so the early Cancers have had that bad boy just over our descendent and he brings all the lessons you need in strength and Taurus men love it to be honest it's almost as we then possess all the Cancer soft parts mixed with strength in relationships. I'd say a lot of the cancer stupid stuff you read are Cancers going through Pluto in the 6th getting ready to cross over bringing the lessons (it's a doozy to experience) but worth it in the end.
We are also very strong in our work and learn to channel the pain into work to not have to feel so much. Quite different to the Taurus way of working from what I've seen. Again Taurus man loves it though like a bee to honey
Posted by JohnTheBaptist100? Sounds like communicating like an adult to me. Simple communication is a sign of maturity, honey. Spending time bashing strangers on the internet is not. Lol.Posted by ConfusedAboutTaurusYou sound desperate. One month in and you are asking that question??
My confusion comes from me straight up telling him--If you don't want to see me anymore, that's fine. Just let me know. Also, him sending me a video of him that was sweet. No mention of what I said. If it were me and I was done with you, I'd just say--hey, we aren't going to work out. I also asked if he was going to stay upset with me and he said, no, I won't.
My Taurus pursued me for 18 months and asked me out four times before he even got near my bed! We became solid friends first.
Never say to a guy "If you don't want to see me anymore, that's fine. Just let me know." it reeks of desperation and insecurity.
Now all you can do is live your life and let him come to you.click to expand
Thanks for the helpful advice from those who gave it.
Posted by ShadowcatGood to know, thanks. I briefly dated another Taurus guy a year ago, and he didn't text a lot either.Posted by ConfusedAboutTaurusPosted by Earthhorse
its you and your ex
more specifically the drama you rolled onto this guy taurus does not do drama and would take his time to get to know you i do not respond to more than half the text messages and do things according to my agenda
You're saying if you were him, you wouldn't respond to more than half the text messages and would do things according to your own agenda?
Is he trying to teach me a lesson? Is he just trying to sort things out in his head? I'm just wondering what he could be thinking. He went from being really great, buying me a gift, to pretty much going silent. He can't be seeing someone else, because he's had the flu this whole time. I believe him when he says it's because of my ex.
I don't think it's that serious? My taurus doesn't take texting seriously, isn't fond of it, and generally has a meh attitude to it.
If it does turn out to be lesson teaching......drop himclick to expand
So, Taurus guy just asked me to meet up with him and his friends from out of town this weekend and said we could do dinner after they leave.
Posted by JohnTheBaptist100It's not about thinking I'm smart. I genuinely am not wanting my ex back and genuinely am interested in seeing where things may go with the Taurus guy. I just assumed he knew I liked him. I can see how things were still very new and fragile, though. I would have felt weird about it, too.Posted by Bricks195I think the water signs like cancer think they are smart but the Taurus man could more than likely pick up the vibes straight away....
Your ex is bothering me and I'm not even the Taurus guy you're seeing.
I certainly would not have bothered taking things any further.. It sounds as if the OP's relationship was a recent break and who wants to be the rebound??click to expand
It's not a rebound. I can't date if I am still holding on to someone else. I just can't do it. I hate dating, in general, unless I see potential. To me, it's a waste of time. I could be doing other things, and having a better time with friends. Lol.
Posted by JohnTheBaptist100Posted by ConfusedAboutTaurusYou sound desperate. One month in and you are asking that question??
My confusion comes from me straight up telling him--If you don't want to see me anymore, that's fine. Just let me know. Also, him sending me a video of him that was sweet. No mention of what I said. If it were me and I was done with you, I'd just say--hey, we aren't going to work out. I also asked if he was going to stay upset with me and he said, no, I won't.
My Taurus pursued me for 18 months and asked me out four times before he even got near my bed! We became solid friends first.
Never say to a guy "If you don't want to see me anymore, that's fine. Just let me know." it reeks of desperation and insecurity.
Now all you can do is live your life and let him come to you.click to expand
When OP said she is direct etc but then comes out with this post I don't see that as direct. That's not making a decision for herself regarding what she wants. All she's done in this situation is pass the responsibility over to the bull to say what he wants to do. That's not being direct.
Posted by ConfusedAboutTaurusGo and have a nice time. Relax. On sexual. No mention of ex. No mention of relationship talk or 'what are we?' Etc. Date him. If he wants to see you again then he'll ask. Not you. Let him pursue you. Then you'll have your answer.Posted by ShadowcatGood to know, thanks. I briefly dated another Taurus guy a year ago, and he didn't text a lot either.Posted by ConfusedAboutTaurusPosted by Earthhorse
its you and your ex
more specifically the drama you rolled onto this guy taurus does not do drama and would take his time to get to know you i do not respond to more than half the text messages and do things according to my agenda
You're saying if you were him, you wouldn't respond to more than half the text messages and would do things according to your own agenda?
