Controlling Taurus male

What to do with this man? he wants to control every aspect of my life. He wants to no where, when and how i am going where i am going. he doesnt want no men in my life. I love my freedom and he wants me to have none

Posted by BikerCh1ck
He sounds abusive. Google the word " dominator" you will see that this personality is one of the abusive ones. You talked also about disrespect before. He removes your right to talk.
You've got a problem there and you need to remove him from your life.
This man is not far from being physically abusive you know?
You are making me feel worried from your posts.

He is not abusive though he never raised his hand at me. when he is upset he leaves and calls back later. We have a long distance relationship, we see each other every few weeks. I get to talk to family and friends. He really encourages me to see them. There are just some things he does that concerns me...He doesn't demand me, he makes it seem as if he is inquiring about my whereabouts because he is concerned. then he would make a suggestion.

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Posted by pixie242
What to do with this man? he wants to control every aspect of my life. He wants to no where, when and how i am going where i am going. he doesnt want no men in my life. I love my freedom and he wants me to have none

i think this way too! 😛

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seeing that you think the same way as him. Are you abusive? Do you ever become violent?

i cannot swear for anyone but fact is he has never hit me. I'm not a drama queen. I dislike drama and i dont like when things go wrong in my relationships. I always end up wondering why. He seems moody to me. Some days he is sweet other days he is very grouchy. He would do things like change my number and suggest i only give it to family. He would "SUGGEST" i delete all facebook friends that are males. He told me once that he dont want me to have no male friends because he doesnt like sharing. He told me if i want a male friend i must allow them to meet first. So that both of them will become friends. If I am going somewhere he wants to know where i am going, who i am going with, when i am getting back, and if he doesnt like where i am going he would say i dont see why you are going if im not going to be there. I dont believe im being a drama queen. I just would hate to believe i have given my heart to someone who i have no future with because he just may turn out to be abusive. Maybe im in denial. But the fact is he is very controlling.

Posted by pixie242
i cannot swear for anyone but fact is he has never hit me. I'm not a drama queen. I dislike drama and i dont like when things go wrong in my relationships. I always end up wondering why. He seems moody to me. Some days he is sweet other days he is very grouchy. He would do things like change my number and suggest i only give it to family. He would "SUGGEST" i delete all facebook friends that are males. He told me once that he dont want me to have no male friends because he doesnt like sharing. He told me if i want a male friend i must allow them to meet first. So that both of them will become friends. If I am going somewhere he wants to know where i am going, who i am going with, when i am getting back, and if he doesnt like where i am going he would say i dont see why you are going if im not going to be there. I dont believe im being a drama queen. I just would hate to believe i have given my heart to someone who i have no future with because he just may turn out to be abusive. Maybe im in denial. But the fact is he is very controlling.

Get out of this relationship NOW! He's only getting started. I've seen this before in my personal life with friends and family. He'll start asking about your whereabouts, then he'll start controlling your whereabouts, he'll separate you from your friends (both male and female, he won't like your female friends because they hate him) AND family. He'll have you quit your job. Why work when he can support you but it's only another form of control. You won't be able to hang out with other people especially other males and people who might turn you against him. With no income of your own, you'll have to depend on him more. It also makes it harder to leave but you'll realize that a little later. At this point, he still hasn't laid a hand on you while still having his "foot" on your neck. The real foot comes later. He'll rush you into marriage. Once everything is "comfortable" meaning everyone understands their roles and what it entails the hitting/physical abuse will start. It'll start with absolutely no warning. Maybe a slap across the face for which he apologize, cry and make up for by treating you like a princess. Next time he'll leave a mark and soon enough the hitting becomes beating and it happens a lot more frequently. By the time it gets bad enough to make you want to leave, you will have already isolat

All of that is to say, get out now while you have no real attachments. Having a relationship with someone should bring some kind of fulfillment. Any relationship where you have a spouse that won't allow you freedom to move around or be you isn't a relationship. You're a possession for him to control. Don't let him control you. It's not worth it. Do your own research, and you'll notice that the patterns of an abusive man are usually the same.

