Flirtitude

2 issues:

A) Taurus man is a flirt
B) I am WAY too jealous/territorial with him. . .


He's very flirty online. Other Taurus' have advised me this is not a big deal, but is that really true? Everything he writes ends in wink. Kind of annoying to see him do that on someone I connected him through from church.

And I have never felt this possessive with anyone. I'm rarely even jealous because I feel like I've got it on lock down. I'm not into this feeling. How can I get above this? Or better yet, turn the tables.

I know he would never ever ever cheat. I guess I feel insecure because I know he and I are quite different and there's probably someone that would mesh easier with him. But still we have come together. We both feel it was fated. And are pretty happy (despite the few bumps in the road I've smattered on DXP)

I'm trying to figure this out from both ends bc I don't feel it's productive and I don't like how it feels internally. Seems like it robs my power.

You sound like a control freak.

^only my opinion though.

It seems that there are several things you're not ok with right now. I'd worry about all these fears snowballing down the line.

It would probably take one to know one Virgo.

@damnata its def not like that. She is far from being a control freak she is a LEO one of the most independent signs. Taureans have a way of making their loved ones ache for them, they are so dependable and trustworthy. Their SO cant really help it, eventually they feel a little territorial, it happens.

@anonymousheart ok.....this is my devil side talking but how about you flirt a little online? Give him a taste of his own meds 😉 he'll flip, i promise you that. Then tell him to tone it down a bit online and he'll probably obey.

Posted by aftershine
@damnata its def not like that. She is far from being a control freak she is a LEO one of the most independent signs. Taureans have a way of making their loved ones ache for them, they are so dependable and trustworthy. Their SO cant really help it, eventually they feel a little territorial, it happens.

@anonymousheart ok.....this is my devil side talking but how about you flirt a little online? Give him a taste of his own meds 😉 he'll flip, i promise you that. Then tell him to tone it down a bit online and he'll probably obey.

Idk, I feel like once you do that you dip into the territory of playing games and being inauthentic.
I used to be more flirty in nature, but I have cut myself off a bit. When I get back to performing I have a lot of people coming my way naturally. I am trying to understand the root so I can stomp it out. It's not about control. More preservation, protecting 'what is mine'.

Thanks for standing up for me 🙂 I don't even pay much attention to the pointed negativity. 😉
Do you still talk to your Tauri? Feel free to PM me. I like your devil side hahaha. More to your point, I am kinda wondering if HE is making me feel this way. He seems to like it, and he's pretty good at subtly setting this up to his benefit. But you see, leos don't like to be cornered or caged. I'm trying to figure it out and bust the fking roof off.

Also I feel like if I told him to "tone it down" that WOULD be controlling. He's not saying anything out of line, it's just the tone..and I know him, so I know when he's flirting. He has already stepped up and set boundaries with a few women in his life where he DID need too. This is not the situation here. I can't expect to cut him off socially. That wouldn't be fair to him. I feel like in these cases it's on me to work it out internally.

Posted by aftershine
@damnata its def not like that. She is far from being a control freak she is a LEO one of the most independent signs.

As I said, only my opinion.

Any sign can be independent though. My mother is a Leo, also with a Taurus.

Same issues as the OP.

Sorry for all the typos. Ugh.

Posted by anonymousheart
I feel like in these cases it's on me to work it out internally.

This is what I was referring to, since you mention you feel somewhat robbed of power and not having it locked down. It's more of a ego thing than anything else. If those issues upset you a lot, you should reconsider the relationship, rather than changing something about yourself.

Posted by Damnata

Posted by aftershine
@damnata its def not like that. She is far from being a control freak she is a LEO one of the most independent signs.

As I said, only my opinion.

Any sign can be independent though. My mother is a Leo, also with a Taurus.

Same issues as the OP.

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Actually, THAT'S INTERESTING.
I do believe certain people can bring certain traits out in each other, OR project theirs on. As I said, I never felt like this before....