Is he trying to teach me a lesson? Is he just trying to sort things out in his head? I'm just wondering what he could be thinking. He went from being really great, buying me a gift, to pretty much going silent. He can't be seeing someone else, because he's had the flu this whole time. I believe him when he says it's because of my ex.
I don't think it's that serious? My taurus doesn't take texting seriously, isn't fond of it, and generally has a meh attitude to it.
If it does turn out to be lesson teaching......drop him
So, Taurus guy just asked me to meet up with him and his friends from out of town this weekend and said we could do dinner after they leave.click to expand
Posted by soundsunscene
So much cancer bashing on the Taurus threads (mostly from women) yet Taurus males are drawn to us !
I agree Cancers sort of suck when we are younger in relationships (I'm a sun and ascendent so I am a good candidate to discuss it) BUT as we age and we go through hardships we learn to become very strong and start to deal with things differently - soon the tears and clinginess stops. We will kill you with silence and strength once we master the art of pride for major faux pas.
You won't see tears you just see the power of the block feature or distance and it will blindside a person as we learn to not waste tears on someone who doesn't deserve them.
The feelings as we age sort of learn to exist on a different plane and self protection learns to take place no matter how much we hurt. I'm talking late 30s to get there though we need to go
Through a lot of butter to get there and as much as it's painful it really becomes a blessing in disguise.
Also we have Pluto going through our seventh house so the early Cancers have had that bad boy just over our descendent and he brings all the lessons you need in strength and Taurus men love it to be honest it's almost as we then possess all the Cancer soft parts mixed with strength in relationships. I'd say a lot of the cancer stupid stuff you read are Cancers going through Pluto in the 6th getting ready to cross over bringing the lessons (it's a doozy to experience) but worth it in the end.
We are also very strong in our work and learn to channel the pain into work to not have to feel so much. Quite different to the Taurus way of working from what I've seen. Again Taurus man loves it though like a bee to honey
i dont know about 6th or 7th plutos younger or older cancer is a cancer is a cancer looks tough on the outside but mushy on the inside i do like that block feature although not enough useit and i find them somewhat attractive when they are chilled out at home in between their crisis to say that taurus men loves it likes a bee to honey is wildly inaccurate if i wanted pain i would go for a scorpio which i much prefer
Posted by AgentP911That should read 'No sexual!'Posted by ConfusedAboutTaurusGo and have a nice time. Relax. On sexual. No mention of ex. No mention of relationship talk or 'what are we?' Etc. Date him. If he wants to see you again then he'll ask. Not you. Let him pursue you. Then you'll have your answer.Posted by ShadowcatGood to know, thanks. I briefly dated another Taurus guy a year ago, and he didn't text a lot either.Posted by ConfusedAboutTaurusPosted by Earthhorse
its you and your ex
more specifically the drama you rolled onto this guy taurus does not do drama and would take his time to get to know you i do not respond to more than half the text messages and do things according to my agenda
You're saying if you were him, you wouldn't respond to more than half the text messages and would do things according to your own agenda?
Is he trying to teach me a lesson? Is he just trying to sort things out in his head? I'm just wondering what he could be thinking. He went from being really great, buying me a gift, to pretty much going silent. He can't be seeing someone else, because he's had the flu this whole time. I believe him when he says it's because of my ex.
I don't think it's that serious? My taurus doesn't take texting seriously, isn't fond of it, and generally has a meh attitude to it.
If it does turn out to be lesson teaching......drop him
So, Taurus guy just asked me to meet up with him and his friends from out of town this weekend and said we could do dinner after they leave.click to expand
Posted by JohnTheBaptist100Posted by EarthhorseI totally agree.Posted by soundsunscene
So much cancer bashing on the Taurus threads (mostly from women) yet Taurus males are drawn to us !
I agree Cancers sort of suck when we are younger in relationships (I'm a sun and ascendent so I am a good candidate to discuss it) BUT as we age and we go through hardships we learn to become very strong and start to deal with things differently - soon the tears and clinginess stops. We will kill you with silence and strength once we master the art of pride for major faux pas.
You won't see tears you just see the power of the block feature or distance and it will blindside a person as we learn to not waste tears on someone who doesn't deserve them.
