Strange title cos u should know right , ... Wrong I just don't I'm a Leo and my man is taurean been together a year and very serious very early he's been hurt as have I I'm more about the here and now he's struggles with past mistakes . When he's with me he's so attentive so loving couldn't ask for more yet I just don't feel that we are on same page . My ex I knew was head over heels in love with me told me was in contact all the time several times a day . He still is to be honest we text about my daughter he will call was always very attentive for 14 of the 15 yrs .But we are good friends and that is all now .there are no feelings on my half towards my ex except father of my child . My bull always text morning and night and we are very passionate sensual click like no other when we are together but when we are apart I feel like I don't exist almost . Maybe it's not what I have been used to but it's always been a bone of contention in. Our relationship of a year . Am I being a typical Leo in wanting more wanting to be swept of my feet in love I feel loved when I'm with him and almost like I'm forgotten about when I'm not . But then he will do things in background like know I need something and will have ordered it or be looking at stuff for my house that he knows I'm doing up and show me when I see him . I know I'm sounding a bit needy almost but after 15 yrs of one way I find it hard to know how to work this way . I feel like he's got lazy in relationship like always knows I'm gonna be there and I adore this man but I feel like I'm. Gonna be pulling back because my Leo pride is saying he doesn't love me enough . Probably gonna get bashed from u bulls as I'm a Leo but will take on advice . It's like early days he would call loads text loads. Now we hardly speak on phone unless of great importance and he texts morning night but is he just comfy or had enough yet in person just as adorable as ever . I just feel like I'm always wondering well should I just relax and know he loves me and that is enough or am I just not the one .
Ha I have he just says I do love you
Trust me he's a far better man than my ex lol . I'm just explaining what I was used to for 15 years I'm out of the game this was the first man after my ex husband . It's not comparing it's what I was used to but then he was also doing it to another during our last year of marriage so defo no competition . When my bull tells me he loves me I do know he means it yet always kinda surprised when he says he does . He is complicated at times
See this is the thing I think I should know I remember what it was like but now I feel like it's comfy too comfy doesn't need to make effort to call as I'm here
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Sep 17, 2014Comments: 22 · Posts: 8048 · Topics: 36
You need to consider what you do value most in a relationship?
Do you want a guy who is consistent? Who cares for you and about you? Who is supportive and attentive but a little boring?
Or do you want high romance? To be told you are adored? To have a guy that only focuses on telling you how he feels in grand gestures?
We have different languages of love. Either you try to understand his or you find a guy who can meet yours.
We all have to compromise in relationships. No one is going to meet 100% of our needs 100% of the time. It is a matter of adjusting and appreciating the person you are with. You value their strengths and shrug off their weaknesses.
Which brings me to the next thing, you seem very dissatisfied with this man. There seems to be a multitude of faults you can call upon. Do you really love him? Or looking for a valid reason to go?
No no I adore him I would never leave him unless pushed and I feel a bit pushed away . I just don't know common practice for a taurean when in love is he less attentive away from me because he's relaxed and happy or cause he's gonna leave me ?? I'm worried about my heart being broken . Trust me there is nothing there for my ex my man knows this full well . He is my friend and only that because I didn't want to be a bitter person and after what he did to me and my daughter I should be but I took approach that being bitter would only ruin my and my daughters life so I chose to accept and be happy instead . He was full of grand meaningless gestures . My bull isn't his gestures aren't grand but mean everything no matter how small . I'm just scared of being left heartbroken . I just want to know I'm the love of his life I suppose yes a needy Leo I know that's what your thinking but don't all women want to feel this he is to me and he knows it
Yes red October and jeane your right he's exactly like that so I'm worrying for nothing then . I want longevity consitenancy and happy to stroke own ego I'm very independent but not too much . I'm financially independent and love seeing my girls but love my time with him the best . It's like if I'm away he won't tell me till I see him that he's missed me . I will tell him and he will say few more days or something like that . My ex told me every day he loved me and meant nothing as he lied for last five years lol . He still says it now and it is meaningless . I just always feel I'm more into him but maybe that's where our signs differ I think this is sort of thing I'm trying to clarify and as red October said he has said if I wasn't thinking of u I wouldn't do this or order that or be thinking of us doing blah blah so guess your right . Stroke my own ego it is lol
Thanks jeane I will thanks for advice ladies x
Well fellow Leo I never said there was anything wrong with the practical stuff at all I love that about him I'm not behaving in any way my Venus is Gemini u don't know my history or his or what I've been through unfortunate Ly I don't get much chance to be spontaneous
I don't have to instigate affection he's very loving physically just verbally he's bad on communication doesn't like to express feelings shows them I know he loves me it's just me overthinking and protecting my own heart I want to be the love of his life which is hard when we've both had that before in marriages even though both went wrong . Although there's no jealously either side as both know they are well dead n the water
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Jun 20, 2014Comments: 1 · Posts: 3847 · Topics: 1
Why do you need to be the love of his life?
