He's clearly in love with me...but....

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Okay, so Mr. Taurus is so wonderful, but every so often, in conflict he throws a doubt that hits me like a ninja star and knocks me off balance. What gives? Should I be concerned, or is this just typical Taurus verbal diarrhea!?


Usually:
Tells me he loves me, I'm beautiful, how 'blessed' he feels to know me and be with me, buys me things for my home- practical stuff, he bought me toothpaste the other day cause I was almost out lol. Candles, etc.

Wants me to spend Christmas with his fam.

Is my number one supporter/fan

Helps me with household tasks , etc



BUT...he's always got a but for everything when we are having an issue.

I'll admit, I'm critical, and I have no issue telling him what's upsetting me. I am a supporter too, but when we are having an awkward moment it seems like he starts rethinking the relationship- which is VERY confusing bc before that he seems so 100 percent. What should I believe? Is the fairweather? He's still around, but it just really knocks my balance off. He's young, but I just don't get it.... He tries to explain, but it makes no sense to me.
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My Taurus man is just as crazy as hell. Push and pull relationship. retreat and pushing me away.

I told him: Why are you pushing me away? He said: I am not pushing me away but I want to live alone.

me: I don't want to live alone. lol. Loud and clear.

Now we separate our bedrooms. Which is more relaxed. lol. He seems paranoid last week..

I just leave him alone in the house and come back at night and go to my room. lol
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Soultalk,

He is working and love reading on internet that's why I don't like sleeping close to him.

It made me awoke in the middle of the night...

And I felt better now that I have room because even after the fight we slept together and

he was facing towards me and I have to face the other way.. I avoid him because he was paranoid

and he was staring at me. I hate it. lol

words that he delivered cannot be redeem. But we are talking smoothly other day and yesterday. still

our rooms apart. which is why I still love doing my own things.. He is on internet . I am doing

the same. I remembered he said before the fights.. I was on internet laughing and he raised his

voice.. Do you have more msg? lol. I said no. I am talking my friends.. I know he can't just tell

me right away that he was a jealous man. He questioned when I came home late and not kissing him.

lol

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My Taurus man is just as crazy as hell. Push and pull relationship. retreat and pushing me away.

I told him: Why are you pushing me away? He said: I am not pushing me away but I want to live alone.

me: I don't want to live alone. lol. Loud and clear.

Now we separate our bedrooms. Which is more relaxed. lol. He seems paranoid last week..

I just leave him alone in the house and come back at night and go to my room. lol



What's the problem? That sounds like heaven to me.


+100. Only i'd want to check if he is on the internet in the other bedroom lol
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Yah better check. D0nt trust en0ugh
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anonymousheart, looking at your fluctuating emotions, it's starting to look that taurus' trademark disappearing habit is not a -ve but a +ve to keep themselves and the partner sane.



Nice conclusion. I've always found me distancing myself is a result of some sort of negativity or disharmony, be it obvious or not, between me and whoever I'm "distancing" from. Better to give us both some time and space to think the situation through clearly, on our own.
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Soultalk,

Hahaha. I don't care if she comes package. I am a total package for him. lol.

and to tell you exactly.. he already told me he is not chatting somebody else. He is just too busy

in his work and I guess I messed it up.. but I am not going to blame myself because there are

secrets that I kept why I am doing so... and I am willing to let go just need a clearer air before I

proceed.Before I moved in with him as he wanted after we got back together for 1 month break up...

things were absolutely fine but he just can't handle his obsessiveness and everything is just my

mistakes. As evolved Scorpio I learned not being impulsive in my decision because I hate to swallow

the words I delivered. As an adult.. use logic and not emoton.
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What is it he does exactly? I mean, that makes you think he's rethinking the relationship? Is it withdrawing and being quiet, or is he using words?



Words. I feel like he's not good with works so when he talks straight away he is liable to say things he doesn't mean perhaps. He just gets in weird overthinking tangents stating, well maybe we shouldn't have sex because I would hate to think this relationship is based on physicality. I'm like WHAT? We are so close, such good friends, have been friends for two years haha. It's clearly not....But that is his on the spot resolution to me getting upset when he's teasing and not following through.

That's just one example. Also, when we get into it, I just want him to listen and he tries to debate everything I'm saying. I am like THESE are my feelings. They aren't debatable. I figured out he is just trying to 'fix it' which is how men deal with that.

I also think he's unrealistic/inexperience in relationships. I asked him if he wanted to be with me, and he said something like Yes BUT when you're happy> And I was like that's super unrealistic.

But then it will transition in a few hours and he's back to being all goo goo gaga over me. We just have these weird moments that really stick with me. IDK if I should take him serious, or just chalk it up to him being a boy
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Posted by soultalk
anonymousheart, looking at your fluctuating emotions, it's starting to look that taurus' trademark disappearing habit is not a -ve but a +ve to keep themselves and the partner sane.



