I will do whatever it takes to win her back. I want her to be in my life and she definitely is the one so I will wait as long as I need to. But what do I need to do in the meantime, so I stay in her mind and she does not move on to another guy? Flowers, gifts, tickets to events? What else, I am alright being her friend until she decides but she will does not even want to see me. What should I do?
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Nov 10, 2015Comments: 0 · Posts: 3254 · Topics: 48
Yes, what did you do, that will make a difference in what we advise.
After 4 months of us hanging out. I gave her an ultimatum: being a couple or nothing. She told me she wasn't ready to date. So we stopped talking, it's been 7 months, I reached out but she response coldly keeping her distance. What to do?
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I don't take what I consider "abandonment" well, even if I said, I wanted more time, I didn't mean leave me... convoluted - absolutely, but its how I feel.
Now that your back, you're going to have to prove you have staying power and aren't going to run away.
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What is your sign?
I'm a Venus in Taurus. So that's who I am when it comes to dating and relationships.
I move really really really slow when it comes to fully committing to a man and a relationship. I have to be certain I'm doing the right thing. Making the right choice. Because once I'm in, I'm in. Fully and totally.
Giving her that ultimatum wasn't a good idea. You had to patience or trust in the process.
I'm sorry but 4 months isn't enough time for me to decide if a situation is right for me for the long haul.
Now granted, I don't know her. I don't know how she was moving. I don't know if she was genuine in her intentions with you. If it was just you or was she auditioning other suitors
I'm a Venus in Libra. I know ultimatum was a really bad idea. At the time it seemed like a good idea because she was really worried about me going out being single. I am totally honest with her and I imagine she has other suitors, but they don't really concern me. I feel a bit handicap because my best skill, to talk, does not motivate her to be with me. So, what is the move. Give her time or pursue?
Be persistent, wait, respect her, and learn a little about yourself during this time of waiting.
Regardless of how she responds, be persistent. Do not care if she seems to like it or not, when they do not want something they do not respond.
Mine came back to answer my messages and seems a little more sympathetic, but as always ... They do not like to communicate for messages online.
I made the first invitation to go out together, she did not answer but I imagine she is thinking about, the most important thing is make her notice my interest. These days she knows I see her as a ''woman'' and not just ''my friend''.
Willpower, hope and self knowledge are the key to getting what you want.
Mine is calm, wise and has a good heart, she is not aggressive on the internet and not hysterical, I still have some luck. If she wants, I would have Justice problems for harassment a long time ago.
Remember that Taurus people are slow and perceive time in a different way, do not fall into that of '' spent so many months '', if you do something serious, wait a long time and do not get carried away by '' move on '' things, be fearless and do what you want.
They are a little narcissistic and although surrounded by people, feel lonely, use these facts to your advantage.
If you are hopeless, appeal to mistiscism, magic, light candles, seek divine help, and some changes may happen...But the universe have his own time, learn with that too.
PS* A person with Sun in Aries is not a good parameter. Mine has the Sun in Taurus, Virgo Moon, Venus in Taurus, Mercury in Taurus and Mars in Pisces ... Slow, analytical and with no attitude.
She is not talking to you for 7 months!? ? it simply means she doesnt like you. Im really sorry. By the way try to act like a respectful man , dont push her and talk with her without flirting. Maybe you can get a chance.
However 7 months of silence means she seriously dont care.
Good luck to you anyway! ?