The feelings as we age sort of learn to exist on a different plane and self protection learns to take place no matter how much we hurt. I'm talking late 30s to get there though we need to go
Through a lot of butter to get there and as much as it's painful it really becomes a blessing in disguise.
Also we have Pluto going through our seventh house so the early Cancers have had that bad boy just over our descendent and he brings all the lessons you need in strength and Taurus men love it to be honest it's almost as we then possess all the Cancer soft parts mixed with strength in relationships. I'd say a lot of the cancer stupid stuff you read are Cancers going through Pluto in the 6th getting ready to cross over bringing the lessons (it's a doozy to experience) but worth it in the end.
We are also very strong in our work and learn to channel the pain into work to not have to feel so much. Quite different to the Taurus way of working from what I've seen. Again Taurus man loves it though like a bee to honey
i dont know about 6th or 7th plutos younger or older cancer is a cancer is a cancer looks tough on the outside but mushy on the inside i do like that block feature although not enough useit and i find them somewhat attractive when they are chilled out at home in between their crisis to say that taurus men loves it likes a bee to honey is wildly inaccurate if i wanted pain i would go for a scorpio which i much prefer
Wow! Not one form of punctuation used here! lol lolclick to expand
Punctuation and writing in a grammatically correct fashion is so 90's!
U gota ryt lyk dis nw
Or just right paragraphs of text!
Posted by soundsunsceneI like your post.
So much cancer bashing on the Taurus threads (mostly from women) yet Taurus males are drawn to us !
I agree Cancers sort of suck when we are younger in relationships (I'm a sun and ascendent so I am a good candidate to discuss it) BUT as we age and we go through hardships we learn to become very strong and start to deal with things differently - soon the tears and clinginess stops. We will kill you with silence and strength once we master the art of pride for major faux pas.
You won't see tears you just see the power of the block feature or distance and it will blindside a person as we learn to not waste tears on someone who doesn't deserve them.
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We are also very strong in our work and learn to channel the pain into work to not have to feel so much. Quite different to the Taurus way of working from what I've seen. Again Taurus man loves it though like a bee to honey
Great writing.
I don't believe the OP is being 'sappy' and the Taurus guy is being a pain in the ass.
However, I do believe that they're both in their protective environments.
With Bulls, our protective shells come with practicality.
Left alone, a Bull will graze, appreciate nature, internalize their thoughts, and make a practical decision.
Emotions lead to poor decision making.
To keep good faith, we try to keep our jealousies and possessiveness in control.
There is an Angry Bull.
And then a Tamed Bull.
The OP got both!
Something tells me the OP's mention of her ex, was premeditated, call it a gut instinct.
Maybe a protective shell for validation or reassurance.
His reaction was emotional, when he distanced himself from her.
Then tamed coupled with practicality when he reached out to her.
But trust me, the resentment of the ex is still present.
Don't be fooled by the cool facade.
So, I'm confused again. Sorry, this may be long.
Two of his best guy friends came into town for the weekend and stayed with him. He had told me they are staying through today, but that we could do dinner after. He also said we could meet up at an event we were both going to yesterday.
At the event, we never met up. Yes, meeting up was not easy, but he could have made more of an effort, too. I let it go and tried not to overthink it. I texted him and said I was going home, and he said what? Why? He ended up calling me and said he was leaving his friends and asked me to come over. His friends came over shortly after, and one of them was like--Ohhh, that's why he was in such a rush to leave and ditched us!
We all went to dinner, and his friends kept saying he was a great guy. They seemed to really like me, and were nice. During dinner, one of his friends mentioned his age, and I was confused. They all played football together in college, and the age difference wasn't matching up. Later, Taurus got quiet and looked like he was thinking to the point where his friend asked--You thinking about something hard over there?? Taurus looked at me, and said--Look...I'm not really 36. I just put that online. I'm 42. I was like--WHAT? Why haven't you told me??? He said--Well, things were going so well...I was going to tell you... I said--When were you planning on telling me?? He said--The next time I saw you... I said--Riiiight... I was laughing because it was all ridiculous, and he said he was afraid I would get mad. I said I'm not mad. I'm less upset about your age and more upset that you haven't told me the truth yet. He apologized, and I let it go. I reiterated to him later when we were alone that I want him to be totally honest with me. He promised me he would, and apologized.
We went back to his place after dinner and he lied down on me on his couch. His friend walked up and kept commenting on how good we seemed together, how he could tell I made Taurus happy, how he felt we got along really well, etc. Several times throughout the night, he said Taurus was a really good guy, and he hoped I could see it. Another one of Taurus's friends came over later (whom I had met once before) and the friend goes--Hey, you remember my friend who was over here that night? I told her I was coming over here and she asked me to tell you hello. She really liked you. So, his friends seem to like me, and they seem very nice.
