Posted by BullShit
What makes you think you spooked him? To me it looks like he's playfully respecting your intimacy issues by making lighthearted jokes. Usually when a bull teases you it means he likes you.
Posted by BullShitPosted by missmissyPosted by BullShit
What makes you think you spooked him? To me it looks like he's playfully respecting your intimacy issues by making lighthearted jokes. Usually when a bull teases you it means he likes you.
Well because he brought it up more than once. Plus he's made a passive joke before.
Just a few days ago I was out at brunch and he asked if I could see him after, and I said yes. Unfortunately I had one too many mimosas and couldn't drive. He asked if I was still coming and I told him no because he wasn't a good idea. When I sobered up I realized I didn't tell him why I couldn't come. I told him sorry about earlier and that I couldn't drive to which he replied, "oh yea because you know those Uber rates are so expensive". I realized he was making a passive joke (I never mentioned taking an Uber) and he was bothered about me not showing up earlier.
Ooo i see it clearer now. I don't like the uber joke. I think you two should go on another date soon, see how he shows up. If he's making these jokes and you don't like them as much. Bring it up, nothing better then to be straight forward. Because at the end of the day, he's gotta wholeheartedly understand opening up isn't easy for everyone, and intimacy issues is actually a real problem.click to expand
Posted by AgentP911
I don't know if it was too soon to mention the issues. Probably as you're only saying but with the right person it shouldn't matter so much. Hard to tell with what's been said but I wasn't a fan of the Uber joke. It was amusing but it made me think 'what's wrong with his legs/car???!!!' Why couldn't he come to you... I think you need to be clearer in your communication and more open/honest. It would have been easy to say 'I can't come because I e been drinking' or 'it would be great to see you too, I'm just with friends having a few drinks so why don't you come to me after' or something like that. Why so flaky?
Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
You have to handle your liquor in front of a Bull.. so good thing you cancelled on him. Because if your the type who can't be calm and quiet on a luncheon or dinner and you would be overly loud or embrassing then I would second guess you too.
Posted by BullShitPosted by missmissyPosted by BullShitPosted by missmissyPosted by BullShit
What makes you think you spooked him? To me it looks like he's playfully respecting your intimacy issues by making lighthearted jokes. Usually when a bull teases you it means he likes you.
Well because he brought it up more than once. Plus he's made a passive joke before.
Just a few days ago I was out at brunch and he asked if I could see him after, and I said yes. Unfortunately I had one too many mimosas and couldn't drive. He asked if I was still coming and I told him no because he wasn't a good idea. When I sobered up I realized I didn't tell him why I couldn't come. I told him sorry about earlier and that I couldn't drive to which he replied, "oh yea because you know those Uber rates are so expensive". I realized he was making a passive joke (I never mentioned taking an Uber) and he was bothered about me not showing up earlier.
Ooo i see it clearer now. I don't like the uber joke. I think you two should go on another date soon, see how he shows up. If he's making these jokes and you don't like them as much. Bring it up, nothing better then to be straight forward. Because at the end of the day, he's gotta wholeheartedly understand opening up isn't easy for everyone, and intimacy issues is actually a real problem.
It not show much as the jokes bother me because I get people use sarcasm in awkward situations. I've flaked on him before and as I've said he's been pursuing me for months so I guess he just got annoyed and made that passive joke. I just figured with my flaking in the past and then letting my intimacy issues talk all this may have spooked him.
I don't think that has spooked him. If anything you two should sit down and clear the air if you feel there is a misconception or if you feel like you really did spook him. Never hurts to be up front.click to expand
Posted by BullShit
@missmissy it's always good to clear the air. If anything shoot him a text asking how he's doing. Then take it from there.
Posted by Koniucha
A joke here and there is ok, but too many is a turn off.
Posted by BullShitPosted by missmissyPosted by BullShit
@missmissy it's always good to clear the air. If anything shoot him a text asking how he's doing. Then take it from there.
Yea that's what it seems like I'm going to have to do. I just hope he hasn't lost interest.
If he lost interest because you were trying to open up because it's hard for you to, was he worth it in the first place then? I know if I'm interested in someone and they have intimacy/opening up issues I'll go at their speed and understand. It's a two way street.click to expand
Posted by missmissyPosted by BullShitPosted by missmissyPosted by BullShit
@missmissy it's always good to clear the air. If anything shoot him a text asking how he's doing. Then take it from there.
Yea that's what it seems like I'm going to have to do. I just hope he hasn't lost interest.
If he lost interest because you were trying to open up because it's hard for you to, was he worth it in the first place then? I know if I'm interested in someone and they have intimacy/opening up issues I'll go at their speed and understand. It's a two way street.
Oh if that's the case then good riddance . He's gone silent for a reason. Either he lost interest or I spooked him. I don't think what I did was enough for me to turn him away for good especially if I clarify and have a talk. It's just that I don't know which it is lol.
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Posted by jeanePosted by missmissyPosted by BullShitPosted by missmissyPosted by BullShit
@missmissy it's always good to clear the air. If anything shoot him a text asking how he's doing. Then take it from there.
Yea that's what it seems like I'm going to have to do. I just hope he hasn't lost interest.
If he lost interest because you were trying to open up because it's hard for you to, was he worth it in the first place then? I know if I'm interested in someone and they have intimacy/opening up issues I'll go at their speed and understand. It's a two way street.
Oh if that's the case then good riddance . He's gone silent for a reason. Either he lost interest or I spooked him. I don't think what I did was enough for me to turn him away for good especially if I clarify and have a talk. It's just that I don't know which it is lol.
or it could be something unrelated to you entirely.
reach out to him, if he doesn't respond then just leave it. if he wants to get in touch, he will.click to expand
Posted by BullShitPosted by missmissyPosted byPosted by missmissyPosted by BullShit
@missmissy it's always good to clear the air. If anything shoot him a text asking how he's doing. Then take it from there.
Yea that's what it seems like I'm going to have to do. I just hope he hasn't lost interest.
If he lost interest because you were trying to open up because it's hard for you to, was he worth it in the first place then? I know if I'm interested in someone and they have intimacy/opening up issues I'll go at their speed and understand. It's a two way street.
Oh if that's the case then good riddance . He's gone silent for a reason. Either he lost interest or I spooked him. I don't think what I did was enough for me to turn him away for good especially if I clarify and have a talk. It's just that I don't know which it is lol.
Either way his lossclick to expand