help me with my delusion

This topic was created in the Taurus forum by wildflower on Wednesday, May 9, 2018 and has 80 replies.
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Alright, Im ready for the virtual slaps in the face to wake me up from my delusion. My Pisces friend has already told me I am delusional lol but here I go...

I just cannot forget how I feel about my ex.

I cannot

I miss him, I miss how he took care of me, how he just calmed my chaotic soul

It so difficult, after recently dating a scorpio (like me) I have seen myself in a new light, how I made things more difficult than they needed to be, how solving problems by ignoring people is not the solution, how petty fights are really incredibly annoying, how I can give mixed signals. I've learned alot lately on how to communicate and treat relationships as a result.

and I feel like I fucked up

Since the first day I met Taurus, I literally felt the magnetic pull

I have not stopped thinking of him since

To have dated, and fallen in love, and have been compatible in so many ways and get along so well

and to have broken up, it kills me

He breaks up with me - depression, money, needed to work, felt he wasn't making me happy, music

I accepted it, didn't fight it because I was battling myself honestly, my paranoia got the best of me and I was not sure I was strong enough to conquer myself, let alone be there for him who was needing me but also pushing me away when he struggled (I've learned thats a Taurus thing)

I wish I would've fought it

We remained on good terms and eventually linked up again, began hooking up

He still loved me, and I him

but he says he's still not in a good place and couldn't be what I needed him to be

how does he even know what I need him to be though? If I only wanted him, thats it

I guess his energy, attention, was directed at working and he felt I deserved more

he felt he couldn't take care of me, in every sense of the word, and he was broke

But doesn't he know that to me he is great?

I dont care of money

anyway I decide to give him space and myself too

try to move on, I keep trying y'all, I really do

But my love is so strong and it comes in waves, at times I can think of him and only miss him. At others, I am missing him like crazy and urging to reach out, but how much more do I need to reach out

I had unfollowed him from social media and even blocked him at some point, I have been trying desperately to let go

but I can't

So a month ago or so, I reach out and we start talking, he's responsive but also I begin to take longer to reply, I get scared of getting attached only to be told the same thing, that he cannot

what do I do?

I've tried everything, I am tired

Our relationship has been over for a year now, although we have been in contact throughout the year consistently

just until now, I feel that he probably doesn't miss me anymore or care of me, Sad

I wish it could just be again

things could be so different

Another Taurus man bailing on his relationship cause life ain’t perfect. It’s just an excuse. If he was your ride or die he wouldn’t cut you loose so readily. Js.
Never fall into a fuck buddy situationship with an ex if you still have the feels.
Posted by LadyNeptune
Another Taurus man bailing on his relationship cause life ain’t perfect. It’s just an excuse. If he was your ride or die he wouldn’t cut you loose so readily. Js.
100% agreed.

which is why, when he said those words to me I did not fight it. You don't leave who you love, is how I feel

But Taurus aren't like that, wtf, they leave when things aren't perfect? When money's not right? when they aren't where in their heads they think they need to be? Its bullshit honestly

but I hate this feeling in the pit of my heart, like I can't stop missing him. I am delusional, I know. I've tried everything to let this go, this is haunting me
Posted by LadyNeptune
Never fall into a fuck buddy situationship with an ex if you still have the feels.
yaaaa I know, but I was selfish here too. Best sex, hands down ever in my life has been with him

and I love sex all day

so it was hard to refuse lol its been like 3 mo since we had sex tho, we aren't fb anymore, he may be fucking someone else now idk
Posted by wildflower
Posted by LadyNeptune
Another Taurus man bailing on his relationship cause life ain’t perfect. It’s just an excuse. If he was your ride or die he wouldn’t cut you loose so readily. Js.



100% agreed.
which is why, when he said those words to me I did not fight it. You don't leave who you love, is how I feel
But Taurus aren't like that, wtf, they leave when things aren't perfect? When money's not right? when they aren't where in their heads they think they need to be? Its bullshit honestly

but I hate this feeling in the pit of my heart, like I can't stop missing him. I am delusional, I know. I've tried everything to let this go, this is haunting me click to expand
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Look through the Taurus board. Apparently they are like that.
Posted by LadyNeptune
Another Taurus man bailing on his relationship cause life ain’t perfect. It’s just an excuse. If he was your ride or die he wouldn’t cut you loose so readily. Js.


I have to agree with this, Taurus are stubborn AF, but if they want to be with you, they are with you through thick and thin.

Yes Taurus men like to be the provider and dominate, they want to make sure they can provide. A lot of them (most I know) are workaholics (my boyfriend being extreme) but he makes the time to see me . He is reclusive, especially when he is in a bad mood or injured...but I give him a few days and he's right back at my door.

Recently ive been a little brat to him and getting uppity..but I have given him an out (if he wanted it) and he's adamant on staying with me even while I'm dealing with my depression rn.

They are people pleasers and they will stick through almost everything. (except cheating...that's where you lose them)

So yeah, if he's been gone a year, he prob gone as a love interest, but still willing to be friends...or a FWB until he meets someone else.
Posted by LadyNeptune
Posted by wildflower
Posted by LadyNeptune
Another Taurus man bailing on his relationship cause life ain’t perfect. It’s just an excuse. If he was your ride or die he wouldn’t cut you loose so readily. Js.





100% agreed.

which is why, when he said those words to me I did not fight it. You don't leave who you love, is how I feel

But Taurus aren't like that, wtf, they leave when things aren't perfect? When money's not right? when they aren't where in their heads they think they need to be? Its bullshit honestly



but I hate this feeling in the pit of my heart, like I can't stop missing him. I am delusional, I know. I've tried everything to let this go, this is haunting me click to expand



Look through the Taurus board. Apparently they are like that. click to expand
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I know which is why I know that the problem here is me, I could've done things differently when the time was the time but now it is not

I just hate how I miss him so terribly, how does that happen? I need to let this go

I've done everything I can think of!!!
Also,

I had an intense 10 year relationship with a Scorpio....

Fire sex match, but after a few years communication and emotional connection is different.

I was ready to marry scorpio, then he cheated...

he still wont let me go....calls me early in the morning (I never answer), stalks me, sends me emails on holidays....we have been broken up 8 months and I shut the door completely on him. I don't even give him the time of day.

Its a crazy dynamic Scorpio and Taurus
Posted by Boots1313
Posted by LadyNeptune
Another Taurus man bailing on his relationship cause life ain’t perfect. It’s just an excuse. If he was your ride or die he wouldn’t cut you loose so readily. Js.