When Taurus and I went to sleep, I noticed some female items in his bathroom. It immediately bothered me, but I didn't know how to bring it up. I got in bed and at one point, he asked--You're not seeing anyone else, are you?? I said no, and then I asked him about the stuff in his bathroom. He said it was from a girl one of his guy friends had invited over the night before. He said she brought over stuff and put it in his bathroom. He said it was a girl his friend knows that used to live where he is from and moved to our city. They had mentioned his two friends inviting some girls over the night before. However, it's odd to me that the girl would put her stuff in Taurus's bathroom. You have to go through his bedroom to get to his bathroom. Also, his two friends were staying upstairs, and there is a bathroom up there. Wouldn't she have left her stuff there? And, what is a girl doing bringing stuff over for one night? It just doesn't make sense. I told him all that, and he denied, denied, denied. He kept saying I'm the only one he is seeing, and I just said, Okaaay...and dropped it. I ended up going home later because I was getting sick with a migraine. This morning, he texted me and asked why I always leave him and don't stay. I could tell it bothered him last night, and I told him I was being honest about being sick. I then said the more I think about the stuff in the bathroom, the more it doesn't make sense. He was adamant about not seeing anyone but me and said he didn't know what else to do to convince me. He said arguing about it was exhausting. I agreed, and said I guess all I can do is trust that he wouldn't do anything to put me at risk. (I had made it clear my main issue wasn't him seeing someone else but that he may be sleeping with someone else, because that's gross. He agreed that was gross and said he doesn't do that.) There's no way for me to ever really know what the truth is. I ended up saying--I'm going to drop this, but promise me you'll be honest with me and not put me at risk. I asked if he wanted to start over with a clean slate. He said yes. I haven't heard from him again today.
I do think he was irritated at me questioning him, which I understand. But, it truly looks shady. I'm not sure what to do, honestly. I mean, my feelings aren't too invested yet. When we are together, he really seems to like me. The stuff he says makes it sound like he wants there to be a future with us. He does have a lot of great qualities. All I know to do is just try step back a little and see what happens.
He really does seem to like me a lot when I'm with him. At dinner with his friends, he would do things like look at me, smile, and say, "Come here" and pull me in for a kiss. He also kept asking me if I missed him, and kept saying he really did have the flu. I said I believed him. When we were alone, he asked me a few questions and made a few statements, obviously to see if we would work, long term...like what's important to him, etc. He asked if he could sleep with me every night. He said he would give me more attention, and apologized for the past week. He told me about wanting to get rid of his sports car and asked if he should get this car or that car. I jokingly said he was ridiculous (they are both incredibly expensive cars), and joked--And I'm over here just trying to get a Lexus coupe (very different class of car than he would buy). He then said, very seriously--If you and I end up being together longer, I'm going to buy you things. I told him that's not important to me, and he said he could tell, but that he wanted to. He told me--Why do you think I didn't tell you much until a few dates in? I wanted to make sure you liked me for me first. (He is very wealthy.) So, it does seem like he has considered the possibility of a future, but I don't know... Sometimes I hate being a Cancer. We overthink everything. But, our intuition is also very good, too. Ugh. lol
Two of his best guy friends came into town for the weekend and stayed with him. He had told me they are staying through today, but that we could do dinner after. He also said we could meet up at an event we were both going to yesterday.
At the event, we never met up. Yes, meeting up was not easy, but he could have made more of an effort, too. I let it go and tried not to overthink it. I texted him and said I was going home, and he said what? Why? He ended up calling me and said he was leaving his friends and asked me to come over. His friends came over shortly after, and one of them was like--Ohhh, that's why he was in such a rush to leave and ditched us!
We all went to dinner, and his friends kept saying he was a great guy. They seemed to really like me, and were nice. During dinner, one of his friends mentioned his age, and I was confused. They all played football together in college, and the age difference wasn't matching up. Later, Taurus got quiet and looked like he was thinking to the point where his friend asked--You thinking about something hard over there?? Taurus looked at me, and said--Look...I'm not really 36. I just put that online. I'm 42. I was like--WHAT? Why haven't you told me??? He said--Well, things were going so well...I was going to tell you... I said--When were you planning on telling me?? He said--The next time I saw you... I said--Riiiight... I was laughing because it was all ridiculous, and he said he was afraid I would get mad. I said I'm not mad. I'm less upset about your age and more upset that you haven't told me the truth yet. He apologized, and I let it go. I reiterated to him later when we were alone that I want him to be totally honest with me. He promised me he would, and apologized.