Tell me more about the two of them. Perhaps it could help.

personally I feel like he's flirting with fire. I hate the whole online social interaction game. I feel that communicating online or texting allows someone to say things that they wouldn't say in person. Maybe he's doing it because he knows it drives you nuts. Maybe he just wants attention. Me and Leo have issue's with being on the phone. He hates my iphone, absolutely hates it. I just got it for christmas (a couple weeks ago) and I bought him a tablet. He has an old flip phone. He told me "you should sell that phone and just get a regular phone" I thought, are you crazy? but I also hate it when he is on his phone, drives me nuts and he knows it. He's really good about telling me who's on the phone. Or in a couple of minutes he will say 'mom text' or something. (I know it's not healthy really)

Point is we live in a digital media world and it's easy to get 'caught up in it' so be careful and don't listen to me, I only know my crazy mind, not your's or his.

Also people get a little crazy around the holidays, maybe he's fighting some other demons and this is just a form of release for him.

ride it out and see what happens, just back of a little. That's my whole "new" motto: back off a little. I'm a Gemini and I'll smother the blank out of someone :-)

Good luck and Happy Holidays!

I think it's more fear based than ego based...

Well, first off, my mother isn't representative of most Leos..she has tons of cancer energy in her chart and it comes across as manipulative most of the times.

Well, she cheated on my dad with the Taurus but by that point their marriage was pretty over. She's been with him for the last..10 years I think. He plays guitar for a living and has a lot of admirers, it makes her feel insecure. In her case I think she went from someone who was a homebody to someone really social, so it's still hard for her to adapt.

You have two fixed signs that need to adapt to each other, which is hard. I'd think the Leo would find it easier to adapt out of the two

Posted by geminiloveleo

ride it out and see what happens, just back of a little. That's my whole "new" motto: back off a little. I'm a Gemini and I'll smother the blank out of someone :-)

Good luck and Happy Holidays!

LOL!


Yea I think he's playing w fire too. I mean,when you flirt I think you send the message of: I'm available. Or not locked down. Which doesn't make me feel super safe. However, he and I are very different. He definitely uses his charm to get through things. I tend to be more straight forward. And you're right. I mean, when some girl is writing "I love you tehee" on his freaking posts it makes me nauseous. I seriously hate that girl, but that's another girl. HAHA.

I must remember he's not the princess IM THE PRINCESS! Lol. Sometimes he thinks he is. He's just confused...:p

Posted by Damnata
Well, first off, my mother isn't representative of most Leos..she has tons of cancer energy in her chart and it comes across as manipulative most of the times.

Well, she cheated on my dad with the Taurus but by that point their marriage was pretty over. She's been with him for the last..10 years I think. He plays guitar for a living and has a lot of admirers, it makes her feel insecure. In her case I think she went from someone who was a homebody to someone really social, so it's still hard for her to adapt.

You have two fixed signs that need to adapt to each other, which is hard. I'd think the Leo would find it easier to adapt out of the two

Ahh, that's unfortunate. I would imagine after cheating you would become very suspicious. So that's actually quite different from what's going on here....I actually feel sympathy for your mom. She sounds like she has wounded pride. Leos can get very nasty if they feel let down by the world. Nothing sadder than a sulky moody Leo. We really weren't meant to be that way.

I think Leos have the gift of dramatizing trivial shit..so how you come across in writing might not be how you truly are. I don't think your problems are as pregnant as you show them, you're just struggling to adapt to his behavior a little.

She's a brilliant woman - extremely smart and beautiful. It's hard for me to see her..somewhat defeated. Like she gave up on everything and doesn't care anymore.

My memories of her are always shiny and bright..I can still hear her boisterous laughter in my ears even though she hasn't laughed for ages.

I'm sure she'll find her way back to the spotlight at some point 🙂

Posted by Damnata
I think Leos have the gift of dramatizing trivial shit..so how you come across in writing might not be how you truly are. I don't think your problems are as pregnant as you show them, you're just struggling to adapt to his behavior a little.

I think that little things matter to me a lot. So what someone sees and trivial, I see as a link in an entire chain magnified. As we get closer I get more emotional, and things that I overlooked or understood before are becoming clouded.

Posted by Damnata
She's a brilliant woman - extremely smart and beautiful. It's hard for me to see her..somewhat defeated. Like she gave up on everything and doesn't care anymore.

My memories of her are always shiny and bright..I can still hear her boisterous laughter in my ears even though she hasn't laughed for ages.