I have to agree with this, Taurus are stubborn AF, but if they want to be with you, they are with you through thick and thin.

Yes Taurus men like to be the provider and dominate, they want to make sure they can provide. A lot of them (most I know) are workaholics (my boyfriend being extreme) but he makes the time to see me . He is reclusive, especially when he is in a bad mood or injured...but I give him a few days and he's right back at my door.

Recently ive been a little brat to him and getting uppity..but I have given him an our (if he wanted it) and he's adamant on staying with me even while I'm dealing with my depression rn.

They are people pleasers and they will stick through almost everything. (except cheating...that's where you lose them)

So yeah, if he's been gone a year, he prob gone as a love interest, but still willing to be friends...or a FWB until he meets someone else. click to expand
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I know this, if he wanted to be with me he would. If he wanted to talk to me, he would. I know him very well

I no longer try to figure him out because I realize how straightforward he is

He works alot and drinks alot and neither is good for me

and his depression is swallowing him whole, I see him fighting for himself, I know he cannot be that person for me, trust me I know

and im so annoyed with myself

literally my heart and mind are on the same page of missing him and feeling so strongly about him. My feelings for him have not changed at all. To reference this, I am a fickle person, I have a libra moon and sag venus, committing to a person, relationship and being 100% sure I like them is not easy for me. Rarely does anyone imprint on me this way, this is killing me. Literally haunting me.

he is definitely a workaholic and he said to me he didn't want me to leave his life but I had to go, for my self. he was opening up to me so much, I got in my head though and cut him off, he still takes me back though which is weird, I feel like I can easily charm him again, but do I want to??

No, because I want him to come for me 100 not 90,70,80,30,10,

100.
Posted by Boots1313
Also,

I had an intense 10 year relationship with a Scorpio....
Fire sex match, but after a few years communication and emotional connection is different.

I was ready to marry scorpio, then he cheated...
he still wont let me go....calls me early in the morning (I never answer), stalks me, sends me emails on holidays....we have been broken up 8 months and I shut the door completely on him. I don't even give him the time of day.

Its a crazy dynamic Scorpio and Taurus
agh.

i never cheated, but im afraid im a crazy scorp wtf
Posted by DeleterNerd
Self help thread of the day. All I've been able to come up with is that we should nuke neptune so we dont have these problems anymore.
lol thanks

is neptune the cause of this? nuke me instead

I have not time or will for this
Posted by DeadInside
Posted by wildflower
Posted by LadyNeptune
Never fall into a fuck buddy situationship with an ex if you still have the feels.





yaaaa I know, but I was selfish here too. Best sex, hands down ever in my life has been with him

and I love sex all day

so it was hard to refuse lol its been like 3 mo since we had sex tho, we aren't fb anymore, he may be fucking someone else now idk click to expand



no diss but, arent you like 25 click to expand
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No why? does my age determine whether or not I can have amazing sex?
Posted by sierra_
Posted by wildflower
Posted by LadyNeptune
Another Taurus man bailing on his relationship cause life ain’t perfect. It’s just an excuse. If he was your ride or die he wouldn’t cut you loose so readily. Js.





100% agreed.

which is why, when he said those words to me I did not fight it. You don't leave who you love, is how I feel

But Taurus aren't like that, wtf, they leave when things aren't perfect? When money's not right? when they aren't where in their heads they think they need to be? Its bullbutter honestly



but I hate this feeling in the pit of my heart, like I can't stop missing him. I am delusional, I know. I've tried everything to let this go, this is haunting me click to expand



yes they leave coz of money
they're weird about money click to expand
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why is that? I don't get it

like its an actual thing?

Im delusional... I want him back honestly Sad
wait so you left?

you could easily get him back....why so heartbroken over him if you aren't 100% sure you want him?

and what's this bullbutter you want him to give 100% ...HAHA that's never going to happen in any relationship...NOW THATS DELUSIONAL
Posted by DeleterNerd
Posted by wildflower
Posted by DeleterNerd
Self help thread of the day. All I've been able to come up with is that we should nuke neptune so we dont have these problems anymore.





lol thanks

is neptune the cause of this? nuke me instead

I have not time or will for this click to expand


I'm just wondering, why are you talking yourself out of this if he's easy to get back with? Why not just try it? Also I'm pretty sure adele made this song as an in your face taunt for all the people who cant get over a taurus because "they say times supposed to heal you, but I havent done much healing" evil ass
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lol I can't even listen to this right now, Im already in my feels

I don't know why im talking myself out of it

I guess I could go for it

but rejection

Partly I suppose because most women have the preconceived notion that a man will fight for you, move mountains for you. I am old fashioned when it comes to dating

But I don't think thats the way it is in this generation anymore, especially in a progressive city like SF

I am also insecure and impatient (just being honest)

I am not sure what he is thinking of me or wants from me. Sometimes I think he does miss me, I see hints of it

I see hints of myself in things he does, I wonder if he is doing it for me but Im never sure

but he is not like other guys I've dated (fire signs) who just tell you a million times until you believe it

I have a hard time believing things and what people say

I want him back but I wish it was more clear that he wanted me back too

thats what it comes down to
Posted by Boots1313
wait so you left?

you could easily get him back....why so heartbroken over him if you aren't 100% sure you want him?

and what's this bullbutter you want him to give 100% ...HAHA that's never going to happen in any relationship...NOW THATS DELUSIONAL
Im delusional, I know

I want him back 100%

But he left first, he broke up with me first

Even though we got right back into contact, and right back into each other. In my head, he had still broken up with me, making me feel he didn't want me. I do not understand this money thing Taurus/Cap people are about, I literally do not get it. Im mexican and old-fashioned, romantics who marry for love

love is hard for me though

but with him, i love him. Haven't stopped, and this is my turmoil. How I never like anyone but him I do. Never commit to anyone but him I did, didn't event think twice about it

we talked about marriage and kids and everything

literally, my feelings are enormous for him

and yes, recently I left I suppose (not really I think) by no longer talking to him and blocking him, but what was I supposed to do? I felt he didn't want me, thats a terrible feeling when you love someone. Maybe him being in my life and being there for me was his way of sticking around (idk) but I needed the verbal reassurance of what he wanted from ME

so to give him space and avoid confusion and let go, I just stopped.