We went back to his place after dinner and he lied down on me on his couch. His friend walked up and kept commenting on how good we seemed together, how he could tell I made Taurus happy, how he felt we got along really well, etc. Several times throughout the night, he said Taurus was a really good guy, and he hoped I could see it. Another one of Taurus's friends came over later (whom I had met once before) and the friend goes--Hey, you remember my friend who was over here that night? I told her I was coming over here and she asked me to tell you hello. She really liked you. So, his friends seem to like me, and they seem very nice.
When Taurus and I went to sleep, I noticed some female items in his bathroom. It immediately bothered me, but I didn't know how to bring it up. I got in bed and at one point, he asked--You're not seeing anyone else, are you?? I said no, and then I asked him about the stuff in his bathroom. He said it was from a girl one of his guy friends had invited over the night before. He said she brought over stuff and put it in his bathroom. He said it was a girl his friend knows that used to live where he is from and moved to our city. They had mentioned his two friends inviting some girls over the night before. However, it's odd to me that the girl would put her stuff in Taurus's bathroom. You have to go through his bedroom to get to his bathroom. Also, his two friends were staying upstairs, and there is a bathroom up there. Wouldn't she have left her stuff there? And, what is a girl doing bringing stuff over for one night? It just doesn't make sense. I told him all that, and he denied, denied, denied. He kept saying I'm the only one he is seeing, and I just said, Okaaay...and dropped it. I ended up going home later because I was getting sick with a migraine. This morning, he texted me and asked why I always leave him and don't stay. I could tell it bothered him last night, and I told him I was being honest about being sick. I then said the more I think about the stuff in the bathroom, the more it doesn't make sense. He was adamant about not seeing anyone but me and said he didn't know what else to do to convince me. He said arguing about it was exhausting. I agreed, and said I guess all I can do is trust that he wouldn't do anything to put me at risk. (I had made it clear my main issue wasn't him seeing someone else but that he may be sleeping with someone else, because that's gross. He agreed that was gross and said he doesn't do that.) There's no way for me to ever really know what the truth is. I ended up saying--I'm going to drop this, but promise me you'll be honest with me and not put me at risk. I asked if he wanted to start over with a clean slate. He said yes. I haven't heard from him again today.
I do think he was irritated at me questioning him, which I understand. But, it truly looks shady. I'm not sure what to do, honestly. I mean, my feelings aren't too invested yet. When we are together, he really seems to like me. The stuff he says makes it sound like he wants there to be a future with us. He does have a lot of great qualities. All I know to do is just try step back a little and see what happens.
He really does seem to like me a lot when I'm with him. At dinner with his friends, he would do things like look at me, smile, and say, "Come here" and pull me in for a kiss. He also kept asking me if I missed him, and kept saying he really did have the flu. I said I believed him. When we were alone, he asked me a few questions and made a few statements, obviously to see if we would work, long term...like what's important to him, etc. He asked if he could sleep with me every night. He said he would give me more attention, and apologized for the past week. He told me about wanting to get rid of his sports car and asked if he should get this car or that car. I jokingly said he was ridiculous (they are both incredibly expensive cars), and joked--And I'm over here just trying to get a Lexus coupe (very different class of car than he would buy). He then said, very seriously--If you and I end up being together longer, I'm going to buy you things. I told him that's not important to me, and he said he could tell, but that he wanted to. He told me--Why do you think I didn't tell you much until a few dates in? I wanted to make sure you liked me for me first. (He is very wealthy.) So, it does seem like he has considered the possibility of a future, but I don't know... Sometimes I hate being a Cancer. We overthink everything. But, our intuition is also very good, too. Ugh. lol
Posted by TaurusBull1977Posted by soundsunsceneI like your post.
So much cancer bashing on the Taurus threads (mostly from women) yet Taurus males are drawn to us !
I agree Cancers sort of suck when we are younger in relationships (I'm a sun and ascendent so I am a good candidate to discuss it) BUT as we age and we go through hardships we learn to become very strong and start to deal with things differently - soon the tears and clinginess stops. We will kill you with silence and strength once we master the art of pride for major faux pas.
You won't see tears you just see the power of the block feature or distance and it will blindside a person as we learn to not waste tears on someone who doesn't deserve them.