It's only been a year of being together.
You sound tiring. Stop comparing him to your ex. You're setting up your own expectations of him which are so high he'll never reach them. How do you think that makes him feel? How do you think it makes him feel when you're constantly sitting there pouting about all the things he doesn't do and all the things he doesn't say? You probably didn't give that two seconds thought because you're too busy thinking about you and only you.
How would you feel if you were being nagged and badgered each time? Probably like shit. You'd probably not feel good enough.
Stop whining about pointless shit and be happy with what you DO have.
I'm not comparing him to my ex only in communication ... We had a problem couple of weeks back involving his ex stalker of a girlfriend who is still stalking he's very open now with showing me his texts phone calls he gets she rings constantly and has inboxed me on Fb with fake accounts his family everyone she can it's draining . He was depressed and finished with me a few weeks back I went to him even though I was hurting as I knew it was depression my issue I think lays with because I went to him to sort it out would he ever have fought for me . I don't know because I sorted it out I know he wouldn't be with me for sake of it he's a loner anyway so being on his own wouldn't have bothered him . After what my ex did to me which came out of blue of a marriage I was secure in I thought after 15 yrs I have my own hurt but it's always about his hurt and never mine as I leave it where it should be in a box but it's there in background haunting me his is more forefront and he does say he was broken and I've put him back together . Which he only told me last night as we did have a chat about how I feel shut out when he's away from me I don't know if that is a Tauren thing or just him . He only sees two of his kids out of 4 from ex wife because of damage done by ex stalker girlfriend and I think he shuts off away from me because he has learnt to cope with his feelings re missing kids this way which he did admit last night . I just always feel I'm more into him than him me but I'm more open with feelings as in I'll say he is more showing very loving when we are together but I don't think he's totally let himself go with me still some walls he does admit he is scared of getting hurt again he's been through a lot as have I but I through caution to the wind more . Sometimes I just would like to hear how he feels in words but I'm learning he's different and words I learnt the hard way aren't always genuine he shows and I do love that I'm only comparing in fact for 15 years of marriage I was told I was love of my ex life and he will still say it now even though he treated me shitty in end . It's just dealing with a different way of communicating I'm not used to and have to learn and accept instead of doubting what we have . He's a very special man complicated by his past which he Carrys and holds onto almost ruining sometimes things as that hold us back I'm ten times the woman of his exes as is he my ex but I don't hold what happened to me stopping how I feel care for him that's past I'm about here and now my hurt is subconsciously there but his is forefront
Your 100% right I do overthink everything I need to stop that
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Jun 20, 2014Comments: 1 · Posts: 3847 · Topics: 1
Yeah, you do. Stop it. Otherwise it will fuck up what you do have together.
Everyone has some degree of fear of being hurt and all that but why carry that shit around with you? Why carry a turd when you can carry a diamond around your neck in in your bag.
It's really simple to do. You just stop worrying about whether you're the love of his life and all that. You just enjoy the time you have with him. Be in the moment. Life is too short. He could die tomorrow and then what will you do? Probably still be whining that you weren't the love of his life! Bollocks. Just get on with it. As my old nan would say, "there's plenty more worse off than you dear!" She was right. Virgo/libra cusp. Great lady!
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Oct 29, 2014Comments: 1 · Posts: 16583 · Topics: 222
We all get inside our heads at time. If you have an air moon with mercury in fixed. Then these people will always have new friends form in their circle. These people talk, listen, and communicate to always make sure they know where people stand in their life. Either you are in it or not you'll know.
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One of the repetitive patterns I notice with a lot of women is they fall in love and expect the man they love to match and measure up to her level of love and men don't really tick that way.
Instead of the woman being one or two steps behind a man emotionally and mentally which gives a man breathing room to reach back and demonstrate his love without pressure most women are 10 steps ahead of a man mentally and emotionally which automatically creates a disconnect between herself and her man b/c she's always looking back at him in a hurry it up, don't,t you need me, he doesn't love me enough kind of way which pushes a man further and further away until the relationship falls apart and dissolves.
To kind of put things into perspective....
You're ex expressed sweeping gestures of love during the last 5 of those years but it was all a lie.