I need reassurance from him, I just want reciprocated energy - 100%
the thing is you broke up for a reason. you were paranoid. he is depressed, works too much, drinks too much.

the reality is if you get back together, the old problems will still be there. yeah you will have the rose coloured glasses on for a while and the sex will be amazing but when that dies down, you'll think "fuck. what have i done"?

you're not missing him, you're missing is being in a relationship that at times made you feel great. what you're forgetting is that this relationship made you feel like shit too. you're just choosing not to concentrate on those times of madness.

and yes you might have changed with new realisations but he hasn't. let it go.
I give 100% to the person Im with, do you not? honest question

I am intense lol maybe this is what people mean by intensity? I've wondered
Posted by DeadInside
Posted by wildflower
Posted by DeadInside
Posted by wildflower
Posted by LadyNeptune
Never fall into a fuck buddy situationship with an ex if you still have the feels.





yaaaa I know, but I was selfish here too. Best sex, hands down ever in my life has been with him

and I love sex all day

so it was hard to refuse lol its been like 3 mo since we had sex tho, we aren't fb anymore, he may be fucking someone else now idk click to expand





no diss but, arent you like 25 click to expand





No why? does my age determine whether or not I can have amazing sex? click to expand



so your life is not finish click to expand
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true

this is not my first rodeo though lol
Posted by jeane
the thing is you broke up for a reason. you were paranoid. he is depressed, works too much, drinks too much.

the reality is if you get back together, the old problems will still be there. yeah you will have the rose coloured glasses on for a while and the sex will be amazing but when that dies down, you'll think "fuck. what have i done"?

you're not missing him, you're missing is being in a relationship that at times made you feel great. what you're forgetting is that this relationship made you feel like shit too. you're just choosing not to concentrate on those times of madness.

and yes you might have changed with new realisations but he hasn't. let it go.
yes

yes

yes

all truth I needed to hear

deep down I know you're right

and I know Taurus doesn't change easily so although perhaps I may have learned new things, chances are he may have not.

On top of that, I do not want the same problems of yesterday

I want to let go and be free

or I want him back lol

no in between, not this delusional, haunted space Im in.

Its fucking terrible jeane!!!
do you think or not think, things could be different though?

I did make many things more difficult than they needed to be... I am aware of myself now in a way I wasn't before

I just think that if I feel so strongly about this, there has to be a chance!

Im delusional
Posted by DeadInside
Posted by wildflower
Posted by DeadInside
Posted by wildflower
Posted by DeadInside
Posted by wildflower
Posted by LadyNeptune
Never fall into a fuck buddy situationship with an ex if you still have the feels.





yaaaa I know, but I was selfish here too. Best sex, hands down ever in my life has been with him

and I love sex all day

so it was hard to refuse lol its been like 3 mo since we had sex tho, we aren't fb anymore, he may be fucking someone else now idk click to expand





no diss but, arent you like 25 click to expand





No why? does my age determine whether or not I can have amazing sex? click to expand





so your life is not finish click to expand





true

this is not my first rodeo though lol click to expand



STOP LIVING IN THE PAST click to expand
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true, that is what Im doing.
Posted by wildflower
Posted by jeane
the thing is you broke up for a reason. you were paranoid. he is depressed, works too much, drinks too much.



the reality is if you get back together, the old problems will still be there. yeah you will have the rose coloured glasses on for a while and the sex will be amazing but when that dies down, you'll think "fuck. what have i done"?



you're not missing him, you're missing is being in a relationship that at times made you feel great. what you're forgetting is that this relationship made you feel like shit too. you're just choosing not to concentrate on those times of madness.



and yes you might have changed with new realisations but he hasn't. let it go.



yes
yes
yes

all truth I needed to hear
deep down I know you're right
and I know Taurus doesn't change easily so although perhaps I may have learned new things, chances are he may have not.
On top of that, I do not want the same problems of yesterday
I want to let go and be free
or I want him back lol
no in between, not this delusional, haunted space Im in.
Its fucking terrible jeane!!! click to expand
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lol, i know. i feel you.

you don't really want him back. if he was as great as you think he is, you wouldn't have let him go either.

like you said taurus doesn't give up, neither does scorpio. you did. you had your reasons at the time. don't forget them.
Posted by jeane
Posted by wildflower
Posted by jeane
the thing is you broke up for a reason. you were paranoid. he is depressed, works too much, drinks too much.



the reality is if you get back together, the old problems will still be there. yeah you will have the rose coloured glasses on for a while and the sex will be amazing but when that dies down, you'll think "fuck. what have i done"?



you're not missing him, you're missing is being in a relationship that at times made you feel great. what you're forgetting is that this relationship made you feel like shit too. you're just choosing not to concentrate on those times of madness.



and yes you might have changed with new realisations but he hasn't. let it go.





yes

yes

yes



all truth I needed to hear

deep down I know you're right

and I know Taurus doesn't change easily so although perhaps I may have learned new things, chances are he may have not.

On top of that, I do not want the same problems of yesterday

I want to let go and be free

or I want him back lol

no in between, not this delusional, haunted space Im in.

Its fucking terrible jeane!!! click to expand



lol, i know. i feel you.

you don't really want him back. if he was as great as you think he is, you wouldn't have let him go either.

like you said taurus doesn't give up, neither does scorpio. you did. you had your reasons at the time. don't forget them. click to expand
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yes, the truth... I appreciate it

Im not 100% sure my reasons for letting go were good though. They were selfish

I was definitely making things extremely difficult and wanting it my way

wanting to have him prove himself to me all of the time

its not fun to have to prove yourself to someone (I've learned as a direct result from dating another scorpio)

I was a bit crazy, and jealous, very scorpio. and I didn't need to be

I do think he was being honest with me when dating and after

but also I see this male Taurean effect on women and im pissed Im one of them now lol

the delusion persists

Can I just have him back??!?!?!?
Posted by DeleterNerd
Posted by wildflower
Posted by DeleterNerd
Posted by wildflower
Posted by DeleterNerd
Self help thread of the day. All I've been able to come up with is that we should nuke neptune so we dont have these problems anymore.





lol thanks

is neptune the cause of this? nuke me instead

I have not time or will for this click to expand



I'm just wondering, why are you talking yourself out of this if he's easy to get back with? Why not just try it? Also I'm pretty sure adele made this song as an in your face taunt for all the people who cant get over a taurus because "they say times supposed to heal you, but I havent done much healing" evil ass

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lol I can't even listen to this right now, Im already in my feels

I don't know why im talking myself out of it

I guess I could go for it

but rejection

Partly I suppose because most women have the preconceived notion that a man will fight for you, move mountains for you. I am old fashioned when it comes to dating

But I don't think thats the way it is in this generation anymore, especially in a progressive city like SF

I am also insecure and impatient (just being honest)

I am not sure what he is thinking of me or wants from me. Sometimes I think he does miss me, I see hints of it

I see hints of myself in things he does, I wonder if he is doing it for me but Im never sure

but he is not like other guys I've dated (fire signs) who just tell you a million times until you believe it

I have a hard time believing things and what people say

I want him back but I wish it was more clear that he wanted me back too

thats what it comes down to click to expand


I can tell you from experience that they take ten years to come for you minimum if you really meant something to them. So if fear of rejection is keeping you from finding out, you better get ready to wait. Tauruses may vary. click to expand
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experience? how?

