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(ex)TAURUS male is back...
Keep it friendly (for now or maybe forever)
Not all Taurus are like this but for me.... I have a hard time letting go of people who mean or meant something to me, especially if I feel like the demise of the relationship was mostly on me. Our motto - "I have" we like possessions, even possessing people. This is where the "harem" comes from. I find it easy to be friends with Ex's because though we may not have been compatible romantically, there are still things I like/love about the person and can appreciate that in the context of a friendship. That doesn't mean I want to have a romantic relationship with them ever again. Along with that, I will let it be known what my intentions are. I don't lead people on.
Not all Taurus are like this but for me.... I have a hard time letting go of people who mean or meant something to me, especially if I feel like the demise of the relationship was mostly on me. Our motto - "I have" we like possessions, even possessing people. This is where the "harem" comes from. I find it easy to be friends with Ex's because though we may not have been compatible romantically, there are still things I like/love about the person and can appreciate that in the context of a friendship. That doesn't mean I want to have a romantic relationship with them ever again. Along with that, I will let it be known what my intentions are. I don't lead people on.
Posted by PiscesArtWell I also have a Gem venus so that may be a big contributing factor. There are other Taurus who want nothing to do with their Ex's.Posted by RiverLeeI wish I could read that messege few months ago, when i broke up with my taurus, gem venus..he sounds exactly like u.
Keep it friendly (for now or maybe forever)
Not all Taurus are like this but for me.... I have a hard time letting go of people who mean or meant something to me, especially if I feel like the demise of the relationship was mostly on me. Our motto - "I have" we like possessions, even possessing people. This is where the "harem" comes from. I find it easy to be friends with Ex's because though we may not have been compatible romantically, there are still things I like/love about the person and can appreciate that in the context of a friendship. That doesn't mean I want to have a romantic relationship with them ever again. Along with that, I will let it be known what my intentions are. I don't lead people on.
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Oh no, in Belgium we use whatsapp like any other mobile messaging platform. Of course some might use it for cheating means.
Posted by PiscesArtAhhh okay, yes you're doing the right thing then. I also usually have a cooling off period before I have a friendship with an Ex to let feelings settle and adjust. He sounds like the kind of VIG that gives us all a bad name :/ I'm sorryPosted by RiverLeeI know. But he is different. I told him I dont want to be just his option and I cut him off. Since then he contacts me all the tie. He is toxic for me. I know that.. but I just cant forget the times we had so much fun, I never had with anyone else.. He is now dating several women, he confessed, ut he is still saying there is noone like me. He is 50-50 ad I aint playing his game.Posted by PiscesArtWell I also have a Gem venus so that may be a big contributing factor. There are other Taurus who want nothing to do with their Ex's.Posted by RiverLeeI wish I could read that messege few months ago, when i broke up with my taurus, gem venus..he sounds exactly like u.
Keep it friendly (for now or maybe forever)
Not all Taurus are like this but for me.... I have a hard time letting go of people who mean or meant something to me, especially if I feel like the demise of the relationship was mostly on me. Our motto - "I have" we like possessions, even possessing people. This is where the "harem" comes from. I find it easy to be friends with Ex's because though we may not have been compatible romantically, there are still things I like/love about the person and can appreciate that in the context of a friendship. That doesn't mean I want to have a romantic relationship with them ever again. Along with that, I will let it be known what my intentions are. I don't lead people on.
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Don't get your hopes up.
This ex has her hooks on him, but if I had to take an educated guess, she's toxic for him, and he knows this.
I think he sensed that you were a great woman, and attempted to give it a chance.
But as usual, an ex can always 'detect' when someone has moved on, and then, they try to "claw' their way back in.
What usually happens in this case?
The guy entertains her probing, mild jealousy, and then begins to treat his current girlfriend like crap because he is feeling guilty...mixed emotions, denial, frustration.
Don't waste your time!
You will always serve as a backup.
Something tells me he has been there with his ex before.
This ex has her hooks on him, but if I had to take an educated guess, she's toxic for him, and he knows this.
I think he sensed that you were a great woman, and attempted to give it a chance.
But as usual, an ex can always 'detect' when someone has moved on, and then, they try to "claw' their way back in.
What usually happens in this case?
The guy entertains her probing, mild jealousy, and then begins to treat his current girlfriend like crap because he is feeling guilty...mixed emotions, denial, frustration.
Don't waste your time!
You will always serve as a backup.
Something tells me he has been there with his ex before.
First of all thank you guys for sharing your insight!
Apparently he does want to try to make it work again (the knee fall thing doesn't come that easy for him though - ugh!).
Obviously, I have my doubts... Because I do understand that we clicked but on the other hand I do not just want to ......."try" again for a second time. I think I deserve more and I also want someone who puts in the work, rather than hey, you weren't all THAT bad, let's hook up again! Of course he is a master in holding his feelings back and acting aloof,...
I have been clear on the fact that I'd rather be friends with him atm and see if we can be respectful to one another, work on building trust, then seeing where this bring us. I just want to avoid getting stuck in a negative spiral and just being at each other's throat again.
But, in a way, that's also .... HARD, because where do you start with this? Go out and have an ice cream? While he dates other girls? 😄 Also, I feel like I'm going to get judged for a second time and I feel like I don't have to nor would I like to go through that ordeal again... even if he "means well".
*cries* 😄
Apparently he does want to try to make it work again (the knee fall thing doesn't come that easy for him though - ugh!).
Obviously, I have my doubts... Because I do understand that we clicked but on the other hand I do not just want to ......."try" again for a second time. I think I deserve more and I also want someone who puts in the work, rather than hey, you weren't all THAT bad, let's hook up again! Of course he is a master in holding his feelings back and acting aloof,...
I have been clear on the fact that I'd rather be friends with him atm and see if we can be respectful to one another, work on building trust, then seeing where this bring us. I just want to avoid getting stuck in a negative spiral and just being at each other's throat again.
But, in a way, that's also .... HARD, because where do you start with this? Go out and have an ice cream? While he dates other girls? 😄 Also, I feel like I'm going to get judged for a second time and I feel like I don't have to nor would I like to go through that ordeal again... even if he "means well".
*cries* 😄
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