I'm sure she'll find her way back to the spotlight at some point 🙂

Honestly, compliments from loved ones can turn a Leos world around...HINT HINT

Posted by anonymousheart

Posted by Damnata
I think Leos have the gift of dramatizing trivial shit..so how you come across in writing might not be how you truly are. I don't think your problems are as pregnant as you show them, you're just struggling to adapt to his behavior a little.

I think that little things matter to me a lot. So what someone sees and trivial, I see as a link in an entire chain magnified. As we get closer I get more emotional, and things that I overlooked or understood before are becoming clouded.

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Try to take the magnifying glass off and look at it from a distance. I know all about emotional, we virgos can get seriously deluded when clouded with emotion

Both me and my dad still tell her we love her but I think she regrets some of the choices she made and she's reluctant to keep in contact.

I send her postcards and don't even get a phone call. I know she reads them and if she's happy for one moment, it means a lot to me. She always feared being forgotten, by her family, by her friends, by me and that couldn't be further from the truth. I try to reinforce that.

That's good 🙂
The rest she will have to find on her own.

You should just talk to him about his flirting. Tell him it bothers you, makes you insecure, and you don't like your relationship to feel threatened. He's a taurus he'll understand that and should tone it down.

Don't start playing games. It will just make things messy and add drama.

His flirting doesn't mean anything. Id still chat on FB wall and leave comments with my male friends with winks and smiley faces. I wouldn't chat or text in private with them though. That's crossing the line IMO.

Taurus like to be liked by everyone. He's flirty because he wants to be liked. He probably doesn't even think anything of it. It doesnt mean he's looking for something better. You could show your jealousy to him he will probably like it.

Posted by PVAF
It probably means nothing. He has Taurus sun and Libra moon...poor guy.

LOL!

😉 😉 😉

I won't be judging anything today. He's already drunk at work lol.
Happy Holidays everyone!

Is he only flirting with other women on FB and not in real life?

You could give him a taste of his own medicine.

As far as I know. I can see sparks in real life, but he is usually just very friendly, kind and focused on me.

@anonymousheart if its not in real life like "in person" flirting then you should be ok. Its him being playful, he focuses on YOU, he is with YOU. YOU are his lady, he is YOUR man. So chill and enjoy the holidays with him. Winter is the perf weather for cuddling 😉 and we should goout for some drinks. Merry christmas!

I feel for you. Definitely don't show the side of you that "hates" these other women to him, bc "good guy" Taurus is gonna see that as a major turnoff. Really, you shouldn't hate these other women. They are just kinda under his "good guy" spell. I think he's playing with fire too bc eventually you are gonna flip on him....lol. The online flirting is ridiculous and the Sag I'm with was doing all the same stuff. I just kept a few prominent members of the harem in the wings to negotiate with (most notably - one a gorgeous Leo, and one a very classy beautiful Sag who I worked with). Its immature and its lame etc. etc., but sometimes you just have to keep things at the same level that someone else has them, when it comes to relationships with members of the opposite sex. Whatever she would do, I would mirror and keep the relationship at that level. Oh, you're going to be at a BBQ/pool volleyball thing, and you invited one of your ex's? Cool....I can't be there anyway; I have a date with my hot Leo friend (who we both know likes me...lol); my daughter loves her kids and they haven't played in a while, so we're going to bring them all to the park. LOL.

And I enjoyed doing it, because there's something to be said for a harem full of hot women. They definitely fulfill a lot of needs...lol. Its not the way I think things should be in a relationship though, but was a means to an end. Drove my Sag absolutely insane, and one by one, her guy friends disappeared into the abyss.

Posted by TaurusLovesScorpio

And I enjoyed doing it, because there's something to be said for a harem full of hot women. They definitely fulfill a lot of needs...lol. Its not the way I think things should be in a relationship though, but was a means to an end. Drove my Sag absolutely insane, and one by one, her guy friends disappeared into the abyss.

Reading your comments and I was imagining a Taurus man in a relationship with a woman. The man having a harem of women and the woman a lot of guy friends. And one by one the number of harem of women and guy friends being chipped away, until we get to a point where the couple in the relationships only have few friends of the opposite sex, of which they both approve of.

Posted by aftershine
@damnata its def not like that. She is far from being a control freak she is a LEO one of the most independent signs. Taureans have a way of making their loved ones ache for them, they are so dependable and trustworthy. Their SO cant really help it, eventually they feel a little territorial, it happens.