10 years???? HOWWWW

See Im too impatient

but what else am I doing?? nothing, just being haunted by the guy

I might as well just wait the whole ten years then

I do not want to be in this situation for the rest of my life

why would it need to take so long??

I guess till he gets his money right

this is crazy
When I was dating Scorp, he once asked me about my ex

I gave him a vague answer and he saw right through me, he told me I still had feelings for my ex

and I denied it, although I denied it, I knew deep down he knew too.

Then I knew we wouldn't last.

Th delusion is literally on-going
Posted by wildflower
Posted by Boots1313
wait so you left?



you could easily get him back....why so heartbroken over him if you aren't 100% sure you want him?



and what's this bullbutter you want him to give 100% ...HAHA that's never going to happen in any relationship...NOW THATS DELUSIONAL



Im delusional, I know
I want him back 100%
But he left first, he broke up with me first
Even though we got right back into contact, and right back into each other. In my head, he had still broken up with me, making me feel he didn't want me. I do not understand this money thing Taurus/Cap people are about, I literally do not get it. Im mexican and old-fashioned, romantics who marry for love
love is hard for me though
but with him, i love him. Haven't stopped, and this is my turmoil. How I never like anyone but him I do. Never commit to anyone but him I did, didn't event think twice about it
we talked about marriage and kids and everything
literally, my feelings are enormous for him

and yes, recently I left I suppose (not really I think) by no longer talking to him and blocking him, but what was I supposed to do? I felt he didn't want me, thats a terrible feeling when you love someone. Maybe him being in my life and being there for me was his way of sticking around (idk) but I needed the verbal reassurance of what he wanted from ME
so to give him space and avoid confusion and let go, I just stopped.
I need reassurance from him, I just want reciprocated energy - 100% click to expand
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Well you want too much and asking for a lot...

HIGH EXPECTATIONS...not the way life is...this isn't Disney

"Maybe him being in my life and being there for me was his way of sticking around " ---THIS...that's all. This is how men function...ACTIONS. esp. Taurus men
Posted by wildflower
Posted by jeane
Posted by wildflower
Posted by jeane
the thing is you broke up for a reason. you were paranoid. he is depressed, works too much, drinks too much.



the reality is if you get back together, the old problems will still be there. yeah you will have the rose coloured glasses on for a while and the sex will be amazing but when that dies down, you'll think "fuck. what have i done"?



you're not missing him, you're missing is being in a relationship that at times made you feel great. what you're forgetting is that this relationship made you feel like shit too. you're just choosing not to concentrate on those times of madness.



and yes you might have changed with new realisations but he hasn't. let it go.





yes

yes

yes



all truth I needed to hear

deep down I know you're right

and I know Taurus doesn't change easily so although perhaps I may have learned new things, chances are he may have not.

On top of that, I do not want the same problems of yesterday

I want to let go and be free

or I want him back lol

no in between, not this delusional, haunted space Im in.

Its fucking terrible jeane!!! click to expand





lol, i know. i feel you.



you don't really want him back. if he was as great as you think he is, you wouldn't have let him go either.



like you said taurus doesn't give up, neither does scorpio. you did. you had your reasons at the time. don't forget them. click to expand



yes, the truth... I appreciate it
Im not 100% sure my reasons for letting go were good though. They were selfish
I was definitely making things extremely difficult and wanting it my way
wanting to have him prove himself to me all of the time
its not fun to have to prove yourself to someone (I've learned as a direct result from dating another scorpio)
I was a bit crazy, and jealous, very scorpio. and I didn't need to be
I do think he was being honest with me when dating and after

but also I see this male Taurean effect on women and im pissed Im one of them now lol
the delusion persists
Can I just have him back??!?!?!? click to expand
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it may be a case of where you just have to do it to get it out of your system. i'm changing my mind (i'm a libra, i'm allowed), go for it.

if he shoots you down, then you'll let it go.

if you get back together and it's a disaster, you'll let it go.

if you get back together and it's everything you wanted then winner winner, chicken dinner.

do it. you can't be any worse off than you are now. worst thing that could happen is that you'll waste a bit of time and emotion but if it helps you get past this sticking point it will be worth it.
Posted by wildflower
he just calmed my chaotic soul...I made things more difficult than they needed to be...solving problems by ignoring people....petty fights...I fucked up...I was battling myself honestly, my paranoia got the best of me.....I was not sure I was strong enough to conquer myself, let alone be there for him who was needing me
I'd look to the above first, as I don't think its common for Taurus men to put career over love. They tend to be all about a love that they feel can last. I do think a bull without financial security, a stable career, etc., is going to be extremely unhappy in general. Most have traditional views of what it means to be a man - intrinsically they want to be able to provide, produce, are goal-oriented. However, they tend to be one-track with their focus and are challenged in that area of balance. There's a tension betw. the desire to indulge in leisure with their partner, relax, and enjoy life, and a desire to build. They tend to give 100% when w/their partner but then be entirely focused on work when in that mode - finding the transition betw. the two hard. If the relationship is too unstable emotionally, too much of a power struggle, they're dealing with repetitive issues that show no hope of resolution in sight, issues that take so much from them that they cannot focus on finding that financial stability in life - then I can see them ending it. Practical considerations do come into play at some point, in the same way a Scorp might feel in love, but ultimately ditch a relationship where their emotional needs aren't being fully met.

Still, the heart wants what it wants, the chemistry sounds strong, and you've learned a lot about yourself. Bulls here may tell you otherwise, but I know several that have taken partners back, even after cheating. I have 2 close bull friends that are married to Leos. Both of these relationships went through hell and survived even cheating. Same for another Pisces/Bull marriage. I know another that took a cheating Cancer back, and is considering the same with a Sag now bc he sees his part in how things went down.

