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Sep 17, 2014Comments: 22 · Posts: 8048 · Topics: 36
i may get blown apart here by the crowd but i think you are taking the trust issue too personally. to me, it's not a reflection of you but more about him and his insecurities.
the house thing - just leave it now. you've sowed the seed and like you said, you've got 12 months before anything can happen so no need to push.
it if were me, i would introduce him to my gay friend! if he worries about the dealer's number, i would have said "should i have waited until you asked for his number?" at which point (hopefully) he would see that he was being ridiculous and respond with a no.
the disagreement is over. it's over. go on like you were before. you said your peace, he heard you, it's done. move on.
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Nov 10, 2010Comments: 285 · Posts: 30788 · Topics: 649
"I'm in trouble "
You sound like a kid worrying about upsetting their mom cause they took the car out and moms gonna hold it over my head forevaaaa.
If you're going to stay with this man, be grown in the relationship.
This is petty
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Dec 13, 2017Comments: 38 · Posts: 424 · Topics: 1
“my fears are this.... i feel like he will hold this in a negative way in his mind and keep it there in a file of all the things that make him unsure about me without actually talking to me about it again and letting things add up without any knowledge. which is kind unfair to me because i have been a good girl always!”
This was my ex though. That DAMN FILE! 😂😂😂😂
Don’t worry though, it will only come out if you choose to actually get upset at him for something. Instead of ignoring him and just waiting till he was ready to talk to you about something. That’s really all you can do with a guy like that. Say what you have to say and move on.
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Apr 23, 2016Comments: 512 · Posts: 2341 · Topics: 198
This is not your first post about the taurus guy. A Relationship shouldnt feel like hard work. You said his lack
of emotional expression makes you insecure, which I understand as a fire sign you need communication and
expression. I say dump him. He makes you miserable.
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Jun 05, 2017Comments: 9 · Posts: 455 · Topics: 38
thank you all for the insight.
I cant dump him because I love him still, and im still happy. i am happy. i know what unhappy and settling feels like and this isn't it. so i feel like breaking up with just lead me to realize its not what i want and i don't want to be the break up, make up, break up make up type. that's exhausting. you work for the things you love good or bad and this is still worth working for.
there are just some big things that are hard for me to wrap my head around and that's why i need you guys!!!!
i appricate your agree or disagree post even and they are too much truth.
but I have no problem sympathizing to these things, I just want to better understand the otherside.
its really hard for me because he is a very emotional and sensitive person.
and I am a very unemotional and direct, line crosser, so I never knew if im crossing that line for the worse or the better. i just do what i feel i need to at any moment that feels right. i cant say i have too many regrets either.
moving forward we have not talked about what was discussed.
it appears that he accepts what I said, about getting the herb guys number. I mean the validation that everything is ok was never given, its really all in action and how it feels like nothing every happened.
I guess he just needs validation for his own negative thoughts... whatever he thought in his head would happen by me having that number needed to be shot from the sky so that he knows what is what straight from my mouth. -
its true tho.
he is also pretty insecure, and that can be annoying. but i feel like i might bring that out of him a little more. i feel like i takes him out of his comfort zone. im older, im super confident, or so it seems on the outside per what people tell me, i have my life together and appear to not really need anyone, which i also because i suppose i don't accept help easily. im also really good with communicating, i have a way with words, i feel or so i have been told and i feel like my passionate approach to topics can also be called arguing to someone like him he might be intimidated by me. that makes me feel bad and at the same time unapologetic.
i just want him to move past that.
i just foresee myself putting my foot down more to fight for these issues now that we are so far in.
and its sad and scary to think that i might in fact be just too much for him because aside from these issues i post about ( which really just stems from the same things over and over, sorry about that) i don't want to find it doesn't work. and that just fear. unknown fear of life and destiny because regardless that will be heartbreaking no matter if it feels right or not.
i don't know.
thank for allowing me the forms to vent.