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We are also very strong in our work and learn to channel the pain into work to not have to feel so much. Quite different to the Taurus way of working from what I've seen. Again Taurus man loves it though like a bee to honey
Great writing.
I don't believe the OP is being 'sappy' and the Taurus guy is being a pain in the ass.
However, I do believe that they're both in their protective environments.
With Bulls, our protective shells come with practicality.
Left alone, a Bull will graze, appreciate nature, internalize their thoughts, and make a practical decision.
Emotions lead to poor decision making.
To keep good faith, we try to keep our jealousies and possessiveness in control.
There is an Angry Bull.
And then a Tamed Bull.
The OP got both!
Something tells me the OP's mention of her ex, was premeditated, call it a gut instinct.
Maybe a protective shell for validation or reassurance.
His reaction was emotional, when he distanced himself from her.
Then tamed coupled with practicality when he reached out to her.
But trust me, the resentment of the ex is still present.
Don't be fooled by the cool facade.click to expand
I'm honestly not sure if it was premeditated. If it was, it certainly was not conscious, but I definitely am guarded. I think your interpretation is spot on. I'd be interested to see what you think of the book I just wrote.
By the way, for those of you who are all into the natal charts, his natal chart is different, now that I know his real birthday. *insert eye roll*
I'm a firm believer that everyone is an individual, and all this sign business is just a guide. But, here's his chart:
Zodiac : Tropical
Sun Taurus 28°20'
Moon Taurus 0°26'
Mercury Gemini 14°51'
Venus Aries 16°42'
Mars Cancer 17°38'
Jupiter Pisces 14°15'
Saturn Cancer 3°06'
Uranus Libra 24°25' R
Neptune Sagittarius 8°31' R
Pluto Libra 4°15' R
Lilith Aquarius 0°52'
Asc node Sagittarius
Does any of this mean anything? lol
I'm a firm believer that everyone is an individual, and all this sign business is just a guide. But, here's his chart:
Zodiac : Tropical
Sun Taurus 28°20'
Moon Taurus 0°26'
Mercury Gemini 14°51'
Venus Aries 16°42'
Mars Cancer 17°38'
Jupiter Pisces 14°15'
Saturn Cancer 3°06'
Uranus Libra 24°25' R
Neptune Sagittarius 8°31' R
Pluto Libra 4°15' R
Lilith Aquarius 0°52'
Asc node Sagittarius
Does any of this mean anything? lol
ConfusedaboutTaurus,
Honestly,
I think you need to stop hiding in your shell, internalizing, over-obsessing, and simply just grow a pair.
Take this as genuine honesty. No pun intended.
I think you're a sweetheart. I see why this Bull is taken with you.
Trust me, Bulls, are never this enamored and invested in someone we didn't see longevity with.
As for the woman's items in his bathroom, there could be a million reasons as to how it got there.
It doesn't matter.
He's planning the future.
Start getting your feet wet.
If he is telling you that he sees a future with you,
It's simple,
Let him know that "Chickies" items are going in the trash!
Whoever she is.
She's about to become a non-factor!
Bulls like to mark their territory.
Assure him that you do as well.
Do you want to be with this man or not?
Clearly your ex is no longer a factor.
Why are you making this mystery woman a factor?
Girl, please don't mess this up!
You have him right where you want him!
Honestly,
I think you need to stop hiding in your shell, internalizing, over-obsessing, and simply just grow a pair.
Take this as genuine honesty. No pun intended.
I think you're a sweetheart. I see why this Bull is taken with you.
Trust me, Bulls, are never this enamored and invested in someone we didn't see longevity with.
As for the woman's items in his bathroom, there could be a million reasons as to how it got there.
It doesn't matter.
He's planning the future.
Start getting your feet wet.
If he is telling you that he sees a future with you,
It's simple,
Let him know that "Chickies" items are going in the trash!
Whoever she is.
She's about to become a non-factor!
Bulls like to mark their territory.
Assure him that you do as well.
Do you want to be with this man or not?
Clearly your ex is no longer a factor.
Why are you making this mystery woman a factor?
Girl, please don't mess this up!
You have him right where you want him!
Posted by TaurusBull1977I'm more worried about the possibility of him sleeping with someone else. Regardless of precautions taken, it just isn't safe, and it's gross. But, I have no real proof, and don't know for sure. He actually told me I could throw it all away, but I didn't. I've made it clear I'm not okay with him seeing other people while he's seeing me. Well, I told him he could, but he knows I won't be around anymore. He hasn't flat out told me he sees a future with me, but he has made several comments to make me believe he does. He seems genuinely into me when I'm with him. I'll just try to take it one day at a time and try not to get the feels too deeply. ha
ConfusedaboutTaurus,
Honestly,
I think you need to stop hiding in your shell, internalizing, over-obsessing, and simply just grow a pair.
