Help a Virgo girl out!
This topic was created in the Taurus forum by RightToBeWrong on Tuesday, April 30, 2013 and has 12 replies.
I lurk here often but this is my first time ever asking for help. I was approached by a Taurus guy at a bar just over a week ago. I noticed him watching me all night but thought I recognized him so I tried avoiding him. Finally just before the night ended he approached me and seemed very shy and timid. He was a sweetheart though so we exchanged numbers. He text me that very night and invited me to brunch the next day. He lives out of state 4 hours away and wanted to meet before he had to go home later that day.
I was not expecting much from the date but went anyway. Well within the first 5 minutes I fell for him. He seemed to have every quality I could possibly want in a man and that is seemingly impossible for me to find. He seemed very interested as well. Immediately after leaving the date he called me and we spoke on and off during his ride back home. He said he would be back in 3 weeks and would love to hang out again. I was walking on cloud 9.
The next few days were pretty much the same. He would text me often, we would talk on the phone through the night. And then a few days ago it just completely stopped. He will only talk to me if I initiate the conversation. I don't mind putting in effort but I won't put in ALL the effort. I don't want to be the annoying one. Writing this all out it seems silly as we've only known each other for just over a week. But is it possible he's lost interest already? Or is he just being a stubborn bull wanting me to chase him?
I see myself falling for this guy at an unhealthy rate and I would rather just pull away now if he's not into me.
I was not expecting much from the date but went anyway. Well within the first 5 minutes I fell for him. He seemed to have every quality I could possibly want in a man and that is seemingly impossible for me to find. He seemed very interested as well. Immediately after leaving the date he called me and we spoke on and off during his ride back home. He said he would be back in 3 weeks and would love to hang out again. I was walking on cloud 9.
The next few days were pretty much the same. He would text me often, we would talk on the phone through the night. And then a few days ago it just completely stopped. He will only talk to me if I initiate the conversation. I don't mind putting in effort but I won't put in ALL the effort. I don't want to be the annoying one. Writing this all out it seems silly as we've only known each other for just over a week. But is it possible he's lost interest already? Or is he just being a stubborn bull wanting me to chase him?
I see myself falling for this guy at an unhealthy rate and I would rather just pull away now if he's not into me.
Posted by Torro
If you lurk on the Taurus boards often you've probably noticed that every issue women have with a Taurus man is the same as yours. Coincidence? No. He didn't loose interest, he did his part, you fell for him like he wanted you to, now he's sitting back and watching will you do the same. Yes, he wants you to chase him a little bit. It's up to you if you'll run after him for a while or not, but he's gonna be patient. He can wait months until you contact him again and act like it's been days since your last date.
This ^^^^^^^^^
Nothing more to add....
Taurus are NOT chasers. I repeat, they're NOT chasers!
Posted by RightToBeWrong
I noticed him watching me all night but thought I recognized him so I tried avoiding him. Finally just before the night ended he approached me and seemed very shy and timid.click to expand
You sensed this yourself.
Thanks for the replies. I guess I just needed the reassurance. I don't do the pursuing part very well and have no idea how to chase him without sounding needy or annoying. The distance doesn't help as I can't just invite him to hang out whenever. It will be another two weeks before he's in town and I just want to make sure he doesn't forget about me in that time!
Normally if I get the slightest feeling that someone isn't interested I will just walk away, but there was something about this guy that I don't want to give up on just yet.
Normally if I get the slightest feeling that someone isn't interested I will just walk away, but there was something about this guy that I don't want to give up on just yet.
Posted by yellowsweater
i am a virgo myself and had a little romance with a taurus. he was definitely strong at the beginning and then kind of... flattened out his pursuit for me. but it's a magical connection, definitely. and i totally agree with your concern for falling for them at an unhealthy rate... that's actually why i had to stop it with him (during the time we were dating my scorpio rising took over adn i let go of my virgo inhibitions.. and pretty soon i was enamored with him while he just wanted something casual.) so i suggest being the stereotypical virgo at the beginning stages... a little reserved, classy. and don't get caught up in the moment even when he wants to be. basically have more control of your emotions. let him pursue you!
That's another thing I'm worried about with him. He just recently got out of a very long relationship. I told him if that's the case this is the time that he should be running around getting everything out of his system before he settles down in another relationship. He said that's what he really wants to do, but then he also just wants to be the type of man he would want his daughter to be with. So I think he is pretty confused about what he wants himself right now, and I have no idea where I fit into his intentions. He is a very sexual person and I'm VERY attracted to him, so I'm thinking that might be a dangerous road to go down.