@anonymousheart ok.....this is my devil side talking but how about you flirt a little online? Give him a taste of his own meds 😉 he'll flip, i promise you that. Then tell him to tone it down a bit online and he'll probably obey.

lol @ her being independent. Shes been a clingy whiny mess thus far

Taurus flirting.... I am a deal breaker on this but either stay with them or get out that misery

later on. They likes drama from their partner.

Taurus Insecurity talks...

Posted by M143

Taurus flirting.... I am a deal breaker on this but either stay with them or get out that misery

later on. They likes drama from their partner.

Taurus Insecurity talks...

speak on it

why would you want someone who is flirting with other women? seriously

this man will drive her crazy in the end.

It's interesting, I saw his texts from the one girl that's obsessed with him. He doesn't even respond. it's like 10 texts to his every one.
That's a relief, she truly is just crazy. And he's not egging it on either.

Posted by anonymousheart
It's interesting, I saw his texts from the one girl that's obsessed with him. He doesn't even respond. it's like 10 texts to his every one.
That's a relief, she truly is just crazy. And he's not egging it on either.

and thats acceptable?

wow

This is someone he cares about and considers a friend. She clearly has other motives....Which he doesn't see. She helped him a lot in the past. He does not forget this.

She will not send a message if there is nothing between them.

Posted by M143


She will not send a message if there is nothing between them.

mmhm

Posted by Impulsv
Question. Does ur Taurus like to string along?
Knowing this why does he even bother with returning a text out of ten. What is he getting out of it? Ego stroke.
I just don't get it. Maybe another Taurus can elaborate why do that.

he is just like any other dude....wants is dicked stroked.

She cant see that..its every other women issue but ther man is a angel..smh

Excuse TaurusLovesScorpio but why did you do that to Sag to hurt her? or to make her jealous? If so why then would you make her jealous for?

2 issues:

A) Taurus man is a flirt
B) I am WAY too jealous/territorial with him. . .


Are you two going out or something?

He's switched onto SUPER clingy mode and has done a few things that turned me off majorly. I'm sincerely thinking about pulling out completely. I'm supposed to meet his mom tomorrow, but I don't want to go. I really really really really don't. I didn't sign up to be his second mommy. PUKE

First you complain that he's flirty with other women, now he's too clingy.

I don't see why you have to emphasize not wanting to meet his mom. It's not her fault you're now completely turned off by him.

Typical Leo dramatics.

UM Hello, don't u know that Taurus are all about extremes? Typical virgo criticism bred from latent insecurities. Your poor mother...

IM: I just think he's a boy not a man who wants a second mother. He's been up my butt and it's annoying. He doesn't seem to have any future goals. Nice guy FOR SURE..but I need more than that I think. I decided I'm just going to move along with my future plans. I don't think he can keep up honestly, and I'm not waiting around. He also made a very ugly name calling comment last week. It really just turned me right off then and there. Then instead of atleast owning it, he backed down. Double wussy. I should be excited about the future, but I just feel panicked. I really don't want to go through with this. I feel I need space, not a vacay with him.

Posted by anonymousheart
UM Hello, don't u know that Taurus are all about extremes? Typical virgo criticism bred from latent insecurities. Your poor mother...

IM: I just think he's a boy not a man who wants a second mother. He's been up my butt and it's annoying. He doesn't seem to have any future goals. Nice guy FOR SURE..but I need more than that I think. I decided I'm just going to move along with my future plans. I don't think he can keep up honestly, and I'm not waiting around. He also made a very ugly name calling comment last week. It really just turned me right off then and there. Then instead of atleast owning it, he backed down. Double wussy. I should be excited about the future, but I just feel panicked. I really don't want to go through with this. I feel I need space, not a vacay with him.

ma your the insecure one...seriously go back and read all you posted. Just because people see thru ya bullshit doesnt make them insecure. Everyone isnt going to agree with you.

Posted by Impulsv
What do u mean he's too clingy. What did he do to
Turn u off?

she is full of shit

she doesnt want to appear crazy although she already has...where p angel when you need her?!?!

Excuse me you did not answer my questions

Are you two going out?

Why is it bothering you if you are going out or not?

and if you dont want to be his second mommy then dont be

also why not have space if you feel you need space