Take this as genuine honesty. No pun intended.
I think you're a sweetheart. I see why this Bull is taken with you.
Trust me, Bulls, are never this enamored and invested in someone we didn't see longevity with.
As for the woman's items in his bathroom, there could be a million reasons as to how it got there.
It doesn't matter.
He's planning the future.
Start getting your feet wet.
If he is telling you that he sees a future with you,
It's simple,
Let him know that "Chickies" items are going in the trash!
Whoever she is.
She's about to become a non-factor!
Bulls like to mark their territory.
Assure him that you do as well.
Do you want to be with this man or not?
Clearly your ex is no longer a factor.
Why are you making this mystery woman a factor?
Girl, please don't mess this up!
You have him right where you want him!
Thanks for your input.
Also, he asked me a second time today why I don't ever stay the night with him. I guess that's a good sign that it bothers him... I told him I would next time.
Posted by JohnTheBaptist100Shoot, I don't want to stay with him every night. I need my alone time, too. lolPosted by ConfusedAboutTaurusBut do not make it an every day habit..
Also, he asked me a second time today why I don't ever stay the night with him. I guess that's a good sign that it bothers him... I told him I would next time.
You have to have some independence and do your own thing or they eventually tire and get get bored....
Good luck OPclick to expand
Do you think I should be worried about another girl? I know my two options are to stop seeing him or just let it go. Just curious about your opinion.
Thanks!
The Taurus frequency of contact seems to get two different views
I've personally had a Taurus contact me every day several times a day and would talk for hours- first time I ever experienced it from any sign. I had zero doubt in his pursuit but I'm sure that's not the norm
Then I've read on here that if you are in routine or they like you its daily probably at the same time
And then I've read they won't contact you every day
Maybe it depends on their job - but I think if any man likes you they would contact you frequently who knows
OP Taurus I like has a few same placements Venus in Aries and Sag ascendant
The Sag ascendant is worth watching out for they love freedom and hate to be tied down! Mine is definitely a free spirit but he's also quite spiritual with Neptune on asc which balances it out a bit. If his Venus is in Aries it means he is possibly having a Venus venus conjunction in retrograde at some point here - I would wait until this is over end of April to look for full clarity on the situation (you can google it to see what it means)
I love what 1977 said though personally I read her stuff the most to learn about Taurus I would feel like I hit the jackpot if that was in reply to my nuances
As far as my bee to honey comment that was work related - personally I'm quite successful with what I do and am very self sufficient financially and all Taurus I have been involved with seem to really gel with that - plus we know you all love the paper !
I've personally had a Taurus contact me every day several times a day and would talk for hours- first time I ever experienced it from any sign. I had zero doubt in his pursuit but I'm sure that's not the norm
Then I've read on here that if you are in routine or they like you its daily probably at the same time
And then I've read they won't contact you every day
Maybe it depends on their job - but I think if any man likes you they would contact you frequently who knows
OP Taurus I like has a few same placements Venus in Aries and Sag ascendant
The Sag ascendant is worth watching out for they love freedom and hate to be tied down! Mine is definitely a free spirit but he's also quite spiritual with Neptune on asc which balances it out a bit. If his Venus is in Aries it means he is possibly having a Venus venus conjunction in retrograde at some point here - I would wait until this is over end of April to look for full clarity on the situation (you can google it to see what it means)
I love what 1977 said though personally I read her stuff the most to learn about Taurus I would feel like I hit the jackpot if that was in reply to my nuances
As far as my bee to honey comment that was work related - personally I'm quite successful with what I do and am very self sufficient financially and all Taurus I have been involved with seem to really gel with that - plus we know you all love the paper !
Posted by ConfusedAboutTaurusEvery person has the propensity to cheat. He could say he is not sleeping around and still be sleeping around. All because someone says the words doesn't mean their actions automatically follow.Posted by JohnTheBaptist100Shoot, I don't want to stay with him every night. I need my alone time, too. lolPosted by ConfusedAboutTaurusBut do not make it an every day habit..
Also, he asked me a second time today why I don't ever stay the night with him. I guess that's a good sign that it bothers him... I told him I would next time.
You have to have some independence and do your own thing or they eventually tire and get get bored....
Good luck OP
Do you think I should be worried about another girl? I know my two options are to stop seeing him or just let it go. Just curious about your opinion.