Thank you both. You are wonderful people. You both gave awesome advice. I will update you guys on how things turned out.

Thats fine....you dont have to be mean about it. But i do appreciate your honesty. It takes a very special type of person to appreciate your blunt attitude. But im a big girl i can roll with the punches.

"Im a 20 year old libra female genuinely interested in a 36 year old taurus male. I find him very interesting. We have been talking for months but never met. He says he want to but there were a few reasons y we didnt meet. Sometimes we talk for hours and we have good conversations. but other days he would just disappear and not speak to me. Then im seeing him liking and commenting on other females photos. He has never done that with me. Im a little jealous. Im starting to thing he has something going on because its this one particular female. He tells me there is alot he loves about. I am so confused. i dont know what to do. what is best? to back off on stay by his side?"

Porque? Are you talking about the same guy as the above post? Have you met him or not? And if he is 36 willing to date a 20 year old in an LDR I would definitely be concerned with his emotional maturity. You're much too young for him...especially if he's as controlling, insecure and possessive as you say he is...ESPECIALLY if he's all these things and you haven't even met yet! Am I missing something? I must be missing something. If I am; my apologies I was lurking... good luck

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"Im a 20 year old libra female genuinely interested in a 36 year old taurus male. I find him very interesting. We have been talking for months but never met. He says he want to but there were a few reasons y we didnt meet. Sometimes we talk for hours and we have good conversations. but other days he would just disappear and not speak to me. Then im seeing him liking and commenting on other females photos. He has never done that with me. Im a little jealous. Im starting to thing he has something going on because its this one particular female. He tells me there is alot he loves about. I am so confused. i dont know what to do. what is best? to back off on stay by his side?"

Porque? Are you talking about the same guy as the above post? Have you met him or not? And if he is 36 willing to date a 20 year old in an LDR I would definitely be concerned with his emotional maturity. You're much too young for him...especially if he's as controlling, insecure and possessive as you say he is...ESPECIALLY if he's all these things and you haven't even met yet! Am I missing something? I must be missing something. If I am; my apologies I was lurking... good luck

They are not the same people. I knew that taurus way before this one. I seem to gravitate towards them. The 36 year old confused me greatly so i moved on. The taurus im with now is 39. I thought i should post about both.

Please don't date anyone over 25 years old. Keep it light. When I was your age, I would always warn my friends against dating a much older man. Age isn't just a number. It makes a difference. The older guy will see your age as a weakness. Your young, mentally pliable, and easy to manipulate. You're not easy to manipulate because your dumb. you're not dumb but you're young and may not be hip to some of the things he might do you/ you won't speak up as much/ and you're impressionable whereas if this older man were do date someone older the same behaviors might not be accepted. He's looking to date a younger girl for a reason.

This guy has 19 years more of life experience than you have.

I'm a 25 year old Taurus biological woman interested in a Libra woman whose age I don't know or care to know because I know she's legal and I'm blaming her for this interest. 😆 Because of your age difference, he wants to remove all the young dudes you SHOULD be dating because in a few years time, he won't be able to get his balls up or wipe the shit off his ass by himself. He will also eventually feel even less inclined to leave the house because of age(there are people in my family who married people with a significant age gap; one of my aunts is now dealing with taking care of an Alzheimer's patient, which just happens to be her husband).

Anyway, that aside, I don't know if what you're looking for support, however, you clearly acknowledge that there is a problem. Astrology is completely beside the point, as this is unacceptable behavior regardless of the person's sign. Have some self respect!! Remove yourself from this situation before it escalates.

understood.