All that said, if he's coping with depression through alcohol, definitely not a promising sign regardless of how much you've grown yourself....
Posted by Boots1313
Posted by wildflower
Posted by Boots1313
wait so you left?



you could easily get him back....why so heartbroken over him if you aren't 100% sure you want him?



and what's this bullbutter you want him to give 100% ...HAHA that's never going to happen in any relationship...NOW THATS DELUSIONAL





Im delusional, I know

I want him back 100%

But he left first, he broke up with me first

Even though we got right back into contact, and right back into each other. In my head, he had still broken up with me, making me feel he didn't want me. I do not understand this money thing Taurus/Cap people are about, I literally do not get it. Im mexican and old-fashioned, romantics who marry for love

love is hard for me though

but with him, i love him. Haven't stopped, and this is my turmoil. How I never like anyone but him I do. Never commit to anyone but him I did, didn't event think twice about it

we talked about marriage and kids and everything

literally, my feelings are enormous for him



and yes, recently I left I suppose (not really I think) by no longer talking to him and blocking him, but what was I supposed to do? I felt he didn't want me, thats a terrible feeling when you love someone. Maybe him being in my life and being there for me was his way of sticking around (idk) but I needed the verbal reassurance of what he wanted from ME

so to give him space and avoid confusion and let go, I just stopped.

I need reassurance from him, I just want reciprocated energy - 100% click to expand



Well you want too much and asking for a lot...
HIGH EXPECTATIONS...not the way life is...this isn't Disney

"Maybe him being in my life and being there for me was his way of sticking around " ---THIS...that's all. This is how men function...ACTIONS. esp. Taurus men click to expand
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Ok this does help alot...

I think differently than you, being old-fashioned doesn't help

Can you elaborate on my high expectations? or high expectations in general? what are they

Because I don't feel like I do have high expectations.. but maybe I do

And I don't understand men and how they function which is why I ask for advice and Im here

I don't get it, especially the money thing is strange
Posted by thistletongue
Scorpio/Taurus couples are always a damn mess, I’ve witnessed it MANY times. Stop holding on to what ifs, you can’t change the past even after you realized “well I was dumb back then”

Learn from your mistakes and move on.
AMEN! ^ this
Posted by wildflower
Alright, Im ready for the virtual slaps in the face to wake me up from my delusion. My Pisces friend has already told me I am delusional lol but here I go...

I just cannot forget how I feel about my ex.
I cannot
I miss him, I miss how he took care of me, how he just calmed my chaotic soul
It so difficult, after recently dating a scorpio (like me) I have seen myself in a new light, how I made things more difficult than they needed to be, how solving problems by ignoring people is not the solution, how petty fights are really incredibly annoying, how I can give mixed signals. I've learned alot lately on how to communicate and treat relationships as a result.
and I feel like I fucked up
Since the first day I met Taurus, I literally felt the magnetic pull
I have not stopped thinking of him since
To have dated, and fallen in love, and have been compatible in so many ways and get along so well
and to have broken up, it kills me
He breaks up with me - depression, money, needed to work, felt he wasn't making me happy, music
I accepted it, didn't fight it because I was battling myself honestly, my paranoia got the best of me and I was not sure I was strong enough to conquer myself, let alone be there for him who was needing me but also pushing me away when he struggled (I've learned thats a Taurus thing)
I wish I would've fought it
We remained on good terms and eventually linked up again, began hooking up
He still loved me, and I him
but he says he's still not in a good place and couldn't be what I needed him to be
how does he even know what I need him to be though? If I only wanted him, thats it
I guess his energy, attention, was directed at working and he felt I deserved more
he felt he couldn't take care of me, in every sense of the word, and he was broke
But doesn't he know that to me he is great?
I dont care of money
anyway I decide to give him space and myself too
try to move on, I keep trying y'all, I really do
But my love is so strong and it comes in waves, at times I can think of him and only miss him. At others, I am missing him like crazy and urging to reach out, but how much more do I need to reach out
I had unfollowed him from social media and even blocked him at some point, I have been trying desperately to let go
but I can't
So a month ago or so, I reach out and we start talking, he's responsive but also I begin to take longer to reply, I get scared of getting attached only to be told the same thing, that he cannot
what do I do?
I've tried everything, I am tired
Our relationship has been over for a year now, although we have been in contact throughout the year consistently
just until now, I feel that he probably doesn't miss me anymore or care of me,
I wish it could just be again
things could be so different


my taurus ex did this to me as well, left me because things weren't working out for him.

there is not much you can do for him to return but just remind him that you are there for him

... but even then that can get a little played out because you can't wait forever.

he is fighting a battle within himself and will return when he feels like he is good enough for you.

but until then you will find yourself trying to go through a dead end that will never open until he has it together.

very selfish of him...oh i know.

also know that taurus men are possessive he will always think he has you even if you move on...

mines returned after he got it all together but the moment i thought i could back... i couldn't.

i was reminded of the hurt and betrayal he put me through by leaving just because life didn't go his way.

how do i know that when life kicked him in the arse again that he wouldn't leave... again?

I didn't know and didn't care to find out either.

find someone that will stick by your side no matter what and that will love you unconditionally

- through the good and the bad.

just know nothing will go his way until he let go of this selfish behavior.

Posted by wildflower
I give 100% to the person Im with, do you not? honest question
I am intense lol maybe this is what people mean by intensity? I've wondered
Do you work?

No shade but how are you gonna give your partner 100% when you have kids and are wearing both lover hat and mom hat? And isn’t that setting your relationship up for failure? Making him dependent on you and then ripping that all away when jr. arrives.
Posted by DeleterNerd
Self help thread of the day. All I've been able to come up with is that we should nuke neptune so we dont have these problems anymore.


??
Posted by Metatron
Posted by wildflower
he just calmed my chaotic soul...I made things more difficult than they needed to be...solving problems by ignoring people....petty fights...I fucked up...I was battling myself honestly, my paranoia got the best of me.....I was not sure I was strong enough to conquer myself, let alone be there for him who was needing me



I'd look to the above first, as I don't think its common for Taurus men to put career over love. They tend to be all about a love that they feel can last. I do think a bull without financial security, a stable career, etc., is going to be extremely unhappy in general. Most have traditional views of what it means to be a man - intrinsically they want to be able to provide, produce, are goal-oriented. However, they tend to be one-track with their focus and are challenged in that area of balance. There's a tension betw. the desire to indulge in leisure with their partner, relax, and enjoy life, and a desire to build. They tend to give 100% when w/their partner but then be entirely focused on work when in that mode - finding the transition betw. the two hard. If the relationship is too unstable emotionally, too much of a power struggle, they're dealing with repetitive issues that show no hope of resolution in sight, issues that take so much from them that they cannot focus on finding that financial stability in life - then I can see them ending it. Practical considerations do come into play at some point, in the same way a Scorp might feel in love, but ultimately ditch a relationship where their emotional needs aren't being fully met.