He's never disappeared on me. If anything, I'm the one that does that. But we always value each other. But I don't get what you mean with the plus minus. Or really anything you've written to be frank.
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ALSO, last night we talked about our "DREAMS"
And we are pretty much on the same point which is nice:
Both of us want a family
and To work in Music.


He's funny bc he asked me if I felt like I was on the right track with the first one...haha (obviously hinted to himself) I let him know, that I just focus on being a high quality woman, so I can maintain and attract a high quality counterpart, and that I wouldn't waste any time on someone I thought wasn't one.


He invited his sister to come and hang with us Saturday. Bringing me home for Christmas.
Wrote me two super lovey dovey messages this morning. Idk, I think he's just young.
He explained it as"I feel like I gave you all my power, and in those moments I'm trying to take it back." I told him, I never took your power, you should never give that away. I only need your love and support and if you need to pull back that's okay. He said it is? I was like yea, I love you we will be ok. And he gave me a big hug. I guess that re-set him.
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My Taurus man is just as crazy as hell. Push and pull relationship. retreat and pushing me away.

I told him: Why are you pushing me away? He said: I am not pushing me away but I want to live alone.

me: I don't want to live alone. lol. Loud and clear.

Now we separate our bedrooms. Which is more relaxed. lol. He seems paranoid last week..

I just leave him alone in the house and come back at night and go to my room. lol



What's the problem? That sounds like heaven to me.


+100. Only i'd want to check if he is on the internet in the other bedroom lol



Yah better check. D0nt trust en0ugh


true how many girls' posts he is liking, flirting with. i heard it is hard for taurus men to resist anything that comes packaged as a 'She'.
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Yes and remember they are wise men, they don't rush to romance and they keep their options open... they take their time veeeery wisely... so don't be fool by their sweet talks and actions.( count only the consistency of a mans action ). A woman is intuitive enough to feel it but because they are blind by their fantasy, they never mind the truth that they are not happy deep within.. into that complicated relationship.
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anonymousheart, looking at your fluctuating emotions, it's starting to look that taurus' trademark disappearing habit is not a -ve but a +ve to keep themselves and the partner sane.



He's never disappeared on me. If anything, I'm the one that does that. But we always value each other. But I don't get what you mean with the plus minus. Or really anything you've written to be frank.


your taur seems like the committed type. don't mind us, we are just venting about the (our) player taurs'
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haha ok :p
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I think there's nothing to worry about, again 😛.
He is having moments of, I wouldn't say doubts, rather moments of insecurities, which come from, as he said himself: "I feel like I gave you all my power, and in those moments I'm trying to take it back."
He worries a bit about his safety, and most of the people do, especially earthy people, and cancer people too (cause we are earthy water signs). Maybe he is young, but from your posts he doesn't strike me as immature. And now, please enjoy! 🙂



Thank you
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I think he also knows I'm very dynamic and "attentive" and can see than I am good at spinning things my way- in business. I work in a fast paced highly manipulative environment and I'm able to navigate through this while still maintaining my moral core. I think he also is concerned that I am manipulating him lol. He hinted towards that, and I'm not.. which is funny. cause it seems like everyone else does LOL His mom, that Taurus friend...so I think he's suspicious of the WRONG PERSON.
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^ It's true. My Taurus keeps a close watch on all the Shes online as well.
Don't care about that much though. I remember it's easy for him to flirt, unless he has strong feelings. Then he gets reallllllllllllllllll quiet. So I say, flirt away. that's just an indicator that it's on the surface.


I wish I had that confidence. Everytime I see him like someone's comments my heart sinks a bit. But to be honest, I am equally ecstatic to like and comment on comments made to me by a guy (that i like). I hope he also somehow gets to see that and then see how he feels about it hehe. maybe he won't care haha. taurus can drive you mad.



You Can! The way I see it, is someone can't steal your man if he's yours. So I would thank the girl for showing me he was a waste of time to begin with. I am super territorial though, and I don't want anyone stealing my attention time! Or anyone touching my dude. I would LOSE it. And I will go step up to the girl and she will NOT being doing that again. (this has happened, not with the Taur tho)

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Even these two girls at church (who I thought were preparing for spinsterhood) get REAL perky around him.
He definitely has a 'gift'


I don't understand why taur needs every moving thing to adore him. I have read that taurus just wants to be liked/wanted/needed even if it is for a wrong reasons ^_^.
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You kinda twisted what I said though. He's not really seeking it out. Just being himself. He's a pretty modest person, but women, of course, are attracted to that. He's quite handsome. I get it. Men are the same with me. Only difference is I realized it an let them know. Whereas he is delightfully clueless.
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Anyways my Scorpio friend just posted pics of us kissing on his wall LOL!
She just officially outed our relationship...to all the 'shes' 😉

Here we go..



