dating Taurus guy with no sex drive
This topic was created in the Taurus forum by heidil on Tuesday, August 5, 2014 and has 9 replies.
Firstly - welcome to the male experience. Almost every married man I know wants to have sex more than his spouse is willing to indulge him. If this was widely considered a legit reason to drop someone, I doubt too many marriages would last beyond the first few years.
I have the opposite problem with my Sag. She wants to go at it every day. I think 3 maybe 4 x's a week is ideal. Too much of a good thing takes the fun out of it IMO. I actually like the feeling of waiting a week, and then going at it. Its more passionate IMO when you restrain yourself and let that tension build up to the point where you are taring each other's clothes off, howling and drooling like werewolves. Its like how your rich food tastes better when you've been eating healthy all week.
I have the opposite problem with my Sag. She wants to go at it every day. I think 3 maybe 4 x's a week is ideal. Too much of a good thing takes the fun out of it IMO. I actually like the feeling of waiting a week, and then going at it. Its more passionate IMO when you restrain yourself and let that tension build up to the point where you are taring each other's clothes off, howling and drooling like werewolves. Its like how your rich food tastes better when you've been eating healthy all week.
I've lived it by the way with my Cancer wife. We would have several consecutive months without sex. I agree its important for intimacy, and you can pretty much gauge the level of intimacy in a marriage by how often the couple is having sex - the extreme lengths of time especially. If someone is saying "once a week" is what they prefer, or something like that though, once the emotional bonds are very strong, I'd be real hesitant to end a long term relationship over that.
With her situation, I think they need to discuss and negotiate. Its still early. And, she may just need to initiate more. If she initiates is he turning her down? I doubt that.
And if so, what's the complaint? He isn't initiating? The woman can initiate just as well. My ex was like that. Even if she wanted it, she wouldn't initiate but would expect me to. No partner can be expected to initiate when they are just not aroused in that way. And it doesn't always mean they aren't into you. There are so many factors that can affect libido.
With her situation, I think they need to discuss and negotiate. Its still early. And, she may just need to initiate more. If she initiates is he turning her down? I doubt that.
And if so, what's the complaint? He isn't initiating? The woman can initiate just as well. My ex was like that. Even if she wanted it, she wouldn't initiate but would expect me to. No partner can be expected to initiate when they are just not aroused in that way. And it doesn't always mean they aren't into you. There are so many factors that can affect libido.
Posted by Impulsv
Are u Initiating? I found Taurus like u to initiate a lot.
Depression played a big part with Leo always stress about work but it's important that they are willing to seek the help.
I agree with initiation n don't take personally if one time doesn't react. I did n well I just stopped initiating. Should have not taken it personal it was other factors.
There are a lot of times where I initiate, but I also do have to turn her down sometimes, and she initiates a lot more than I do, because it is a constant need for her. She will try to initiate at midnight, on a work night, after I'm back from 2 hrs at the gym (and leg day at that). Sometimes I have to say no or I will be exhausted, do terrible at work the next day, have no energy for my daughter, etc.
If I said I was tired or something one time to the Cancer, forget it....She would never initiate ever again. She was too hurt and resentful. But that is something men face all the time. If you stuff that away and then never initiate again out of bitterness, that's the end of a relationship.
With my Sag, if I tell her I'm dead and can't do it, she could care less, she may fake-pout, but she understands and doesn't actually get mad....She will ask again the next day with no hesitation.
Very selfish and lazy. Where's his Mars?
hahaha... I don't know sex until I want to do it with someone I love. lol
Taurus slow to sex? lmao... My Taurus man really aggressive. He complained if I ignored him. lol.
Posted by heidil
I do initiate ....All the frigging time lol and you can just tell that he's not overly into it. Then I'll get asked to satisfy him; which is fine but return the favour but most times he doesn't.
It's just beyond frustrating and since it's been 3 weeks I can't help but look at logic and wonder perhaps if I'm the issue ie...especially as he has told me time and time again he needed sex twice a week minimum prior to meeting me...
I also thought perhaps this is a self esteem issue. I'm 15 yrs his junior and he's never dated anyone younger then him. I know he suffers from low self esteem as he admitted to it.
I'm at a cross road and don't want to walk away yet I want a man who obviously is sexually attracted to me and who will satisfy me in the bedroom. I'm just surprised oxytocin has warn off so soon for him...
He sounds like a Talker.
He says all these things that he thinks you want or need to hear, and fulfills none of it.
If you aren't ready to walk away, then just pay attention-- if something seems off, it probably is.
Women get a bad rap for this kind of thing, but men do it too, I have learned.
This should be one of the best times of your life, so as others have said-- don't spend too long on a selfish and/or lazy lover.
Couple months? 3 weeks? what the treetrunk.
I've never understood how anyone could just jump into a relationship so damn quickly, giving it up left and right like a gumball machine and expecting anything remotely positive to come from it. That's one of the many problems with our Society these days, everyone is so impatient. I would NEVER consider hopping into the sack with some chick I just met.
This Bull isn't impressed by how Provocatively you dress, the size of your tits, or how quickly you spread your legs. Sex is trivial to me, I prefer Connections and Emotional bonds over Physical harmony. No wonder the world is so treetrunked. LOL.
Courtship should last a minimum of 6 months and should not include anything more than holding hands, a few kisses and long intense conversations. Relationship should gradually become more over time and with new mile stones comes new activities. Every time some woman comes up to me and flirts hardcore with me, then says wanna come back to my place? I just laugh and walk away... Once I called a female a "ho" and got slapped, hard. The stinging kind, too. That sucked.
My faith in humanity is ever waning.
I've never understood how anyone could just jump into a relationship so damn quickly, giving it up left and right like a gumball machine and expecting anything remotely positive to come from it. That's one of the many problems with our Society these days, everyone is so impatient. I would NEVER consider hopping into the sack with some chick I just met.
This Bull isn't impressed by how Provocatively you dress, the size of your tits, or how quickly you spread your legs. Sex is trivial to me, I prefer Connections and Emotional bonds over Physical harmony. No wonder the world is so treetrunked. LOL.
Courtship should last a minimum of 6 months and should not include anything more than holding hands, a few kisses and long intense conversations. Relationship should gradually become more over time and with new mile stones comes new activities. Every time some woman comes up to me and flirts hardcore with me, then says wanna come back to my place? I just laugh and walk away... Once I called a female a "ho" and got slapped, hard. The stinging kind, too. That sucked.
My faith in humanity is ever waning.
Most Taurus men are very sexual and love to have sex. I actually work at a testosterone replacement therapy clinic, and it sounds to me like he might have low testosterone. Tell him to go to the doctor and get his testosterone checked. I have been doing this for two years and it can effect men as early as 25 years old! And definitely around your late 40's early 50's men start feeling symptoms of Low T. Which could be lack of energy, fatigued, low libido as well as irritability. It definitely sounds to me like he has low testosterone. All men love sex, so if he doesn't want to have sex with you then it probably is a medical issue there. Hope this helped! xx
You're 36. He's 51. You're not having sex as he's not interested (despite his empty words). All this in such a short space of time.
It's not really going to get any better, is it?
It's not really going to get any better, is it?
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