Still, the heart wants what it wants, the chemistry sounds strong, and you've learned a lot about yourself. Bulls here may tell you otherwise, but I know several that have taken partners back, even after cheating. I have 2 close bull friends that are married to Leos. Both of these relationships went through hell and survived even cheating. Same for another Pisces/Bull marriage. I know another that took a cheating Cancer back, and is considering the same with a Sag now bc he sees his part in how things went down.

All that said, if he's coping with depression through alcohol, definitely not a promising sign regardless of how much you've grown yourself.... click to expand
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Are you a Taurus because this sounds exactly like him.

Part of my realizations align with what you say and as you put it into words it makes more sense as well what he meant/felt. He was ever the best at describing his feelings but I will dive deeper with you and your insight

Yes, I do feel that he or any partner would stick around if they felt it could last. Love and chemistry existed between us, no doubt. But him breaking up with me made me feel like he gave up on me, am I right/wrong?

He is one-tracked mind, I am not. I have the worst attention span of all life and also forgetful, I am thinking of a 100 things per minute, where he would spend hours/days doing the same thing. When he'd get in the zone, I wouldn't hear from him for so long, I was confused. How it was that in person he was 100% all me, it was amazing and it was exactly that fun, relaxing, sweet but as soon as he'd work, I felt forgotten about. I get now that its just the way he is and it was never personal towards me. But at that time and after being used to clingy guys, I didn't get that. I do now. His financial situation fell apart like right before we broke up and he told me his finances were hurting and he was down about it. I don't see money this way, money comes to me naturally so I didn't get it, to me it was like you'll be fine we all go through rough patches, but he was very hard on himself about it. I didn't get it then, I do now.

Literally one week before we broke up he woke me up before he went to work and kissed me on the forehead, told me how much he loved me and he couldn't see life without me. I felt loved, reassured and soooo happy. I was emotionally unstable before that, also on birth control and that shit drove me crazy, but I finally let my wall down and felt ultimate security. One week later, the financial situation occurs and he broke up with me.

I have hopes that we could try again, I feel this is unfinished but time has passed and I don't know what he feels for me anymore. In Dec, he told me he still loved me but was not in a good place and could not be what I needed him to be. we were still heavily in each other lives and then one day he is having a mental breakdown (feb), I helped him through it and felt good that he was opening up to me this way, I told him I would stop by to help him out, (he was moving) and bring him some food so he can eat and relax a little. It was a terrible time, I should've known better but he did react negatively and He told me that I should've given him a heads up first. I didn't even go, I turned around and went home instead but told him it was ok, I knew he was stressed. Things were weird after that, and we didn't talk for a bit until valentines he msged me but i don't know now Im so confused.

I just rambled, im so confused


Posted by DeleterNerd
Let me live vicariously through you
lol I wont lie, my life is fantastic

my love life is hell

welcome to my world
Posted by C69
that money thing could be a made up excuse

the ‘it’s not you, it’s me’ move is a common way to reject someone if you want to feel less guilty

I’m not a Taurus, but I’d never ever just let go of someone I really wanted if their feelings for me were this obvious. I don’t think the sign matters here anymore.......

the only thing I can say is that he doesn’t want his freedom, options and careless living to be taken away. love is like the best thing ever but it comes with a lot of responsibility. stairway to heaven or highway to hell, you can either make someone the happiest they’ve ever been or fuck it up and destroy them, consciously or by an accident. he doesn’t want to feel guilty if you get hurt.

that’s just my take on the situation.
true and I feel this would be a logical explanation but we are a complex species

my struggle is that, was it bad timing/misunderstandings or does he not want me and that was his excuse?

I honestly can't tell
Posted by AstroPlus
Posted by wildflower
Alright, Im ready for the virtual slaps in the face to wake me up from my delusion. My Pisces friend has already told me I am delusional lol but here I go...



I just cannot forget how I feel about my ex.

I cannot

I miss him, I miss how he took care of me, how he just calmed my chaotic soul

It so difficult, after recently dating a scorpio (like me) I have seen myself in a new light, how I made things more difficult than they needed to be, how solving problems by ignoring people is not the solution, how petty fights are really incredibly annoying, how I can give mixed signals. I've learned alot lately on how to communicate and treat relationships as a result.

and I feel like I fucked up

Since the first day I met Taurus, I literally felt the magnetic pull

I have not stopped thinking of him since

To have dated, and fallen in love, and have been compatible in so many ways and get along so well

and to have broken up, it kills me

He breaks up with me - depression, money, needed to work, felt he wasn't making me happy, music

I accepted it, didn't fight it because I was battling myself honestly, my paranoia got the best of me and I was not sure I was strong enough to conquer myself, let alone be there for him who was needing me but also pushing me away when he struggled (I've learned thats a Taurus thing)

I wish I would've fought it

We remained on good terms and eventually linked up again, began hooking up

He still loved me, and I him

but he says he's still not in a good place and couldn't be what I needed him to be

how does he even know what I need him to be though? If I only wanted him, thats it

I guess his energy, attention, was directed at working and he felt I deserved more

he felt he couldn't take care of me, in every sense of the word, and he was broke

But doesn't he know that to me he is great?

I dont care of money

anyway I decide to give him space and myself too

try to move on, I keep trying y'all, I really do

But my love is so strong and it comes in waves, at times I can think of him and only miss him. At others, I am missing him like crazy and urging to reach out, but how much more do I need to reach out

I had unfollowed him from social media and even blocked him at some point, I have been trying desperately to let go

but I can't

So a month ago or so, I reach out and we start talking, he's responsive but also I begin to take longer to reply, I get scared of getting attached only to be told the same thing, that he cannot

what do I do?

I've tried everything, I am tired

Our relationship has been over for a year now, although we have been in contact throughout the year consistently

just until now, I feel that he probably doesn't miss me anymore or care of me,

I wish it could just be again

things could be so different





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thank you haha
Posted by LadyNeptune
Posted by wildflower
I give 100% to the person Im with, do you not? honest question

I am intense lol maybe this is what people mean by intensity? I've wondered



Do you work?

No shade but how are you gonna give your partner 100% when you have kids and are wearing both lover hat and mom hat? And isn’t that setting your relationship up for failure? Making him dependent on you and then ripping that all away when jr. arrives. click to expand
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You're right, I do work... its not realistic to expect so much intensity at all times, setting up for failure for sure

I am telling you, I made many mistakes

Im terrible at relationships but Im looking to improve
Posted by wildflower
Posted by LadyNeptune
Posted by wildflower
I give 100% to the person Im with, do you not? honest question

I am intense lol maybe this is what people mean by intensity? I've wondered





Do you work?