I'm looking forward to this myself. Bravo to the scorp friend. lol
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Haha. She's actually a really good mediator for us. Good thing she's about to be my roomie!
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AHAHAHHA. This is why I was keeping our relationship PRIVATE, bc for some reason when you put it out there all the triflin girls come forward. Seriously two seconds later I see some random from PR writing on his wall "hey cutie" hahaha...weaksauce. Can't wait to see how he tries to skimmy out of that response while still being the nice guy. This should be interesting...
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AHAHAHHA. This is why I was keeping our relationship PRIVATE, bc for some reason when you put it out there all the triflin girls come forward. Seriously two seconds later I see some random from PR writing on his wall "hey cutie" hahaha...weaksauce. Can't wait to see how he tries to skimmy out of that response while still being the nice guy. This should be interesting...



so funny. What sun/moon venus/mars is your man again?

your man sounds like a lady killer, magnetizes everyone and every woman who is single, comes running.

anyway, it's ironic you say that....i'm just learning this myself.
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Oh he totally is. I have seen it in action. He barely does ANYTHING and they just drool over him. He doesn't know that most of our mutual friends are in love with him. I never oggled over him, because looks mean very little to me. He always came after me. I guess I am like the only girl that didn't do that thus making me stand out.

Idk what his venus/etc are..and I don't wanna know. He's just incredibly handsome and kind. So what woman wouldn't be into that?
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AHAHAHHA. This is why I was keeping our relationship PRIVATE, bc for some reason when you put it out there all the triflin girls come forward. Seriously two seconds later I see some random from PR writing on his wall "hey cutie" hahaha...weaksauce. Can't wait to see how he tries to skimmy out of that response while still being the nice guy. This should be interesting...



so funny. What sun/moon venus/mars is your man again?

your man sounds like a lady killer, magnetizes everyone and every woman who is single, comes running.

anyway, it's ironic you say that....i'm just learning this myself.
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actually, that girl is "in a relationship" so she's just a hoebag! 🙂
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.you're gonna cause a ruckus.
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AHAHAHHA. This is why I was keeping our relationship PRIVATE, bc for some reason when you put it out there all the triflin girls come forward. Seriously two seconds later I see some random from PR writing on his wall "hey cutie" hahaha...weaksauce. Can't wait to see how he tries to skimmy out of that response while still being the nice guy. This should be interesting...



so funny. What sun/moon venus/mars is your man again?

your man sounds like a lady killer, magnetizes everyone and every woman who is single, comes running.

anyway, it's ironic you say that....i'm just learning this myself.



actually, that girl is "in a relationship" so she's just a hoebag! 🙂
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Lol i just saw that looking back. *g*
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AHAHAHHA. This is why I was keeping our relationship PRIVATE, bc for some reason when you put it out there all the triflin girls come forward. Seriously two seconds later I see some random from PR writing on his wall "hey cutie" hahaha...weaksauce. Can't wait to see how he tries to skimmy out of that response while still being the nice guy. This should be interesting...



so funny. What sun/moon venus/mars is your man again?

your man sounds like a lady killer, magnetizes everyone and every woman who is single, comes running.

anyway, it's ironic you say that....i'm just learning this myself.



actually, that girl is "in a relationship" so she's just a hoebag! 🙂
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This is a good way to look at it. Your reasons why you wanted to keep it private. That never occurred to me. I've wanted to be outed so I could claim what's mine! Maybe keeping things hush keeps the harem quiet with nothing to get riled up about.
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To all ladies in this forum,

Thanks for all the advice. I appreciated it much. I am consistent to moving out soon.

No worries and No holding grudges. as far as my career is concerned.

Life is what we make it and this is a journey to my spiritual life because I am active in church.

My Taurus and I, have different views in life. I am a church slave and he is not.

I am extrovert and he is introvert. I worked as Accountant and He works as Research.

To sum it up... I am less emotionally attached than him.

I know he is harsh when he is mad... but Scorpio won't take this personally.

I do believe that the dark side of love is resentment, anger and jealousy.

I am fine. I am happy serving people and with God. I acknowledge my faults of not giving him

much attention because I am super busy in my life. I don't focus to him regardless of his sign

and things he gave will always be treasured.

To God be all the glory!!!

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^ It's true. My Taurus keeps a close watch on all the Shes online as well.
Don't care about that much though. I remember it's easy for him to flirt, unless he has strong feelings. Then he gets reallllllllllllllllll quiet. So I say, flirt away. that's just an indicator that it's on the surface.


I wish I had that confidence. Everytime I see him like someone's comments my heart sinks a bit. But to be honest, I am equally ecstatic to like and comment on comments made to me by a guy (that i like). I hope he also somehow gets to see that and then see how he feels about it hehe. maybe he won't care haha. taurus can drive you mad.
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good luck good luck