Posted by yellowsweater
so i suggest being the stereotypical virgo at the beginning stages... a little reserved, classy. and don't get caught up in the moment even when he wants to be. basically have more control of your emotions. let him pursue you!
Good Advice! ^^^^^^^^
Reserved + Classy + In control over emotions + Honesty + Integrity = Sure sign of Wedding Bells...
The 'stability' factor has to be present in order for a Taurus to pursue (with no ulterior motives depending on the Moon and Venus Placements)....
For everything else....
Don't expect a Bull to chase....Too much work!
The 'stability' factor has to be present in order for a Taurus to pursue (with no ulterior motives depending on the Moon and Venus Placements)....
For everything else....
Don't expect a Bull to chase....Too much work!
Posted by s4nd
The Coquette
As part my endeavor to have a thread for each seducer type I will now discuss the desirable and infamous Coquette.
The key and the strategy of The Coquette is to never offer total satisfaction. We imitate the alternating heat and coolness. One might be wise to remind themselves that The Coquette is a seducer type and not a victim type. Rationally speaking and is the preferred seducer of the masochist, the unwary and the neurotic. Many are not yet aware of the particular neuroses that will bind us together to the Coquette. You may even discover this Coquette who is so skilled they can literally make us ??crazy for them??.
Coquettes know this and don??_'t want to have a billboard over there head that says ??He is a Coquette, run now??. No way, it is Ok for you to see The Coquette tease others but for you it will be different (wink).
What does this feel like? Well you really shouldn??_'t even think about this to start... Ok for example, what would it feel like if you started talking to me suddenly you began to feel this odd sensation or an itch only I could scratch and I was not doing it? And you might find yourself beginning to focus on me and my unique ability to be the only one to properly scratch that itches, well that would be crazy right? And then maybe I would come over and leisurely give you a light scratching and let you notice how absolutely blissful this feels??and then without notice STOP! Why did he stop?
The itch hasn??_'t yet been full scratched, I am the only one on this planet who can do it, and begin again with relative ease but I will not, Why? This perplexing is only interrupted with this growing wonder, desire and need to the point where having to have the itch scratched again and the half itching has now only made the compulsion that I finish scratching it exponentially amplified. Notice what it??_'s like with something as simple as this back scratch, imagine what if that scratch was all you emotions, motivation and sexual desires. For me it is not necessary for you to find yourself pondering that this is the beginning. To realize that you are feeling incredibly connected, enchanted and yes perhaps unbelievably horney to let this magic begin to happen deeper the sooner the better.
With me, Coquetry is seduction that appears to defy logic yet I am convinced at the effectiveness. I would invite you to notice why would some who wants to
Posted by yellowsweater
Yeah he sounds pretty confused. But he did admit to you that he really wants to play the field and ultimately I think he will choose self gratification, especially coming out from a long term relationship. Inherently earth signs want stability and consistency but above all he is man, and a single one at that.
I don't think though that should be a cue for you to stop seeing him, just a sign to be more careful emotionally. Plus as a virgo I'm sure you'll find flaws in him the more you hang out with him. Just keep those flaws in your back pocket as a safety net
Oh I'm definitely waiting to find a flaw to keep in my back pocket and keep my grounded! I usually find a couple on the first date, but so far as all I have is a funny looking front tooth. As a single mother, the fact that he has full custody of his daughter and raises her completely on his own it clouding my vision. He's an amazing father, it makes my ovaries tingle.
After doing my research I think he's the type to always get hurt in relationships and he's afraid to fall in love again. He had two long term relationships back to back and they both ended really badly.
Posted by TaurusBull1977
Reserved + Classy + In control over emotions + Honesty + Integrity = Sure sign of Wedding Bells...
The 'stability' factor has to be present in order for a Taurus to pursue (with no ulterior motives depending on the Moon and Venus Placements)....
For everything else....
Don't expect a Bull to chase....Too much work!
I think I'm all about that "stability factor" so I'm hoping that works in my favor.
You all might know what you're talking about
I waited a couple of days and then messaged him and he sounded really happy to hear from me. And now he's talking about how he can't wait for his visit in two weeks. I guess he didnt lose interest after all...
I waited a couple of days and then messaged him and he sounded really happy to hear from me. And now he's talking about how he can't wait for his visit in two weeks. I guess he didnt lose interest after all...
Posted by Torro
See?
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Posted by RightToBeWrong
He is a very sexual person and I'm VERY attracted to him, so I'm thinking that might be a dangerous road to go down.
Beware of the MECHANICAL Bull....
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