Thanks!click to expand
It's a matter of judgement on your part to trust him to be true to his word.
Okay, my intuition is telling me Taurus guy is trying to end things, but what do you Tauruses think?
At the beginning, he wouldn't text a ton, but he almost always said good morning, and when he did text, his texts were REALLY sweet. I have read a lot about Tauruses not making a lot of contact, but it's the difference in his level of contact that makes me think things have changed (as well as his recent disappearing/ghosting act).
All right, so our contact this past Saturday went really well. The things he was saying made me feel like he was back to normal. He kept asking if I missed him, was talking about things that are important to him in relationships, mentioned that he wanted to buy me things if we dated a little longer (in a hopeful manner), asked if I was sleeping with anyone else. Then, the issue with the stuff in the bathroom came up, and then I got sick and left his place. I know both of those things bothered him. He brought up me not staying with him twice the next day, so I sent him a screenshot of a text I had sent my best friend telling her how sick I felt and didn't know if I was going to make it home without throwing up. He saw the time stamps and then he believed me. I told him I promised I would stay with him the next time. That was all Sunday. I didn't hear anything from him after that.
Yesterday, no texts from him, so I sent him one asking how his day was going. He responded almost immediately (not typical, but good) and said he was tired. I said the same and asked if he was interested in going to a certain bar that night. He said he was too tired and was licking his wounds from the weekend. I said okay, I hope you get some rest. No response. Later that night, I texted him (tipsy) and asked if he was awake, and then said, "Babe, you can't possibly be asleep yet. Can I come tell you goodnight?" (Maybe he felt like that was me accusing him, but it was me just teasing.) Later, I sent, "You have some making up to do." I should have put a wink face, because I was completely joking around, but in my (by then) very tipsy state, I didn't think that through very well.
This morning, I sent a text--"My last text to you...lol" with a smiling devil and wink to let him know that was supposed to be light-hearted. Then I asked if he got some sleep and told him I stayed out way too late. No response, all day. That is not typical at all. The only time he did that was when he ghosted me.
My gut tells me maybe he just thinks there are too many "issues" already--him getting upset about my ex (understandable) and then me questioning him about disappearing (which was resolved a couple weeks ago) and the stuff in his bathroom.
Do I stay silent, or can I ask if he's upset with me?
Damn Cancers and our analytical, stupid feelings...I'm annoying myself. haha Help.
At the beginning, he wouldn't text a ton, but he almost always said good morning, and when he did text, his texts were REALLY sweet. I have read a lot about Tauruses not making a lot of contact, but it's the difference in his level of contact that makes me think things have changed (as well as his recent disappearing/ghosting act).
All right, so our contact this past Saturday went really well. The things he was saying made me feel like he was back to normal. He kept asking if I missed him, was talking about things that are important to him in relationships, mentioned that he wanted to buy me things if we dated a little longer (in a hopeful manner), asked if I was sleeping with anyone else. Then, the issue with the stuff in the bathroom came up, and then I got sick and left his place. I know both of those things bothered him. He brought up me not staying with him twice the next day, so I sent him a screenshot of a text I had sent my best friend telling her how sick I felt and didn't know if I was going to make it home without throwing up. He saw the time stamps and then he believed me. I told him I promised I would stay with him the next time. That was all Sunday. I didn't hear anything from him after that.
Yesterday, no texts from him, so I sent him one asking how his day was going. He responded almost immediately (not typical, but good) and said he was tired. I said the same and asked if he was interested in going to a certain bar that night. He said he was too tired and was licking his wounds from the weekend. I said okay, I hope you get some rest. No response. Later that night, I texted him (tipsy) and asked if he was awake, and then said, "Babe, you can't possibly be asleep yet. Can I come tell you goodnight?" (Maybe he felt like that was me accusing him, but it was me just teasing.) Later, I sent, "You have some making up to do." I should have put a wink face, because I was completely joking around, but in my (by then) very tipsy state, I didn't think that through very well.
This morning, I sent a text--"My last text to you...lol" with a smiling devil and wink to let him know that was supposed to be light-hearted. Then I asked if he got some sleep and told him I stayed out way too late. No response, all day. That is not typical at all. The only time he did that was when he ghosted me.
My gut tells me maybe he just thinks there are too many "issues" already--him getting upset about my ex (understandable) and then me questioning him about disappearing (which was resolved a couple weeks ago) and the stuff in his bathroom.
Do I stay silent, or can I ask if he's upset with me?
Damn Cancers and our analytical, stupid feelings...I'm annoying myself. haha Help.
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