No shade but how are you gonna give your partner 100% when you have kids and are wearing both lover hat and mom hat? And isn’t that setting your relationship up for failure? Making him dependent on you and then ripping that all away when jr. arrives. click to expand



You're right, I do work... its not realistic to expect so much intensity at all times, setting up for failure for sure
I am telling you, I made many mistakes
Im terrible at relationships but Im looking to improve click to expand
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No worries. Failure paves the road to success.
Posted by Impulsv
Let it go
Don’t waste time n energy figuring it out
Is he worth fighting for?
Are you worth fighting for?
so there is the standstill.don't think about it much don’t punish itself for errors made
This coming from a Scorpio who has wasted years on this!!!


Seeeee

thats the thing though! Scorpio perspective is so different from Taurus

Seems like they would accept practicality of the relationship determine the longevity of the relationship

Not I

So he reached out and told you this? then what?
Posted by Impulsv
When it’s meant to be it’s meant to be
It happened for the sag what we tried on n off for five years.
U see no sense racking ur brain
Yes I suppose

If he wanted to be with me, he would.

Its really that simple, I guess Sad
Posted by HankJWimbleton
Posted by sierra_
Posted by wildflower
Posted by LadyNeptune
Another Taurus man bailing on his relationship cause life ain’t perfect. It’s just an excuse. If he was your ride or die he wouldn’t cut you loose so readily. Js.





100% agreed.

which is why, when he said those words to me I did not fight it. You don't leave who you love, is how I feel

But Taurus aren't like that, wtf, they leave when things aren't perfect? When money's not right? when they aren't where in their heads they think they need to be? Its bullbutter honestly



but I hate this feeling in the pit of my heart, like I can't stop missing him. I am delusional, I know. I've tried everything to let this go, this is haunting me click to expand



yes they leave coz of money
they're weird about money click to expand


Generalization isn't wise.
Some Virgos in this Taurus thread can be analytical, but nowhere as sharp or practical, or helpful. click to expand
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LOL... different perspectives do help. Although, I don't know what to do anymore ha
Well I suppose I will update, I gathered the balls to msg him. Yesterday was his birthday (perfect excuse)

I think it went ok but all in all, I'm thinking too much and idk, perhaps hurting myself.
Posted by exsqueezeme
Posted by wildflower
Alright, Im ready for the virtual slaps in the face to wake me up from my delusion. My Pisces friend has already told me I am delusional lol but here I go...

I just cannot forget how I feel about my ex.
I cannot
I miss him, I miss how he took care of me, how he just calmed my chaotic soul
It so difficult, after recently dating a scorpio (like me) I have seen myself in a new light, how I made things more difficult than they needed to be, how solving problems by ignoring people is not the solution, how petty fights are really incredibly annoying, how I can give mixed signals. I've learned alot lately on how to communicate and treat relationships as a result.
and I feel like I treetrunked up
Since the first day I met Taurus, I literally felt the magnetic pull
I have not stopped thinking of him since
To have dated, and fallen in love, and have been compatible in so many ways and get along so well
and to have broken up, it kills me
He breaks up with me - depression, money, needed to work, felt he wasn't making me happy, music
I accepted it, didn't fight it because I was battling myself honestly, my paranoia got the best of me and I was not sure I was strong enough to conquer myself, let alone be there for him who was needing me but also pushing me away when he struggled (I've learned thats a Taurus thing)
I wish I would've fought it
We remained on good terms and eventually linked up again, began hooking up
He still loved me, and I him
but he says he's still not in a good place and couldn't be what I needed him to be
how does he even know what I need him to be though? If I only wanted him, thats it
I guess his energy, attention, was directed at working and he felt I deserved more
he felt he couldn't take care of me, in every sense of the word, and he was broke
But doesn't he know that to me he is great?
I dont care of money
anyway I decide to give him space and myself too
try to move on, I keep trying y'all, I really do
But my love is so strong and it comes in waves, at times I can think of him and only miss him. At others, I am missing him like crazy and urging to reach out, but how much more do I need to reach out
I had unfollowed him from social media and even blocked him at some point, I have been trying desperately to let go
but I can't
So a month ago or so, I reach out and we start talking, he's responsive but also I begin to take longer to reply, I get scared of getting attached only to be told the same thing, that he cannot
what do I do?
I've tried everything, I am tired
Our relationship has been over for a year now, although we have been in contact throughout the year consistently
just until now, I feel that he probably doesn't miss me anymore or care of me,
I wish it could just be again
things could be so different



He doesn’t want to be with you but you keep clinging on with those damn claws click to expand
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ya basically but he also never let ME go either. Several times I convinced myself that he made his choice and he would be msging me, calling me, and checking up on me. Inviting me to places and we continued having sex, AFTER I was clear about wanting exclusivity and having sex means exclusivity to me. He also traveled and continued to contact me from there and brought me gifts, came to see me the day after he came back. Hitting me up all of the time. Its not just me, I've tried to let go and accept his words at face value but his actions always proved otherwise. Its been a year now, I think too much time has passed at this point and Im so confused I'd rather be free but I feel this way and it hurts even more. If he broke up with me he should've never talked to me again. But he did. Time and time and time again. Telling me he loves me and etc. These are mixed signals to me, I don't know what to do but I think it shouldn't be this hard Sad that is all.
Posted by Victorious
What are you trying to achieve?
Well yesterday, I wanted to try to get back to a solid place with him but Im really so confused because he did break up with me, I don't want to be hanging on to something that is not for me
Posted by exsqueezeme
Posted by wildflower
Posted by exsqueezeme
Posted by wildflower
Alright, Im ready for the virtual slaps in the face to wake me up from my delusion. My Pisces friend has already told me I am delusional lol but here I go...

