How do you feel when someone else feels pity for

you?

Posted by soultalk
Pity no, I would not want anybody's pity. It might sound odd but when I was younger I used to think that if I was sad or upset only then I would get attention from people. Maybe I felt if someone felt sympathy they would come to me. Have you ever felt that if he sees me unhappy, not eating, crying, he might feel some emotion for me? I used to have that mindset before. Thank god I am older and now know that being sad for someone only makes you more sad in their eyes. No one cares for a sad person. I still feel sad, but am very adamant about not putting it out. I am strong and cold when sad now. Because yes, I dont want sympathy or pity, thanks but no thanks.

I have pride and it makes me feel worse about my situation to have the pity of others.

I don't like to be pitied. Too much pride. But here is the ambiguity in my actions. While I will appear strong, steady and solid to the external world, helping others, keeping a cool facade, playing mediator and 'fixing' problems for other individuals...

I will remain quiet when there is a heap of problems going on in my head that I can't fix, will not communicate these problems, will isolate myself instead, and when offered help...I will refuse it.

Why?

My biggest fear?

Being seen as less than stable in the eyes of others.

I'm still working on this.....

No bueno! I don't like or need anyone's pity. I'm strong and will get through anything. Even at a low point I see it as growth and a chance to rebuild. So there is no need for anyone's pity. Constructive criticism is fine but not pity. I see things in a positive way and even when your down to nothing there is always something to smile about or be thankful for.

Posted by TaurusBull1977
I don't like to be pitied. Too much pride. But here is the ambiguity in my actions. While I will appear strong, steady and solid to the external world, helping others, keeping a cool facade, playing mediator and 'fixing' problems for other individuals...

I will remain quiet when there is a heap of problems going on in my head that I can't fix, will not communicate these problems, will isolate myself instead, and when offered help...I will refuse it.

Why?

My biggest fear?

Being seen as less than stable in the eyes of others.

I'm still working on this.....

Same here but my family sees right through it because they've see want I'm like at 100% . I am 37% now, mentally and spiritually but i'm slowly building myself up.

Weird/uncomfortable...