How do I get the love of my life back (Taurus Male), Need Taurus Males opinions please!

First I feel like I have to tell you that I am an Aquarius, to the core. My Mother and my Father are Aquarius and you know we work differently, with everything. I want you to know that although they always say we are all over the place, which we can be, when we have our minds and hearts made up on someone we are very loyal, committed and sincere. With that being said, I feel like I lost the love of my life and I need to get him back.

I am 27 years old and I met him in high school, I've met his Mom, who has passed and alot of his family and I know all his best friends, which in itself is huge for him. Over the years, due to our careers and him having two children ( from separate, sexual flings, that he was not-attached in the relationships), we always would spend time, and link up and we have been true friends but nothing really major until Nine months ago.

We both moved back to our home states for work reasons and due to an unexpected family issue, I needed to find another place, quickly and come up with a large chunk of money. He needing a place aswell, "loaned" me the money with the condition he would be able to stay there and use it when needed and no other men were allowed in the apartment. Because I'm weird about that anyway and I trusted him, I was fine with it... the problems started from there. Our communication is terrible and what he feels is "communicating" and leaning on me, and letting me in... is not what I consider to be the same thing so we have argued and fought over the last nine months about those things. During this time, he got hurt and stopped playing professional ball and he has lost two of his grandmothers and within the last 3 months moved back to the state where his kids are... to which we were trying to make it work but it still felt like he was bullshitting me and making it like he was more busy than he was, even though now he has like three jobs to sustain his life style . I believe you can always make time for what you want to and he feels like I'm nagging and looking at him like hes not good enough.

This entire situation just exploding about a month ago, we again got into an argument and I had had enough. I felt disrespected and I told him I thought we should go our separate ways, during this time, his Grandmother was ill and I was under the impression she had gotten better... two weeks later she passed and ofcourse I wanted to be there and take care of him like I always do and he shut me out. He pretty much told me that he felt some type of way about me leaving his life at the hardest time in his entire life, as if I did that on purpose and knew she would pass away. I wrote him this long message apologizing and trying to talk and telling him that I would choose him always and be there if he would let me and if it felt like he was trying.

Today he calls me and essentially starts off calm and tells me hes reevaluated us and that we are on different pages, there has been too many problems and that he doesn't feel like I understand or appreciate him doing what he does now, so it will never get to another level and that we need to go our separate ways regardless to how we love eachother and then he hung up.

I am crushed.

I just need to know honestly do I walk away? Or do I fight for this and if so, how do I do that? What can I do to make things better. I'll do anything. I pray for this man and his children everyday like I pray for myself. What can I do?

It does not look good for you unfortunately. During such turbulent times of his, you didn't really do much to help and instead added more trauma to the situation. It just seems like there's a lot going on in his life and right now he's trying to re-evaluate his situation and "trim the fat" so to speak.

Give him space, let him be, and if anything, shoot a text here and there as friends if you really care about him. Though I don't see it being more than that. I'm sorry to say, but it may be best for you to walk away.

As the Taurus above said, give him space. Taurus is a stubborn sign, so don't push him to change his mind....it will have the opposite effect. In fact, do not ever chase after any man....... it would also feel like you are emasculating him, by adopting a masculine role yourself...

If he is going to miss you and think he overreacted, he will get back in touch in a few months time.

I agree with both of the above posts.

It is best to let this breathe. Time and space allow people room to come to realizations.

With Taurus men it is best to have a control of your emotions. So control the urge to become dramatic in trying to win him back. He was clear in his words and actions unfortunately and you have to respect that and deal with the emotions that come with it.

Try not to focus on getting him back and put that energy into healing what has been hurt within you and focus more on getting and being a better 27 year old woman. So if he does come back around, he will see your growth and all the positive things you have done in his absence. And if not that, you'll be better for someone new.

To take this to another level..

We are the co creators of our lives. You and the universe conspire to bring into your life what you need to grow. It's for our own good. Think about what you've learned from your experience with this man. Nothing is coincidental. Based on your history, I do believe you two were meant to have an experience together. Which means you were meant to learn something from this.

He sounds like he has a lot of stress, pressure, and responsibilities in his life. The energy your relationship generated most likely wasn't something he could have apart of his load. "Trimming the fat" as what what said above. Looking back, he will realize that this was a pivotal time in his life. A test of sorts. So understand he clearly has his own, more serious things to focus on. And for Taurus men this can take precedence over love relationships especially stressful ones.

I'm really sorry you are in this space. I understand your pain. Continue to pray for him and pray for your healing. Lay this stress down and put it in life's hands.

Thank you all for these words... I appreciate this so much. I sent him a message yesterday and told him that I would give him his space, but I also apologized for letting him down and for not holding him down as I should have when he needed me most. I reiterated my feelings for him and that I know it may take time but that he is undoubtedly everything I pray for and want and let him know that I do think hes better than good enough. From iMessage I saw that he read it, which is a good sign because he can ignore the entire life of someone if he wants to.

I just have to relax and get me together. He will probably come home for the holiday, so I pray I see him then. Sending you all love and positive vibes for the words.