I just cannot forget how I feel about my ex.
I cannot
I miss him, I miss how he took care of me, how he just calmed my chaotic soul
It so difficult, after recently dating a scorpio (like me) I have seen myself in a new light, how I made things more difficult than they needed to be, how solving problems by ignoring people is not the solution, how petty fights are really incredibly annoying, how I can give mixed signals. I've learned alot lately on how to communicate and treat relationships as a result.
and I feel like I treetrunked up
Since the first day I met Taurus, I literally felt the magnetic pull
I have not stopped thinking of him since
To have dated, and fallen in love, and have been compatible in so many ways and get along so well
and to have broken up, it kills me
He breaks up with me - depression, money, needed to work, felt he wasn't making me happy, music
I accepted it, didn't fight it because I was battling myself honestly, my paranoia got the best of me and I was not sure I was strong enough to conquer myself, let alone be there for him who was needing me but also pushing me away when he struggled (I've learned thats a Taurus thing)
I wish I would've fought it
We remained on good terms and eventually linked up again, began hooking up
He still loved me, and I him
but he says he's still not in a good place and couldn't be what I needed him to be
how does he even know what I need him to be though? If I only wanted him, thats it
I guess his energy, attention, was directed at working and he felt I deserved more
he felt he couldn't take care of me, in every sense of the word, and he was broke
But doesn't he know that to me he is great?
I dont care of money
anyway I decide to give him space and myself too
try to move on, I keep trying y'all, I really do
But my love is so strong and it comes in waves, at times I can think of him and only miss him. At others, I am missing him like crazy and urging to reach out, but how much more do I need to reach out
I had unfollowed him from social media and even blocked him at some point, I have been trying desperately to let go
but I can't
So a month ago or so, I reach out and we start talking, he's responsive but also I begin to take longer to reply, I get scared of getting attached only to be told the same thing, that he cannot
what do I do?
I've tried everything, I am tired
Our relationship has been over for a year now, although we have been in contact throughout the year consistently
just until now, I feel that he probably doesn't miss me anymore or care of me,
I wish it could just be again
things could be so different




He doesn’t want to be with you but you keep clinging on with those damn claws click to expand



ya basically but he also never let ME go either. Several times I convinced myself that he made his choice and he would be msging me, calling me, and checking up on me. Inviting me to places and we continued having sex, AFTER I was clear about wanting exclusivity and having sex means exclusivity to me. He also traveled and continued to contact me from there and brought me gifts, came to see me the day after he came back. Hitting me up all of the time. Its not just me, I've tried to let go and accept his words at face value but his actions always proved otherwise. Its been a year now, I think too much time has passed at this point and Im so confused I'd rather be free but I feel this way and it hurts even more. If he broke up with me he should've never talked to me again. But he did. Time and time and time again. Telling me he loves me and etc. These are mixed signals to me, I don't know what to do but I think it shouldn't be this hard that is all. click to expand


He can’t prove that he’s serious about you whilst you’re already having sex. He’s getting everything he wants without lifting a damn finger. He should’ve proved himself to you first for a long while before you jumped in to bed together. Of course he’ll nod along and say yes mam yes mam in order for you to believe him and sleep with him.
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Ya, I feel that. I should've made him prove himself before ever taking him back. We just broke up so abruptly that I felt we could work it out, I didn't think the break up was for real until its been a year now and here i fucking am ugh
Posted by exsqueezeme
Posted by wildflower
Posted by exsqueezeme
Posted by wildflower
Posted by exsqueezeme
Posted by wildflower
Alright, Im ready for the virtual slaps in the face to wake me up from my delusion. My Pisces friend has already told me I am delusional lol but here I go...

I just cannot forget how I feel about my ex.
I cannot
I miss him, I miss how he took care of me, how he just calmed my chaotic soul
It so difficult, after recently dating a scorpio (like me) I have seen myself in a new light, how I made things more difficult than they needed to be, how solving problems by ignoring people is not the solution, how petty fights are really incredibly annoying, how I can give mixed signals. I've learned alot lately on how to communicate and treat relationships as a result.
and I feel like I treetrunked up
Since the first day I met Taurus, I literally felt the magnetic pull
I have not stopped thinking of him since
To have dated, and fallen in love, and have been compatible in so many ways and get along so well
and to have broken up, it kills me
He breaks up with me - depression, money, needed to work, felt he wasn't making me happy, music
I accepted it, didn't fight it because I was battling myself honestly, my paranoia got the best of me and I was not sure I was strong enough to conquer myself, let alone be there for him who was needing me but also pushing me away when he struggled (I've learned thats a Taurus thing)
I wish I would've fought it
We remained on good terms and eventually linked up again, began hooking up
He still loved me, and I him
but he says he's still not in a good place and couldn't be what I needed him to be
how does he even know what I need him to be though? If I only wanted him, thats it
I guess his energy, attention, was directed at working and he felt I deserved more
he felt he couldn't take care of me, in every sense of the word, and he was broke
But doesn't he know that to me he is great?
I dont care of money
anyway I decide to give him space and myself too
try to move on, I keep trying y'all, I really do
But my love is so strong and it comes in waves, at times I can think of him and only miss him. At others, I am missing him like crazy and urging to reach out, but how much more do I need to reach out
I had unfollowed him from social media and even blocked him at some point, I have been trying desperately to let go
but I can't
So a month ago or so, I reach out and we start talking, he's responsive but also I begin to take longer to reply, I get scared of getting attached only to be told the same thing, that he cannot
what do I do?
I've tried everything, I am tired
Our relationship has been over for a year now, although we have been in contact throughout the year consistently
just until now, I feel that he probably doesn't miss me anymore or care of me,
I wish it could just be again
things could be so different




He doesn’t want to be with you but you keep clinging on with those damn claws click to expand



ya basically but he also never let ME go either. Several times I convinced myself that he made his choice and he would be msging me, calling me, and checking up on me. Inviting me to places and we continued having sex, AFTER I was clear about wanting exclusivity and having sex means exclusivity to me. He also traveled and continued to contact me from there and brought me gifts, came to see me the day after he came back. Hitting me up all of the time. Its not just me, I've tried to let go and accept his words at face value but his actions always proved otherwise. Its been a year now, I think too much time has passed at this point and Im so confused I'd rather be free but I feel this way and it hurts even more. If he broke up with me he should've never talked to me again. But he did. Time and time and time again. Telling me he loves me and etc. These are mixed signals to me, I don't know what to do but I think it shouldn't be this hard that is all. click to expand



He can’t prove that he’s serious about you whilst you’re already having sex. He’s getting everything he wants without lifting a damn finger. He should’ve proved himself to you first for a long while before you jumped in to bed together. Of course he’ll nod along and say yes mam yes mam in order for you to believe him and sleep with him.

Throw him in the bin and run away screaming click to expand



Ya, I feel that. I should've made him prove himself before ever taking him back. We just broke up so abruptly that I felt we could work it out, I didn't think the break up was for real until its been a year now and here i treetrunking am ugh click to expand


I can assure you that after an entire 12months it’s real click to expand
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agreed. I definitely don't want to be here in 12 more months... Taurus men will do that to you!!! Why is it so hard to be direct and tell someone to fuck off, literaly appreciating every other sign right now
I guess you miss HOW he made you feel, not really do you miss HIM.
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