Now you're with a man that doesn't do this fake out lying type of behavior and you become extremely insecure and worried about getting your heart broken and even when your Taurus goes out of his way to think about you and your needs you still question his behavior and pick it apart. Instead of you appreciating the small gestures of love and the energy he gives--you worry and complain.
Your ex may be good at communication but he also was a liar. His over the top gestures of love was used to cover his tracks.
You now have a man that paces himself, takes his time and isn't blowing smoke up your ass but you've managed to make that a bad thing or an undesirable quality to have.
A woman's fear of getting hurt can immediately cause a disconnect with her man b/c that fear tend to put a man under a microscope essentially turning him into the bad guy. Let that fear go! Be fearless or you'll always find yourself trying to protect yourself from impending pain which has the effect of pushing a man out of your life.
And slow down. Maybe if you were'nt 10 steps ahead of him mentally and emotionally you would not notice every little thing that's not right. If you focused MORE on yourself, hobbies, interest, work, friends, meeting new people, raising your child you would not feel so relationship needy b/c having a full happy satisfied life outside of him creates BALANCE and takes the pressure off of him to make you feel happy and complete.
Is he being ambivalent towards you? Maybe but part of that ambivalence may be the drain he feels when he connects with you. Try letting the issue regarding the lack of communication go and then shift your focus off what he's doing or not doing and instead fill up your days and nights with enhancing your life and go out and do things that interest you and make you feel happy.
By taking a couple steps back you will come to your own conclusion that either he's not attentive therefore not the man for you or he's the man for you but in order to figure that out you first have to get out of your own way in order to come to your own conclusion.
IMO the Taurus is keeping it simple and keeping it real with you. I love Leo's but they tend to blow excessively hot until the relationship crumbles and burn out.
Ok the last message was great honest true . The other last messages are so out of line context and not at all what I'm like or what went on I have never screened his phone he is showing me since the last fall out when she has called and text . I went over not out of desperation but because he was depressed and wasn't coping him not me we are in a good place I don't know why some of u have to bash the life outta people for expressing or asking questions don't worry I won't bother asking anymore !
Hey, I'm male Leo and my girl is Taurus and I completely understand you. As a Leo we feel a little bit insecure about whether they fully love us or not and yeah we do have some issues with our ego that we have to work on, For example,
sometimes I feel like I want more love from my girl and I kinda wanna get clingy but I try not to for the best of it, so you reallllly have to fight it because I have heard and know that many Leo's struggle with that so try to go workout for an hour on the evening if you are thinking too much about it... through my experience I just think that as some ppl have said, taurus wont like feed you with these words I love you etc etc etc. They do show it, but I think as we leo are more intensivity,we kinda feel like we need it more impulse, that love right now. and we are also impatient.
I have thougt about exactly the same thing as you, Im still thinking back and forth, sometimes I think maybe I should leave her but sometimes I try to look at it in a different way and try to calm myself down and trying to find a solution to do smth else meanwihle or try to change my way of thinking just a little bit. Its very hard I know.. Dunno I have just heard that taurus are loyal and if he/she would dislike you, you would know it... just one tip, do not try to force someone to do something because then you will realize that you will loose your partner. looking forward for the discussion
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Jul 13, 2016Comments: 3 · Posts: 3225 · Topics: 93
Go with your gut. If he loves you, you will feel it.
Fatass you must be on some next level shit dunno what you beefin on your lurk? Cut the bullshit already, whu u tryna be 'round here?? Fuck off for real. ANYWAY, I do not control anyone nor I feel that I need to, It is all about respect and caring.
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Oct 29, 2014Comments: 1 · Posts: 16583 · Topics: 222
Damn Jimmy Choos are expensive. I would never.
Aries u are so wrong I have never nor would I ever check his phone that is not me I do trust him and he has shown me,not me scanning his phone thank u this bitch has also sent me Countless messages . It isn't a sob story it was asking for advice from taureans of which u are not or those who are in relationship with taurean how they work . , ! So keep out if you don't like my post don't comment . I never went round to beg him back I made that perfect toy clear to him I went round as a friend as he has been amazing to me ! He wanted the relationship to continue not me asking him but I went to him yes .but I never once asked him back during my visit I went for him to talk to me about his problems . His choice to show me calls etc not mine we have developed a understanding of honesty openness about the witch and that its better for me to know so when I get these messages from her I know all . She's a drain . It's up to us to see whether it will break us WE not me not him we have decided not to let her break us .
We had a good chat this weekend about his feelings towards me and I have what I need he knows what I need from this relationship I know what he needs .