Help with this Taurus girl?

This topic was created in the Taurus forum by shric on Wednesday, August 13, 2014 and has 10 replies.
So I met this girl through a mutual friend. I got really interested in her and checked her out on Facebook and all other possible websites to know more about her and I really liked what I found. I always do that before I ask any girl out to find out more about her personality and if it's interesting to me at all. She is very shy around new people.We got along really well and it was alright for 3-4 months. She used to cut herself a lot and since she met me she stopped it and told me that it was coz of me that she was able to stop and that I was the best thing in her life.Then she goes that she doesn't want to be in a relationship at the moment coz of some personal problems and family things and wanted to be friends. She said she loved me many many times and I love her too. I told her that I got very strong feelings for her and I can't be friends with her and I was mad at that time so I said I will have to cut her off from life, I dunno if I meant that seriously.So she was afraid to lose me I guess so she came back to me the very next day.It was fine again for few weeks and then she starts ignoring me. She added her ex on Facebook and that just pissed me off. I told her that you can't be friends with your ex coz he still has feelings for her and that's just an unnecessary complication in out relationship and she got mad for that! She thought I didn't trust her whatever. I apologised to her and told her that I did trust her but I don't like her being friends with her ex who got feelings for her. Then She breaks up with me and comes back apologising to me after a week.She told our mutual friend that she made a mistake and she knew that i loved and cared but it was too intense for her. Just two days after coming back and telling me how much she loved me and missed me she came up with something wired. She said she is scared of me and doesn't feel safe in this relationship. I joked around with her couple of times that I am a serial killer and stuff. She actually believes that now! It's just ridiculous coz we been together for so long and been to so many places even lonely places after midnight and I can't believe she thinks of me that way! That's just ridiculous. Her best friend has been my housemate over an year and she is like my sister. How could she even feel like that? Is there some other reason she doesn't wanna tell me coz I could tell she was so much into me.we had an argument over this and then she just cuts me off. Blocked me everywhere. What should I d
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I'm a taurus girl. It seems to me that she loved you but the idea of her not feeling safe around you, I would say she started seeing this kind of love can't form a long-lasting relationship, it could be due to her not feeling safe or it could be something else that she could not explain flat out. But, blocking you out of her life this way, boy I think your reassuring wasn't enough, she felt threatened. Possibly she was really hurt our feelings are too intense. If I were you, I won't try to contact her. The more you try, the more she'll avoid u or push u away. I know this feels terrible for you, but she might contact you later like after a year maybe! but then u cannot know if the feelings will still be there from ur side n hers as well. This is only my own reflection and my assumptions.
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what is her moon? this might help
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Posted by sonofthunder
Damn, you did everything wrong here. Everything.


I don't know exactly what i did wrong ? Can your please try and elaborate that might help me.
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Posted by TxOgal
I'm a taurus girl. It seems to me that she loved you but the idea of her not feeling safe around you, I would say she started seeing this kind of love can't form a long-lasting relationship, it could be due to her not feeling safe or it could be something else that she could not explain flat out. But, blocking you out of her life this way, boy I think your reassuring wasn't enough, she felt threatened. Possibly she was really hurt our feelings are too intense. If I were you, I won't try to contact her. The more you try, the more she'll avoid u or push u away. I know this feels terrible for you, but she might contact you later like after a year maybe! but then u cannot know if the feelings will still be there from ur side n hers as well. This is only my own reflection and my assumptions.


Yeah she did love me for sure. She has lot of family and personal problems so i tired to help her but she wouldn't let me. I was always there for her tho, tried spending as much time as possible with her. She was suicidal and had plans earlier so i didn't fight with her or anything and kllled my pride to be with her. I am just so desperate to help her. She stopped cutting herself but she always said that she doesn't deserve to be happy and sadness is where she belongs. I tried a lot to help her but now it looks like she is out of it and doesn't need me anymore. so i feel a bit pissed off by this coz i love her. I dunno if she might contact me or not,hopefully she will
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Posted by TxOgal
what is her moon? this might help


I don't know what her moon is.
Mine is Scorpio sun, scorpio rising, libra moon if that helps at all.
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Another thing i should add is that I have met her mum coz she insisted a lot that should. I don't why would she feel threatened. :/
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People cutting themselves, along with haveing suicidal thoughts, tend to be destructive (selfdestructive). They will be prone to serach negative things cause they cannot do better. The same as they hurt themselves to feel pain, they can hurt things they love (not necesarilly phisicaly!!) as a sort of punishment towars themselves. They think they do not deserve good.
They need to help themselves first (not by seking security and help in someone else). Cutting won't stop in a blink of an eye. Especially not because of someone else.
My oppinion.
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Posted by lucyL
People cutting themselves, along with haveing suicidal thoughts, tend to be destructive (selfdestructive). They will be prone to serach negative things cause they cannot do better. The same as they hurt themselves to feel pain, they can hurt things they love (not necesarilly phisicaly!!) as a sort of punishment towars themselves. They think they do not deserve good.
They need to help themselves first (not by seking security and help in someone else). Cutting won't stop in a blink of an eye. Especially not because of someone else.
My oppinion.



Yeah thats exactly what i thought but is there is anything at all i can do...i wish i could help her somehow! coz i do really love her :/ dunno...
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There is not much you can do now. She blocked you. You cannot pressure her in desire to help her cause she may experience it as an attack. That will make things even worse. Plus with Taurus you need patience. Too much intensity is a ticket to a certain end.
Step away, don't be intense, chill out, let her be.
Relationships cannot be forced out.
If she has problems, she needs to sort them out on her own.
Take care of yourself.
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