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"Im a 20 year old libra female genuinely interested in a 36 year old taurus male. I find him very interesting. We have been talking for months but never met. He says he want to but there were a few reasons y we didnt meet. Sometimes we talk for hours and we have good conversations. but other days he would just disappear and not speak to me. Then im seeing him liking and commenting on other females photos. He has never done that with me. Im a little jealous. Im starting to thing he has something going on because its this one particular female. He tells me there is alot he loves about. I am so confused. i dont know what to do. what is best? to back off on stay by his side?"

Porque? Are you talking about the same guy as the above post? Have you met him or not? And if he is 36 willing to date a 20 year old in an LDR I would definitely be concerned with his emotional maturity. You're much too young for him...especially if he's as controlling, insecure and possessive as you say he is...ESPECIALLY if he's all these things and you haven't even met yet! Am I missing something? I must be missing something. If I am; my apologies I was lurking... good luck

They are not the same people. I knew that taurus way before this one. I seem to gravitate towards them. The 36 year old confused me greatly so i moved on. The taurus im with now is 39. I thought i should post about both.

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39? wth is he doing dating a 20 year old....get out now...the fact the that you are 20 is alarming as well as his behaavior.

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What to do with this man? he wants to control every aspect of my life. He wants to no where, when and how i am going where i am going. he doesnt want no men in my life. I love my freedom and he wants me to have none

i think this way too! 😛

seeing that you think the same way as him. Are you abusive? Do you ever become violent?

i don't think so. no not really.

it's simple really. if u don't want to be possessed don't date a taurus man.

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theres no way around being possessed?

This relationship goes way beyond a physical attraction. Easier to say ill leave him. I no that care about him alot. It is definitely going to be a challege.

Didn't say it would be easy. It's going to hurt a lot. You'll think about him often and he'll definitely try to contract you for a while, expect at least a year or two. Stand firm.

I just decided to do the break up thing.... today but before i cud draw him into the conversation he just start doing things that pulls me deeper into his life. Tonight i just said do you really think this is going to work. He went off on me. he said it was a stupid question. I said nothing in response...but he continued to go on and on until i arrive at home.. I dont understand him and i refuse to try any longer. Im a libra.. I love alot but i only can put up with so much. I have reached my breaking point. If someone dont understand my worth and show me the respect that i deserve. I can and i will focus my attention on someone else.

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What to do with this man? he wants to control every aspect of my life. He wants to no where, when and how i am going where i am going. he doesnt want no men in my life. I love my freedom and he wants me to have none

i think this way too! 😛

seeing that you think the same way as him. Are you abusive? Do you ever become violent?

i don't think so. no not really.

it's simple really. if u don't want to be possessed don't date a taurus man.

theres no way around being possessed?

sure there is... possess and control HIM. 😛

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I dont believe there is anyway to possess or control this one...He is way to aggressive. He believe he has arrived. He believe that he needs nothing and nobody.

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Posted by taurusbag
need is different from a want. 😉

hmmm! I believe some of these taurus males need a knock upside their heads to rearrange their thoughts. :p

LOL!! I would put my thoughts into action but there is one small problem i cant run!!!!

sounds exciting but I dont have the balls to knock him upside his head....that stare he gives gets me everytime. In my head I start wishing the ground would open up and swallow me

Posted by TaureanAries
Leave the older men alone too...you are 20 WTF. Date someone your own age. There's something wrong with older men wanting to date someone your age.

exactly...very very wrong

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What to do with this man? he wants to control every aspect of my life. He wants to no where, when and how i am going where i am going. he doesnt want no men in my life. I love my freedom and he wants me to have none

i think this way too! 😛

seeing that you think the same way as him. Are you abusive? Do you ever become violent?

i don't think so. no not really.

it's simple really. if u don't want to be possessed don't date a taurus man.

theres no way around being possessed?

sure there is... possess and control HIM. 😛

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bulls allow that?

well, not the control part, but

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Someone has not read some of the things we won't admit. And I will cease my speaking. 😆

I wonder what happened ..did you leave him?!